Do you believe in soulmates?

[trysail]

Occupational hazard, I guess.

Get bent, you gormless git.

That was the perfect response, Bluebell!
It went on my iggy list the minute I saw its post- life's just too short to deal with a nematode masquerading as a human.
Monique, don't let the cretins get you down.

 

[monique1971]

That was is the perfect response, Bluebell!
It went on my iggy list the minute I saw its post- life's just too short to deal with a nematode masquerading as a human.
Monique, don't let the cretins get you down.

You both are so nice.

Don't worry, I wasn't hurt or offended. I thought the post was funny, as evidenced by my response.

 

[bluebell]

It's a Kind Party. Except when we roll like THAT, bitches.

Don't worry, I wasn't hurt or offended. I thought the post was funny, as evidenced by my response.

Oh I know (and it was funny).
Still, It (as trysail so aptly named the skeezing little troll) attacks Mo, I attack It.
Someone's gotta keep feeding the beast. I mean, we have to entertain Ekserb somehow.

 

[yogiforlife]

re

People who believe in soulmates are the same people who say everything happens for a reason, they say this so they can sleep at night. Lets face it, some people who their entire life, never getting married or having a long term relationship, where's their soulmate? Love, much like life will happen to you, but the ones who are the happiest are the ones who make it happen.

 

[ljiowa]

I used to believe in soulmates, but I'm not sure I do anymore.

 

[aymanmosstfa]

yes i do but i also believe that i wont stop for that maybe i never ever fond it

 

[devilbrat]

Richard Bach describes soul mates as "A soulmate is someone who has the locks to fit our keys, and the keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we; we can be loved for who we are and for who we're pretending to be. Each of us unveils the best part of one another. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person were safe in our paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we've found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life. "

...and that is at least for me the most beautiful description of soulmate and i whole heartedly believe in it....

 

[coastal-boy]

Like I said before, "Argue for your limitations and so they shall be yours."

I have no problem being in the minority here. After all, it is my life and I wouldn't trade it for anything.

 

[coastal-boy]

My favorite author of all time...maybe cause I was finally ready to read the words he wrote at the time I read them.

Richard Bach describes soul mates as "A soulmate is someone who has the locks to fit our keys, and the keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we; we can be loved for who we are and for who we're pretending to be. Each of us unveils the best part of one another. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person were safe in our paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we've found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life. "

...and that is at least for me the most beautiful description of soulmate and i whole heartedly believe in it....

 

[trysail]

Of Princes and Princesses,.........and you thought they lived happily ever after!

Is there a special someone for each of us out there, someone who will know, accept, and love us body and soul?
Or is this a bullshit myth that everyone should stop believing once they're past the age of 16?
Discuss.
[Full disclosure: I think the concept of a "soulmate" is idiotic.]

Awww, Monique. Intentionally or not, for many of us you've struck a raw nerve. Whether we'll admit it publicly or not, all of us are still wide-eyed kids trapped in adult bodies who really and truly want to believe in Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy, truth, honor, and integrity. It has been observed- and correctly, I think- that cynics are essentially frustrated idealists.

Regretably, the second derivative of the pace of life in this world (i.e., the rate of change of the rate of change) has done nothing but make it more and more difficult to maintain contact with people with whom one shares common backgrounds, cultures, experiences, and interests. It took me forty-six years to find my soulmate- yet, in only three years' time, the world imposed intolerable change that ultimately, inevitably, and directly led to the sundering of our union and her death.

So, Monique, soulmates do exist; they are out there- but they are rare as hen's teeth and we live in a culture that is not over-friendly to the concept.

I do my best to avoid self-delusion (not always successfully). I am all-too acutely aware that if I publicly posted an honest personal advertisement, it would form the subject of amusement, horror, derision, disgust, dismay, envy, a "target of opportunity," or some permutation of all of the above for 99.999999% of Literotica. We're all "different," but the truth is that I was born, raised, and remain four standard deviations from the mean.

You're not exactly average either, Monique! (That, by the way, is a good thing {sorry, Martha, I stole your line}).

 

[monique1971]

It took me forty-six years to find my soulmate- yet, in only three years' time, the world imposed intolerable change that ultimately, inevitably, and directly led to the sundering of our union and her death.

I'm truly sorry that this happened to you, trysail.

Like I said before, "Argue for your limitations and so they shall be yours."

I don't see lack of belief in soulmates as limiting. In fact, I think it opens me up to new possibilities, to the potential that resides in all sorts of experiences. Because I'm not searching for that single person who completes me, I can enjoy people for who they are instead of measuring them against some ideal.

 

[sparc101]

Monique, I think you are my soulmate! Your soft and beautiful and quick on the "word".

Anyway, as far a soul mates go. I don't belive in the one unique soul mate. In my life time, I have met others who I have thought I would be very compatible to (perhaps soulmates)... more so than my current relationship. But, thats as far as I take it. I think if you believe in a soulmate you might find yourself looking endlessly all your life for a mate. I feel you play the hand you are deallt. Relationships are a tender matter that require compromise on both sides. Without compromise the relationship is doomed. I think those who think they have a soulmate perhaps are better at the compromise side.

 

[homina]

no

I think there are perfect matches, and people that are meant to be together (I've seen too many examples to believe otherwise). I think that I probably met or dated a handful of women I would have been very happy with had we got married, etc.

However, to me, a soul mate has always meant more that that. It is two souls, who have forever been linked, since time began. Souls are forever. Maybe they are reincarnations (for lack of a better word) of people from past lives, I don't know, but I do know that in my world, soul mates would have to end up together, because it has always been meant to be.

And no, I'm not normally a guy who believes in reincarnation, etc. It's just to me, that's what it means

 

[coastal-boy]

I don't see lack of belief in soulmates as limiting. In fact, I think it opens me up to new possibilities, to the potential that resides in all sorts of experiences. Because I'm not searching for that single person who completes me, I can enjoy people for who they are instead of measuring them against some ideal.

Mo, you answered your own question...for you, it is not something you want. I think you were taking too literal of a take on the quote. I simply meant it to mean "That if you don't believe in the possibilty of soulmates, you probably will never find one"...it isn't what you are looking for. Nothing wrong with that.

What I don't understand is this concept that a "soulmate" has something to do with meeting an ideal. I am flawed. My mate is flawed. Sometimes life sucks. But yet, because we are together, none of it seems to matter the way it did before we met. Maybe this is why those who doubt have their convictions? They have different expectations. Instead of looking for the perfect "match" I looked for someone who complimented me in a manner that DevilBrat brought up.

The other concept I don't understand is how you can think experiences somehow become limiting. For me, the exact opposite has happened. I have opened doors that I never knew existed. As I think about this, I think it may have to do with the type of trust I have with her. Life has endless experiences. How can having a "soulmate" limit these experiences?

 

[Disrupted]

The presence of an ideal depends on how "soulmate" is interpreted. For example--it could refer to a "perfect" match, or it could be someone who "completes" another (or makes that person feel whole).

I think experiences with the soulmate aspect can be limiting if a person relies on them (as a standard) when evaluating other potential mates (assuming the original is no longer present). Again, I believe it is a matter of perspective.

 

[monique1971]

I simply meant it to mean "That if you don't believe in the possibilty of soulmates, you probably will never find one"...it isn't what you are looking for.

Ah. Perhaps I did misinterpret your statement then. Logically, I agree: One can't find what one isn't seeking.

As for the rest <shrug> to each his own. I don't feel limited by the lack of a soulmate, just as you don't feel limited by the fact that you believe you have found yours.

What I have experienced, from time to time, is the sadness that can originate from believing that I wasn't complete without that perfect relationship. For me, it was intensely liberating to see this for what it was in my life: a myth that held me back. That's why I think that debunking the "soulmate" concept can be, at least for some of us, a smart move.

 

[Sweetlilnaughty]

soulmates

I believe in soulmates, but I think that they are hard to find. Also, I think that everyone has more than one soulmate based on their personality.

On side note: I haven't found mine yet, but hope to one day.

 

[p_akopian]

[Full disclosure: I think the concept of a "soulmate" is idiotic.]

Thank you.

 

[Dogwalker]

What we need to find is one person who is sure they have had two soul mates. That would definitely disprove the idea.

 

[MasterMischief]

No

I do not believe in soulmates. Label me as you will, cynic, arrogant, unhappy.

I do believe that people have different levels of compatibility with one another. Finding someone who is very compatible with you will feel like a soulmate.

 

[the_new_guy_234]

There probably is a "soulmate" out there for everyone but the chance of actually meeting them is slim. Theres enough people in the world to assume that there is another who is perfect for you but at the end of the day most of us wont find that person and will have to settle for the next best thing.

Ultimately you could spend your whole life looking and never find who you are looking for, it seems that it would be better to find someone who will do rather than wasting your whole life looking for something you will never find.

But then thats just my opinion.

 

[thebarber69]

Soulmates, hmmmm

Well, where do I start. There is maybe one, or two out there, that proably will float your boat. Going for that second best kind, just don't do it. Been there, and done that many times now.

Having a meaning relationship, is a tough thing to do. Got to keep the other happy, and pleased as well as yourself. If your not happy with one thing, eather you or the other is going to stray, still might love that person for what they are, but you just miss that special thing, and just need it. Sex and money are two of the big things, you haven't got one or the other, you or your SO will go a wandering.

With the internet, now there is a meeting place, but again you got to turn over many rocks, web sights, single meeting areas, then you don't know if your dealing with a person of the other sex, or a crook, or just a nasty person that you should not even know.

The relationship it's a tough thing to do, you got to have to like her smell (sent of a woman is important, not perfume, but her over all smell not the sexual kind), her nature, should be intuned to your nature, layed back, or just off the wall, sight wise, you have to enjoy her look, as she has to enjoy yours, sex, now there is a big thing, you have to be intuned to her, as she is intuned to you. She has to be sexy, and have that general erotic nature to her, as well as the man got to feed her needs as well. Just jumping on a female body and humping her brains out for 10 min, that just isn't going to do, you have to carress, fondel, touch, she should be erotic in thought, knowing when to dress as the wench, or as the maid, guys have to play the part as well, as letting her see something that enlightens her, feel her (what she intuned for), and not just do it in the bed, heck couch, floor, table, outdoors, in the car, having erotic bonds is one of the biggest things going for the male, female species. We have to take note of all the sensual things in life, and go with that. Love only bonds to the sensual natures of both parties. Were only here for a flash in time, so we should enjoy the feelings of someone, but not just second best. If the guy was into oral, and the woman wasn't, that's not second best, that's just pittiful, there will be straying there, and the role goes both ways.

I could go on, but at this time give the weary eyes of everyone a rest and go back to lerkin the halls. This is IMHO, proably get some stones tossed in my directions for this but what the heck, I got a thick head.

 

[fnnyworld]

Soulmate?

I guess I do believe there are. Meaning unconditional acceptance, strong desire/attraction, friendship......

Not to say "lifelong" relationships in the household sense, but people you will know you will always love and accept and they reciprocate those feelings for life.

 

[cocolacroix]

 

[Spence99]

I do believe in them. I also believe there are multiple soul mates for everybody out there. Love and frienship wise I mean.