Dating Sucks!

[StrayKat]

Yeah well I don't beg either, so poor Kojote may find himself (herself?) in a difficult position.

I wouldnt worry about that, I am sure he will love it no matter what position with the two of us he might find himself in.
You might even get a decent cyber date out of it

 

[Kojote]

Get a room you two

Darn... I was waiting for this line and missed it...
So think of my totally spontanous and witty 'We got one and simply decided not to use it today' somewhat earlier...

<----- a girl. A stubborn girl.

Huh? So... what?
I'm not the one to say that I won't hit a girl.

In fact it seems that you are... well... begging for it just right now...

Yeah well I don't beg either, so poor Kojote may find himself (herself?) in a difficult position.

It's a 'him'
Which girl with their innate sense of taste would use a nick like this? Or such a disgusting picture? Or spill such totally imbecile bullshit like above?


As for the question: What's difficult with needing some more meters of rope?

I wouldnt worry about that, I am sure he will love it no matter what position with the two of us he might find himself in.
You might even get a decent cyber date out of it

Disconcertingly I'm afraid I would somehow...
Time to jump for cover?

 

[MissProvocateur]

I like the whole meeting online first, at least you get the weirdos out of the way first. My last date was with a guy I met on Lit, and it went really well, we knew each other already from the forum, so the awkwardness wasnt there.

 

[HottieMama]

I have put myself on dating restriction until May. (Started in December.) I am completely tired of dealing with stupidity, lack of ethics, etc. I'm using the time to work on me and spend time with friends. (The pent-up sexual aggression has also greatly benefitted my roller-derby game... )

 

[Loverskitten]

I like the whole meeting online first, at least you get the weirdos out of the way first. My last date was with a guy I met on Lit, and it went really well, we knew each other already from the forum, so the awkwardness wasnt there.

You got lucky then because I'm convinced that 90% of people's (men's) discriptions of themselves to be false. Not. Fun. At. All.

 

[StrayKat]

You got lucky then because I'm convinced that 90% of people's (men's) discriptions of themselves to be false. Not. Fun. At. All.

The point is you dont pay attention to what descriptions about themselves you get. You read, listen, notice and make your own image of the guy. Ask tricky questions, watch for answers. Try to present yourself in your worst bitchy mood and scan the reactions.
Above all take your time.

I hope you are not going to jump into something with a stranger you met on the street right away. Use the same common sense online. It is not easy to keep pretending with someone you talk to often and in long sessions. Be very wary if something "doesnt feel exactly right", it may be a small thing you cant point your finger at at first but can lead to discovery of pretty important lie.

What men describe themselves may be the way they see themselves and not even false, but those descriptions dont have to be true for you. So use your own brains and do your best to make your own description and decide if it fits you.
Internet is not that much different from your nearest bar when it comes to meeting new guys. Simply be smart, dont expect too much and learn to discard those you know dont fit you instantly.
Oh and be your exact self, more chances you will find someone to match with.

 

[Loverskitten]

I hope you are not going to jump into something with a stranger you met on the street right away. Use the same common sense online. It is not easy to keep pretending with someone you talk to often and in long sessions. Be very wary if something "doesnt feel exactly right", it may be a small thing you cant point your finger at at first but can lead to discovery of pretty important lie.

Oh and be your exact self, more chances you will find someone to match with.

Oh no. I DO take my time and am not even on a kink dating site. I'm still trying to get my mind off that damn ex, so I haven't even had a date in a while :/

And my profile is very honest, probably too honest. All my pics are recent and actually me.... Wearing clothes. yawn
No wonder I haven't gotten a date. Hehe

 

[Loverskitten]

I am starting to think I should lower my standards to someone who spells "a lot" as two words. That's enough for me now I guess. Sigh.

 

[mynameisben]

I am starting to think I should lower my standards to someone who spells "a lot" as two words. That's enough for me now I guess. Sigh.

The key to happiness, so I have learned, lies in constantly lowering one's standards.

 

[seela]

Oopsie. Sorry. Subpar reading comprehension.

 

[subwannabe]

Don't know how old you are but I'm guessing you are not real young and yet somehow you have been in contact with younger people who don't know how to speak English, they only know how to text. Try finding people who are old enough to know English.

 

[Loverskitten]

Don't know how old you are but I'm guessing you are not real young and yet somehow you have been in contact with younger people who don't know how to speak English, they only know how to text. Try finding people who are old enough to know English.

Ummm Ouch
I am in my late 30's and while I do get occasional messages from young guys I don't search them out or date them. I've only dated guys around my age. You'd be surprised how many men in their 30's write "alot" or "allot" among other grammar atrocities.

 

[Loverskitten]

The key to happiness, so I have learned, lies in constantly lowering one's standards.

Hehe love it! I may steal this

 

[Prince Albert]

I find it always hard to understand why people have such a hard time finding love. (Not lust, that's easy). It took me 40 plus years to find, lose & get back to someone I love a lot, (or is it allt, allot, whole lotta)

 

[Primalex]

A place for bitching about dating. Please share, misery loves company

Online dating
Today a very handsome guy messaged me, "looking for someone to chill wid"
I don't care how hot you are, if you can't be bothered to spell "with", it's a NO

The worst thing is to rate a message already as "dating".

 

[Loverskitten]

The worst thing is to rate a message already as "dating".

Hahaha dude, it's called "online dating", it's called a "dating site" I'd like to call it a "messaging site" but would people know what the fuck I was talking about?
I never said I was "dating" the guy, I actually said I wouldn't want to.

How would you prefer I refer to "online dating" and "dating sites"? Enlighten me

 

[Primalex]

Hahaha dude, it's called "online dating", it's called a "dating site" I'd like to call it a "messaging site"

And Nigerian email contains a great business opportunity and not spam.


Receiving random messages from strangers is not dating.

How would you prefer I refer to "online dating" and "dating sites"? Enlighten me

I would prefer if you just shut up and use one of the dozens other "Oh, no, I've received a message I consider stupid"-threads. Especially, as in my experience, women (or girls) who complain about stupid messages from guys usually write even worse messages themselves when it comes down to "dating" and barely manage to write down a whole paragraph. By the way, you need to improve your punctuation.

 

[Loverskitten]

And Nigerian email contains a great business opportunity and not spam.


Receiving random messages from strangers is not dating.




I would prefer if you just shut up and use one of the dozens other "Oh, no, I've received a message I consider stupid"-threads. Especially, as in my experience, women (or girls) who complain about stupid messages from guys usually write even worse messages themselves when it comes down to "dating" and barely manage to write down a whole paragraph. By the way, you need to improve your punctuation.

IT WASN'T FROM HERE!!!!!!!!! (there how's that for some punctuation) Which is why I specified "online dating" if it was from here, I would call it a PM and use those threads. Thanks though!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[StrayKat]

IT WASN'T FROM HERE!!!!!!!!! (there how's that for some punctuation) Which is why I specified "online dating" if it was from here, I would call it a PM and use those threads. Thanks though!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lol you are playing into his hands arguing like that.
Just disregard him.

Nice to see some things never change around here
Playing SW:TOR I bet Primalex?

 

[Primalex]

Lol you are playing into his hands arguing like that.

By proving my point.

Nice to see some things never change around here
Playing SW:TOR I bet Primalex?

Not really. I mean, a MMORPG without chat bubbles? WTF?!
And my ad for a kinky MMO partner wasn't very successful anyway.

Skyrim still keeps me occupied.

 

[zathras52003]

I know exactly what you mean kitty. Been there done that too many times.
12 years of cyber space meetings can kill the enthusiasm.

Messages like that I am not even registering anymore. I believe I got an offer to meet for tea just yesterday. From a guy in Connecticut. I am in EU.
And that was on that other site where you can actually see the location and I have mine stated pretty clearly.

I must admit I met a handful of people, including my husband, but on every person I actually met irl there are at least 3 that chickened out on me. Or were on the other side of the world.
Cant give you much more than random rambling on the subject, keep trying eh?

In the US (if you folks outside hadn't noticed) we tend to have a USA-centric view of the universe. If he read your profile quickly, he might have thought you were in X location in the U.S. Most of the names of towns in the northeast are either directly lifted from places in GB or Ireland, or a smattering of Native American and French locations. NY has a lot of Dutch names. Not defending him as he doesn't sound too bright, but I can sorta, kinda, see it happening depending upon the municipality you were in. If you are in Budapest- all bets are off.

 

[StrayKat]

In the US (if you folks outside hadn't noticed) we tend to have a USA-centric view of the universe. If he read your profile quickly, he might have thought you were in X location in the U.S. Most of the names of towns in the northeast are either directly lifted from places in GB or Ireland, or a smattering of Native American and French locations. NY has a lot of Dutch names. Not defending him as he doesn't sound too bright, but I can sorta, kinda, see it happening depending upon the municipality you were in. If you are in Budapest- all bets are off.

That was on CM, where I have not only stated Germany as my location but particularly written in my profile for people not close or willing to travel to Osnabrück area not to bother. So if he only checked my profile, he would really have to make a huge effort to be confused about my location.
Can you still sorta see it happening?

And my ad for a kinky MMO partner wasn't very successful anyway.

I had one like that years ago and wasnt very successful either. Seems like kinky gamers are very rare specie. After having to deal with ordinary loot whoring gamers (I am a hardcore minmaxer but I can still think of many other things in my game apart from what drops where) I guess single players are good enough compromise for me too.

 

[zathras52003]

That was on CM, where I have not only stated Germany as my location but particularly written in my profile for people not close or willing to travel to Osnabrück area not to bother. So if he only checked my profile, he would really have to make a huge effort to be confused about my location.
Can you still sorta see it happening?

I will go out on a limb and say no.

 

[StrayKat]

I will go out on a limb and say no.

I thought so.
I cant even imagine how confused he would get if I wrote I was in Croatia, Zadar area, what is actually my hometown. Lot of "USA-centric" folks ask me if that is some country and where is it located on the world map. I remember telling a guy "Adriatic Sea, across the Italy" once, and getting promptly in reply "and where exactly is Italy?"

 

[the captians wench]

I like the whole meeting online first, at least you get the weirdos out of the way first. My last date was with a guy I met on Lit, and it went really well, we knew each other already from the forum, so the awkwardness wasnt there.

I'm not sure that is always true. I've met a lot of weirdos who were perfectly fine online. *shrug*

Oh no. I DO take my time and am not even on a kink dating site. I'm still trying to get my mind off that damn ex, so I haven't even had a date in a while :/

And my profile is very honest, probably too honest. All my pics are recent and actually me.... Wearing clothes. yawn
No wonder I haven't gotten a date. Hehe

Yeah, I've kind of become jaded to the whole thing. I am always honest, to a fault I think, and it's not really helped much when the other person isn't being honest and so believes you not to be.

I've just decided to stop trying again. I didn't enjoy the emotional rollercoaster.

I thought so.
I cant even imagine how confused he would get if I wrote I was in Croatia, Zadar area, what is actually my hometown. Lot of "USA-centric" folks ask me if that is some country and where is it located on the world map. I remember telling a guy "Adriatic Sea, across the Italy" once, and getting promptly in reply "and where exactly is Italy?"

*giggles*

When I was planing my first trip to Ireland my GM asked me, "Do they speak English there?"

It was all I could do not to laugh at her! It's even worse when I tell people I would certianly move to Dublin. "Dublin, Ohio? Why?"