Doms can you explain what you get out of it?

[MistressMaggie]

It's always what has felt "right." I get a high from pushing the world a little bit closer to My perfection.

So much male focused BDSM is about what the male/Top can and does to the bottom. For Me, it is how the bottom can be of service to Me and augment My lifestyle. The euphoria is about My accessing and embracing My Divine Goddess Power.

 

[DD6969]

I can only speak for myself, and my reactions may be very different to others because I am a switch. I thoroughly agree with your take on submission, but when I am dominant the feeling is very different. This is probably a bad analogy but I'm going to use it anyway it's kind of like having a puppet when you pull the strings the right way and suddenly the puppet comes to life and walks exactly as you wish it to, there is a serious rush of achievement in the control. That is SOO exciting! When a submissive works hard to please me it is arousing on so many levels, when a submissive hands over control to me, the gift of that submission sends shivers up my spine.The moulding of that submission into the perfect tool to drive us both higher sexually, and the feeling of ownership of that tool is deeply satisfying.
I would love to hear others take on this particularly the male members of the community.

For me, I would agree with your description 100%.

 

[Lrn_The_Ropes]

Remember how much fun it is to build a sandcastle? Well, imagine that the sand is so eager to be formed that it shimmers and vibrates and almost leaps into your hands.

And oh yes. The sand has supple breasts, and begs.

That about sums it up for Me and k

 

[Tech_Director]

This is an interesting question and one that I've been asked before.

More interesting is the fact that it was a bit of a topic today with Mine and I believe I can sum it up this way.

Although it is true that she will obey Me in everything that I ask, request or even command her to do, she does it so willingly that it's almost second nature to her now. But here is the main situation in the matter, she does everything that I ask of her because I KNOW that she WANTS to do these things, and the trust is there that allows her instinctively to know that I would not make her do something that she didn't really WANT to do, even if she only realizes that she wanted it AFTER the fact.

 

[DudeA]

What do I get out of it? I want to know more about what subs get out of it...

But for me, I'd suppose...

1. I like getting what I want, and having things my way. And I like having someone that likes pleasing me.

2. I like the control... I'd suppose. I like to figure people out, find out their likes and whatnot, and sort of "guide" and nudge them into a direction where I think they should be heading. I guess this fits in with the "I like having things go my way". But this would be the "nice" dom... using dom for good.

Mind you, generally I'm a VERY empathetic and caring person... often times I'm stubborn, but I try very hard to not offend people in general.

So for fulfilling the not-so-nice side of me...

3. Then there's the "dark" side of dom... The dom that is very abusive. The dom that wants to vent their frustration on their sub. The dom that only wants to use his sub for his sexual needs and pleasure. The dom that gets tremendous rush and thrill out of doing all those things to his sub. The dom that wants to load and dump all their... issues onto his sub.

4. I'm like kind of very... opinionated? Sometimes, I have convictions... like sometimes, somehow, it seems "obvious" to me that things should be in a certain way, like something feels "right" to me. I'm not sure why, but I just have this gut instinct or something, that something should be in a certain way. So I want my sub to be acting in a certain way, being in a certain way, thinking in a certain way, feeling in a way that I feel is right. So that fulfills my need to make and mold someone to be in a certain way in the way that I approve...

 

[Pashenry]

Dom Why?

My sub likes being so more than I being Dom. That being said I enjoy my task.

We are both very strong people in our day to day. Independent yet complementary. She also as a hobby and trains horses for show jumping. I like doing infrastructure up keep of the place during my free time. In our sex lives she likes to take a break from control. Riding horses of one loses control things can go bad. Riding motorcycles is a safer thing to do.

She likes the feeling of being bound. I’m crafty. So I smile when I see bondage equipment. Some of the stuff can be pricey so off I go all wound up. I have made bondage apparatus with ladders, saw horses, doors, eye hooks lagged through ceilings, chains, bailing twine, ropes, transportation straps ratchet type, zip ties, rappelling clips, cheap e bay velcro bondage stuff, ball gags, leather strap gags, spreader bars made from tree limbs, broom stick handles, PVC pipe, hoist and gambrel, different chairs, belts, ties, blacked out safety glasses, horse crops, back scratchers, hammock made from a folding chairs, remote control egg vibrators, rabbit, chrome vibrator, and then I could on attire.....So I like making stuff. She likes the stuff I make.

SUB: Her thing is immobile vumerability. Gets her all wound up. She likes what I’m going to do because I tell her then I say what I do!

Dom: I get to play and then my cock goes deep and hard. Who does not like deep and hard?
I’m a simple vanilla Dom who likes it deep and hard. My reason for the season.

 

[Litforclit]

My Dom said it fulfilled him. He felt honored. Submitting to him made him feel important.