Finding out your spouse was a slut...

[Hipshot1554]

Yes, my first wife was

My first wife was a slut, but not in the way most use the term. She used sex to manipulate and hurt people. It did eventually catch up with her. Is that Karma?

 

[SlutAddicted]

My wife was a slut before we were married. I knew about it. Like most guys it threw me off at first but I accepted it. For a while it settled down but now she is a slut again with my support and approval. See she is also a passionate and giving lover - the best sex I have ever had by a wide margin. And she never (or rarely) fails to meet my needs.

I am glad she introduced me to this reality before we were married. Otherwise I might have done something stupid like leave her just because she didn't meet some one sided view of what women are supposed to be. She has told me many times that she will stop if I ask. I realize that our approach is not for everyone and my desire (not just willingness but desire)to see her continue exploring her sexuality goes well beyond her simply having a sexual past. But now that I have accepted all of her it just seems so silly to crave a sexually dynamic woman and expect her to have no sexual experience.

She never lied or mislead me. She simply refused to accept moral judgment for having sex. And that forced me to distinguish between issues of honesty and sexual activity.

I think that there is a certain amount of hypocrisy and sexism in expecting a woman to have limited sexual experience. For most guys, if they didn't have a lot of sexual experience it isn't for lack of trying or willingness. Don't punish your future wife for being able to get laid easier than you.

Honesty is a different issue altogether and lack of it would be a serious issue for me. But as noted in my last post take a hard look at whether you and your expectations made it very difficult to be honest. Was she casually lying to you or was she a good woman whose default is to be honest but just couldn't bring herself to face the consequences in a mysoginist culture.

 

[policywank]

I heard a comedian the other night talking boy how Tiger Woods' cheating wasn't all that bad. Obviously he was being sarcastic but he was pointing out that the number of times he cheated compared to the number of times he had opportunity was a pretty low ratio. And a lot of the guys who would judge him are guys who quite frankly don't have opportunity to cheat. There aren't too many hotties hanging around outside the auto plant waiting for you to finish your shift but if there were dozens every day your resolve might not be so strong.

Maybe that is a bad analogy but the fact is that women do have more opportunity to get laid than men assuming they are somewhat attractive to someone. That, in my opinion, is why society works so hard to keep our sexuality oppressed.

So to a young man contemplating marriage I would say you have three choices.

First is to find a woman with limited sex drive and experience then spend the rest of your marriage complaining about not getting any - see you back here in a couple years.

Second find a woman who does enjoy sex but has been sufficiently scared by societies moral judgment into not exploring that sexuality. Or maybe someone who buys into the whole "it can only be good with the man I love" construct. Then hang on tight when she realizes her sexuality is more complex than the male view of what it should be and society has been bullshitting her to get her to fall into line. Her eye will wander. She may not do anything about it but she will realize that the fairy tale isn't true and challenges will ensue.

Third, find a woman who has explored her sexuality and knows what she is getting into with marriage. Her eye may wander too but it isn't a big surprise that will throw her for a loop, she won't feel as though she has been cheated by an oppressive society and she will already know the grass is not necessarily greener elsewhere. What it takes for her to explore that sexuality depends on the woman. Maybe it is one or two other guys, maybe it is 10 or 20. Either way it won't be for you to say and if you try to define it you are by definition going for option two.

 

[paul466]

My ex was a slut and I benefitted greatly from it...she loved to fuck and was good at it. She kept her pussy shaved clean back in the late 80's when bushes were in fashion. She did it so she could watch my cock spread her open. She loved "accidentally " showing her tits and she never wore panties .

 

[CindyCD478]

My ex was a slut and I benefitted greatly from it...she loved to fuck and was good at it. She kept her pussy shaved clean back in the late 80's when bushes were in fashion. She did it so she could watch my cock spread her open. She loved "accidentally " showing her tits and she never wore panties .

Sounds like my wife, but she never shaves her bush or her pits.

 

[Samsacks]

I would totally support my wife slutting around. I think it'd be hot as hell. What I would jealously guard is our intimacy - the memories, the private jokes, the good and bad times. I'd never want another man to have that with her, but fucking? Hell yeah!

 

[Funnbrandy]

In the past.....

Ive slowly let my boyfriend in on my sorted past, gauging him and seeing his reaction....so far I've probably let him in on 90%.....he likes to hear about it and guaranteed we end up fucking right after I let him in on a past experience......but I've had other boyfriends who were the jealous type and wanted me to be a virgin, lol.....

 

[HeavyBalls]

Ive slowly let my boyfriend in on my sorted past, gauging him and seeing his reaction....so far I've probably let him in on 90%.....he likes to hear about it and guaranteed we end up fucking right after I let him in on a past experience......but I've had other boyfriends who were the jealous type and wanted me to be a virgin, lol.....

Any chance we get a taste test?

 

[Funnbrandy]

Any chance we get a taste test?

A taste test of......?

 

[9925]

Ive slowly let my boyfriend in on my sorted past, gauging him and seeing his reaction....so far I've probably let him in on 90%.....he likes to hear about it and guaranteed we end up fucking right after I let him in on a past experience......but I've had other boyfriends who were the jealous type and wanted me to be a virgin, lol.....

what was your favourite past experience you shared or did not share with boyfriend?

 

[openbi]

I would never marry a woman who wasn't a slut and would not remain that way after marriage.

 

[Justfantasies]

My wife was with about 30 guys before me. I didn't know this until we had been married for a while and she gradually confessed about them

It was a total turn on. I still love hearing about all the cocks that have cum in her.

 

[Ahi_Viking]

Sure

My S.O. was, surely. She admitted it. It turns me on a little. She's really hot so I think a lot of the guys probably were cumming a little early.

She and her hot lady coworker would cruise the local officers club at the base. One night when they came home "empty-handed" (rare for these hotties) they had her first lesbian experience on her friend's living room floor. Hot...