cyber sex and how much fun is it

[man_in_red]

Cybersex was fun when it was a novelty. Once the novelty wore off, it became a chore. ... That's when it lost its appeal for me.

Now, ... I don't do it to get off - I do it to get the guy off...

SexyChele, that's interesting. Though I have met a number of women online who have been fun to flirt with, none has really attempted to 'get the guy off'. It seems that the woman takes a passive role right through to her climax ... and that turns a potentially fun experience into a chore.

 

[CumToDaddy]

Though I have met a number of women online who have been fun to flirt with, none has really attempted to 'get the guy off'. It seems that the woman takes a passive role right through to her climax ... and that turns a potentially fun experience into a chore.

Keep trying Red! I've had that experience too, but there are women out there who really give me a run for the money. Sometimes it's hard to keep up (no pun intended).

In general, I find that it's the young babes that are more passive. Just like in real life, women in their 30s and 40s have gotten bored with that and take a more active role.

Any young babes that take offense to this broad generalization are more than welcome to prove Daddy wrong!

 

[SexyChele]

SexyChele, that's interesting. Though I have met a number of women online who have been fun to flirt with, none has really attempted to 'get the guy off'. It seems that the woman takes a passive role right through to her climax ... and that turns a potentially fun experience into a chore.

What can I say? There is an odd duck in every pond, isn't there?

Actually, when I was really into cybering, the first few times I truly was into it and trying to get myself off. But it IS truly difficult to even work a vibrator and type at the same time. And the night I had 5 separate conversations going on, well, to be frank I felt like a hooker and that I should be charging!

What I eventually discovered was that if I typed a man to orgasm, it left me with such an incredible feeling of power. Maybe because at any point, I could just leave. (and, no, I never have) But it is difficult to get men to believe that all they have to do is just sit back, enjoy, and type an occasional word or two to let me know they are still there. Most men have been conditioned to think they have to get the woman off, and then hope she won't leave them high and dry. The most difficult thing I've encountered is having men believe that, no, I do NOT want to "get off" at all. (I have other men in my life that help me do that) But once they clue in to what I want, it is difficult to go into a chatroom - I get inundated with private messages from men who have been left with their dicks in their hands by less than considerate women.

Anyways, long post just to say I hope this all makes sense!

 

[oztongue]

[SexyChele,
I can understand you being inundated.
The most frustating thing for a guy is being left high and dry ;-)

THe feeling of power thing you mentioned. I have heard a few women say that. I suspect it is the same when the woman performs oral sex.

Can i say tho the typing thing is not so much of an issue if you chat in a video chat for obvious reasons.

It is good to hear a woman who nows what she wants and
knows it is not reality.
Unfortunately alot of the guys haven got that figured out

Kiss from down under



QUOTE]Originally posted by SexyChele


What can I say? There is an odd duck in every pond, isn't there?

Actually, when I was really into cybering, the first few times I truly was into it and trying to get myself off. But it IS truly difficult to even work a vibrator and type at the same time. And the night I had 5 separate conversations going on, well, to be frank I felt like a hooker and that I should be charging!

What I eventually discovered was that if I typed a man to orgasm, it left me with such an incredible feeling of power. Maybe because at any point, I could just leave. (and, no, I never have) But it is difficult to get men to believe that all they have to do is just sit back, enjoy, and type an occasional word or two to let me know they are still there. Most men have been conditioned to think they have to get the woman off, and then hope she won't leave them high and dry. The most difficult thing I've encountered is having men believe that, no, I do NOT want to "get off" at all. (I have other men in my life that help me do that) But once they clue in to what I want, it is difficult to go into a chatroom - I get inundated with private messages from men who have been left with their dicks in their hands by less than considerate women.

Anyways, long post just to say I hope this all makes sense! [/QUOTE]

 

[sexylilmissie]

cybering

I think as long as you are with someone who shares a common interest it can be a LOT of fun because you can say things to that person you would never dare to in real life and whats the worst they can do-leave you hanging in which case its easy enough to find someone else.
If of course you are the type of person who will jump form bed to bed so to speak.
I personally am not-if I am left hanging I would far prefer to finish on my own.

 

[kayte]

Good Luck Roxie

I was just given one as a gift! I plan to try it out soon.....I have heard that it's quite fun!

Hi roxie,

Good luck with the sound equipment and all. It does make a big difference when just talking too..

 

[kayte]

Naughty Girl?

Oh Kate, you naughty girl!! ha ha

Moi? A naughty girl? That is not something I hear too often. (Of course I don't think I will tell you what I do hear.)

 

[barebear]

i like cybering, but it is hard to keep up with all the typing, but it can be a real turn on, usually gets me hard just imagining the scene

 

[barebear]

maybe i'm just too nice a bear... i want to make sure that the woman gets off, that's my #1 goal!! that's what does it for me, the feeling of power that I was able to please someone from afar.

my 2 cents worth

 

[whspr]

I guess I see both sides of the fence. I have shared some great
cybering moments and with some special people. Totally enjoyed
the every one. But I, also, don't want to feel that cybering is the
only communication between me and my partner. I need to feel
some sort of connection too. Some true feelings besides that he
is just horny. As for phone sex, that can only be with someone
I have gotten close to. Just to call someone to hear them cum is
definitely not for me.

heh...


Soft Kisses,
Whspr

 

[barebear]

couldn't agree more Whspr !

there's a lot more to be said for a "connection" not just nameless/faceless/meaningless horniness!

 

[whspr]

Thanks BareBear

Seeing a reply like that from a man gives me hope!!!

Soft kisses,
Whspr

 

[barebear]

you're welcome, Whspr
let's get romance and seduction back in our lives
email me anytime!

 

[man_in_red]

Anyways, long post just to say I hope this all makes sense!

Yes, it does! I do understand.

Generally I tend to look for a person with whom to create a fantasy that we share together; like a partnership in an erotic adventure -- and the anonymity of chat opens all kinds of doors that heighten the eroticism.

I've actually never cybered with the idea of getting myself off. Having said that, though, I would at some time like to meet someone who would like to try!

 

[BodyBuilderNH]

Yes, It can be fun with the right person...if you have the same similar desires

Kinda sucks if the person you are cybering with has to henpeck the keys to type...or if they use boring words like penis, vagina, or screw...I want to hear the words Cock, Pussy, and FUCK!

Actually I prefer to talk on the phone...can get a lot more interesting!!! MMmmmmmmmmm

Cheers,
Body

 

[barebear]

hope that anyone into cyber has decent typing speed

and you're so right, I love the words pussy and cock! the're so much more descriptive!

phone calls are the best though ... hearing a woman's sexy voice purring in my ear is the next best thing to skin <> skin contact!

sigh ....

 

[easyg]

well, I kind of posed the question and dissapeared, sorry - work has it's many downsides. Thanks for all the responses - I think this, as many threads do, took on it's own direction and simply asking the question was enough. It sounds like cybering can be alot of fun but can also be a dud much the way first dates can be. I had my first pseudo cyber with someone I met here on lit and it was much like a first date - I was nervous, anxious and wasn't sure what to say - I guess a major distinction was it was up to my imagination to create that persons features. It never got truely sexual but playfully close and that was in itself exciting, much like a first date where you feal each other out. I was curious if people could really have a satisfying encounter from a chat and it sounds like the results kind of run the spectrum. You have to search and test and find the right one to make it exciting and fun.

 

[man_in_red]

Sure, I think I can go along with that. And, of course, I'll keep looking!

 

[SheLikesIt]

Love to play, love to fuck...

..******* and off...

my lover and I play here often. Sometimes online with each other, sometimes "watching" each other with other partners...

We love to play...

 

[kayte]

Thanks for starting the thread

I was curious if people could really have a satisfying encounter from a chat and it sounds like the results kind of run the spectrum. You have to search and test and find the right one to make it exciting and fun.

Hi easyg,

Glad you started the thread. Yes it is a lot like life is; you have to want it, work at it and be willing to try something new. Hope you have a great weekend.

 

[whspr]

Definitely, the most important thing is finding the right partner.
Not everyone clicks. Have a bad cyber experience can ruin
some people for the next one that comes along. Sooooo....
happy hunting!!

Soft Kisses,
Whspr

 

[krazychick]

I agreewith you...

Yes, It can be fun with the right person...if you have the same similar desires

Kinda sucks if the person you are cybering with has to henpeck the keys to type...or if they use boring words like penis, vagina, or screw...I want to hear the words Cock, Pussy, and FUCK!

Actually I prefer to talk on the phone...can get a lot more interesting!!! MMmmmmmmmmm

Cheers,
Body

Having someone who has to hunt and peck type tends to make the cybering sooooo boring. If you have to wait for a long time in between responses you lose the moment. And it is all in what the say......and how they say it. Cybering can be good if it is done with the right person but if you end up with someone totally wrong for you it can be a bad experience. I tend to only cyber with people I "know" online. It makes a big difference.

 

[barebear]

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[darkbeast]

Cybersex

As a general rule, I find cybersex annoying. Mostly because of the effort it takes to find a willing partner. What I've enjoyed is finding consistent partners for cybersex. Although the thrill of a new partner is fun, it is easier when you don't have to play the little games leading up to it.

I really like to intermingle cybersex and phone sex. Most fantasies are easier in cybersex, but there are times when you just need to hear each other.

That is where voice chat has come in very handy for the people I know, but not well enough to be calling.

 

[kayte]

Re: found her!

well, it happened ! I found a perfect cyber-mate, things are clicking just fine.... wow!!! you know who you are.... I dont think my heart rate will go down for a week (pant...pant...)

Glad to hear it barebear! Have a wonderful time, and stay in touch.