Domly types, have you ever bottomed?

[Netzach]

About eight or nine years ago, when I was first discovering this thing called BDSM, I was a sub to this lean, mean, blonde machine. Only for about two weeks. That's where I learnt I was a horrible bottom, mostly in that I found pain to be a challenge, the source of which to be conquered or destroyed.

So, I found it informative, greatly shaping me to my current lifestyle, and it gave me a very definite appreciation for anyone who can submit.

In hindsight a good experience, but not one I'd like to repeat.

This is interesting. I found that when Ms Angry was coaxed out, even unintentionally by well intentioned top people I react with AVOID.

Not fair, not right, but that's why I took myself out of that game. I saw myself being shitty socially to them. I'd rather just let go with the one person I know it works with for whatever bizzare reason, than keep playing the field and be anybody's asshole.

 

[J D Danger]

Yeah I just realized that there's a million threads and talking points out there about folk who are dominant out in the world are submissive in the bedroom, and that's all kosher and OK, etc. But nobody ever brings up the possibility that maybe D's like to D because they get bossed around all day and want to come home and be in charge after they clock out. It's like that situation is embarrassing or shameful or something and ay dios mio if a kinky D isn't a D in every facet of their life.

when I started to explore BDSM I bottomed because I thought that was where I would fit and I thought it would be a good way to learn..but I quickly decided tat I wanted this part of my like to be about me..what I wanted...first.. I wanted to be in charge...

I do not get bossed around at a job...however there are alot of times in my day where for any number of reasons I can not have the final say or last word and over time I found I needed that from BDSM

as I said I started as bottom..found it was not for me...but also found myself attracted to a great deal of switches because of this for a while I let my mood decide if I would top or bottom...if I wanted to let go and not make any choices I would bottom...if I was in what I found to be a darker...take no shit my way or the highway type of mood I would top

I have topped from the bottom as well...but it was awful for both my partner at the time and me

then I met a fellow switch who once she got to know me wanted to submit to me...I accepted..when we would scene people who knew her well would ask her...why can you do this for me and not him?

Once I found out she was getting this questions...I asked her...her answer was simple but at the time shocking to me....

I want to for you..it just feels like I should..it feels right.she said

after that...we tried once her topping me...she could not do it...she could still top others but never me

since that day I have been a Dom and not looked back

 

[lne_iii]

I have a little, not very much.
I do want to explore the other side, but it'd have to be with the right person, and I don't feel right seeking out someone to top over me, because that's generally not what I'm looking for.

 

[xssve]

No, but try anyway, I appreciate the effort, from the tiny acorn...