Fingering yourself?

[StrapFantasy]

Thats funny you say that, my wife is very conservative and bought her first sex toy recently. We just used it a couple times and have to get used to using it first before we hit our stride, but i can't wait till that happens.

Details! Tell us about it! How'd she come about (Pun!) deciding to get one, in light of her conservative nature? What did you get? What's it been like using the toy so far? How's she feeling about her purchase?

You can't just leave us hanging like this!

 

[CoastalTom]

I use a prostate massager - only had a couple of really good sensations - guess I'm doing it wrong - I'll keep trying tho !

Maybe a vibrating butt plug is what I need !!

Ok, so I buy two vibs: one plug and another slender unit that is fairly long. I relax, I take my time, I use tons of lube and - zippo, Nothing worked. I didn't feel anything!. All in all I must have tried for an hour and yet different positions, go slow, go hard and nothing at all in the way of new or good sensations. The worst part? Losing my erection due to a bit of frustration.

So - any ideas as to what I am doing wrong?

Tom.

 

[stlpenguin]

Ok, so I buy two vibs: one plug and another slender unit that is fairly long. I relax, I take my time, I use tons of lube and - zippo, Nothing worked. I didn't feel anything!. All in all I must have tried for an hour and yet different positions, go slow, go hard and nothing at all in the way of new or good sensations. The worst part? Losing my erection due to a bit of frustration.

So - any ideas as to what I am doing wrong?

Tom.

Probably nothing. Your ass, like any other part of the body, might just not be as sensitive as others'. Some people can orgasm from anal alone. I can't - it feels nice, but I've always needed other contact to make it work. On the other hand, I know guys that can nearly come from nipple play - mine, on the other hand, only seem to work as pain receptors and not pleasure. All ouch and no ooh! Maybe it's just the other way around with your butt. Maybe you're just one of those guys that can't really get pleasure out of it. Honestly, if you're not enjoying it by now, you might want to stop rather than push the envelope on this one. Anal play can be dangerous, and I'd hate to see you hurt yourself trying to push yourself to greater extremes in the pursuit of ellusive pleasure.

-- Scott / Sara

 

[fasteddie1]

There's a particular spot in there you have to hit. I have a slender, penis shaped dildo that I use in my ass, and when I tickle that spot, it doesn't make me hard, but it does tingle delightfully, and makes my penis dribble.

When I do this, I often think how it would be to take another man's cock, be fucked, and it turns me on.

I think I'll go look at some of your guys pictures...

 

[Crastynyx]

I have tried it. I'm probably doing it wrong but I don't like it. I'm pretty much in CoastalTom's boat.

I don't like anal except in rare instances anyway.

 

[yorksguy]

Yeah, I love to finger my ass from time to time. It's especially a turn-on if I do it over a mirror so I can watch my finger(s) plunge in and out of my ass. I also use this trick with my vibrator as well.

Me too, got to using 3 fingers

 

[CoastalTom]

There's a particular spot in there you have to hit. I have a slender, penis shaped dildo that I use in my ass, and when I tickle that spot, it doesn't make me hard, but it does tingle delightfully, and makes my penis dribble.

When I do this, I often think how it would be to take another man's cock, be fucked, and it turns me on.

I think I'll go look at some of your guys pictures...

Yes, I think that may be the trick. I am not ready to give up yet and have ordered another vib with the egg on the end that should help, plus its curved inward to help reach. That I am about to ask my SO to help me with my fantasy - a huge step for me. I think with her hands guiding and me relaxing and taking it slow, the result should be better.

God, sounds like I am working on an engineering problem...

 

[Flyingsgt]

Always enjoyed

I have always enjoyed anal play. It wasn't until recently that I found my prostate myself. I have had it stimulated by my partner during sex, but never myself.

One night I tried my wife's double dolphin. It was amazing. I hit it and don't think I have ever experienced the orgasm like I had that night.

Now then...to get my wife to help me out....

 

[namron711]

i have an 8inch dildo that i love to have filling my ass!

YES!!!

 

[south_florida_bicur]

fingering yourself

surely even straight guys like a finger in the ass when they are fucking. what's not to like?

people are soooo stupid..


fingering yourself has nothing to do with being gay. The male G-Spot is in their anus.

A man fingering himself is as gay as a women fingering herself. Its not gay its called masturbation.

If it wasn't for the stupid society's myth that anything in conjunction with the man's anus is gay. It pisses me off everytime I hear it. I (just like most men) have been reluctant to insert anything into their ass because society told us it was gay. Once, we had something inserted the feeling was so intense that we couldn't get enough of it.

Most of our first times (and yes I am talkg from experience) was when a gf was giving us a bj and inserted her finger to an intense orgasm. The orgasm was so intense that we now can't get enough of her finger. That is why they sell anal toys for men. The same reason why they sell vibrators for women.

Anal play has nothing to do with being bi or gay. Even the title for this thread has the words "bi married men".

Stop being so stupid.

 

[namron711]

people are soooo stupid..


fingering yourself has nothing to do with being gay. The male G-Spot is in their anus.

A man fingering himself is as gay as a women fingering herself. Its not gay its called masturbation.

If it wasn't for the stupid society's myth that anything in conjunction with the man's anus is gay. It pisses me off everytime I hear it. I (just like most men) have been reluctant to insert anything into their ass because society told us it was gay. Once, we had something inserted the feeling was so intense that we couldn't get enough of it.

Most of our first times (and yes I am talkg from experience) was when a gf was giving us a bj and inserted her finger to an intense orgasm. The orgasm was so intense that we now can't get enough of her finger. That is why they sell anal toys for men. The same reason why they sell vibrators for women.

Anal play has nothing to do with being bi or gay. Even the title for this thread has the words "bi married men".

Stop being so stupid.

Thanks SFB....
Well put.

 

[CoastalTom]

people are soooo stupid..


fingering yourself has nothing to do with being gay. The male G-Spot is in their anus.

A man fingering himself is as gay as a women fingering herself. Its not gay its called masturbation.

If it wasn't for the stupid society's myth that anything in conjunction with the man's anus is gay. It pisses me off everytime I hear it. I (just like most men) have been reluctant to insert anything into their ass because society told us it was gay. Once, we had something inserted the feeling was so intense that we couldn't get enough of it.

Most of our first times (and yes I am talkg from experience) was when a gf was giving us a bj and inserted her finger to an intense orgasm. The orgasm was so intense that we now can't get enough of her finger. That is why they sell anal toys for men. The same reason why they sell vibrators for women.

Anal play has nothing to do with being bi or gay. Even the title for this thread has the words "bi married men".

Stop being so stupid.

I agree with Namron - well said and it should be required reading for all.

 

[love_269_girl]

I never met a man who did not like his prostate stimulated just before orgasm. In HS and college this and swalling cum were my signature moves. I was a very popular girl but never got the reputation of being a slut (and I sucked a lot of cocks ). I atribute this to the fact that not to many guys wanted to brag about getting an index finger burried in their ass and liking it! In the 80's homophobia was rapant. As such, I found the best time to introduce a man to this technique was just after I buried his cock in the back of my throat. It is amazing what a man will agree to at that moment

One downside to massaging his prostate with a finger was that it left me one handed until I could clean-up. I solved that proble about a year ago when I bought my husband an Aneros p-spot stimulator. This is great little toy that every woman should buy their man.

 

[BareFootPagan]

An Aneros works much better than self fingering! DefinitelY !!

 

[Tazia]

Help

I don't believe I've ever had the pleasure! How does one do this and any teachers in West Central Florida??

 

[etoile_filante]

I've fingered myself many times while masturbating, however I much prefer to either use a vibe, a dildo, or best yet someone elses finger. I find it very hard to concentrate on the joys of masturbating and the joys of anal play when I'm doing both to myself at the same time.

 

[robbie_boy1]

I have tried it. I'm probably doing it wrong but I don't like it. I'm pretty much in CoastalTom's boat.

I don't like anal except in rare instances anyway.

only in "rare (rear) instances...no pun intended eh? LOL

 

[toofpick]

where can i find pictures like this?

can any of you post any?

 

[midwestscribe]

Prostate massage can be one of the hottest things in sex for a guy!

However, a few things are important to remember:

1. Always wear surgical gloves and use lube when fingering or being fingered. That's protection for both you and your partner. Gloves protect the anal walls from getting nicked or irritated and they just keep things cleaner and neater. Even monogamous partners should use gloves.

2. The prostate should NOT be maniuplated in the same way as a G-spot, although some label it the male G-spot. A woman's G-spot generally responds to intense pressure (there's an entire thread on that somewhere on the site). A lot of guys' prostates cannot tolerate intense pressure and applying a lot of pressure will have opposite the desired effect.

3. If man is new to receiving prostate massage, it's best to wait until he is fairly excited to introduce a finger. In a less excited state, it can be so distracting as to prevent him from achieving an erection. Massaging the outer opening and relaxing him for penetrating with a finger works well also...especially for an inexperienced guy.

We're not all alike, so there will be differences with #2 and #3. But, gloves and lube should be a mandatory part of any prostate massage for safety sake. A condom can substitute for a glove, but gloves allow more flexibility and protection.

 

[blue234]

i used to do it all the time. not so much anymore. not that it's ever been bad, but i find myself needing something bigger than a finger. i'll usually move to a brush handle or a dildo. one night i was a little drunk and used a beer bottle, although i dont recommend it. like i said, i do it infrequently, but it's fucking great to finger my hole!

 

[voir]

Do any bi-married guys out there enjoy fingering the prostate?



Any pics? My batteries aredead at the moment!

Will post soon.

It's what makes shower masturbation a special thing for me. Once in a great while my wife will give me a handjob in the shower while fingering my ass for me, but for the most part she's not into giving anal play. That leaves it up to me, and I love it too much not to

 

[etoile_filante]

It's what makes shower masturbation a special thing for me. Once in a great while my wife will give me a handjob in the shower while fingering my ass for me, but for the most part she's not into giving anal play. That leaves it up to me, and I love it too much not to

After I got home from the gym this morning I got in the shower and did both. First by lathering up with soap, and stroking my cock to hardness, then using some AquaLube I massaged my anal rim and slipped a finger inside.

As I've said before, it's hard for me to concentrate on the joys of both so my prostate took priority. My finger sliding in and out, circling, touching, massaging. As my finger went deeper, my hips were grinding, my ass pushing back against my hand, my eyes closed, my mind envisioning my hands pressed against the wall while a lover was thrusting his swollen cock in and out of my ready and vulnerable ass.

Eventually I took my fingers from my ass and began stroking my cock to hardness again, and finally had an explosive orgasm.

Mmmmm, the thought of that shower has gotten me hard again!

 

[jboggy]

I do it all the time

I've finguring myself during masturbation for long time now. I also own a vibrating butt-plug, sometimes I jut lay down and let the toy do the thing. believe it or not I eventually cum, but this it very different, instead of shooting, I cum much slower and lasts longer, just adjust a speed...

I would love to try for real. Posted several times, but chickened out last minute.

Any advise would be appreciated.

Some update: i am m2f now. And enjoy every moment of it. I feel and look much better. My figuring got much better too
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[goodsonformom]

Some update: i am m2f now. And enjoy every moment of it. I feel and look much better. My figuring got much better too
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Mmmmmmm......

 

[Lily Peg]

Some update: i am m2f now. And enjoy every moment of it. I feel and look much better. My figuring got much better too
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Yes that's the way to do it! I enjoy my vibrating BP for milking as well as Mister Harry large dildo!