Distant Domination.....No contact Domination

[NALA CAYENNE]

Distance Domination:

Domination from a distance without a physical touch..how many of you think this is possible. It might be physically present but no physical touch domination (mind control at short distance) or long distance domination via email,sms, phone, live chat etc; I am a firm believer that distance domination is NOT a fantasy but a truth and that it is possible (tried with few already on a short term.. of course some BDSM training will require physical contact or touch).

For example I was talking of self discipline training that will discipline the slave to obey exactly what the master wants the slave to do! and NOT an inch more or an inch less..meaning exact. This kind of control is needed (and both master and slave should be co operative on this kind of domination since it is more about achievement - taking up control by the master and giving up control by the sub/slave!). A simple Q: Do you think that with adequate training (self disciplining etc) Is it possible for someone to do an Extreme BDSM Play in the form of say Boob Suspension? Of course safety issues attended and adequately instructed to the slave and if needed a chaperone present (a person just to intervene but NOT take control)...

I am just wondering because of the masters with whom I have interacted and the subs always feel a bit that it is NOT possible to be gratified by distance domination.

Regards,
Orient Master of East (India)

I am in a distance domination relationship and VERY gratified by it. I do admit that sometimes I miss the physical aspect of having things done to me by my Dom, but we are in daily contact and even though it is by distance, I would NEVER dream of not doing something that he tells me to do.

This is the biggest part of the trust between two people whether in a "normal" relationship or in a D/s relationship. In every conversation that my Dom and I have that regards my tasks, I tell him, in detail, exactly how I performed the task and if appropriate, I take pictures and email them to him as proof.

He has never asked that I do this, but since we are in a distance relationship, I want him, as my Dom, to feel secure in the fact that I am doing the tasks that he has assigned me to do.

 

[alisonx]

I do distance training and I have to say- boob suspension and extreme bondage requires that someone be there with you.

Here are a couple things I have learned from The Submissive Challenge:

a. Connect with your sub/domme. How can you expect someone to get more from the action if there isn't a connection?

b. Take advantage of phyiological and tantra based possibilities. If I tell you to take witch hazel and gently rub it on your nipple, and then not touch it until it evaporates- I know that what the reaction of your skin will be. Use this.

This does work. I see it regularly.

Alison X

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[timaea]

I'm with Netzach...lots of people fantasise, it takes more to be successful at D/s for real and safely. Personally, for me distance is a limited concept which cannot fulfil me if there is nothing more to come, and given my own mindset which I acknowledge is mine, not everyone's, why would anyone want to settle for 'no contact' distance D/s when there is so much opportunity to be one on one?

Catalina

haven't read this thread before....but i need to put in my two cents...

catalina, i agree with almost everything you write...except the latter....i think it's difficult to generalize about this....to me, there is only Master, and Master only....i don't have the choice, nor the desire to be dominated by anyone else....i've never looked for a dominant partner, because that part of me that is submissive didn't take shape before i met Master....that is something between Him and i exclusively....unfortunately, the logistics are not in our favor right now....

is it a limited concept? possibly....does it fullfill either one of us? absolutely not.....but this is a time we have to make it through...no one knows for how long....every day is an aching pain in my body and soul, but i would never....never.....share with anyone else what i share with Him...