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I think I'll weigh in on the "Neither novice nor expert" wagon.
Always more to learn - and I find myself changing lately.
A lot.
Always more to learn - and I find myself changing lately.
A lot.
Experience and Interest?
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catalina_francisco
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A Desert Rose said:
Some shy posters perhaps.
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A Desert Rose
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catalina_francisco said:Some shy posters perhaps.
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I think polls are always interesting for this very reason. One can see very clearly how many people are really out there reading and absorbing, even though they are not "visible" through posting.
Someone told me once that he posts for the lurkers, not the regular posters and I think there is some wisdom in that.
But this is off topic, so never mind. ;-)
i consider myself a novice. i only lost my virginity this past summer and have never been in any serious relationship. but i've got great observational skills so perhaps that gives me a leg up on all the other novices. right now i'm just casually dating and exploring ... not sure what i want and not in a big rush to find out just enjoying life as i go along.
just enjoying life as i go along.I personally listed myself as the "Not a novice, not an expert".
Though personally I don't really think there is such a think as an expert.
My interest started about 7 years ago, I've had several r/l relationships that included BDSM with friends on a more non-sexual/learning level, and in relationships. One that was r/l and fairly long term on a D/s level.
I think I consider myself being able novice level more because of knowledge than experience. When I first learned about bdsm I read and read, studied and studied, and went to many places in Seattle to watch, be taught, and learn more.
BDSM is a very deep passion that reaches to the core of my soul.
Though personally I don't really think there is such a think as an expert.
My interest started about 7 years ago, I've had several r/l relationships that included BDSM with friends on a more non-sexual/learning level, and in relationships. One that was r/l and fairly long term on a D/s level.
I think I consider myself being able novice level more because of knowledge than experience. When I first learned about bdsm I read and read, studied and studied, and went to many places in Seattle to watch, be taught, and learn more.
BDSM is a very deep passion that reaches to the core of my soul.
Learning...
Learning all I can here on Lit...not a whole lot of "official" experience (I was clearly the dominant one in my past relationships, though didn't know about BDSM exactly). Unfortunately, not many girls my age group are interested, and those that are tend to be hundreds of miles away. So, until the time comes when I find my sweet submissive, I will research, learn, and do as much growing as I can alone.
Learning all I can here on Lit...not a whole lot of "official" experience (I was clearly the dominant one in my past relationships, though didn't know about BDSM exactly). Unfortunately, not many girls my age group are interested, and those that are tend to be hundreds of miles away. So, until the time comes when I find my sweet submissive, I will research, learn, and do as much growing as I can alone.
Princessintrng
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Work in Progress
I have been interested in D/s for about 15 years, but wasn't sure how to persue it. Prior to the internet I really had nothing to go on and even let my X convince me I was sick and twisted. With the purchase of a computer and my ability to search for all kinds of information I realized there was a whole community of people who felt like I did. So about 8 years ago I actually started doing alot of research and reading on the subject and met alot of people on line who were willing to talk to me and answer my questions. I was involved in an on-line relationship for 4 months; however when we were face to face it didn't work out. I am now persuing a relationship with someone I have known for over 5 years and so far it is wonderful. We are both new to the scene, but because we are best friends, our open and honest communication has helped alot.
I have been interested in D/s for about 15 years, but wasn't sure how to persue it. Prior to the internet I really had nothing to go on and even let my X convince me I was sick and twisted. With the purchase of a computer and my ability to search for all kinds of information I realized there was a whole community of people who felt like I did. So about 8 years ago I actually started doing alot of research and reading on the subject and met alot of people on line who were willing to talk to me and answer my questions. I was involved in an on-line relationship for 4 months; however when we were face to face it didn't work out. I am now persuing a relationship with someone I have known for over 5 years and so far it is wonderful. We are both new to the scene, but because we are best friends, our open and honest communication has helped alot.
SweetDommes
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We actually fit into 2 catagories, online but working towards real time, and some experience but still novices. We do currently have a boy (for real this time people ... he's actually mature enough to make the commitment to us ...), but he can't move in yet, and he is a truck driver anyway, so he won't be home more than a few days a week even after he does move in. So that relationship will be mostly online, but with some rt, of course, thrown in to keep things fun. We have had a few temporary boys that we have played with that we feel have given us the experience that we need to truly get started in the lifestyle as more than just an online interest.
As for our past, we kind of fell into switching with each other rather naturally as part of our sex life from the very beginning. We started joking about getting housebitches from the time we moved in together, and after almost 3 years of living together, we decided that we weren't really joking afterall & started looking into it. Most of our first research came from here, as I had been coming here to read the stories for years already. We have gotten a lot of good advice from the people here (and we appreciate all of it MissTaken, EB, PBW, and the others who have helped us out).
As for our past, we kind of fell into switching with each other rather naturally as part of our sex life from the very beginning. We started joking about getting housebitches from the time we moved in together, and after almost 3 years of living together, we decided that we weren't really joking afterall & started looking into it. Most of our first research came from here, as I had been coming here to read the stories for years already. We have gotten a lot of good advice from the people here (and we appreciate all of it MissTaken, EB, PBW, and the others who have helped us out).
ghosst_K&H
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call me house bitch
I am working on being home more often, and plan on going local very soon
I am working on being home more often, and plan on going local very soon
Georgia Girl
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Neither novice nor expert
All I thought I knew has seemed inconsequential since we met because he is vastly different from any other I have known.
In years of experience I have many, he has more.
All I thought I knew has seemed inconsequential since we met because he is vastly different from any other I have known.
In years of experience I have many, he has more.
Now I'm Not So Sure
I posted experienced, but after reading these generous posts I'm not so sure.
My intellectual engagement began as a teenager with those wonderful Gove Press spanking and discipline books: Man with a Maid etc.
As for real life experience, I was lucky. When I was 21 my 19-year-old girl friend found my well-thumbed copy of Story of O.
That certainly changed the nature of our relationship. Our relationship was not as intense as that of O and Sir Stephen, but it was a thrilling start. Vanilla was just not the same.
In my late 20s to mid 30s I had three very intense relationships: One with a girl younger than me (that probably explains my dirty-old-man crush on Bunny); one with a near contemporary (we saw each other only on weekends but then it was total, making it, I guess, a 24/3); and one with a woman five years older than me (and that was very different and interesting).
Not sure how illuminating all this is, but I hope it casts some light.
I posted experienced, but after reading these generous posts I'm not so sure.
My intellectual engagement began as a teenager with those wonderful Gove Press spanking and discipline books: Man with a Maid etc.
As for real life experience, I was lucky. When I was 21 my 19-year-old girl friend found my well-thumbed copy of Story of O.
That certainly changed the nature of our relationship. Our relationship was not as intense as that of O and Sir Stephen, but it was a thrilling start. Vanilla was just not the same.
In my late 20s to mid 30s I had three very intense relationships: One with a girl younger than me (that probably explains my dirty-old-man crush on Bunny); one with a near contemporary (we saw each other only on weekends but then it was total, making it, I guess, a 24/3); and one with a woman five years older than me (and that was very different and interesting).
Not sure how illuminating all this is, but I hope it casts some light.
serijules
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Personally, I would be wary of anyone that considered themselves an expert. BDSM by its very nature is extremely vast, with much of what we have experience in simply being that which works best for us. Where is there room to be an 'expert' at anything when so much of it is based on personal levels and interpretations? Most self proclaimed experts I've met may be rather skilled and have a lot of actual experience and exposure under their belts, but I often find the title comes with a narrow minded reasoning that there is nothing left to learn, only to teach. There is no end to learning, so really, how can one really ever consider themselves an expert? The last "expert" I played with left cane scars that I still have years later and never did admit to any wrongdoing.
I've been involved in the lifestyle for about 5 years now, a few of the early years being strictly online, and graduating into real time play and relationships. I have learned so much in that time, and I learn more every day. Because of the area I live in and my handicap, I doubt I will EVER leave online behind, because online has so much to offer me that strictly real time would have a hard time competing with. However, I know I will never go back to strictly online...I need my pain damnit.
The day I lose the desire to learn more is the day I leave BDSM behind. I hope to be a novice for life
I've been involved in the lifestyle for about 5 years now, a few of the early years being strictly online, and graduating into real time play and relationships. I have learned so much in that time, and I learn more every day. Because of the area I live in and my handicap, I doubt I will EVER leave online behind, because online has so much to offer me that strictly real time would have a hard time competing with. However, I know I will never go back to strictly online...I need my pain damnit.
The day I lose the desire to learn more is the day I leave BDSM behind. I hope to be a novice for life
Tom Bishop
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Most certainly a novice
Never knew I wanted to be submissive
Was taught to like it
never Knew I wanted to be with another man
Was Taught I wanted it
never Knew I wanted to be a servent
was taught to be one
never knew I was a whore
now I am one
In two years I learned all this and want to learn more I haven't heard from my Boss In a Week and hope posting here will make him want to contact me
Bishop
Never knew I wanted to be submissive
Was taught to like it
never Knew I wanted to be with another man
Was Taught I wanted it
never Knew I wanted to be a servent
was taught to be one
never knew I was a whore
now I am one
In two years I learned all this and want to learn more I haven't heard from my Boss In a Week and hope posting here will make him want to contact me
Bishop
MissTaken
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I mean no offense, but the poll is supporting what I was hoping to find.
The depth of this forum does lie in the real time experience of it's posters.
Approximately, 73 percent of posters have real time experience.
This attracts those who are curious and have a serious interest in engaging or learning about BDSM.
I do, however, realize that the poll results are only as reliable as the people voting. Hopefully, that the votes are anonymous will lend itself to more accuracy than otherwise.
The depth of this forum does lie in the real time experience of it's posters.
Approximately, 73 percent of posters have real time experience.
This attracts those who are curious and have a serious interest in engaging or learning about BDSM.
I do, however, realize that the poll results are only as reliable as the people voting. Hopefully, that the votes are anonymous will lend itself to more accuracy than otherwise.
hurtme
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Neither novice nor expert, I do have r/l experience, and a little online experience, which wasn't all that great or fun for me. I chose the way I did because I consider myself much less experienced than those who live the life 24/7...I do it a lot, on a daily basis, but not all day, every day, yes, its more than sex, but no, its not the biggest thing that defines any relationship I have...so for that reason, I think many are wayyyy more experienced than myself, plus, I am a stubborn little bitch, and it takes forever for me to trust a dom enough to let him have control...
Tom Bishop
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more answeres and questions
MissTaken let me know if I am not useing this place right .
I did get a Answer from Boss (with more questions) I do not know who he is on these boards but I know he reads them I can't tell if his post here but he tells me when and where to post when he contacts me .
This will be answers to a lot of threads on this site and to your poll and questions
Boss sent me an email telling me what he wants from me In the E Mail he said he would like to pimp me out to a couple from texas I have seen the women at the job site I am working on she is short fat with big tits Never seen her husband , She wants a man to dress as a women
(When boss and I talk as just 2 guys not boss and slut I have
Told him wearing a bra wigs and makeup dosn't do a thing for
me.)
She wants me to be a slut and tease and Humileate her husband . Jerk him off feed him his cum Blow him then Kiss him and pass him his cum from my mouth to his .
( In talking with boss I have told him Kissing a guy isn't for me)
She wants me to have piss play with her and have him watch then pretend I am her female lover and use toys on her
This Letter showed me he pays attention when we talk That is sorta the Topping from The Bottom even though he wants me to do some things I told him I didn't Think were nessacery I have told him I want to be his Whore well he wants to sell me out they are willing to pay He has taken the time to check my work scedual To Know that I am free at the time they want to do this He has checked there Drug tests for work and they a DD Free
I WILL DO IT for boss and hope I make him Happy
It took me forever to write this
Thanks for giving me a place to respond
BJ Bishop
MissTaken let me know if I am not useing this place right .
I did get a Answer from Boss (with more questions) I do not know who he is on these boards but I know he reads them I can't tell if his post here but he tells me when and where to post when he contacts me .
This will be answers to a lot of threads on this site and to your poll and questions
Boss sent me an email telling me what he wants from me In the E Mail he said he would like to pimp me out to a couple from texas I have seen the women at the job site I am working on she is short fat with big tits Never seen her husband , She wants a man to dress as a women
(When boss and I talk as just 2 guys not boss and slut I have
Told him wearing a bra wigs and makeup dosn't do a thing for
me.)
She wants me to be a slut and tease and Humileate her husband . Jerk him off feed him his cum Blow him then Kiss him and pass him his cum from my mouth to his .
( In talking with boss I have told him Kissing a guy isn't for me)
She wants me to have piss play with her and have him watch then pretend I am her female lover and use toys on her
This Letter showed me he pays attention when we talk That is sorta the Topping from The Bottom even though he wants me to do some things I told him I didn't Think were nessacery I have told him I want to be his Whore well he wants to sell me out they are willing to pay He has taken the time to check my work scedual To Know that I am free at the time they want to do this He has checked there Drug tests for work and they a DD Free
I WILL DO IT for boss and hope I make him Happy
It took me forever to write this
Thanks for giving me a place to respond
BJ Bishop
AttentionWhore
Really Experienced
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I've been dabbling for 5 years, more of a novice I suppose. All my experience is real life. No offense to anyone, but I just don't get the point of on-line BDSM.
I want to hear from the person who just comes here to read about the freaks!
I want to hear from the person who just comes here to read about the freaks!
