Fisting: Answers and Advice Appreciated

[Wyldfire]

wow. this is so.... inspiring in a way....
my husband bought me a new toy for valentines day... its a vibrator...
we got it home, and were very excited to try it out... I was wet, very wet... but it didnt fit! it hurt so badly, I could put it in... but moving it in and out hurt...
and the bad thing is that its not even that huge. 4-4.5 inches around. I know a guy with a cock bigger than that!
Its made me... almost angry at myself.. (yeah angry) that I couldnt comfortably accomodate something that other women can use just fine.

when I masturbate I only use one finger inside, VERY rarely (when Im extremely horny) will I use two... and hubby usually only uses one also... and you're telling me that regular people (as in not pornstars) can actually do this!? lol... its mindblowing to me... if Im not very wet two fingers can be uncomfortable...
Im in awe....

Sweetie, not all women are built th same..... Some of us jus have a knack a bein able ta take larger objects then others........ I personally have been fisted an handballed at th same time by a guy with decent sized hands. It is one of th most intense things in th world to me. It is also a gift ta th guy. It gives him a chance ta explore your body in ways a guy normally can't.

But back ta wha ya was talkin bout. When ya slid th toy in did it "bottom out"? I mean by tha did ya put it as deep as ya could an there was toy left over? If tha was th case then it's a simple fact tha yer built on th small sode sweetie. It happens jus like some guys're built bigger then others.

Yes it's not just porn queens that can do that.

 

[~Elizabeth~]

Interesting reading...

 

[Wyldfire]

Interesting reading...

An it's even more fun as somethin ta do sis. Thanks fer showin me this thread......

 

[~Elizabeth~]

An it's even more fun as somethin ta do sis. Thanks fer showin me this thread......

Very welcome, I found it pretty informative as I'm still in the beginning stages of this.

 

[Wyldfire]

Very welcome, I found it pretty informative as I'm still in the beginning stages of this.

Yeah ya are an yer doin outstandinly sis....... Ya got th mindset fer it an th patience ta enjoy it as it should be.

 

[~Elizabeth~]

Yeah ya are an yer doin outstandinly sis....... Ya got th mindset fer it an th patience ta enjoy it as it should be.

Thank you, just needed the right encouragement, I guess.

 

[Wyldfire]

Thank you, just needed the right encouragement, I guess.

He he he I try sis...... An so does yer lover......

 

[~Elizabeth~]

You've both helped in getting over some of the bumps in getting started, for that I'm thankful as well.

 

[serijules]

I had my first experience with fisting this past weekend. My Domme's birthday present to me *smiles*

I am one of those women who can handle larger objects...a single finger or even two to me is nothing but a tease...so I was very much looking forward to this process, but not without a little fear too. A fist is decidely larger than most dildos or whatnot. I am also someone that gets extremely wet when turned on. We did not use any lube. From what I understand, this isn't common, so I won't advise it, but it certainly worked well for us. When she pulled her hand out of me, she was completely covered in my arousal...and I hadn't even been allowed to orgasm yet.

I am also one that prefers sex to be painful. Once my body adjusts to entry, I get frustrated...those first few moments when it still hurts are when I am most turned on. So fisting held much promise and didn't disappoint. It was not painful in the least for me, but it had the potential to be, so that thought alone was pleasant *smile*

Her hand fit fairly easily...she started out slowly.....a finger, then two and three....until she was fucking me with a "duck bill" of four fingers until I was good and ready and begging for more. She moved her thumb from my clit (which helped much in helping to get that far, but really turning me on and driving me wild with clit stimulation until that point) and added her thumb and therafor, her fist to the effort. She slowed down a bit at this point....just slowly...slowly fucking me with her fist until I was begging with my body thrusts for more. Eventually she was pulling her fist out of me entirely, stimulating my clit with a quick swipe of her thumb and then fucking her fist back into me.

The feeling itself, while very incredible, was not what made the experience so wonderful for me...but the very act of being taken so completely by her. She likes to keep me waiting and wanting, so I was not allowed to come with her first inside me, but I very much hope to earn that pleasure someday. I'm not entirely sure if she got her fist inside me as far as she could have, I was definately being fisted, but I kind of wonder if maybe had I relaxed a bit more if she wouldn't have been able to get deeper inside me. There is always next time

 

[Wyldfire]

I had my first experience with fisting this past weekend. My Domme's birthday present to me *smiles*

I am one of those women who can handle larger objects...a single finger or even two to me is nothing but a tease...so I was very much looking forward to this process, but not without a little fear too. A fist is decidely larger than most dildos or whatnot. I am also someone that gets extremely wet when turned on. We did not use any lube. From what I understand, this isn't common, so I won't advise it, but it certainly worked well for us. When she pulled her hand out of me, she was completely covered in my arousal...and I hadn't even been allowed to orgasm yet.

I am also one that prefers sex to be painful. Once my body adjusts to entry, I get frustrated...those first few moments when it still hurts are when I am most turned on. So fisting held much promise and didn't disappoint. It was not painful in the least for me, but it had the potential to be, so that thought alone was pleasant *smile*

Her hand fit fairly easily...she started out slowly.....a finger, then two and three....until she was fucking me with a "duck bill" of four fingers until I was good and ready and begging for more. She moved her thumb from my clit (which helped much in helping to get that far, but really turning me on and driving me wild with clit stimulation until that point) and added her thumb and therafor, her fist to the effort. She slowed down a bit at this point....just slowly...slowly fucking me with her fist until I was begging with my body thrusts for more. Eventually she was pulling her fist out of me entirely, stimulating my clit with a quick swipe of her thumb and then fucking her fist back into me.

The feeling itself, while very incredible, was not what made the experience so wonderful for me...but the very act of being taken so completely by her. She likes to keep me waiting and wanting, so I was not allowed to come with her first inside me, but I very much hope to earn that pleasure someday. I'm not entirely sure if she got her fist inside me as far as she could have, I was definately being fisted, but I kind of wonder if maybe had I relaxed a bit more if she wouldn't have been able to get deeper inside me. There is always next time

Oh sweetie, I member those kinda days......... An as ta feelin COMPLETELY taken wait till ya c'n try anal fistin.........

 

[John Doe]

I recommend using only one fist at a time, at least for beginners.

 

[Wyldfire]

I recommend using only one fist at a time, at least for beginners.

Fer beginners so do I....... He he he

 

[YinandYang]

Just found this thread, and have a question that I don't think was covered.

Me and SO have been playing around with this concept, and getting a little better each time. My question is this....I am thinking of having a coil fitted (not sure what they call it in the US), but anyway, would this make fisting dangerous? And has anyone here used this technique with a coil fitted? Definately NOT something I could ask my Doc lol.

 

[h_i_s]

Just found this thread, and have a question that I don't think was covered.
Me and SO have been playing around with this concept, and getting a little better each time. My question is this....I am thinking of having a coil fitted (not sure what they call it in the US), but anyway, would this make fisting dangerous? And has anyone here used this technique with a coil fitted? Definately NOT something I could ask my Doc lol.

By a coil could you mean an IUD (Intra Uterine Device) ? If so .... i had the CopperT IUD inserted in Dec. of 2003. i have been fisted by Master numerous times with no complications. If you have an IUD just as with anything else inserted during play, you must take EXTRA care in safeguarding yourself against risks of infection. Be sure He is understanding in not pushing too hard and/or abruptly against the cervix, and careful NOT to pull the IUDs strings, as well as understands the need to always play with clean hands, and fully understands that once a toy is used in anal play, it is absolutely not to be inserted into the vagina where an IUD is present (and most would agree, they should then not be introduced for insertion into a vagina anyway).

If we are speaking of an IUD, there is a thread with the topic of Fisting that does discuss Fisting vs. IUDs . (i'll try to locate it.)

 

[schmerzgarten]

In a word - crisco!!!!!!

Oh sweetie, I member those kinda days......... An as ta feelin COMPLETELY taken wait till ya c'n try anal fistin.........

I've no hooey, so I can't speak to vaginal fisting, but without question there is nothing that remotely compares to anal fisting when it comes to anal sex play. I remember the first time we did it, my partner was trying to be very safe and slow about the procedure, then it slid in. As she tells it, I flipped onto my back and started fucking her fist like it was my life support system - I really don't recall. My only logistical offering would be, crisco is still the way to go!

cheers, sw

 

[Aeroil]

I've no hooey, so I can't speak to vaginal fisting, but without question there is nothing that remotely compares to anal fisting when it comes to anal sex play. I remember the first time we did it, my partner was trying to be very safe and slow about the procedure, then it slid in. As she tells it, I flipped onto my back and started fucking her fist like it was my life support system - I really don't recall. My only logistical offering would be, crisco is still the way to go!

cheers, sw

lol, maybe one day for me, certainly not without preperation though....
not in the near future, I think.

 

[YinandYang]

By a coil could you mean an IUD (Intra Uterine Device) ? If so .... i had the CopperT IUD inserted in Dec. of 2003. i have been fisted by Master numerous times with no complications. If you have an IUD just as with anything else inserted during play, you must take EXTRA care in safeguarding yourself against risks of infection. Be sure He is understanding in not pushing too hard and/or abruptly against the cervix, and careful NOT to pull the IUDs strings, as well as understands the need to always play with clean hands, and fully understands that once a toy is used in anal play, it is absolutely not to be inserted into the vagina where an IUD is present (and most would agree, they should then not be introduced for insertion into a vagina anyway).

If we are speaking of an IUD, there is a thread with the topic of Fisting that does discuss Fisting vs. IUDs . (i'll try to locate it.)

Thankyou Sinnocent1 yes I think it is called an IUD. My mind is at rest now...thanks loads

 

[Etoile]

My personal advice is that women not use Crisco for lubrication, just due to the possibility that it can cause unpleasant results in the vaginal region. (Found this out the hard way.) But guys presumably wouldn't have that problem!

Also, I do question whether one can actually fuck the fist during vaginal fisting. In my experience the hand usually unfolds and then curls again on reentry. I certainly love a fucking motion, but it's only depth along the wrist with most of the movement being felt at my cervix. Actual removal and reinsertion while in a full fist seems unusual. I would like to hear other anecdotes about this.

 

[YinandYang]

My personal advice is that women not use Crisco for lubrication, just due to the possibility that it can cause unpleasant results in the vaginal region. (Found this out the hard way.) But guys presumably wouldn't have that problem!

Also, I do question whether one can actually fuck the fist during vaginal fisting. In my experience the hand usually unfolds and then curls again on reentry. I certainly love a fucking motion, but it's only depth along the wrist with most of the movement being felt at my cervix. Actual removal and reinsertion while in a full fist seems unusual. I would like to hear other anecdotes about this.

I have never tried it this way...its the twisting and turning that usually has me screaming lol. But for the most part it gets to the point where I dont know what he is doing, which usually comes before climax. He has tried using small jerky movements, or just moving his fingers around.....or using preassure on the G spot. But not the complete in and out thing, as Etoile, I think you're right the fist would involuntary unfold. Although I have had extreme fantasies where this could be done....wonder if it can?

 

[Etoile]

I have never tried it this way...its the twisting and turning that usually has me screaming lol. But for the most part it gets to the point where I dont know what he is doing, which usually comes before climax. He has tried using small jerky movements, or just moving his fingers around.....or using preassure on the G spot. But not the complete in and out thing, as Etoile, I think you're right the fist would involuntary unfold. Although I have had extreme fantasies where this could be done....wonder if it can?

Twisting and turning is good too! What I really love is a fast up-and-down of her wrist (she is virtually always palm down, toward my ass) which I suspect results in g-spot stimulation too. I also like that I can see her hand moving when I look at my lower belly. Not as much now as when I was a skinny little thing, but it's still visible.

 

[serijules]

Why would it matter if the fist unfolded? The result would still be much the same..it's not a FAST fucking mind you, but its still stimulating in all the right places, and the re-entry is awesome. I guess I'm lucky in that the combination of my Domme's small hands and my extreme personal wetness makes fisting a fairly easy task, even entry once I relax. It still hurts at times...but only when she twists her fist around.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Ouch!!

Cruising profiles and when I saw this, all I could think was yikes!!

Catalina

 

[psyche1973]

Cruising profiles and when I saw this, all I could think was yikes!!

Catalina

**OMG**
What? did he lose something up there?

 

[Etoile]

Cruising profiles and when I saw this, all I could think was yikes!!

Catalina

Leave it to gay leathermen to shock us all!

 

[catalina_francisco]

Leave it to gay leathermen to shock us all!

LOL, he says he is straight and into extreme play with female subs.

Catalina