Do you share your fetishes with your partner?

[BBCfan]

I had initially told my wife I had a cock fetish when we started dating.
She found out that it was a BBC fetish by sneaking through my computer.

Initially she thought I was a closeted gay or bi, I tried to explain how fetishism can work but I think she was still skeptical. She thought I would eventually want to be fucked by one.

I told her that not only does that horrify me, but my fetish has not changed in 30 plus years. It also helped when she realized I had zero porn depicting that. Not that there's anything wrong with it.

She was supportive as long as I didn't do anything behind her back as she desires monogamy.

As fate would have it I soon after found out she dated almost only guys with BBC for a long time.

We now fantasize about her being with a BBC again and I find it a nice outlet for my fetish. Fun to share your kink with a supportive partner.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

What a hellish life to have to hide who you are and what you like from your partner. But many people do. They get together and try to hide themselves from each other. Madness!

Indeed!

 

[Tommelon]

Yes, my wife K and I do have open discussions about various topics, including fantasies. However, I haven't explicitly told her that she should try fulfilling my fantasy of being intimate with another man. Ultimately, I believe it's her body and her choice. That said, the idea of her being intimate with another man does arouse me. I won't deny that I've subtly tried to encourage situations where she spends time with other men, hoping that my fantasy might be fulfilled. Additionally, I have also encouraged other men to try their luck with her.

 

[writerzblok92]

Reading the responses here makes me both sad and envious.
Like many here, I too don't share a single fantasy or fetish with my wife. I've been called "weird" or told "thats stupid" but her on multiple occasions when I' brought up tame things to try or explore. Then, by her decision, without any input from me, she declared that she could live without sex and as such, so should I . Just simply turn off that part of you, I was essentially told - just not in those specific words. It's been 11 years and my desires have only continued to smolder and burn but like others have said here - when you have kids in the mix, what can you do.

To those who have partners and are accepting and even participating in their fetishes and kinks, I couldn't be more happy for you, if not a bit envious. Having someone be so accepting of you in that way is something I just cannot imagine. Hold onto them. Love and cherish them because the alternative is a cold, lonely existence where you feel unwanted and shamed.

 

[cowboyup6977]

My husband and my everything knows all my kinks

 

[Tommelon]

Reading the responses here makes me both sad and envious.
Like many here, I too don't share a single fantasy or fetish with my wife. I've been called "weird" or told "thats stupid" but her on multiple occasions when I' brought up tame things to try or explore. Then, by her decision, without any input from me, she declared that she could live without sex and as such, so should I . Just simply turn off that part of you, I was essentially told - just not in those specific words. It's been 11 years and my desires have only continued to smolder and burn but like others have said here - when you have kids in the mix, what can you do.

To those who have partners and are accepting and even participating in their fetishes and kinks, I couldn't be more happy for you, if not a bit envious. Having someone be so accepting of you in that way is something I just cannot imagine. Hold onto them. Love and cherish them because the alternative is a cold, lonely existence where you feel unwanted and shamed.

What's ur fantasy?

 

[writerzblok92]

I have so many things I'd love to explore. Bondage, nipple play, orgasm control/denial, forced edging...just to name a few.

 

[alwayshorny2020]

I shared my fantasy of having a mfm threesome with my wife about 18 months ago, she liked the idea but said no. Last week I asked again this time she said yes. I am so excited at the prospect.

 

[juststartingout]

I tried but he won't come on here and learn with me

 

[BiWifeMyrtleBeach]

Yes I do, and he with me..no secrets..well, maybe I have one

 

[newhere2learn]

I tried but he won't come on here and learn with me

I can relate. My GF/partner knows absolutely nil of my wishlist, interests or kinks. She's no interest in learning.

She's got more open over the last couple of years, but still very.... Vanilla

 

[FlirtyWordy]

Yes, but it took ~25 years of marriage to get there.

Same here, only 27.

 

[HoldYouDown]

Reading the responses here makes me both sad and envious.
Like many here, I too don't share a single fantasy or fetish with my wife. I've been called "weird" or told "thats stupid" but her on multiple occasions when I' brought up tame things to try or explore. Then, by her decision, without any input from me, she declared that she could live without sex and as such, so should I . Just simply turn off that part of you, I was essentially told - just not in those specific words. It's been 11 years and my desires have only continued to smolder and burn but like others have said here - when you have kids in the mix, what can you do.

To those who have partners and are accepting and even participating in their fetishes and kinks, I couldn't be more happy for you, if not a bit envious. Having someone be so accepting of you in that way is something I just cannot imagine. Hold onto them. Love and cherish them because the alternative is a cold, lonely existence where you feel unwanted and shamed.

If she can live without sex fine, but you should be able to seek it outside the relationship IMO.

 

[writerzblok92]

If she can live without sex fine, but you should be able to seek it outside the relationship IMO.

I would think that but she made it clear that was not the arrangement.

She apparently gets to decide the date of my sex life

 

[Gamina]

I have been with my partner for over 23 years now, (high-school sweethearts) and er have always talked about or turn ons, turn offs and curiosities.

This does not mean we acted on all of them, and some attempts were aboarded prematurely by one or the other.

But I can safely say that our relationship would not have lasted if one of us would hide something important like that

 

[cowboyup6977]

They have to or the relationship is doomed

 

[NapierBone]

I tell her about all my fantasies right up to the point where they become overtly humiliating.

She knows I love licking her pussy and rimming her. She doesn’t know I’d love to be commanded to lick her pussy and rim her.

She sometimes facesits me. She doesn’t know just how much I love that.

We’ve done some swinging. She doesn’t know how much more I get off on her being with another man than me being with another woman.

She knows I’d love to watch her pegging another woman. She doesn’t know I’d also like her to peg me in front of her and her husband.

Etc etc.

 

[van_delay]

I tell her about all my fantasies right up to the point where they become overtly humiliating.

She knows I love licking her pussy and rimming her. She doesn’t know I’d love to be commanded to lick her pussy and rim her.

She sometimes facesits me. She doesn’t know just how much I love that.

We’ve done some swinging. She doesn’t know how much more I get off on her being with another man than me being with another woman.

She knows I’d love to watch her pegging another woman. She doesn’t know I’d also like her to peg me in front of her and her husband.

Etc etc.

I don't share everything either.

 

[HottieOlwen]

As it says on the subject...

I've just written one of the "main" chapters of my story - My Mom is a Slut - featuring the main themes of cuckolding, D/s, and incest. Kinda proud of it, or more so - proud of having written 12 chapters, about 60,000 words to date, of a story that's getting an average 4.4 out of 5 stars with 50k max and 10k min views per chapter.

My partner is fully aware of my cuckold, and Dom/sub fantasies, but not about the incest.

Back in the early days of our relationship I used to write custom sex stories for her to read, generally whilst I would lick her or use a toy on her; a variety of different themes were explored covering a few different fetishes etc. I didn't however venture too far into kinkdom in those stories, because - well - who wants to bare their soul and risk ending it all?

(Though, wouldn't it be great if I did, and she loved it...)

We have of course discussed various sexual fantasies, hence cuckolding and Domination/submission being in the open, but then you get to certain taboos and it's just so hard to take that leap...

I have considered the idea of telling her that I have something I want her to read, and opening the story up for her, but - as in the old days - she must agree to me eating her/etc, to help ensure she is, ah, in the mood... at least give myself a chance...

But if the topic really is too far beyond her interests, no tongue or vibe is going to be strong enough to persuade her.

So, I'm left with this fetish remaining a secret...

Yes, I've always shared everything with my partner, who has been my cuckold for nearly 30 years. In fact, it was him who first shared his fantasy of seeing me being fucked. In the early days, he used to reclaim me afterwards. On further discussion, we agreed that he would be totally denied p in v sex, and that developed, after more discussion, to him being permanently cock locked. Another discussion led to me teaching myself to smoke cigars (which fed his smoking fetish) and that developed a few years later to me taking up pipe smoking. All fetishists are unique, and there's nothing wrong in that, providing it is not illegal, or permanent injury does not occur from the activities participated in. What is essential, in my humble opinion, is that discussion takes place before anything occurs, and that a consensual solution is reached.

 

[storypost603]

Yes, I've always shared everything with my partner, who has been my cuckold for nearly 30 years. In fact, it was him who first shared his fantasy of seeing me being fucked. In the early days, he used to reclaim me afterwards. On further discussion, we agreed that he would be totally denied p in v sex, and that developed, after more discussion, to him being permanently cock locked. Another discussion led to me teaching myself to smoke cigars (which fed his smoking fetish) and that developed a few years later to me taking up pipe smoking. All fetishists are unique, and there's nothing wrong in that, providing it is not illegal, or permanent injury does not occur from the activities participated in. What is essential, in my humble opinion, is that discussion takes place before anything occurs, and that a consensual solution is reached.

it seems that the women from the UK are much more open to things. yet I am not from the UK.....

 

[cowboyup6977]

My husband and I share everything and I do mean everything
My lover and I don’t share

 

[Bigaug]

My wife won't tell the truth about her fantasies and it really bothers me. She gets off on reading sex stories about girl on girl first time lesbian sex especially older woman and younger girl. She says she doesn't enjoy lesbian porn movies but I have her on tape playing some lesbian videos I sent her over and over as she masturbated. When is is intoxicated she will do anything sexually and has made some fantasy comments

 

[cowboyup6977]

She’s probably been taught that it’s wrong to be with another woman
Don’t push her allow her to explore on her own

 

[Erosfan]

I am widowed almost 3 years. I met and am now seeing a widow. At this point in our lives we don't want to waste any time playing games so we talk about sex, fantasies and fetishes.
She says she has always been vanilla and she wants to know all my kinks. So far she is good with what I have told her. I have exhibitionist tendencies and am into CFNM. She seems okay with this. She took me for a naked ride in her golf cart late one night in our neighborhood. I only wore sandals and she was fully dressed. We spent about an hour out with no close calls. It's beginning to warm up and she is ready to do it again. I told her I can't wait. Lots of possibilities here. More to come.

 

[XXVIII]

My wife and I share all of our fetishes and fantasies. We can be a little vocal when we're having sex, so to be able to freely talk dirty about anything and everything that we like makes it much more fun and satisfying.
Then to able to be out and about or with other people, and if we see something that reminds us of our little kinks, we can communicate without saying anything to each other. So much fun, and I'm grateful that she's so open minded about our sexuality.