Dear X,

Ladies,

First off.....that pic really stretched the page.

Secondly.....its awright though, powerful emotions tend to burst past many boundaries, yes?

Thirdly.....its not just the women that experience such heartache. Some of us men have been through it too.

It is living. Beautiful, hard, wonderful, tragic, and everything in between.


In sympathy


MrT

MrT,

Sorry about the pic, I deleted it.

That was well said. After careful consideration, I’m willing to accept that maybe men are human, too.

Thank you for the kind words.

Psyche
 
My sisters, my friends, may we find comfort within and without, and may we observe our own vulnerabilities with the same kind eyes we have for each other.
 
I don't know that I've ever met anyone that is as kind to themselves as they are to (some) strangers.

The value that I see an inner child work is that it's a lot easier to be kind to the child you once were than the person you now are.

We all know the homily about not having walked a mile in the other person's moccasins and hence not having a clear understanding of their travails. Think about it- you actually were there in your own moccasins every step of the way except for of course the times when you kicked the moccasins off to walk over coals or broken glass.

The best advice I could give anyone is to ditch the moccasins. Invest in a nice pair of Tony Lamas; they're much more stylish.
 
I'll join you at that bonfire, Psyche.
But don't be fooled. You are not alone.
So many of us grieve the loss of people we never met.
It is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign that you loved.
That you allowed yourself to feel, to become vulnerable.
This is a sign of your genuine humanity, and is not a weakness.

Signed,

Feeling your pain.

This haunted me until I had to sit and try to find out why?
Why can love stop, I ask myself
Those friends scattered along the trail of my life
They left me and I still don't know why
I'm older now, I've seen more life
I want to say; We're not alike
I love, I know I do
But sometimes I wonder about you
Does it come in portions of unequal scale
It's the only answer my heart does tell
That love just walks away I can't believe
It saddens me...but not for me
I'm sad for you, perhaps you've never really seen
I let you go, but I am sad
That you are so empty seems so bad
Can Love just stop
Or was it ever truly there
I love, I know I do
That's just who I am
Goodbye old friend, I truly wish you well

Is it not possible, nay probable, that since we are all so very unique in every way...that some people simply haven't the same capacity to love? Haven't yet found the key to the inner rooms? It helps me to think so...it makes it not about me...it allows me to love them even from afar...and that sets me free.
 
This haunted me until I had to sit and try to find out why?
Why can love stop, I ask myself
Those friends scattered along the trail of my life
They left me and I still don't know why
I'm older now, I've seen more life
I want to say; We're not alike
I love, I know I do
But sometimes I wonder about you
Does it come in portions of unequal scale
It's the only answer my heart does tell
That love just walks away I can't believe
It saddens me...but not for me
I'm sad for you, perhaps you've never really seen
I let you go, but I am sad
That you are so empty seems so bad
Can Love just stop
Or was it ever truly there
I love, I know I do
That's just who I am
Goodbye old friend, I truly wish you well

Is it not possible, nay probable, that since we are all so very unique in every way...that some people simply haven't the same capacity to love? Haven't yet found the key to the inner rooms? It helps me to think so...it makes it not about me...it allows me to love them even from afar...and that sets me free.

:heart::heart::heart:
Beautiful. Simply beautiful.
 
:heart::heart::heart:
Beautiful. Simply beautiful.

Thank you for the kind words...but I think "Amateurish and unpolished" would be more accurate...but the intent is there, and it is true...but it's nebulous and squiggly and hard to hold onto.

I hand't noticed the lines in your signature until just now...Beautiful seems more true for those ~ :rose:
 
Thank you for the kind words...but I think "Amateurish and unpolished" would be more accurate...but the intent is there, and it is true...but it's nebulous and squiggly and hard to hold onto.

I hand't noticed the lines in your signature until just now...Beautiful seems more true for those ~ :rose:

Sometimes "amateurish and unpolished" sentiments are more meaningful and beautiful than the professional and polished because they come from the heart.

Unfortunately, I can't take credit for my signature. They are lyrics from Audioslave's "I Am The Highway." I must have deleted the link.
 
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Dear Red Wine,
Last night you tasted so yummy, and I couldn't stop drinking you. But, today you left me feeling meh.
Thank you for the crap feeling and for allowing me to catch up on bad reality TV watching.
Shall we not meet again anytime soon
Xoxo
 
Dear You-would-know-who-you-are-if-you-were-reading-this,

I came across the bag of lemon drops you used to eat and found myself reminiscing of all the fun times we had. I can't even express how much I miss you, having you in my life and how much I wish there was something I could do to help you now with all the tough decisions you have. I wish you were more willing or able to reach out, I'm here to listen if nothing else.

Sincerely,
Lost without You
 
Dear X,

Sitting there with that goofy doggie grin is NOT going to get you what you want. We've been over this. Paw the door to go out or the bowl for food. Bring me a toy to play or put head in my lap for scratch. Easy peasy, right?

Signed,
Pawplexed

*****

Dear Y,

I know you miss Mommie. I miss her too. But, if you think for one damn minute me letting you snuggle up to me means you also get to walk your 20lb ass across my face, sticking your paw in my mouth, and when I come out from under the covers sneeze in my face like a freaking downspout... Ugh! Why are you wet? I swear to God, I've done everything but put a child safety lock on the toilet! Why are you wet?!

Signed,
Not your kitty sub

*****

Dear Z,

No. I still don't have tits. Haven't the last 3 months. Still don't. And I know you can't get comfortable without a convenient shelf to perch on. You're just going to get pissy and jump back down. So, why do you constantly try to... Oh, fine. Come here. (70 seconds later) See? I told you. Fucking boob snob.

Signed,
Least comfortable kitty perch ever

*****

Dear AA,

While I appreciate you not being a constant pain in whatever you can manage to reach like the other two cats, would it kill you to come see what I want when I can't find you and start calling? Also, don't think for a moment I'm fooled that it was the dog who peed on her cans of food. I forgive you since I know you're still mad that I can't do anything as good as Momma. But, wanted you to know that I know.

Signed,
Pussywhipped

*****

Dear Wife,

You remember how you jokingly threatened to run away from home and leave me with these assholes you adopted from time to time so I would see what you put up with? JOKE IS NOT FUCKING FUNNY ANYMORE!
 
Dear X,

Do you still choose to live in silence not letting anyone help you? Can't you see that there is light and hands ready to hold yours at the end of the tunnel? Is it so impossible for you to imagine you deserve to be loved? Do you think you'll ever love yourself enough to allow that to happen????

I wish you the best and hope someday you open yourself up and risk it all. That is the only way out of your darkness. You are not alone if you choose not to be.

Why are you so comfortable and fixated in your darkness???


Signed,
Your Friend Always
 
Dear C,

I can’t imagine what could have been so permanently devastating at 22 to cause you to take your own life. I can’t think about you without seeing the thoughtful, respectful kid you were when I knew you. Today I can’t think about you at all.

I know you must have been under enormous pressure but I wish you would have asked for help. I wish I would have known you needed, I was right fucking there. If wishes were horses then beggars would ride.

I hugged my son tight tonight, and I cried for your mother since she will never be able to do the same again. I cried for you because you didn’t know how many people loved you, and that it would have gotten better.

Fare well and safe journey young sir. You could have made such a difference.

Love always,
M
 
Dear M,

Fuck.

There are never words.

Just love, hugs, and healing for those left behind, and a reminder about just how precious, delicate, and brief the lights in our lives can be.

Shine bright,
K
 
Dear M,

I am so sorry. I wish I had words of comfort, but there are none.

Dear R,

I’ve missed you, oh Princess Illustruous Precipitation!

Dear E,

Ditto but you’re neither a princess nor Illustrious Precipitation. The sentiment is still the same though.

Dear L,

I’m sorry I’ve been AWOL so long. I’d forgotten how much joy you added to my life. I promise I’ll try to do better.

Signed,
The lady of sand, surf, and sun
 
Dear Xs,

Draw strength from those you can. Hardships and trying times often are on the path to good times. Hope your paths are short.

T
 
Sweet Mummy,

I just know there was, and it was the grandest affair, with silly sing-songs and paper lanterns, princess crowns and downy pillows.

And cake. Always cake.


Long squeezy huggles,

Em
 
Dear X,

I know I'm not too bright about a lot of things. In most ways, I feel like I struggle just to stay in shouting distance of you. But, there is something I know that you don't seem to. I don't know just why it is that you seem to want to argue with me about it all. But, I'm going to keep telling you until you finally relent and admit I might just be right. To yourself if not to me.

You are beautiful.
You are smart.
You are funny.
You are kind.
You are unique.
Your smile is a drug.
Your laugh is music.

You are worth love and affection.
You are never too much.
You are always enough.
You are more precious than a diamond.
You are the most stunning of all God's creations.
You are worth more than any material wealth you could ever imagine.

You are incredible.
You are awesome.
You are inspiring.
You are admirable.
You are making a difference.

You are never far from my thoughts.
You are always in my heart.

Take care of you as you rush around worrying more about everyone else around you. Because when it comes right down to it, you are the only you those of us you allow into your world has and there will never be another.

Sincerely,
your simple friend
 
Dear X,
You don't see any reason to keep in touch with anyone, except when you need something from them. I'm tired of your crocodile tears and sycophantic ways. I don't want to know you anymore, and I'm shocked that we're related. Frankly, I'm tired of your "Jan Brady" ways. Mostly because I grew up, and you didn't.

Dear Y,
I'm sorry I can't talk with you anymore. You drain me without regard, and sometimes knowingly. I have kidded, plead, begged, and swore. Regardless, you persist.

Dear Z,
I wanted to be like you. It's a shame you saw that as a crime. I'm sorry you've come to a realization that relationships matter, but you don't want a brother, but someone to teach. I don't need you anymore. Maybe you should have thought about this 40 years ago.

Dear X, Y & Z,
I will always be here for you, as I always have, not because I had to, but because I wanted to, and freely given. But I have lived my life mostly without your help for the last 40 years. I don't need your help, and even if I did, wouldn't look to you, because your help usually comes with a price; either emotionally, or fiscally.

I would tell you all this in reality, but we all know, you don't listen to me. I'm just the idiot youngest and don't know anything worthwhile to your grandiose lives.
 
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Dear T,
I'm sorry about the way things ended. I tried to find you a few times over the years but you apparently had blocked my Facebook page. I didn't know how badly life had gone awry for you in recent years. I wish I had reached out to help you, financially if nothing else. When I Googled your name last month and came upon your children's FB page, I found the link to your online obituary. I also found your FB page, and your comment about our love affair. You must have unblocked me at some point. I so wish i had found it sooner, and could have told you about my feelings for you.
 
Dear J-1,

It's been 18 years since we officially split. Are you ever going to drop the ax and move on? Civil discourse is a good thing.

Dear J-2,

It's been 14 years since we semi-officially split. I don't think I'll ever be completely able to move on, but I am definitely not carrying an ax. Civil discourse is a good thing.
 
Dear X,

Thanks for telling me how you really feel...

Wow. Just wow...

Signed,

Still stunned (and not in a good way) in TX :rolleyes:
 
Dear X.
I'm still down there.
Broken and
Inside out.
Virtually...might not be enough, but I am trying.
Xxo
 
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