Do you believe in soulmates?

[MrHotnspicey]

Hey fnnyworld, That was a good answer.

 

[GirlMidnite]

I really don't believe in the concept of soul mates.

The truth is, people die lonely, or sometimes with cats.

 

[snake0067]

No.

I do think that there is the possibility for everyone to be happy no matter how unique and unorthadox though, whether or not the scenario becomes available to people is another matter.

 

[waynerobertson]

I believe

that people can have more than one soul mate. We outgrow people like clothes. We are constantly changing . . .the soul mate I had 20 years ago is no longer. The one I have been corresponding with is someone who COULD be the ONE. Recently, the individual and I have been emailing and she also has what it takes except her youth prevents me from giving it any serious thought.
However, as she grows she will be a tremendous soul mate for some lucky person.

 

[S_D_R_R]

Short answer -- yes!

I never believed in soulmates or fate, but with my wife I do have to wonder.

We met through a dating service and spoke on the phone for hours every night for about 5 weeks before we could finally arrange our schedules to go on a date.

By our second date we were finishing each other's sentences like old maried couples who'd known each other for years. We had our first sex on our 4th date and neither of us had ever had such great sex before! After our 6th date we moved in together. Less than two months after our first date, I proposed and she said yes without hesitation, and 6 weeks after that we were married. It felt right, and we saw no reason NOT to spend the rest of our lives together, which we both very much wanted (and still want) to do.

We still amaze ourslves by saying the same thing in the same words at the same time. It often does seem we are two halves of the same personality that finally met and reunited...is that a soulmate? All I know is I can't imagine a single day of the rest of my life without M at my side, I've felt like that each and every day for 10 years, and when a business trip takes either of us out of town the separation is excruciating for us both, even if it's only for a few days.

As we came to know each other, we talked about previous dates that had been disasters. I mentioned a costume ball for singles I had gone to with a lady realtor (we had agreed to meet up there, so we each had our separate cars) who spent the whole date drinking herself senseless at the bar and wouldn't dance. M said it was funny but she had recently been to a costume ball too, and she had tried to catch the eye of one guy who looked interesting but didn't seem to notice her., and she left frustrated. I too had left early, frustrrated, and let teh realtor to her own devices, she had a car and I hoped would sober up before choosing to drive (I later learned she stayed overnight at a hotel near the party, to sleep it off---with some guy she met at the party after I left).

As we talked, M mentioned the guy whose eye she had tried to catch was wearing a top-hat at this costume ball. Well, I had worn a top hat to MY costume ball!

She told me she had been dressed as a flapper. I rememberd noticing a very cute little flapper but she had too many opeople around her so I ahd been afraid to approach her and ask her to dance, plus some part of me said it would be rude to dance with someone else while ostensibly I was with that realtor who didn't seem to know I was alive!

As we talked we found at least 3 other occasions we had been at the same event at the same time before we ever met or knew who each other was.

When we met, we were both single parents of adopted kids of the oposite sex (mine was a daughter, hers a son--but for ten years now the kids haven't been "mine" or "hers" but "ours"). It's pretty rare to be a single parent to an adopted kid, so that gave us a lot understanding and experience in common.

Solumate? Fate? I don't know, but whatever label you want to put on it, all I know is I love her, she loves me, we both love our 2 kids, we've had 10 wonderful and amazing years together and looking forward to at least 40 or 50 more!

Starting from this point: A soul lives beyond this physical world and from time to time extends a part of itself into the physical word to live as a physical body.

Souls are all together in the non-physical world, planning and choosing how, where, when, etc. to have experiences in the physical world. Very often close souls intend to live a physical life with each other. Agreements are made; plans are put into place, and events are prepared.

Sometimes, souls agree to be members of the same family, which makes coming together relatively easy -- just pick your parents!

When souls agree to find each other, it takes more effort. This is because we deliberately don't take all of our memories with us into our body. But we can take some subconscious "hints" with us to help us recognize and "pay attention" when we reach key events in our life.

The quoted story is a great example of two who planned in the non physical to be with each other. Each wanted to have experiences with a common subject, such as adoption, and each wanted to work together with the other.

Contingencies were made so that they would keep having opportunities to find each other. They missed making the connection at the party, but one of the fall-back plans -- the dating service -- did.

Perhaps they can discover/recall other opportunities they had "prearranged" but missed. Maybe they could even remember some other opportunities which could have worked out, but weren't needed because they did finally catch each other. (E.G. common friend, desire to take a class, bowling league, often shopping at the same store, etc...)


Soul-mates are very real indeed. Some signs include...

the funny feeling that keeps pointing out each other as paths repeatedly cross (like they noticed each other at the party) even when you don't act on it.

the funny feeling upon finding each other which says you already know each other or already have shared experiences.

the uncanny knowledge that this is the person you've been unconsciously looking for and the sense of accomplishment of finishing some great task.

the suddenly expanded view of the future, as if you've found a key part of a puzzle and can see a lot more of how it goes together.

the increase in the feeling of well being the and anticipation or even certainty of good things ahead in life.


Nothing significant happens without intention. Souls agree all the time to have common physical experiences together, e.g. student and teacher, sports team mate, baby sitter, even LTR and marriage. But these are most often "business like" agreements in the non physical, and aren't part of an group of close souls that continually plan physical experiences (lives) around each other.

What we call soul-mates are members of that close group who have a whole "history" of experiences together and who deliberately choose intimate connection with each other in many lives.

And yes, one can (and probably does) have more than one soul mate.

Not every soul mate may choose to have a physical experience at the same place and time. And a sexual relationship isn't a requirement -- each soul has many non physical experiences, so choosing roles that have include a sexual arrangement is just one of the many ways soul mates can have non physical experiences together.

And given our society, multiple soul mates often choose to be family members, as opposed to lovers. Or they choose serial relationships, such as a widower re-marrying. Or they may choose a life time friendship.

I haven't seen (this lifetime) any Robert Heinlein line marriages, but I'm sure many soul mates repeatedly choose experiences which include LTR/marriage with each other. Sex is one of those things which makes a physical experience so great!

 

[patrick6411]

I met the woman of my dreams. I am now married to her with four great kids. I couldn't have asked for a better love of my life.

 

[bluebell]

The first two paragraphs remind me of the movie "A Life Less Ordinary"

Starting from this point: A soul lives beyond this physical world and from time to time extends a part of itself into the physical word to live as a physical body.

Souls are all together in the non-physical world, planning and choosing how, where, when, etc. to have experiences in the physical world. Very often close souls intend to live a physical life with each other. Agreements are made; plans are put into place, and events are prepared.

<snip-wiggle>

Hell's Bells, Batman. That's quite an...everything you've got there.
Are your opinions based primarily upon your life experiences, or is there some minor/major amount of material study to go along with this Dickensian effort?

 

[S_D_R_R]

Hell's Bells, Batman. That's quite an...everything you've got there.
Are your opinions based primarily upon your life experiences, or is there some minor/major amount of material study to go along with this Dickensian effort?

Start with "Life After Life" by Raymond Moody. This is the book that brought public awareness about near death experiences. People who clinically dead for a while tell about seeing the doctors work on their body to revive them, the going through a tunnel of light, etc. before returning to their bodies.

From a pure science point of view, it's most difficult if not impossible to "prove" anything about the non-physical. But the number and consistency of stories over many years gives some idea about how we relate with and function in the non-physical world. Those who have had experiences have unshaken belief in them, YMMV.

The books Journey of Souls and Destiny of Souls by Michael Newton have stories from people who were allowed to remember parts of their non physical live under hypnosis.

Two limitations to remember: people can only experience something within their context -- or they don't have the concepts let alone words to describe the experience. So what we hear is somewhat contextual, e.g. Christians report seeing Christ. Not many reports from say, pagan shaman are available; but their experiences are consistent with paganism beliefs. All reports about the being of light attribute the same personality and motives, just the labels and background can differ.

(There are some reports of what we would say was a visit to hell, as opposed to a visit to heaven. But the match the background of the teller, and the teller's life changes from the experience match the life changes of people who visited heaven.)

The other point to consider is that information is highly filtered. In Journey and Destiny, the reason for the information being revealed was to assist the soul to live their current physical life in a better way. The non physical beings providing support to these souls (spirit guide? guardian angel?) directly controlled the information allowed to be disclosed.

Everything is done for the benefit of the journeying soul, not for our edification; what we learn is ancelatory. In some cases, Newton dealt directly with the guide about the scope of information to be revealed, and successfully got it expanded by arguing for the benefit it would bring in counseling the journeying soul.

 

[Corbie]

I believe you will meet your soulmate about two weeks after they've met theirs.

 

[subgirl2]

I am 36 and may have just met my soul mate. I'm not sure yet.
What is a soul mate?
It could be someone you see as spending the rest of your life with.
It could be your pet who will love you unconditionally.
It could be your best friend that you grew up with and you share all your secrets with.

Is a soul mate permanent?
If you are very lucky, then permanent. but people outgrow each other and your desires and goals change

Can you have more than one?
Probably, because when you give your heart to a man after he has charmed you and promised you things beyond your wildest dreams and he has waited until you are ready to give your heart to him fully, he usually rips it out of your chest, spits on it, smashes it to a pulp and gives it back to you. so you move on to the next one.


A soul mate is someone that makes you happy day to day and someone who is loyal to you and makes you feel safe and secure.
Someone you can trust implicitly and turn to when you are in trouble. Someone that will make you feel as if you can conquer the world by one of his smiles.
Someone that makes you feel invincible by just holding your hand.
Someone who fills you with confidence with one of his looks.
Someone who can make your heart smile and your toes curl up when he walks into the room.
Someone who listens to every word you say because he believes that everything you say is of earthshattering importance
Someone who makes you feel you are his number one priorty.

Hey, maybe I have met my soul mate after all. I hope so....

 

[pickax]

that is so sweet

 

[kissofbliss]

yes i do...

 

[monique1971]

With the exception of my picture thread, this may be the longest-running thread I've ever started. I don't know what to make of that. Oh, the irony.

 

[lucylove2b01]

Is there a special someone for each of us out there, someone who will know, accept, and love us body and soul?

Or is this a bullshit myth that everyone should stop believing once they're past the age of 16?

Discuss.

[Full disclosure: I think the concept of a "soulmate" is idiotic.]

I used to believe in it.....not sure if I do anymore...

 

[stevor45]

I used to believe but as we become older, kids all of that we all change and sometimes not for the better. My ex who I thought was my "soulmate" really changed in the years we were married. Before we married she was always all over me, wanting sex all the time. After we were married it was almost the total opposite decreasing to once maybe twice a week then to once a month to then maybe a few times a year. It was only a year ago I found out about her affairs and the marriage ended. So much for the concept of soul mates. No, I no longer believe. I kind of look at it as the wasted years now.

 

[sally_mustang]

No. There is only what we make of things. Nothing is bound by the stars or whatever else. It's all random and sometimes a soulmate can turn out to be a soulkiller.

 

[rootsfan]

yes i do...

In another thread, you said size definitely matters. What if it turns out this soulmate isn't well-hung?

 

[bluebell]

Making a teensy bit of light. Just a fraction, really.

In another thread, you said size definitely matters. What if it turns out this soulmate isn't well-hung?

Whoa. Wait, wait, wait.
Are you telling me that soulmates have sex?
I thought they just sat and stared into each other's eyes contemplating the forces of the universe that brought them together and using ESP to finish adoring thoughts.

Man. Back to the drawing board.

 

[rootsfan]

Whoa. Wait, wait, wait.
Are you telling me that soulmates have sex?
I thought they just sat and stared into each other's eyes contemplating the forces of the universe that brought them together and using ESP to finish adoring thoughts.

Man. Back to the drawing board.

Did you ever see Soderbergh's Full Frontal? You're reminding me of the scene where Julia Roberts and Blair Underwood stare lovingly into each other's eyes, but instead of kissing, they put their faces against each other side by side, looking off in the distance. Hilarious comment on interracial relationships in the movies.

 

[AtFirstSight]

Of course there is someone somewhere in the world who can understand and accept every part of who you are. Someone who makes you want to fall asleep and wake up in their arms every day for the rest of your life. Hell, I've already met one person who fits that description.

I don't, however, believe that there is only 1 person out there for everyone. There are probably dozens who could do the job of "soulmate."

 

[Ekserb]

Whoa. Wait, wait, wait.
Are you telling me that soulmates have sex?
I thought they just sat and stared into each other's eyes contemplating the forces of the universe that brought them together and using ESP to finish adoring thoughts.

Man. Back to the drawing board.

Of course they have sex, but they don't enjoy it like you and I. Sex for them is a Magical Experience™ that binds their hearts ever closer until they explode with Love and Fulfillment (patent pending).

For me sex is just really great. Then I want a sandwich.

 

[monique1971]

Of course they have sex, but they don't enjoy it like you and I. Sex for them is a Magical Experience™ that binds their hearts ever closer until they explode with Love and Fulfillment (patent pending).

For me sex is just really great. Then I want a sandwich.

I prefer to have waffles after sex.

Guess you're not my soul mate.

 

[Ekserb]

I prefer to have waffles after sex.

Guess you're not my soul mate.

Unless...

How 'bout a waffle sandwich?

 

[monique1971]

Unless...

How 'bout a waffle sandwich?

Oh. My. God.

I do, I do believe in soulmates! Oh glory be.

 

[Rachel65]

The romantic in me likes to think so. I think reality, though, paints a different picture...