Do any men don't like going down on a woman?

[1sickbastard]

I'm trying to address a question in for my Ms. Q & A column in my blog. I have a reader who says her boyfriend doesn't like going down on her. Any guys have these same qualms? Why?

Any sex partner not willing to give and well as get oral should be traded in for one who does.

The guys I know that don't like it are also the guys that rarely have sex, and never have great sex with their partner (though in their minds any sex is great sex, which is an indicator of how little sex they've had).

 

[stickygirl]

To turn this on its head so's to speak, I know one or two girls ( and I do mean cis-women ) who confided they are not keen on it, but their bfs are. Would any women confess to not liking it I wonder? Separate thread perhaps... and Lit is prob the wrong place to ask

 

[Tomahawk26]

Don't be too hard on yourself. She's absolutely right about assumptions, but statistically you probably nailed it. Lots of ladies are out there who *think* they can't cum from whatever sexual act, and that they are the reason, when actually they just need a man who knows what he's doing. She's so lucky that she knows for a fact it's not for lack of trying so they can move on and do what really makes them both happy.

That's absolutely it! I definitely acknowledge the fact that many women have mental hang-ups that block their physical enjoyment of a given act, or that like you said, they haven't tried things in enough different ways and remained open to the possibility of orgasm! But I am not one of those women.

 

[Tomahawk26]

To turn this on its head so's to speak, I know one or two girls ( and I do mean cis-women ) who confided they are not keen on it, but their bfs are. Would any women confess to not liking it I wonder? Separate thread perhaps... and Lit is prob the wrong place to ask

Yeah, I mentioned on page 2 that I'm not a huge fan--I would never choose it over any other activity. I would rather make out or be spanked than be eaten out.

 

[engineer_in_pa]

My first post, so here goes:

I absolutely love eating out. It is so exciting seeing the pleasure that a very simple and fun action can cause. I suppose there's a control thing to: while you eat, you control your partners pleasure. I have had maybe 2 women who did not respond to my administrations with the enthusiasm that I expected. Maybe I'm not that good at it or maybe I wasn't very inspired at that moment. I had a few women who wouldn't let my face leave their pussy if the house was burning down (so I think I got it right a couple of times).

I do like a good 69 but I don't think many women do (perhaps another thread). They tell me they get too distracted (so I think I got it right a couple of more times).

 

[LadyVer]

My first post, so here goes:

I absolutely love eating out. It is so exciting seeing the pleasure that a very simple and fun action can cause. I suppose there's a control thing to: while you eat, you control your partners pleasure. I have had maybe 2 women who did not respond to my administrations with the enthusiasm that I expected. Maybe I'm not that good at it or maybe I wasn't very inspired at that moment. I had a few women who wouldn't let my face leave their pussy if the house was burning down (so I think I got it right a couple of times).

I do like a good 69 but I don't think many women do (perhaps another thread). They tell me they get too distracted (so I think I got it right a couple of more times).

Every woman is different. Sounds like you have the right attitude. BTW, 69s are great. Might be a case of bad luck in your not thinking many women don't like it.

 

[TalkToMeInSB]

Every woman is different. Sounds like you have the right attitude. BTW, 69s are great. Might be a case of bad luck in your not thinking many women don't like it.

69s are awesome! Both of us diving in... bodies squirming.... pressed together so fun!

 

[noble_twostep]

I can't.

I want to pleasure women but....i just can't put my mouth or face in or around someone else's genitals.

I don't think human's are supposed to do that!

Even trying to put myself in her shoes and think how good it would feel does not help.

I also cannot enjoy head for the same reason.

I'm boring.

 

[engineer_in_pa]

LadyVer:
Thanks for the reply. Well at least I'm lucky enough to have been in a few 69's through the years and I hope I'm lucky enough to be in a few more. Fantastic and totally exciting mutual pleasure! I'm aching already...

noble_twotep: sorry about your fears. IMHO, oral sex with the right woman, is awesme!

 

[Afterhours22]

To be honest....

there was only one time that I didn't enjoy going down on a woman.... and the reason was that she smelled so bad that when I got down close.. I literally almost threw up..... talk about an awkward situation to get out of that one.

 

[eric60red]

I can't.

I want to pleasure women but....i just can't put my mouth or face in or around someone else's genitals.

I don't think human's are supposed to do that!

Even trying to put myself in her shoes and think how good it would feel does not help.

I also cannot enjoy head for the same reason.

I'm boring.

Well its each to his or her own, oral sex is not everybodies cup of tea, there are other ways to please each other. But you dont know what your missing

 

[Mr.G]

Multiples

Yeah, I mentioned on page 2 that I'm not a huge fan--I would never choose it over any other activity. I would rather make out or be spanked than be eaten out.

I'm wondering if you are G-Gasmic. The majority of women seem to like being sucked on more than anything and much of that turn on probably cums from the emotional aspect of their lover CONSUMING their most delicate erotic and vulnerable place. It is definitely one of the reasons I love it so much.

In the case of a woman NOT enjoying it that much have you tried combining it with other things that do turn you on or make you cum? From my TRY THIS - Gspot thread in the How to Cafe many posts suggest that THE most powerful O's they have ever experienced are from a combination of stimulation of the GSpot AND a good tongue lashing. If your lover can feeeeel what is happening in your bod and mind then it isn't difficult to time BOTH O's to hit a woman at the same time and the result appears to border on a religious epiphany.

I should also mention that on pg sex errr six of my GSPot thread I suggest a good spanking AND G-stimulation. Fast and furious and alternate between the two. As you know a spanking kind of discombobulates the brain. As the sexual arousal builds there isn't really any "pain" either. It is a series of stimulations that coincide with whatever else is happening. IF you have tried my GSPOT technique and found that it works for you a spanking at the same time will completely fry your brain. A series of massive G-Gasms and then 10 or 15 good faaaast swats and then back to G-Stim for a few more G-Gasms and then back to getting spanked. Alternate between the two and maybe even hold a vibrator between your lips against your clit and try for a TRIFECTA.

I've witnessed the above a few times and have had tons of feedback and posts/IMs describing how their woman has reacted to this and "fried her brain" seems be the most common descriptor.

Hope you have fun with it. The spanking ideas are around pg six.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892

and sorry about the partial oral hijack.

 

[VladHarkonnen]

I love going down and I've never known any other guys that don't like to do it. As long as the woman is clean it's always great IMO.

 

[goofygus42]

I can not speak for other men but I really, really, really love to eat pussy. I have over the years eaten many pussies of all different kinds and loved them all. I can remember maybe 2 that were not great. My favorite position is what ever is most comfortable for the lady. Any way my mouth gets on a pussy is great. I do really like having my face sat on.

 

[nighthorse]

I used to go down on women but I don't enjoy it like I used to. I also don't really get into receiving BJs. In general I think oral sex is not as exciting as intercourse. I'm visual and I like looking at what I'm fukking. Oral is also submissive and I prefer to dominate - but that's me.

 

[MatthewVett]

I usually enjoy it, but if there's a lot of hair, sometimes I feel like I'm going to drown, between various bodily fluids and it. Otherwise, I've always had pleasant experiences.

 

[susurrus]

Any man who doesn't want to give his woman as much pleasure as she's capable of giving him in an insensitive moron. That giving oral is a submissive act is bullshit.

No, I haven't read through the entire thread, I only made it through the first page before I felt compelled to throw my hat into this particular ring.

For mister Too-Macho Dom (read: afraid - I don't remember his name and it isn't really worth remembering), the only way placing your mouth against your woman's genitals is in any way submissive is if she says something to the effect of: "Get your ass down there and lick my cunt, asshole!"

As has been said, cleanliness when giving oral is a must, and that goes for fellatio as well as cunnilingus, as any half smart person will attest. Now, how clean is a matter of negotiation between the parties involved, obviously.

My wife has been reluctant for me to lick her because she's afraid I won't like the smell, the taste or some such thing. I think it's a more personal hang-up, but even after just short of twenty years marriage, I'm still having to work at her to let me put my tongue where it'll do the most good.

I think I can speak for most men, however, when I say that while hormones may be running high at a certain time of month: clean or not - and I know the clit's a relative long way from the source of said discharge - it's a rare bird who will care to go down there then. Sorry, ladies.

Nevertheless, I reiterate: in general, any man who won't go down on his woman is an idiot.

 

[HoldYouDown]

Any man who doesn't want to give his woman as much pleasure as she's capable of giving him in an insensitive moron. That giving oral is a submissive act is bullshit.

No, I haven't read through the entire thread, I only made it through the first page before I felt compelled to throw my hat into this particular ring.

For mister Too-Macho Dom (read: afraid - I don't remember his name and it isn't really worth remembering), the only way placing your mouth against your woman's genitals is in any way submissive is if she says something to the effect of: "Get your ass down there and lick my cunt, asshole!"

As has been said, cleanliness when giving oral is a must, and that goes for fellatio as well as cunnilingus, as any half smart person will attest. Now, how clean is a matter of negotiation between the parties involved, obviously.

My wife has been reluctant for me to lick her because she's afraid I won't like the smell, the taste or some such thing. I think it's a more personal hang-up, but even after just short of twenty years marriage, I'm still having to work at her to let me put my tongue where it'll do the most good.

I think I can speak for most men, however, when I say that while hormones may be running high at a certain time of month: clean or not - and I know the clit's a relative long way from the source of said discharge - it's a rare bird who will care to go down there then. Sorry, ladies.

Nevertheless, I reiterate: in general, any man who won't go down on his woman is an idiot.

Sounds like you enjoy it. Good for you. To each his own. People have different preferences and that doesn't make them idiots or morons. My personal preference is to bang a woman good and hard and give oral once in a while as an extra. But that's just me. I do agree that it is submissive (think about it) but a little submission once in a while can be fun and that doesn't mean it's wrong. Everybody's different.

 

[Bbguy84]

Who doesn't love going down on a nice well kept pussy?

 

[SwtSassyNrse26]

SoFlabbwlover best response ever ! Yes I will go out with you but only for the oral

 

[ChuckyS]

I love it. I really get off on getting a woman off with my mouth.

 

[ForcedPassion]

.....

I simply love giving oral sex to a woman. Tasting and inhaling her musky aroma and having her cum on my mouth.

 

[Buckaneer2010]

My two cents worth

I enjoy giving my partner oral satisfaction for two simple reasons:

1) I want her to climax FIRST because then I feel like I can

2) relax and enjoy my orgasm.

Is that being selfish?

 

[susurrus]

Women service me, I do not service them. Oral is submissive.

Okay, I've been thinking about this, and this post in particular. I responded to it - sort of - a while back.

As far as these statements are concerned...

Okay, so oral may be a submissive act (I don't really see it, but I suppose this guy considers penetration a purely dominant act)

How dominant is it to stick your cock into a hole lined with sharp, cutting blades, and the strongest muscles in the human body?

Just asking...

 

[Shaveitbald69]

Many I hear say the same thing "Oh you dear man, your going to eat me out!" I have heard this many times, from the young to the more seasoned enjoyable woman they seem to say it over and over. If I can not get to enjoy a nice wet pussy with my tongue, I would go hang my head in shame.

What the guys all think just stick their dick into a pussy and she will get off (I don't think so). I don't really care if the woman is skinny, or nice and thick they all need that enjoyment of oral, from arousing her from her neck to her toes, and all those wonderful places in between.

If she is one that enjoys sucking on your cock, then get down and be a man, and lick that wondrous wet wonderland, and make her cum, cum, cum!!!