Different types and multiple orgasms

[TBKahuna123]

Clear enough?

Perfectly! It sounds to me like you are experiencing the same thing I do after an orgasm, extreme sensitivity. I have to stop, especially after a handjob or blowjob where there is extreme pressure, because it is totally painful. My wife has the same thing after cumming from direct clitoral stimulation, though usually she can stand once or twice, but that's it.

I have a few ideas, and granted I'm not a girl but this is logic talking here.

1.) Try to have more lubrication. If you are mastrubating or being manually stimulated, use more lube, if being orally stimulated, make sure he makes it really wet.

2.) Try using a vibrator, but not directly on your clit. As you get close to orgasm, try moving away, like up higher, and let the vibrations travel down, but not directly on your clit. This might brign you to orgasm without the sensitivity.

3.) The other thign is try maybe vaginal and clitoral stimulation and as you get close to orgasm, let he vaginal stimulation take you over the top.

LIke I said, just ideas here, no real experience, since I have different equipment than you. I'm interested to hear if any of this works.

 

[M's girl]

1.) Try to have more lubrication. If you are mastrubating or being manually stimulated, use more lube, if being orally stimulated, make sure he makes it really wet.

2.) Try using a vibrator, but not directly on your clit. As you get close to orgasm, try moving away, like up higher, and let the vibrations travel down, but not directly on your clit. This might brign you to orgasm without the sensitivity.

3.) The other thign is try maybe vaginal and clitoral stimulation and as you get close to orgasm, let he vaginal stimulation take you over the top.

LIke I said, just ideas here, no real experience, since I have different equipment than you. I'm interested to hear if any of this works.

Thanks for the tips, but....

1) More lubrication? Please no! I seem to be wired so differently from most other women! I'm plenty wet myself for starters, but do not need that anywhere near my clit. Best to explain this is that I can't have direct clit-stimulation anyway. It's always somewhere under or above it, almost like pressing against, but nothing direct ON the clit. To be able to do that it needs to be somewhat dry. To get the right grip I would say, can't think of a better way to describe it.

It's different with oral. The kind of stimulation needs to be the same (so not too direct) but it can be wetter (luckily, otherwise that would not work at all!). I have thought about that a lot and why that is. I have come to the conclusion that it has something to do with, how to say this, the surface? Or the size of what is making contact with my clit. Oh boy, this is easier to explain in Dutch but then you would not know what the f**k ( ) I was talking about... One finger stings.... sort of. I guess the tongue works best because it's larger and you can aim better. The penis (rubbing against my clit) works too, but is harder to 'steer' in the right direction since direct pressure on the clit is not desired. Sigh... Still, it's hard for me to cum from oral alone too. Maybe because of the inevidable wetness in the end, although I can endure a somewhat directer stimulation, or so it seems. Most of the time I have to help out though to get me over the edge. And that doesn't work sometimes because I have to use my fingers and then everything is too wet..

2) I have a vibrator and a dildo and 'the works'... They don't do much for me since I much more prefer 'the real thing'. If I use a vibrator I never use it directly ON my clit for the same reason mentioned in 1).

3) Trust me, I've had plenty lovers and tried everything! Vaginal stimulation just does not do anything for me. Well, that's not entirely true, but it could never bring me to orgasm. I always need the clit stimulation, always! This may sound weird to many but a man (eh.... preferably M of course ) can fuck me for days, but without clit stimulation he will not bring me anywhere near an orgasm. I like the feeling, certainly, but almost more like for 'romantic' reasons. I like it when M is inside of me, and it feels exciting. But he can be sweet and I can be horny as hell, but if there is no clit-stimulation there is guaranteed NO orgasm.

So..... I know I'm difficult.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Thanks for the tips, but....

1) More lubrication? Please no! I seem to be wired so differently from most other women! I'm plenty wet myself for starters, but do not need that anywhere near my clit. Best to explain this is that I can't have direct clit-stimulation anyway. It's always somewhere under or above it, almost like pressing against, but nothing direct ON the clit. To be able to do that it needs to be somewhat dry. To get the right grip I would say, can't think of a better way to describe it.

It's different with oral. The kind of stimulation needs to be the same (so not too direct) but it can be wetter (luckily, otherwise that would not work at all!). I have thought about that a lot and why that is. I have come to the conclusion that it has something to do with, how to say this, the surface? Or the size of what is making contact with my clit. Oh boy, this is easier to explain in Dutch but then you would not know what the f**k ( ) I was talking about... One finger stings.... sort of. I guess the tongue works best because it's larger and you can aim better. The penis (rubbing against my clit) works too, but is harder to 'steer' in the right direction since direct pressure on the clit is not desired. Sigh... Still, it's hard for me to cum from oral alone too. Maybe because of the inevidable wetness in the end, although I can endure a somewhat directer stimulation, or so it seems. Most of the time I have to help out though to get me over the edge. And that doesn't work sometimes because I have to use my fingers and then everything is too wet..

2) I have a vibrator and a dildo and 'the works'... They don't do much for me since I much more prefer 'the real thing'. If I use a vibrator I never use it directly ON my clit for the same reason mentioned in 1).

3) Trust me, I've had plenty lovers and tried everything! Vaginal stimulation just does not do anything for me. Well, that's not entirely true, but it could never bring me to orgasm. I always need the clit stimulation, always! This may sound weird to many but a man (eh.... preferably M of course ) can fuck me for days, but without clit stimulation he will not bring me anywhere near an orgasm. I like the feeling, certainly, but almost more like for 'romantic' reasons. I like it when M is inside of me, and it feels exciting. But he can be sweet and I can be horny as hell, but if there is no clit-stimulation there is guaranteed NO orgasm.

So..... I know I'm difficult.

Doesn't sound wierd at all, many women can't cum from vaginal stimulation. it was just a thought.

OK so every one of my ideas sucks, I quit, I'm hanging up my dick and going home.

Seriosuly though, you can't handle direct clitoral stimulation, is that what you are saying? It just sounds to me like you have an over sensitive clit and that's jsut all there is to it. As I said on the thread to the guy who has sensitivity issues with his penis after orgasm, you can hit it with a hammer until you deaden the nerves, but that kinda defeats the purpose.

Babe it sounds to me like you're just a highly charged sexual creature who's parts make for earth shaking orgasms that you need to rest from. I can see your frustration, but it's not the end of the world. I'm just sorry I dont' ahve any other ideas for ya.

 

[LadyJeanne]

2) I have a vibrator and a dildo and 'the works'... They don't do much for me since I much more prefer 'the real thing'. If I use a vibrator I never use it directly ON my clit for the same reason mentioned in 1).

If I may make a recommendation on vibes? I've posted this one before, because it's my current favorite for solo and partner play. This vibe is all about indirect stimulation! It's shape prevents it from accidentally pinpointing pressure directly on your clit.

http://www.freddyandeddy.com/productreviews/Funfactory/layaspotvibereview.htm

3) Trust me, I've had plenty lovers and tried everything! Vaginal stimulation just does not do anything for me. Well, that's not entirely true, but it could never bring me to orgasm. I always need the clit stimulation, always! This may sound weird to many but a man (eh.... preferably M of course ) can fuck me for days, but without clit stimulation he will not bring me anywhere near an orgasm. I like the feeling, certainly, but almost more like for 'romantic' reasons. I like it when M is inside of me, and it feels exciting. But he can be sweet and I can be horny as hell, but if there is no clit-stimulation there is guaranteed NO orgasm.

So..... I know I'm difficult.

I'm the same way - I don't come from PIV sex. Has never happened without clit stimulation at the same time. My g-gasms have come from a vibe, not even fingers. I love PIV sex because it feels good, but it doesn't make me come without clit stimulation as well.

 

[sosexy]

keep experimenting! there's nothing more fun that finding out a new way to cum....oh God..I just made a really bad rhyme..

 

[M's girl]

Doesn't sound wierd at all, many women can't cum from vaginal stimulation. it was just a thought.

OK so every one of my ideas sucks, I quit, I'm hanging up my dick and going home.

Seriosuly though, you can't handle direct clitoral stimulation, is that what you are saying? It just sounds to me like you have an over sensitive clit and that's jsut all there is to it. As I said on the thread to the guy who has sensitivity issues with his penis after orgasm, you can hit it with a hammer until you deaden the nerves, but that kinda defeats the purpose.

Babe it sounds to me like you're just a highly charged sexual creature who's parts make for earth shaking orgasms that you need to rest from. I can see your frustration, but it's not the end of the world. I'm just sorry I dont' ahve any other ideas for ya.

Your ideas do not suck, it's just that I'm wired differently I guess. And I know it. And it's OK. Me starting this thread was more out of curiosity... not about finding new ways to make things happen I know won't... I mean... I'm 42 and I've had a very sexual active life on the whole... And yes, I do consider myself to be a very sexual creature and I enjoy sex and intimacy a lot!

I can't speak of things I have not experienced but as far as I'm concerned my orgasms are pretty intense the way they are now. No complaining there... it's just hard sometimes to get there because there is such a specific way in how it's achieved. Do-able but difficult.

 

[M's girl]

If I may make a recommendation on vibes? I've posted this one before, because it's my current favorite for solo and partner play. This vibe is all about indirect stimulation! It's shape prevents it from accidentally pinpointing pressure directly on your clit.

http://www.freddyandeddy.com/productreviews/Funfactory/layaspotvibereview.htm



I'm the same way - I don't come from PIV sex. Has never happened without clit stimulation at the same time. My g-gasms have come from a vibe, not even fingers. I love PIV sex because it feels good, but it doesn't make me come without clit stimulation as well.

Thankyou

I checked out the link and will keep it in mind. Actually, coming weekend M and I will visit an erotic fair called "Kamasutra Beurs" in Amsterdam. I will seriously consider one if I come across it. Still..... I'm not too much into these things I consider gadgets. Because also in the end, to me, making love is not about the orgasm; it's about what you do to each other to make the whole experience pleasureable. I think that's why vibrators and the like don't do a whole lot for me. I'd rather be touched by M and not orgasm than be touched by a 'thing' to get there.

 

[LadyJeanne]

Thankyou

I checked out the link and will keep it in mind. Actually, coming weekend M and I will visit an erotic fair called "Kamasutra Beurs" in Amsterdam. I will seriously consider one if I come across it. Still..... I'm not too much into these things I consider gadgets. Because also in the end, to me, making love is not about the orgasm; it's about what you do to each other to make the whole experience pleasureable. I think that's why vibrators and the like don't do a whole lot for me. I'd rather be touched by M and not orgasm than be touched by a 'thing' to get there.

I see vibes as toys for us to play with. It's not even about getting to the orgasm. It's more about exploring another way to play together. If he's using it on me, then there's another level of communication and intimacy going on, because I need to tell him what feels good and how, and he loves teasing me with the different settings and positions.

We don't use them all the time, and we use them in different ways - sometimes for the orgasm, but most of the time, the vibe is part of foreplay...all kinds of sustained stimulation to keep me at a high level of arousal. This particular vibe is also very ergonomically designed and fits between us really nicely during PIV sex.

I think I want to try one of the remote-control vibes at some point...

When I'm by myself, the vibes really help me explore my body and what kinds of stimulation feel good. Had I not tried the Magic Wand, I'd never have found out that I could come five times in a row!

 

[TBKahuna123]

Thankyou

I checked out the link and will keep it in mind. Actually, coming weekend M and I will visit an erotic fair called "Kamasutra Beurs" in Amsterdam. I will seriously consider one if I come across it. Still..... I'm not too much into these things I consider gadgets. Because also in the end, to me, making love is not about the orgasm; it's about what you do to each other to make the whole experience pleasureable. I think that's why vibrators and the like don't do a whole lot for me. I'd rather be touched by M and not orgasm than be touched by a 'thing' to get there.

That's exactly what my wife says! I had made a comment that I thought I'd pick her up something naughty and electric for Christmas and she said that she wasn't really into toys as much because it wasn't as good as having me make her orgasm. I think that's the nicest thing anyone's ever said to me.

I see vibes as toys for us to play with. It's not even about getting to the orgasm. It's more about exploring another way to play together. If he's using it on me, then there's another level of communication and intimacy going on, because I need to tell him what feels good and how, and he loves teasing me with the different settings and positions.

See this is how I feel about it too. They're called toys for a reason: they're fun.

 

[M's girl]

I see vibes as toys for us to play with. It's not even about getting to the orgasm. It's more about exploring another way to play together. If he's using it on me, then there's another level of communication and intimacy going on, because I need to tell him what feels good and how, and he loves teasing me with the different settings and positions.

We don't use them all the time, and we use them in different ways - sometimes for the orgasm, but most of the time, the vibe is part of foreplay...all kinds of sustained stimulation to keep me at a high level of arousal. This particular vibe is also very ergonomically designed and fits between us really nicely during PIV sex.

I think I want to try one of the remote-control vibes at some point...

When I'm by myself, the vibes really help me explore my body and what kinds of stimulation feel good. Had I not tried the Magic Wand, I'd never have found out that I could come five times in a row!

I've had my toys for ages and also during the time when I was alone (without a partner). Even then I hardly ever 'resorted' to them I must say, mainly also because I can get myself to orgasm better than a toy could. I think if I could cum from making love with a partner easier, it would also make it easier for me to 'accept' the toys in our lovemaking. It's not that I'm shy, or am afraid it will replace something. But it should add something in the first place and therefor I feel the need to cum from sex with my partner (without the toys) first. Does that sound crazy? Am I being old fashioned?

Whenever M and I use toys it's because I like to try things and/or because he thinks it's fun and/or I'm just sort of in a kinky mood (well, I know this is not really kinky, but you know what I mean...?)...

I can imagine, by the way, if these toys work well for you Lady Jeanne, how you want to try the remote controlled ones. Should be fun. Are those the ones you can sort of wear under your clothes and your partner is in charge of the control-thing? I imagine you and him at a (very chic, mind you ) party and him turning it on from the other side of the room. Cool....

Oh, and PS: five times in a row! Wow, that's impressive. Every time I had an orgasm using a vibrator I was definately finished, ready, done ( ) after one orgasm. Happened a few times I went back for more after like 15 or 20 minutes but always with a pause in between. Even then two or three times was the absolute tops frequency.