Experience and Interest?

[WriterDom]

I mean no offense, but the poll is supporting what I was hoping to find.

The depth of this forum does lie in the real time experience of it's posters.

Approximately, 73 percent of posters have real time experience.

This attracts those who are curious and have a serious interest in engaging or learning about BDSM.

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Interesting also that the age poll has 27 more votes than this one does, even though it is newer. I would imagine that you'd find more with no experience in those 27.

 

[Rantalith]

I went with the 'been there done that' response.

I have been in the BDSM lifestyle for over 20 years. I am a Dom that is currently looking for a new pet (long story).

I have experienced almost everything except Bloodplay, Scat, and golden Showers.

I tried the sub side first to see what it was like. I am very much a Dom and I do not switch.

Just my 2 cents.

 

[MissTaken]

*bump*

Would love to hear from some of our newer posters.

 

[Prof Bill]

Experience, yes--but not total expertise

I always enjoy polls like this one, and the comments about the journeys have been good.

I have been in the scene--starting slowly--for about twelve years now. I first heard about "it" online, before the internet, and was fortunate to meet three submissives who "trained" me by allowing me to understand their needs and what they received from their submission. With their Masters, I also learned some basic techniques of restraint, flogging with various implements, clamping, waxing, and some of the other delicious options before us.

Perhaps the most important thing I learned was that the sub's safety and well-being depended completely on me, and that I'd better never do anything that would compromise that. By "anything" was meant activities in which I had not been trained.

Accordingly, I don't think I'm an expert. Certainly I'm not an expert at much. I'm a very good flogger, I can do restraint (not bondage) in many different ways that seem quite successful, I have command over both myself and the toys I use. But I'm not sure expert should refer to technical skills--at least not totally.

What I'm best at is leading the submissive into quite deep sub space, keeping her there for a satisfying length of time, and then bringing her back safely and enjoyably. I may be an expert at that, but I don't know.

Neither novice nor expert? I really feel as if I've gone on beyond that, but I'm not ready to claim anything, really, other than experience.

Keep posting. This is good.

Bill

 

[Four_Inch_Heels]

Some real time experience......neither novice or expert. I'm always looking for new ideas, and like someone else said....am a sponge seeking, and soaking up knowledge.

Most of my play is done online and I've met some wonderful boys over the last several years. Leading them on their journey has been an incredible experience!

 

[SweetDommes]

We now have considerably more experience than we did when we first posted, although we know that we still have PLENTY to learn. We are still enjoying our journey (most of the time) and hopefully are helping others on theirs as well.

Miss Karen

 

[daisy-blue]

new to it all

 

[InnerDarkness]

I said I have some real time experience, but consider myself a novice. I began with an online relationship last summer, it moved to real time (but still long distance), and then the relationship dissolved. Now I only play online, and do not know if I will ever have a real time Sir again.

 

[slaveskinky]

Six years and counting

I went with experienced.
Prior to meeting my Biker Master, i had no knowledge of the M/s lifestyle or BDSM. Since that time( six years) i have had many learning experiences. By no means am i an expert, don't think that anyone is for we all find our own way individually. Some with just more varied experiences.
Only Master i ever expect to have.
slaveskinky,

If you like check out the first of many stories i've written of my experiences.
A slave's Journey
http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=133074

 

[tahira_GC]

Some real time experience.... Neither novice nor expert that's me. I have had an interest in the life style for a couple of years now and have been a browser on lit for a while. I met my Master on line we progressed to r/l meeting first informally to get to know one another then to over night stays we are not 24/7 right now. I have been with him for about nine months now and we meet once or twice a month he teaches me new things each time we meet its better than I ever imagined.

 

[Ziggy*stardust]

I've been with Master for 7 years and he's the first person I've experienced BDSM with. I've had submissive feelings all my life.
The first 2 years, we had a real time long distance relationship and then we got married.

Master has been active within BDSM for about 18 years. He started in his teens experimenting for a year or so before he discovered that he's a Dominant.

We both have only real time experience and have never felt the urge to try anything online.

I suppose we're experienced but we would never call ourselves experts. We believe that we'll keep learning, growing and developing for the rest of our lives.

*stardust*

 

[shelleb4]

I have met on line, people who are clearly into bdsm in some form or other, but the online thing does nothing for me.

I am with my partner and just beginning this journey together.
Despite the fact that we live together, time available for play is far too limited for my liking. But im very grateful for the time we do have.

I came to literotica for pornographic lit to read, and i have found lots. The bdsm site intrigued me, i have a friend who has been ranting about it for months to me. I dismissed it as weird, but if thats what your into then thats fine.
Im so glad i didnt just leave it there.

Im looking for guidance from more experienced people, ideas, tips, and understanding.

So far it has been very beneficial for me to visit here, very very beneficial.

 

[Esclava]

...Im looking for guidance from more experienced people, ideas, tips, and understanding.

So far it has been very beneficial for me to visit here, very very beneficial.

I must agree, shelleb4. My own personal feelings echo that same sentiment.

I have both r/l and online experience but still consider myself a novice because I don't count the years I spent in a very painful r/l relationship.

I currently serve an online Master and Mistress and they have both been very supportive of me as I search for another r/l Dom. I may find that I am actually a Switch...I do know I am still learning and will continue to learn for the rest of my life - whether I am in a relationship or not.

P.S.: No lurker or shy poster here...


Esclava

 

[Dane69]

some experience

I am a Novice, with some Varried experience. [ I'm a True Switch] Have to admitt I do find BDSM very stimulating, especially if it involves roleplay.
I started out in my early 20s with a open minded GF. my age.
Mostly involved Me tieing her to the bed and teasing her with sex toys, Lite spanking, etc. to multipal orgasims . Then progressed to forced shaving, oral etc.
A few years latter at about 26 I had the fortune to meet a Lady in her late 30s who was very interested and experienced in BDSM as a sub. I learned so much from her just by talking and being honest about our BDSM feelings.
The tables were turned on me when in my late 30s My X MRS."G"
taught me how to be very sub. to most all of her Needs. Again to be honest, I really enjoyed giving up controll to her. She started our ROLEPLAY.
Now I have the fortune to be conected with a Very Inventive Lady who is also a true switch. We have real time and Online sessions.

 

[gothgodess]

I'm curious and exploring.
My hubbie and I are just starting to experiment with my submissive side. I have always been aware of it but never really knew anything about it until i started reading the stories on here. They have been a catalist to my reading of everything i can find about BDSM.
please keep writting them people.

 

[Esclava]

I'm curious and exploring.
My hubbie and I are just starting to experiment with my submissive side. I have always been aware of it but never really knew anything about it until i started reading the stories on here. They have been a catalist to my reading of everything i can find about BDSM.
please keep writting them people.

Welcome, gothgoddess! Nothing wrong with a healthy curiosity. Best of luck as you search for your true submissive side and most of all - may you enjoy the journey as you travel toward your destination.

Esclava

 

[Saint_Sinner]

I will never consider myself an expert, but I don't believe that I'm a novice either. I lean very much toward the subtle undertones in D/s, and am more concerned about what I've learned than what I've accomplished.

 

[alabamagirl]

Curious and searching.

I have a submissive side that I would love to explore. But unsure how DH would react. We have been together for13 years and have experiemented a little but not much. It is an amazing feeling to be controlled.

My basic reason for being here is to meet others like me. To see how they explore there desire.

Hope that makes sense to all of you. I have been reading the post here for a while just recently joined.

 

[RadicalFlower]

Curious and trying to figure out if this is for me


i just courious and trying too find out if i could be for me..i have always found this liftstyle VERY intristing...*wink*

 

[Moxy Irish]

Thank you for the poll...*smile*

Dear Miss Taken,

Well I'm a straight 35 year old female with 14-15 years real time experience and fantasies since the age of 4.

As soon as I turned 21 and they would let me in, I joined the local BDSM crowd and started playing as a sub. (I was really only into spanking/cp as far as the physical Arts of BDSM went, but I was embarrassed about that at the time and did *all* sorts of things...3 hour back floggings, fire, cutting twice (I was annoyed both times) *chuckling* Candle wax, single tails, clamps...yaddayadda...Ah youth. *laugh* All of that just because I was too embarrassed at the time to say I really just liked corporal punishment. I endured it all like Gunga Din, I tell ya. I had to start seeing scenes as physical challenges to overcome and gain strength from that, 'cause none of those other things were connected to my sexuality like cp. And none of them triggered my submissive side. In fact, they brought my Alpha side roaring to the surface.

A few people got to know my personality and let me know I was Alpha enough and imaginative enough to Top. At first I laughed, then I realized they were right. Even as a kid I was an Alpha female, so I started training under the best in the community, practicing and getting good at basic Arts like flogging and spanking, and somehow I found myself a Pro Mistress and bottom for a while there. (No sex in pro scenes, of course)

Spanking is my gig, and by that time I could admit it, so shortly I changed my schtick to a spanking-centric pro Mistress and bottom. Most of my clients were sub males, but the really fun scenes were training the Male Top/fem bottom couples that wanted instruction in the Art of spanking and related kinks.

I did that on and off for a few years, but, again, most of my clients were sub males and although I was good enough physically and with role play to give them their fantasies, I'm really not interested in topping men, and wasn't then. My sexuality is linked in bottoming to men, getting spanked by them, and working to deepen my own submission, so I wasn't getting what I needed to be happy. So I got bored and jaded, quit as a pro, left the BDSM scene, got more aggressive about finding spanking groups, and placed ads for private male Top partners.

Besides the physical act of spanking I also love bondage (with spanking), anal play, some D/s., and role play.

I play frequently. I belong to a local social group called Chastenwood and play platonically with friends at our parties. I'm a friend of the Shadow Lane crowd and go to their huge spanking parties twice a year. (the next one is in Vegas on April 1st. yay!) I bottom to men and Top girls. I try out new private partners periodically and as of yet have not found my Alpha Mate, but continue to be open to that...*smile*

There's my story and I'm stickin' to it.

Take care,
Mox

 

[MissTaken]

Curious and searching.

I have a submissive side that I would love to explore. But unsure how DH would react. We have been together for13 years and have experiemented a little but not much. It is an amazing feeling to be controlled.

My basic reason for being here is to meet others like me. To see how they explore there desire.

Hope that makes sense to all of you. I have been reading the post here for a while just recently joined.

Welcome, and I imagine you will find many others like you.

 

[Irish_Kitty]

"Academic Interest"

Some of you may have seen my name before. I'm a fairly active poster on other boards (you can tell that from the number of my posts). I was, briefly, involved in an online relationship with a guy who considered himself a dom. After a handful of years, I realize he had no concept of what he was actually doing and, for me, it was more about the fantasy of his tales. Fortunatly, he was basicly writing stories, so there were never going to be consequences--especially since I wasn't nieve enough to agree to meet him.

Since then I have learned more about my sexuality, what turns me on, what my fantasies and desires are and from where they stem. I freely admit (to potential sexual partners) that I am aroused by having my limits tested. However, there is nothing about 24/7 play that interests me. First of all, I like my lifestyle as it is. Then there is the aspect of me that enjoys being on top from time to time. I would never want the responsiblity of having a submissive and I know I could never be a true submissive.

So, I'm interested in learning about the lifestyle and maybe ways that I can incorporate it into my life, on occassion. I hope that no one feels that I'm a hypocrite, but I am trying to be true to myself and my desires and needs.

One lurker who has posted.

 

[Esclava]

Re: "Academic Interest"

So, I'm interested in learning about the lifestyle and maybe ways that I can incorporate it into my life, on occassion. I hope that no one feels that I'm a hypocrite, but I am trying to be true to myself and my desires and needs.

One lurker who has posted.

Lurkers are allowed as well...

To be sure, there are such relationships. They take great care to find what you want and to make sure it fits what you want it to be, but they do exist. I have friends who are very happy in the non-24/7 D/s (sometimes Switch) relationships they are in.

Keep exploring, defining and redefining what you desire and you will be well on your way to being part of the type of relationship you need.

Esclava

 

[landcruisergal]

I have had a master for 8 months, albeit in a part time capacity. I am collared. Its funny. I can walk the walk, my physical performance is improving, but its still my verbal responses that get me into trouble.So I can follow orders, but my smart mouth still lets me down...sigh... sometimes when I feel like he is patronising me or speaking to me like I am an idiot, I bite...
I realise he is baiting and testing me most of the time, and he likes to watch the confusion on my face as I search for the correct response.

so very much still a novice.

 

[Richard49]

I have had a master for 8 months, albeit in a part time capacity. I am collared. Its funny. I can walk the walk, my physical performance is improving, but its still my verbal responses that get me into trouble.So I can follow orders, but my smart mouth still lets me down...sigh... sometimes when I feel like he is patronising me or speaking to me like I am an idiot, I bite...
I realise he is baiting and testing me most of the time, and he likes to watch the confusion on my face as I search for the correct response.

so very much still a novice.

Perhaps your Master needs to use a bar of soap in your mouth