Friends with Benefit's and one night stands.

[A Desert Rose]

...personally I think that neither of you should be entering this type of arrangement without establishing boundaries beforehand, and I think that if either of you is entering into it with the hope that it might lead to something more, then you're asking for trouble...

Very true. And this strikes a chord with me.

I have a FWB and we know there's nothing more between us than what is there... if you follow me. I can't see there ever being anything romantic between us but we are friends and we trust each other I think, completely. We also have some occassional great sex fun.

We are both involved with other people and that won't ever change. And we both knew going in what the ground rules were. We don't pry into each other's lives and sometimes I might go weeks without contact with him but I know anytime I want to, I can seek him out for his ear... or something else. ;-) I think he knows he can too.

 

[A Desert Rose]

I tend to think of it more like "we can fuck any time we both feel like it but don't have any responsibilities toward each other".

Boy, an unplanned pregnancy would really screw things up, wouldn't it?

That's almost exactly true. But friendship does carry with it some kinds of responsiblities, like trust and confidentiality. Those are things he and I both take seriously. He knows some of my secrets... I know a couple of his.

And unplanned pregnancy? In our case, can't ever happen.

 

[phoenix1224]

What do you prefer anyone?

Taking into consideration that about HALF of the women that I've been with were either one-night-stands or fuck buddies, I'd have to say that I prefer an actual romantic relationship.

But, if I was ever unattatched again, I sure as hell wouldn't pass up the opportunity to have another one-night-stand or fuck buddy... What can I say? I'm just a man-whore.

 

[christian1971]

Well Tuesday was LOVELY!

Had sex all afternoon with my FWB Fucked her in her bed with her on top as soon as I got to her place. Came to my place gave me the best Blowjobs ever, I also gave her oral and had one of my fantacies some true Shower sex. Who said friends can't make good sex partners we know each others wants and need and share in each others sexual fantacies.

 

[Munachi]

i had several one night stands, who often weren't very satisfying sexually (though there were exceptions), but served at least part of their purpose anyway...

i also had several FWB, or fuck buddies, or something between... must say it never lasted long, but usually due to other reasons - either one of us finding a SO, or because one of us left the country or something similar...

also have friends living far away who i had sex with before and who i am likely to have sex with again should we visit each other at a time both of us are single...

i usually didn't have problems keeping sex and love apart, though i am not sure what would have happened after a longer time. but it were always guys i knew i wouldn't want a relationship with.

now i have something like a friend with benefits whom i initially thought i was going to have something more with. things went a bit weird as in, he didn't tell me right away what he wanted. so maybe this is a risky combination, but i will see what happens. if i notice i can't deal with it, i suppose i will ahve to end things...

anyway, what some pointed out, that friendship is an emotion too, is important. these guys were people i liked a lot, also besides the sex, they were fun and intelligent - people i can consider friends.

anyway - the reason why? there are times in my life when a relationship seems not the right thing - either because i have other plans (like, knowing i will leave the country for a long time, in just a few months), or because i just don't find anyone i like enough (and it's actually rare that i meet someone i like enough to want to really commit to) - but that doesn't stop me from having whatever sexual needs i have. what can i say, i like sex, and not having any for many months or even years at a time is just really annoying...

 

[christian1971]

Well it's over!

After a few more times of us meeting and having sex and thing's just didn't mix well. Believe me I really enjoyed the sex and the time we spent together, we just didn't see each other being more then that.