Dick Demands

[Epona's Chylde]

There is a major "something wrong" in your relationship!
Perhaps this entire "daddy" bullshit is wrong!
You may actually need a better relationship than this one where you call him "Daddy"!

Not trying to be cruel here or insensitive but if something is repulsive and he still has you doing it he is an asshole.
I would be so turned off by now that I'd be moving on to someone better suited for my "suck me now" desires!!!!

What's wrong with calling a man Daddy? Its more common than you might think and I don't see anything wrong with it. It has to do with looking up to man as being an older, wiser, protective figure. For girls who never had a strong father figure growing up, it can be very therapeutic and meaningful.

And he's not MAKING her do anything. She WANTS to do this to make him happy, something which she has made very clear. Oral sex is a pretty common desire and its something most men (vanilla or otherwise) expect in a relationship.

I haven't seen anywhere where she's described him as being anything other than sensitive and understanding.

 

[cati]

Excellent posts...and I have to agree with most of them as well.

I'm one of those who love sucking cock. I think I was doing it before I had vaginal "sex". Plus, I suffer *s from penis envy (wishing I had one)....gotta admit I just love the darn things!
I can't deep throat worth beans...passage is just too narrow. Yes, I've tried practicing with toothbrushes and vegies...but really it's not even close to being the same/having the same feel etc. I wish I could be better at it...shrugs.
Practice and more practice I guess.
You say you don't mind swallowing. I'm surprised to hear that, cause it's usually 2nd on the list of.."I don't really want to do this..."

You know what might work? Your focusing on his cock as being the ONLY source of pleasure for you... making it your ONLY source of arousal...no other form of sex allowed for you both (for a while anyway) and see what happens.

**winkin' plus...you can now take pleasure in knowing that you may have some power over him...now that you've become "one with his cock".
Being a good cock sucker is something to be proud of!

 

[h_i_s]

Am i the really the only female in America who doesn't like performing fellatio? i certainly feel like i am, but here's my delimma: i keep getting into trouble for this very same issue almost on a weekly basis. i don't like, and never have liked, performing orally on a man. i did it, but up until now, it wasn't a daily requirement. Not only am i required to perform "dick worship," i am also expected to "deep throat" the thing at the same time! And no matter how hard i try to enjoy it with Daddy, i'm still left feeling a little grossed-out when i'm done. This has caused many problems, because the more i get my ass in trouble, the more of a chore it becomes, and the less i want to do it. i don't even think Daddy enjoys it as He probably should, its just making sure i do what i'm told. And when i don't in the time He feels it should be done..... its "assume the position!" i don't get physically punished all the time, but there are some long conversations about my responsibilities, and how my "defiance" makes Him feel.
There has to be a way to enjoy doing this. i love Daddy and He is very, very good to me. i do it as much as i can, but i want to be able to enjoy this and look forward to doing it more frequently so that He can enjoy it as well.
Don't blast me on this one..... this is a very sensitive topic. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
Thanks
baby_girl

There was a time in my life, prior to serving my Master, when i did not enjoy giving a man oral nearly as much as i now have learned to enjoy pleasing my Master in that way. It has become a time when i am focused on His pleasure, rather than my own. Being able to please Him is what pleases me most. Giving a man oral pleasure was once nothing but a chore, and a total bore, and gave me a stiff neck, not to mention that i wasn't very good at it because i spent the entire time thinking about how much i hated it, and wishing it could be over and done with as quickly as possible.

Knowing how much He enjoys my methods, has allowed me to enjoy, rather than detest cock worship. Giving oral is enjoyable for me because i receive great pleasure from observing His reactions, and in knowing, by His reactions, that i have reason to take pride in just how well i am able to please Him in this way.

Prior to, and just after meeting my Master, i'd done a few searches online for tutorials & tips related to giving blow jobs well, and what men tend to enjoy most, as well as what they may not enjoy while receiving oral. i read Jenna Jamerson's "How to make Love Like a Porn Star", and paid extra good attention to her tips for giving oral. One night, i tried some of her techniques which i'd not concidered before, and was actually asked as i was busy pleasing Him in this way, "Did you learn something new from that book?". He noticed a difference or two and pointed it out to me. In learning to pleasing Him with oral, i had to pay close attention to His reactions in order to gage and realize exactly which techniques He seems to enjoy most. Everyone is different, and what works for one is not guaranteed to work for all. In order to find what it is that 'does it for Him' i used every approach i could think of, and utilized every trick i'd ever read about. It paid off well by increasing, not only His enjoyment, but mine as well.

It seems like you are doing your best to try to enjoy it. Perhaps shifting where the focus of enjoyment is directed will help you to enjoy it more, as well.


**winkin' .. Regardless, for myself, topping from the bottom is nothing to be proud of, BUT, being a good cock sucker simply for the desire to please Him ... IS.

 

[Master Sensei]

There is a major "something wrong" in your relationship!
Perhaps this entire "daddy" bullshit is wrong!
You may actually need a better relationship than this one where you call him "Daddy"!

Without trying to sound "Kinkier than thou" I just have to say that you must really miss a lot of good scenery with those blinders on.

The whole Daddy/little girl thing may or may not have anything to do with age play. As mentioned above it may simply denote a Master who is completely devoted to his girl in such a way that he wants to help her learn and grow to become a better person. In my opinion, it is one of the deepest committments one can make to another person and those that do it are to be respected.

 

[Turks_baby_girl]

Without trying to sound "Kinkier than thou" I just have to say that you must really miss a lot of good scenery with those blinders on.

The whole Daddy/little girl thing may or may not have anything to do with age play. As mentioned above it may simply denote a Master who is completely devoted to his girl in such a way that he wants to help her learn and grow to become a better person. In my opinion, it is one of the deepest committments one can make to another person and those that do it are to be respected.

Thank You Master Sensei.

 

[His_pita]

There is a major "something wrong" in your relationship!
Perhaps this entire "daddy" bullshit is wrong!
You may actually need a better relationship than this one where you call him "Daddy"!

Speak for yourself please. I happen to love calling my Dom Daddy. If you don't understand the relationship I would recommend that you read the first post in the link in my sig. I didn't understand it either until I read that post and realized there was a name for what we were already doing.

 

[Turks_baby_girl]

Eponas Chylde

Epona's Chylde, i wasn't even going to address this person's post, as they are clearly unaware of this type of relationship. And instead of debate the Daddy/lg dynamic, i'll just leave him/her to their opinion.

Daddy is the strong, protective, nurturing figure. And with Him being knowledgeable in areas that i am not, i also learn from Him, as He learns from me.

i appreciate those who understand who/what Daddy stands for and thier comments.
baby_girl

 

[Turks_baby_girl]

His Pita

Speak for yourself please. I happen to love calling my Dom Daddy. If you don't understand the relationship I would recommend that you read the first post in the link in my sig. I didn't understand it either until I read that post and realized there was a name for what we were already doing.

i meant to send you a note to let you know that i clicked the link in your sig and was very grateful to see that post that MT and lil secret started. i was going to read throught them all before posting my comments. i'm halfway through. Excellent place for girl's and their Daddy's to call home.
baby_girl

 

[Turks_baby_girl]

Sinnocent1

i am looking for that book as we speak, to order it. You gave very good advice/comments in your post, and while i won't address them all here, just know that i appreciate your input.
Its not that any one person can tell another what to do in certain situations, but its the "way" in which others cope with similar circumstances that gives people a broader outlook on things. When i posted my comments, i wasn't looking for a "cure" so to speak, but looking for suggestions on how others overcame a similar situation.
i have found just that, too.
baby_girl

 

[Turks_baby_girl]

i just had to add this in: this past weekend, i mentioned that i did a really good (blow) job, and received much needed praise from Daddy. It was like His favorite team kicked the game-winning field goal...... """YES.... YES..... YES.""""
i know it was in response to the fact that i finally did it "really" good, and He was pleased, but it was funny. i could almost hear the fans in the stands cheering!
Hey....... a girl needs that every now and then!

..... guess you had to be there.

"smilin" baby_girl

 

[CutieMouse]

I'm going to quietly add a few cents... (given that it's been eons since I've been intimate with anyone this is theoretical advice based on a former mouse-space-time-continum. )

Once upon a time I *hated* oral intimacy. I remember being 19 and thinking "Dear GOD *pee* comes out of that thing! EW!" <laughing> At some point I decided to look upon it as a challenge- think of the intimacies I was missing out on simply because I couldn't enjoy this one thing!! I decided at some point that by focusing on the "ickyness" of oral intimacy I was robbing *myself* of pleasure- trust me... if you enjoy it, it can be as pleasurable for you as it is for him.

Being ridiculously practical, I made oral sex a project. I studied. I didn't study by having lots of oral sex- I studied by researching and getting comfortable with techniques. I studied by getting more comfortable with my ex (then husband's) anatomy. I had a few close friends who were men and sweet enough to discuss technique with me. I read web sites. I used what I learned to make it more enjoyable when we did engage in oral activities. I listened and focused on the response I got form doing X, tweeked X, added Y, etc. I made it a positive challenge for myself - I decided that the trick to pleasurable oral for a man was it being a pleasurable experience for me.

In the end my mindset shifted completely and I discovered I *love* oral intimacy. And loving it/enjoying it/chosing to activly make it good for both of us apparently worked- for both of us. (Blatant self interest works wonders yet again. )

Of course I'm not with him anymore (thank god[dess]); it's been a year since my last relationship; and I won't share physically outside of a very committed relationship so I'm not sure I even remember how to enjoy oral intimacy. So take the advice with a gigantic grain of salt. <laughing>

 

[His_pita]

i meant to send you a note to let you know that i clicked the link in your sig and was very grateful to see that post that MT and lil secret started. i was going to read throught them all before posting my comments. i'm halfway through. Excellent place for girl's and their Daddy's to call home.
baby_girl

Good, its a wonderful group of people in there. So please jump in anytime you feel like it.

 

[Bandit58]

I'm almost 47 and have been giving oral for just over 3 years.

I never did it with my husband. He never demanded it and I didn't want to - by the end of that 23 year marriage I didn't even want to have sex with him I left early in 2002 and set out to find out what I knew I'd been missing out on. I met a guy who let me take things at my own pace. I even swallowed the first time

I'd done it with 3 men before I met Master, though not very often. But He has told me that from the first time I gave Him oral He could tell I was a natural. I still can't deep throat very well but it's getting there. I just love giving Him pleasure. I get all wet while I'm doing it

For me giving oral is a more intimate thing than intercourse. I mean, when I was married I would shut myself off and just let him get on with it. When I give oral my whole being is focussed on Him. He has taught me the way He likes to be pleasured. Not by barking orders, but telling me, "Harder" "Softer", "Deeper". If I have trouble breathing, I will tap Him 3 times and He will pull back to let me get my breath. I am not a fan of breath play! It has taken us over 18 months to get to where we are with it and I still love to practice

 

[cati]

Bandit58: I just love giving Him pleasure. I get all wet while I'm doing it
For me giving oral is a more intimate thing than intercourse.

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Yesss .....I agree totally!... smiles...

 

[cati]

Tutorials for oral sex.

baby_girl...I hope you don't mind my butting in

The tutorial mentioned in an earlier post isn't a book. You can find a couple of versions of it on the net and it's called:
"A 14 Lesson Tutorial" on Oral Sex (I think) with techniques from some of the experts"
Since there have been different versions of that article printed, I'm suggesting doing a search on that title....the one I have is by Crusty the Clown *s

The absolutely best information on how to give great head is a lengthy article written by Black Rose...called Black Roses Guide to Fellatio and Erotic Male Genital Massage.
I don't think it's available as an article any longer (at least I couldn't find it as such) BUT it is available as an E-book.

More valuable info can be found at www.sexuality.org

...by the sound of it, you don't need lessons any more *winkin'