Daddy is too busy.. What do you do?

[Curious_in_Cali]

Sorry you're hurting

Listen, this is just my view, but I think you need to have a better opinion of yourself. Just stick your chin in the air and go 'I'm fucking ace and it's your loss *shrug*'.

When your going on about being too needy. What are you needy for? Time, emotional support, compliments, feeling needed yourself? Sometimes being needy is born of insecurity, then you get in this vicious cycle of feeling wobbly-seeking reassurance-that diminishing your confidence- feeling even more wobbly.

So try just thinking: I'm fuckin stunning/funny/kind/sexy/articulate and it's YOUR LOSS mister.

Then fuck the ice cream and girly movies, go and get roaring pissed with your mates n have a laugh.

Edie x

Looooove this post.

 

[LittleVixen69]

Sorry you're hurting

Listen, this is just my view, but I think you need to have a better opinion of yourself. Just stick your chin in the air and go 'I'm fucking ace and it's your loss *shrug*'.

When your going on about being too needy. What are you needy for? Time, emotional support, compliments, feeling needed yourself? Sometimes being needy is born of insecurity, then you get in this vicious cycle of feeling wobbly-seeking reassurance-that diminishing your confidence- feeling even more wobbly.

So try just thinking: I'm fuckin stunning/funny/kind/sexy/articulate and it's YOUR LOSS mister.

Then fuck the ice cream and girly movies, go and get roaring pissed with your mates n have a laugh.

Edie x

Hmm ????

This did make me think... what am I needy for????

That is a great question........

You are right I do need to work on my confidence level a lot... I have been doing better.....

I'm fuckin stunning/funny/kind/sexy/articulate.... and very loyal

Thanks for sharing your point of view with me.......


little vixen

 

[Que]

As I browsed the other replys and your responses to them I was fairly impressed good advice, apparently you are open to it. Probably all on the right track.

Just the thread title made me want to post, "Embark on self improvement."

We all do that in spurts and drabs. Take the time you were giving him (I loathe capitalization) and invest it in yourself. Spend time first doing things you do well...do them better. Spend time doing things you know little about but yearn to.
Self esteem is built on accomplishment. I ruminate a lot but I never solved anything without "doing".

Submission to me is a gift only a strong, capable competent woman (girl) is in a position to offer. Other wise whats the fun of being a dominant.

To use a pet analogy, do you want a pet that sits by the door drooling awaiting your return, or one that picks up skills and tricks easilly...one you are proud to show your friends.."How did he get her to do that??? Is it anatomically possible?"...I once picked up a nice dog at the pound...I told him to sit, and he did...I told him to stay, dropped the leash and took a few steps...he stayed, looked at me intelligently...I wasn't disappointed that i didn't get to "train" him to do that.

Be a better, more confident you...and you will attract a better class of "Him's"

 

[Edith_UK]

Wow. A pet analogy

 

[Que]

Wow. A pet analogy

snark much?

 

[Noor]

"Lord, what fools these mortals be!"

Interesting thread.

Often the person who says or thinks "I can't give you what you need" has never asked what the "needing" person what they need or want, and they are often basing their assumptions on their own fears or projections.

It is incredibly presumptuous and pretentious to assume you know what another person wants or needs without asking or discussion it with them, and then make decisions that affect them based on that presumption.

The above behavior drives me nuts! Its crap, cowardice, not to mention faulty logic.
People have no right whatsoever to tell you what you need, want or feel esp. since they are usually completely wrong.

This thread comes at an interesting time for me. I am currently having a dialogue with someone who pulled that line on me years ago. Strangely enough he is now giving me what I actually wanted back then at time when he can probably least afford to do so and not without a fair amount of risk.

While another has apparently has just walked away without a word, despite previous direct open communication between us and expressing interest the last 3 times we communicated. I know they are very busy but how hard is it to txt "hi, still around?" Hell, even a smiley would be nice...

The big plus thing is that your daddy did let you know and he cares enough to check on you. For whatever reason he can't be there, but he has not discarded you like a piece of used tissue.

 

[Noor]

Sorry, I forgot to answer the actual question.

What do you do?

1) Decide what you need/want from this guy, and let him know.

2) Decide if you need to replace him, or if you want to spend that time on something or someone else.

3) Audition distractions. I like to escape into sex... but that could be problematic.

4) Have fun with your friends. Frankly even as an introvert, I always have friends around and places I can go. If you feel bad enough at certain times, find mind bloggling activities for those times. Sleep at or with a friend.

5) Don't continue activities you were exploring with him or for him, put them on hold until you find another reason to do them, if you do.

6) walk 45 mins a day, its supposedly better for depression than most meds.

7) get enough sleep and eat well

8) Flirt with lots of guys of all sorts just for fun.

9) Go to events and meet new people with no agenda.


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Friends are friends regardless of the medium. People behave badly online and offline, it doesn't matter. I think some people do this because they seem to think they are anonymous or no one will ever find out, but that is rarely true. It is easy to pretend that people online aren't real and that interactions aren't real, but they find out sooner or later. The worthwhile people always come back unless they die or have profound mental illness, and even then they seem to bop in and out.

Something that always amazes me in life is when a person treats another badly and thinks it will never have any affect on their lives. Most of us don't live our lives in isolation, and people paths cross in strange ways and one never knows what or who might be important later in life.
I may live in a small midwest city but I have people who care about me all over the globe, many of whom are fiercely protective of the people they care about, as am I.

I don't usually think about what my friends and former lovers do for a living, their power or importance in their world, I only think about our friendship and their importance in my life. So it sometimes surprises me when I discover an overlap with someone I know from online and real life. It can be somewhat disconcerting at times but its usually a good thing for both of us.

 

[barelytrained]

I would like to add to this thread that I know this sub personally and she is , just as you all have told her, beautiful,strong and courageous. She has taught me a lot of things that I believe have improved my submissive life. I hope that she continues to heal and realizes how wonderful she is!

Thank you to everyone for posting such supportive comments on my dear friends thread. I have always loved the great responses from Lit members.


BT