Daddy Doms....are there any real ones?

[DeservingBitch]

It might be well said but what does it have to do with the subject matter

He still hasn't answered my other post where I have asked him where he got the incorrect information ? Not that I'm holding my breath...maybe he just likes to hear himself talk..? or just had a bad experience with a little one?

also, and it seems as though there is a feud between a few posters here. just wondering...do you really need to have it out on mine and other's threads?? oh well

I'm sorry BonnieBaby for starting the hijack.

More on topic, I'd just add my voice to other posters who've suggested you think about what YOU can and want to bring to this relationship, and make it clear in your communications with potential potential Daddydoms.

Also, and this may be just a personal petpeeve but the whole "sigh, aren't there any whatever-I'm-looking-for out there?" act is a huge turn off for me and a sure way to not have me read someone's posting. I instantly think of the poster as someone who sees everyone else as the problem, while they are perfect but misunderstood, you know.

And then, remember that there are MANY more posers and horny teenagers online looking for wanking material then anything else. It's frustrating, but it gets really easy after a while to filter them out in a second.

 

[bonnie_baby]

Welcome to Lit, heh. People squabble all over the board every day. It's very unusual for a thread to stay 100% on topic - don't feel bad, it's not you. And yeah, some people here do just like to hear themselves talk. And some are bitter, too, for whatever personal reasons they may have. It's not personal, some people are jerks, and some people respond to jerks, and the cycle goes round and round every day.

Thanks Etoile..I won't take it personal then. I was a part of another bulletin board at one time and the same thing happened there too LOL

 

[bonnie_baby]

One thing you might think about doing is "fluffing up" your profile. Post a pic, be a bit more specific in your location, etc.

OK...thanks for the tips!!

 

[Primalex]

He still hasn't answered my other post

After the PM you sent me, I decided that you already have so many issues that I don't need to add another one here by continueing the debate and attracting further collateral damage from hijackers, nursery teachers and passerbys.

where I have asked him where he got the incorrect information ?

From your postings, of course.

Oh.. and don't ask "Hey, how could you read it this way?", maybe ask "How should I write it to prevent such thoughts?"

 

[bonnie_baby]

Hey!! *waves and smiles*

LOL this thread got outrageous....

Okay-

1.) Daddy Dom...

I have talked to several guys who call themselves "Daddies", I enjoy this form of dominant as well, and have to agree with the other ladies, I'd take daddy out, or at least make it less of the focus...

I'd say like, "I am seeking a nurturing, supportive dominant" and then maybe as a PS say, "I am open to the idea of a DaddyDom" so that you appeal to both types...

2.) Some guys don't like the whole Daddy thing, but are actually this kind of dominant... (especially the fact that some actually have small(ish) children at home and get all freaked out by being called "daddy" by their pyl)... even though they ARE...

Now... as far as not living up to your expectations or their promices... That's a lot of Dominants or any other kind of potential mates... and though we want these guys to be honorable and honest, and live up to their ideals and promices.... eh... I honestly expect them not to, and this way don't get too crushed when they don't.

So this whole say one thing and do another is not just something the "fake Daddies" do...I have seen it is mostly about sex for a lot of these online Doms...

Why don't you consider branching out in your local "scene"...

Well Baby,
Best Wishes on your quest...

Remember that:
"what's right isn't always popular, and whatever is popular isn't always right"

I hate how people don't understand something so they shove their head further into the dirt and spout off misconceptions, as opposed to being open minded, and educating themself about something they don't understand, they are rather content following the herd... it would be easyer if I didn't have to hear it...

Thank you

Seriously you all have made very good points and I'm very happy you all took time out to post them here.

xoxoxoxo

 

[bonnie_baby]

After the PM you sent me, I decided that you already have so many issues that I don't need to add another one here by continueing the debate and attracting further collateral damage from hijackers, nursery teachers and passerbys.



From your postings, of course.

Oh.. and don't ask "Hey, how could you read it this way?", maybe ask "How should I write it to prevent such thoughts?"

understood.....

 

[bonnie_baby]

I'm sorry BonnieBaby for starting the hijack.

More on topic, I'd just add my voice to other posters who've suggested you think about what YOU can and want to bring to this relationship, and make it clear in your communications with potential potential Daddydoms.

Also, and this may be just a personal petpeeve but the whole "sigh, aren't there any whatever-I'm-looking-for out there?" act is a huge turn off for me and a sure way to not have me read someone's posting. I instantly think of the poster as someone who sees everyone else as the problem, while they are perfect but misunderstood, you know.

And then, remember that there are MANY more posers and horny teenagers online looking for wanking material then anything else. It's frustrating, but it gets really easy after a while to filter them out in a second.

Right now I'm talking with someone and if that works out. GREAT!

If not, then I will probably re-work my profile/ad, etc and make sure that I add what I will bring to the relationship so I don't sound like a spoiled brat. (cuz...i'm not really..i love to serve )

and understood about the petpeeve...nobody likes a whiner

thanks for posting again. appreciate it.

 

[minx1]

Good luck in finding your daddy dom Bonnie.

You have been given some good advice and I would echo Hotties and unfoundiamonds words. I met my Master through placing an add on Lit and though he probably wouldn't descibe himself as a daddy dom, he shares a lot of the attributes.

Also Etoiles advice about the board in general.....its the nature of the beast lol

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Yes, they are out there...

Good luck finding one, and I mean that sincerely...

Take your time and get to know any potential one and you can seperate the wheat from the chaff.

 

[Etoile]

I hate how people don't understand something so they shove their head further into the dirt and spout off misconceptions, as opposed to being open minded, and educating themself about something they don't understand, they are rather content following the herd... it would be easyer if I didn't have to hear it...

Just wondering who you are referring to with regard to not understanding D/g relationships?

 

[subkitty72]

Just wondering who you are referring to with regard to not understanding D/g relationships?

i had the same question, Etoile.

As to the original poster's question: Yes, there are real ones out here. i found my Daddy here on Lit and We have been virtually inseparable from the time We began seeing one another.

i wish you the best of luck, little one.

 

[bonnie_baby]

Thanks everyone...


xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

 

[rosco rathbone]

I'm coming in late. Was the question ever settled? Are there any real ones?

 

[Marquis]

I'm coming in late. Was the question ever settled? Are there any real ones?

Get outta my forum Dean Moriarty.

 

[Etoile]

I'm coming in late. Was the question ever settled? Are there any real ones?

Yes, but Santa Claus doesn't really live in your heart, he's made up.

 

[alyse]

www.seekingarrangement.com

I met my daddy there! He comes to see me a few times a month and dominates me. He pays for my apartment and gives me a 5K allowance every month and a credit card to shop with. It's definitely the way to go if you need to be taken care of.

 

[HottieMama]

www.seekingarrangement.com

I met my daddy there! He comes to see me a few times a month and dominates me. He pays for my apartment and gives me a 5K allowance every month and a credit card to shop with. It's definitely the way to go if you need to be taken care of.

OMFG.............................. (Regulars...forgive me for what i am about to spew.)

You have a sugar daddy. Yay! Great for you. However not all of us that like/gravitate toward this type of relationship want a sugar daddy and someone to take care of us financially. It's not about needing to be "taken care of." It is about feeling most comfortable with a certain type of D/s relationship. To imply that all of us in Daddy relationships and nothing more than money-grubbers waiting for the next old man to come along and buy us stuff is doing ALL of us a great disservice.

i really, really, REALLY fucking HATE IT when people come along and attempt to cheapen the Daddy/little relationship by posting shit like this. As a "little" it is hard enough to get the same respect as my submissive/slave sisters get. This fucking shit only makes it harder.

 

[alyse]

She said she was looking for "more than sexual play" and "needed to be taken care of". I figured if she meant financially as well (as I have no way of knowing), I'd point her in the right direction.

Don't pretend to have the monopoly on d/s relationships. What you do in the bedroom for a few hours, I LIVE. My d/s relationship is on every level of my life, and I enjoy that immensely. Who are you to knock my lifestyle?

 

[HottieMama]

Don't pretend to have the monopoly on d/s relationships. What you do in the bedroom for a few hours, I LIVE. My d/s relationship is on every level of my life, and I enjoy that immensely. Who are you to knock my lifestyle?

This proves you know absolutely NOTHING about my relationship.

met my daddy there! He comes to see me a few times a month and dominates me.

So a few times a month is 24/7..every level of your life???? Really, now?? Those are you own words... Care to explain that?

 

[alyse]

And you know nothing about mine, but you presume so much! I can't believe you can complain about not getting respect and being judged, and then turn around and be incredibly rude and condescending to someone else. I've had a few d/s relationships, all different and all exciting in different ways. Just because you're so narrow-minded that you can't see past your own way of doing things doesn't give you the right to slam someone else.

 

[HottieMama]

And you know nothing about mine, but you presume so much! I can't believe you can complain about not getting respect and being judged, and then turn around and be incredibly rude and condescending to someone else. I've had a few d/s relationships, all different and all exciting in different ways. Just because you're so narrow-minded that you can't see past your own way of doing things doesn't give you the right to slam someone else.

i know what you have told me.

You met daddy on a hook-up sight that caters to sugar daddies.
He visits you a few times a month
He gives you a lot of money, pays your rent and gives you a line of credit.

What am i presuming? To say that you are, at least in part, in it for the money isn't a HUGE leap.

 

[alyse]

Oh, that. Well yeah, I mean I'm not going to deny that the money is what compelled me in the first place to go on that site, but it's more like a huge perk than the entirety of the relationship. I lived on my own through my last year of high school, so I KNOW I'm self-sufficient. But now someone is taking care of me so I can go to college, and to be quite frank, owing someone such a huge debt and having him control so much of my life (he decides where I live, how I do my hair, what clothes I buy, etc etc) is fucking hot to me, and that's all that should matter.

 

[Etoile]

Don't pretend to have the monopoly on d/s relationships. What you do in the bedroom for a few hours, I LIVE. My d/s relationship is on every level of my life, and I enjoy that immensely. Who are you to knock my lifestyle?

Ahahahaha.

Um.

Okay.

I'm just going to say one thing.

Sugar daddy relationships are NOT the same thing as Daddy/girl relationships.

NOT NOT NOT.

Completely unrelated.

Just because the word "daddy" is in both does not mean they have anything to do with each other.

And, quite frankly, this thread is about Daddy/girl, not sugar daddy.

Don't question my authority, because I know of what I speak, and I will smack you down.

 

[HottieMama]

Ahahahaha.

Um.

Okay.

I'm just going to say one thing.

Sugar daddy relationships are NOT the same thing as Daddy/girl relationships.

NOT NOT NOT.

Completely unrelated.

Just because the word "daddy" is in both does not mean they have anything to do with each other.

And, quite frankly, this thread is about Daddy/girl, not sugar daddy.

Don't question my authority, because I know of what I speak, and I will smack you down.

for you, Etoile.

 

[Chris_Xavier]

Don't question my authority, because I know of what I speak, and I will smack you down.

Um.. wow... I've never seen Etoile get so worked up before.