Do you hide your sexual needs from your significant other?

[Strixaluco]

I have some fantasies I've probably never share, but those aren't needs, just weird imaginative situations that are not from this world.

But needs? I can't think of any that I wouldn't have shared with my current partner already. That applies to lesser wants as well. My place is to be open and vulnerable to my partner.

 

[PersonalFavors]

Some people don't express even their most basic needs, expecting others to just know.

I’ve said something’s I hide because I like the idea but my partner does not. However, some of the best sex I’ve experienced was when I did things for my partner and she did nice things for me. Just simply getting it right while concerning ourselves with the others pleasure. Not sure how you can ask for that.

 

[Strixaluco]

I’ve said something’s I hide because I like the idea but my partner does not. However, some of the best sex I’ve experienced was when I did things for my partner and she did nice things for me. Just simply getting it right while concerning ourselves with the others pleasure. Not sure how you can ask for that.

I wasn't talking about myself in that quote. Read my latest comment and you'll notice the vast difference.

Also, the quote was about how some think theiropartner should know without anything being said explicitly, which is unrealistic.

 

[PersonalFavors]

I wasn't talking about myself in that quote. Read my latest comment and you'll notice the vast difference.

Also, the quote was about how some think theiropartner should know without anything being said explicitly, which is unrealistic.

I still say the best sex was with ones who did know without me saying anything. Even first time encounters when one or both of us didn’t yet know what we liked or needed were most memorable.

 

[Strixaluco]

I still say the best sex was with ones who did know without me saying anything. Even first time encounters when one or both of us didn’t yet know what we liked or needed were most memorable.

Oh the best is when you're on the same wavelength. My current partner is like that, hitting the fith /right spots before I had told anything.

But even the best still don't know everything without it being said or shown.

 

[Tom_Brown]

I’ve been married for over 30 years and have discussed some kinks and fetishes with my wife (her fucking others, 3somes, etc.). She use to enjoy hearing them (and actually fucked another guy twice) but that was over 15 years ago and the last times that I brought them up, she was totally against them.

I’ve discussed a lot of my kinks with my new girlfriend (including her fucking her son & me fucking her daughter). She’s cool with most of my kinks (including her fucking others) but says even though the thought of her fucking her son (he’s walked in on her while she was masturbating and while she was nude in the tub) she just can’t fuck him. She also says her daughter is off limits for me also.

Besides those two kinks, she’s cool with my other kinks,

 

[Strixaluco]

Being ok discussing something and being willing to even consider trying it are indeed very different things.

 

[Burstplayer]

After years marriage, many things I've hidden about my kinks, desires and needs. Just didn't want to negotiate with an obvious unwilling partner. But over the years, I've started to become more willing to ask, and to my surprise, lately some of them have landed on the menu. I'm still not going to most of the darker stuff or things I'm pretty certain won't happen. She thinks I'm perverted enough..

 

[PersonalFavors]

Oh the best is when you're on the same wavelength. My current partner is like that, hitting the fith /right spots before I had told anything.

But even the best still don't know everything without it being said or shown.

We escalated after I think it was me licking on her saying I liked it when she did this to me...

 

[Sgts19]

We've been together so long she's heard them all, probably could have passed on telling her a cpl but she knows me

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I was legally married 25 years... During that time, he was the first person I came out to as bisexual...
We discussed having FFM hookups but it never happened...

He had sexual fantasy secrets he kept from me that I found out after he passed away.

 

[Vitriolhack]

I’ve disclosed *some* of my sexual intrerests/fantasies with her and she ended up being very into them. Others i will take to my grave. I’ve tried to pry and get her to open up but she insists that she doesnt really have anything crazy.

Well, you could always ask her about the not crazy stuff she has in mind.

Ultimately, it’s mot really about knowing her deep dark secrets, it’s about her knowing you will listen to hear and not judge her for it, and of course participate in her fantasies.

Have a great time

 

[Vitriolhack]

I was legally married 25 years... During that time, he was the first person I came out to as bisexual...
We discussed having FFM hookups but it never happened...

He had sexual fantasy secrets he kept from me that I found out after he passed away.

I am sorry for your loss.

I truly hope you find someone you can share your good, bad and sexy times with.

Hang in there sweetie.

 

[Vitriolhack]

We've been together so long she's heard them all, probably could have passed on telling her a cpl but she knows me

If she heard them and is still with you, then god bless you two!

 

[RachelWalsh]

Maybe I should have. Sharing them kind of ended us tbh.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I am sorry for your loss.

I truly hope you find someone you can share your good, bad and sexy times with.

Hang in there sweetie.

I feel I have.. We compliment each other!

I feel like trust is what is needed to really confess fantasies to someone you like a lot...
Or a lot of confidence

 

[ChloeOfCascadia]

I will admit that I have had more meaningful conversations on the lit chat with virtual strangers that with my wife.

Having tried to talk to her about it, I know how she would react and judge me.

I am not unhappy about the choices I have made, but, I am curious to know if others here are in the same boat I am in?

I similarly have only expressed myself honestly on here.

I am open about my kinks and desires, but, if my prospective love interest didn't share in them all, I won't bother her with them.

It isn't a deal breaker if we do not share every kink or fantasy.

However, I would want the person I end up with to know my desires, just in case she wants to explore any of them.