Does size matter?

[SmileyGirl]

Ladies don't generally care for downers. Simon knows what he's talking about.

I concur. It's about the whole package, the person it'sattached to. 'xcuse the pun

 

[Setanta84]

My perception is that for most women there is not a distinction between sex and the other stuff; in fact, it's the other stuff which ignites the desire for sexual union. More than that, it's the other stuff - and not the size of the guy's dick - which opens the doors for her having really deep pleasure in sex.

Truth is I see it that way as a man too. For me, I can't untangle my performance and pleasure as a lover from my personality tastes and ability to empathize and so on. Whatever I can 'do' pleasuring a woman sexually is about the whole of me much, much more than it is about my boner.

I used to think along these lines. And then life happened.

We all want to believe the romantic view of things, where we are all tortured, unique snowflakes and the right woman will see through the bars of our plight and blah, blah, blah, blah.

Women are transactional creatures. They have been designed by natural selection to be this way and they are this way. Take two guys who are completely physically similar, take a random group of women, put them under controls, and put it out there that one of the guys is a millionaire and the other guy flips burgers. Guess which one will fare better?

Generally, if you have bad health, are in the 80% of men in their prime earning years being completely fucked over by the economy, have a small dick, etc, you're going to be fighting an uphill battle no matter how nice or polite or cultured or giving or loving you are.

Life is unfair, the reason things like famine and war exist is most people are morally reprehensible in either an active or passive sense, and at the end of the day we're basically Great Apes with access to guns and nukes. The upside is everyone eventually dies.

 

[SmileyGirl]

Soooo we're all gold digging huge cock loving females? I don't agree...
There are always shallow people around, male and female. That's fact but not everyone behaves that way.


Like I said it depends on the person, for me that is.

 

[suckonsimon]

I concur. It's about the whole package, the person it'sattached to. 'xcuse the pun

Smiley, that "whole package" pun has me in fits here!

 

[cleverdevil76]

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[xxxpaulzzz]

Soooo we're all gold digging huge cock loving females? I don't agree...
There are always shallow people around, male and female. That's fact but not everyone behaves that way.


Like I said it depends on the person, for me that is.

but having found "the person" would you not prefer him to have a bloody good cock on him?

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

Ladies don't generally care for downers. Simon knows what he's talking about.

I guess years of frustration, lies, rejection, and being led on will do that to a person.

 

[QSco]

Seriously, has anyone ever been asked "how big is your cock" when 'courting' a lady? If the answer to that is "No", then size doesn't matter.

 

[crashD]

Seriously, has anyone ever been asked "how big is your cock" when 'courting' a lady? If the answer to that is "No", then size doesn't matter.

I have a very good female friend, well educated, successful career.

She wouldn't marry a guy who wasn't hung.

She found her man and they are quite happy.

 

[Dirtyslut4U]

I like a nice big cock to ride but ive sucked off a couple of guys with tijy dicks and i got a real kick out of it.

 

[lil_jenni]

It does for me, but not in the way most people would think. I am not very big, so I am not a real fan of longer. Too thick can be bad too, but anything longer than a bit longer than the average length given above can be really painful for me. Hell, sex with an average size guy can be painful for me unless I am really, really ready. The preference Leigh posted above would be not good at all for me in most cases. And that illustrates the problem with the question (and generic responses to it) - women are different from each other, both physically and psychologically, and what turns us on mentally and makes us respond physically during sex will be different

I am lucky that my fiance is a great size for me, but luck is not the only thing. The connection we share really gets me going, and sex is almost never painful with him. So that is kinda Simon's point from a different perspective. My relationship with him helps me relax and enjoy sex in way that with other guys always required I be at least buzzed if not completely wasted.

 

[bibethhotwet]

As far as a mans penis goes, the desire varies from woman to woman I think. As for me personally, my husband is 8" and thick but much over that is TOOOOO much for me. I have had extremely painful experiences with well hung men so I find my pleasure factor to be anywhere from 5" to 8" or thereabouts. That being said, its not so much about the cock but the man it's attached to. I have known men who had hot bodies but were complete assholes or incompetent in bed. For me, a nice considerate man is the primary thing. As much as my husband and I like porn we think to much emphasis is placed on "hung" guys. Porn star, Nina Hartley, once said while she performs with large endowed men her personal preference in real life is men between 5" to 7". Study how to use what you have gentlemen and don't get so damn hung up if your cock head isn't bouncing off your knees. One more thing, really want to please a lady, learn how to use your tongue. More so than his cock that was one thing that made me latch on to my guy after the first night he took me to bed....WOW. And some of the hottest lovemaking is done outside the bedroom. Learn to get inside and romance your ladies mind. The rest will fall in place...

 

[suckonsimon]

^^^
All very nicely put for the guys, darling.

 

[Mariness]

I think we've established that's its different for everyone. I, myself, have found that I prefer thicker to length. While being long has its advantages, its a thicker one that gets my juices going. One of my youngest partners 19, was smaller about six inches but was as thick as a soda can. The feel of him stretching me was one of the best. I've had a couple BBC that it felt more uncomfortable than pleasurable.

 

[ncheelsmilf]

I haven't had my coffee yet so I can't write the novel I want to on this topic but let met say it one word: No. I don't care about the size of a man's cock, just the character of the man it's attached to.

 

[suckonsimon]

I think we've established that's its different for everyone. I, myself, have found that I prefer thicker to length. While being long has its advantages, its a thicker one that gets my juices going. One of my youngest partners 19, was smaller about six inches but was as thick as a soda can. The feel of him stretching me was one of the best. I've had a couple BBC that it felt more uncomfortable than pleasurable.

Mariness you remind me of the difference for my woman since I started wearing steel around my whole junk - balls and cock through it - to make love with her. The enhancement to length is nil, but the enhancement of thickness, vein-ripples, and hardness right up into the helmet magnifies her pleasure very considerably, from foreplay and initial penetration right through our romping and her orgasmic joy.

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

As far as a mans penis goes, the desire varies from woman to woman I think. As for me personally, my husband is 8" and thick but much over that is TOOOOO much for me. I have had extremely painful experiences with well hung men so I find my pleasure factor to be anywhere from 5" to 8" or thereabouts. That being said, its not so much about the cock but the man it's attached to. I have known men who had hot bodies but were complete assholes or incompetent in bed. For me, a nice considerate man is the primary thing. As much as my husband and I like porn we think to much emphasis is placed on "hung" guys. Porn star, Nina Hartley, once said while she performs with large endowed men her personal preference in real life is men between 5" to 7". Study how to use what you have gentlemen and don't get so damn hung up if your cock head isn't bouncing off your knees. One more thing, really want to please a lady, learn how to use your tongue. More so than his cock that was one thing that made me latch on to my guy after the first night he took me to bed....WOW. And some of the hottest lovemaking is done outside the bedroom. Learn to get inside and romance your ladies mind. The rest will fall in place...

while you may be right/onto something unfortunately the damage has already been done to my mind and probably others as well.

I guess as easy as you may think that is for me understand what you've just said, I'm on the other side of it seeing something completely different.

 

[carlsnake]

After a few drinks, I asked my wife about cock size. She said that mine was slightly above average compared to the cocks she has had, but that how I used it was just right for her. She paused for a sip or two, then added, "But I think it would be fun to have a really big cock one more time."
Okay, so does size matter?

 

[numeniusa]

I've thought about this before, but been sort of reluctant to respond. And I think that's because I can't get away from my feeling that yes, size does matter. I don't think it matters as much as some men fear, though, and I'd much rather have a skilled lover than a massively endowed one, if I was forced to choose.

For me, girth is way more important than length for my pleasure, and in fact too much length can be problematic - having my cervix twanged by an unexpectedly lengthy thrust is not good! The feeling of a good girth filling me is a wonderful thing, though.

I reckon women must vary in size too, though, and in tightness I guess at different times in their lives, post-childbirth for example (I believe), and maybe even through the cycle. Maintaining a strong pelvic floor can help a woman enjoy the penetration to the full, and can enable her to control and direct too

 

[bulgy_pants]

I've heard from a few girls that they prefer more girth than length and that some really long ones hurt. I also think the more comfortable you are with the other person the more pleasure you'll receive

 

[ChattyAnnie]

How many "size" threads are there on Lit? It seems like a popular topic. Have I ever has sex with a man just because I heard he was hung? Yes. Was it good? Nothing special. I've certainly had better. Believe me, it's the man and not the weapon.

Now the right man with the right weapon... hmmmmmmm.

 

[Dreamer110]

How many "size" threads are there on Lit? It seems like a popular topic. Have I ever has sex with a man just because I heard he was hung? Yes. Was it good? Nothing special. I've certainly had better. Believe me, it's the man and not the weapon.

Now the right man with the right weapon... hmmmmmmm.

Well what a coincidence!

 

[Leigh81]

When I was at the Love Shop & Aren't We Naughty stores last week I didn't see any dildo/dongs under 6". The 6"er was thick.


L

 

[bunny4med]

my hubby is a little over 8 but a bit girthy. anything larger would be too much to handle. I like all kinds of various sex and I would think the really large penises would prohibit them from all types of sex, i.e. anal.
the right size is the size that makes you happiest. it could be 10 inches or 2 inches. it is how they use it to please you that is most important. why do men think the the grass is always greener as opposed to mastering the equipment they have?

 

[NorCalCumCannon]

I'm a little over 6 (a woman who I was with measured me at 6 1/2) with decent girth, especially my head, and a curve. Have never had any complaints yet (expect for the one who said I was too thick for her ass) and gotten many compliments. Lucky I know how to use it along with my fingers and tongue I guess