Daddy's Little Girl: Second Edition

[Elgirldani]

So much has happened in here the last few pages.

Let me say hello to everyone. Soltiera, good to see you back. HeavyBalls, I hope you're doing well. Thank you for the treats. Dani...what do we call you...what do you prefer? Now I feel like the Romper Room Lady with her magic mirror... "I see cassie and darksimian, sng and nzerxxx...over there I see HB and dani and...oh, bigcoat dropped in. Thank you all for coming!"






These are the things that meant something to me.

✔ warning signs
✔ natural instincts, and
✔ keeping our wits

Sometimes we want someone in our lives so MUCH (on both sides of the slash) that we push instinct aside, ignore warning signs, and get foolish. It's not just "you"...we all do these things. Maybe not as often. At least, I don't THINK I'm the only one.

Also, the last part on bold. "Remind me and require me to do self care." Life can get overwhelming or busy, and it's nice to hear/read... "go to bed and rest" or "get a shower/bath and relax... read your book...turn off your phone."

Hi BFG Honestly, I’d probably change my username if I could without having to start a whole new account lol Lil Bug or Little Bug is fine

I agree with what you said about ignoring our own instincts. Unfortunately I am quite good at that. And self care. Yeah, not so good at that. The tangible things like what you listed, but also mentally, I tend to be very hard on myself. Having my Papa to remind me to take a break from beating myself up has little saved me today, and I’m really grateful that I have someone that I trust completely that’s looking out for me.

 

[HeavyBalls]

*waves*

I'm alright, mostly.

 

[cascadiabound]

So much has happened in here the last few pages.

Let me say hello to everyone. Soltiera, good to see you back. HeavyBalls, I hope you're doing well. Thank you for the treats. Dani...what do we call you...what do you prefer? Now I feel like the Romper Room Lady with her magic mirror... "I see cassie and darksimian, sng and nzerxxx...over there I see HB and dani and...oh, bigcoat dropped in. Thank you all for coming!"
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Also, the last part on bold. "Remind me and require me to do self care." Life can get overwhelming or busy, and it's nice to hear/read... "go to bed and rest" or "get a shower/bath and relax... read your book...turn off your phone."

Hot cocoa and a book for all the littles, especially our favorite romper room lady!

 

[AlwaysSoaked]

I also send squishy hugs and all the best thoughts to BFG. She has helped me (without even knowing originally) to learn more about myself and even to join conversations instead of staying safe, lurking in the shadows.

 

[Nzerxx]

I also send squishy hugs and all the best thoughts to BFG. She has helped me (without even knowing originally) to learn more about myself and even to join conversations instead of staying safe, lurking in the shadows.

Hey you!

 

[barefootgirl69]

Hot cocoa and a book for all the littles, especially our favorite romper room lady!

Sounds good to me! Thanks!

I also send squishy hugs and all the best thoughts to BFG. She has helped me (without even knowing originally) to learn more about myself and even to join conversations instead of staying safe, lurking in the shadows.

Hi! *Hugzzzz*

How you been?

 

[AlwaysSoaked]

Hello All!

Hi Nzerxx and BFG...so nice to see you both. I'm also waving to the couple other people I know here and all the super kind people I've yet to meet.

 

[barefootgirl69]

We still have some time before the weekend is over!

*Pulls out the board games, cranks up the Classic Rock station, dances around the kitchen putting aps together*

 

[DarkSimian]

We still have some time before the weekend is over!

*Pulls out the board games, cranks up the Classic Rock station, dances around the kitchen putting aps together*

Well, you kids keep it down, I'm going to bed

 

[barefootgirl69]

Well, you kids keep it down, I'm going to bed

Hmm... well, you can use the sound proof room at the end of the hall. I changed the sheets this morning.

Just...don't look in the closet.

 

[DarkSimian]

Hmm... well, you can use the sound proof room at the end of the hall. I changed the sheets this morning.

Just...don't look in the closet.

I'll be in my sensory deprivation tank, if anyone asks.....

 

[TTawhere]

We still have some time before the weekend is over!

*Pulls out the board games, cranks up the Classic Rock station, dances around the kitchen putting aps together*

Careful with the dancing. Don’t hurt the foot!

 

[sally_sparrow]

I'll be in my sensory deprivation tank, if anyone asks.....

Those are the best I just used one last week.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Careful with the dancing. Don’t hurt the foot!

Good point! It's still achy after all the walking yesterday!

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

If anyone needs me, I’ll be over here in the blanket/pillow fort with my essential oils, eye mask, and soothing sounds trying not to word vomit stupid feelings

If that was word vomit I'll hold your hair any day, dear heart.

 

[sally_sparrow]

If anyone needs me, I’ll be over here in the blanket/pillow fort with my essential oils, eye mask, and soothing sounds trying not to word vomit stupid feelings

Let them out and let that lavender soothe your soul.

 

[barefootgirl69]

The lavender helped for sure but that sweet man up there helped even more

Sweet ♡♡♡♡

 

[barefootgirl69]

 

[barefootgirl69]

Bringing this back up! It's important!

This is a good article on managing ldr stuff in general and a bunch of good ideas and tips that might be useful:


Long Distance Tips from a submissive
See each other, and talk, as often as possible
Hearing, and seeing each other, as often as possible is the number one way to feel connected to one another long distance.Try to find little times to connect, even if it’s not a time when you can give your full attention. Talk while you are driving or grocery shopping. For my Dom and I our time differences, and schedules, make finding time to give each other 100% attention hard for us. My Daddy sometimes turns on ‘Daddy TV’ for me, allowing me to watch him on cam while he is working. We mute the sound and chat via text, but being able to see him is a very calming experience for me, and it certainly helps this needy sub feel connected.

Text when you can’t talk
Having your camera on, or headphones in, isn’t always practical, but communicating through text chat is often a more manageable way to keep in contact throughout the day. Don’t underestimate the power of a message that says “Just wanted you to know I’m thinking of you’’.

Have a cam ’date’
Order the same takeout (Chinese food, pizza, etc.), and pop on the same Netflix show/movie while you cam together.

Keep a panty catalog
Both my Dom and I love when he chooses my panties. I, like most women I know, own more panties than he is able to keep track of without help. What I did was create an album for him, a picture of me in each pair, and a corresponding number, so that all he needs to do is glance at the album and leave me a number to let me know which he chose for the day. This works great with lingerie too.

Send Voice Messages
There is a great service on Vocaroo.com that requires no sign up. You can record voice messages for each other so that you have something to listen to at time you will not be able to communicate via voice/cam.

Send pictures and videos as often as possible
A silly morning selfie, or a video recording, can go a long way toward making you feel connected. Google drive is a great way to organize these and control who can view/download the videos and images. (However these methods are not hack-proof and you should always be discreet and completely trust and vet anyone you share sexy/revealing content with.)

Don’t make every communication about sex
Things don’t need to be sexy all the time. Have a cam session where you just talk. Ask about your partner’s day. Time on voice/cam is often limited in LDRs but that doesn’t mean every opportunity needs to be used for something sexy. Those sexy times will feel so much more special when you’ve fostered a real connection.

Share a to-do list
Google keep is a great app that lets you share a to-do list, so you can check tasks/chores off, and your Dom can see what has been completed at any given moment. It also allows either party to add or remove tasks at any time.

Share your playlists
The days of mixed tapes are over, but listening to the same song (preferably at the same time) is a great way to feel connected to another person. Shared experiences have a way of uniting us that is very powerful, and music has a draw all it’s own.

Don’t hide your bad days
LDRs are, after all, just relationships. Don’t impose on yourself the need to always come off as happy and put together. I’ve had calls where I’ve done little more than cry while my Dom listens and attempts to just be there for me. When another person can’t read your body language you need to make a greater effort to communicate what your feeling. Tell them if you feel sad, or frustrated, or angry. If you know that you’ll have trouble with this I’ve heard some people establish emojis or code-words ahead of time that they can use to communicate a mood when they can’t find the words.

Send a good-morning and goodnight message
This is an important practice, especially for people in different time zones. Let them know you are thinking of them when you wake. Tuck-in is a very reassuring ritual for submissives (especially littles) and these simple messages can go a long way toward reassuring both Dom and sub that they are thought of, and missed.

Have a comfort object
It’s my intention to write something more extensive about aftercare in a LDR later on, but a great place to start is with a comfort object. It can be a stuffy, a blanket, or a sweatshirt that smells like your partner; anything that reminds you of them. Create good associations by keeping the item close by while you are talking and enjoying yourselves, this will make the object more comforting when you’re feeling down.

Cut yourself some slack
Some days will be difficult. You’ll miss connecting because of busy schedules or bad luck. It’s easy to feel neglected and unimportant, but try to keep perspective. Remember and appreciate the effort that your partner puts into your relationship and try to cut them, and yourself, some slack.

written by @pleasurewhore

two things:

not hiding
and
cutting yourself and your partner slack.

to me these are of critical importance in making a relationship work.

If you are not telling/ sharing what you are feeling, what is going on in your life, what is being triggered for you etc, there is no way for your partner to know - they may be your Dom/ Top/ Daddy - but they can't read your mind.

and... at least for me... I find that I am pretty hard on myself. I want to do things *right* not screw up. please him. be a good girl. etc etc. And I know that most Doms/ Daddys are pretty hard on themselves too. They have high standards for themselves and they beat themselves up pretty hard if they screw up too.


anyone else have any thoughts or perspectives on these things?

Just a good review!

 

[Elgirldani]

Just a good review!

Thanks, there are a lot of good ideas there

Being in a ldr is tough and even more so when you’re trying to transition from something vanilla to the DD/lg dynamic. I think the most important thing is that we already had such a strong bond. It has definitely been tested during the past few weeks. I get very insecure about myself very easily, and I don’t think anyone other than my Bear would have been patient and understanding enough to help me navigate through that from 2 time zones away, while there have also been major changes happening in his life. Communication is definitely key, and I can’t say that I’m great at that, but I’m learning, and trying to do better for both our sakes.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Thanks, there are a lot of good ideas there

Being in a ldr is tough and even more so when you’re trying to transition from something vanilla to the DD/lg dynamic. I think the most important thing is that we already had such a strong bond. It has definitely been tested during the past few weeks. I get very insecure about myself very easily, and I don’t think anyone other than my Bear would have been patient and understanding enough to help me navigate through that from 2 time zones away, while there have also been major changes happening in his life. Communication is definitely key, and I can’t say that I’m great at that, but I’m learning, and trying to do better for both our sakes.

I think the thing is never assuming it will all be perfect right out of the box. Relationships take time and effort, they just don't happen. But nothing good ever comes easy. I think it helps to have a deeper appreciation for what we have, because we work on it.

Even those insecurities, the ones we don't want to mention because we don't want them rolling their eyes and sighing "this again?"...I think we hesitate because of fear. We need to trust that anything we are hurting/upset over needs to be aired and talked about.

I know that I appreciate the ear that listens and the words that reassure me.

Keep up the work, Bug, it is SO worth it.

 

[Elgirldani]

I think the thing is never assuming it will all be perfect right out of the box. Relationships take time and effort, they just don't happen. But nothing good ever comes easy. I think it helps to have a deeper appreciation for what we have, because we work on it.

Even those insecurities, the ones we don't want to mention because we don't want them rolling their eyes and sighing "this again?"...I think we hesitate because of fear. We need to trust that anything we are hurting/upset over needs to be aired and talked about.

I know that I appreciate the ear that listens and the words that reassure me.

Keep up the work, Bug, it is SO worth it.

For me, I think I was so resigned to never finding my person that I’m just always sort of waiting to find out it’s too good to be true. But so far every time I fall into the fear trap, he’s been right there to let me know it’s all ok. Nothing phases him(which I admit to finding slightly problematic at times ). But because I have that too good to be true feeling, I’m always working to make sure I don’t lose what I have.

 

[AlwaysSoaked]

I loved the post about long distance relationships. I'm in a fairly unhappy marriage and my Daddy (who found me in this website) is the joy and strength I need. We both dream of a time we can be physically together but it may be a while because circumstances need to line up just right for that to happen. We already do many of the things mentioned in that article but I had him read it and there are a couple of things we hope to try. We have been in our relationship for 5 years now and both know it is REAL, it's insulting when people think otherwise because it's online. We message on Skype most days, exchange lots of photos, talk on video and this year, Daddy sent me my first Christmas gift through Amazon. He has taught me things patiently, he listens when I cry and laughs with me when I'm silly. He is both my best friend and the man I love most in the world. I know how blessed I am and I thank BFG and this whole community, just for who you all are !

 

[barefootgirl69]

I loved the post about long distance relationships. I'm in a fairly unhappy marriage and my Daddy (who found me in this website) is the joy and strength I need. We both dream of a time we can be physically together but it may be a while because circumstances need to line up just right for that to happen. We already do many of the things mentioned in that article but I had him read it and there are a couple of things we hope to try. We have been in our relationship for 5 years now and both know it is REAL, it's insulting when people think otherwise because it's online. We message on Skype most days, exchange lots of photos, talk on video and this year, Daddy sent me my first Christmas gift through Amazon. He has taught me things patiently, he listens when I cry and laughs with me when I'm silly. He is both my best friend and the man I love most in the world. I know how blessed I am and I thank BFG and this whole community, just for who you all are !

*rubs a toe across the carpet*

Awww, shucks! That's a very sweet post!

 

[AlwaysSoaked]

BFG...I sort of really just LIKE you, LOTS! And i feel I've found a place where I belong as I read other people's posts. I'm the lucky one.