Fuck or get fucked?

[slojenniferfizz]

I think the use of "fuck" is changing. Certainly it's not the shocker it was even a few years ago.

Early on in my sex life, language dictated that vaginas got fucked, and dicks did the fucking. It didn't matter who initiated things or who was on top or how aggressive either partner was--pussies got fucked, not dicks.

Now I use it interchangably with "having sex." And because I have sex with other women as often (maybe more often) as with men, that substitution just feels normal. I fuck other women, other women fuck me! Same for people with dicks! I can journal "I fucked Tim last night" even we did it missionary and he completely dominated me.

It's my willingness and desire that defines me as the "fucker" rather than the "fuckee!"

I was raped once. If I'm recounting that story, "He fucked me" would be accurate. I wanted no part of it. He was the miserable fucker.

Make sense?

 

[CuntryBBW]

Like it has been mentioned since I am the one taking dick I usually consider myself to be the one getting fucked and I enjoy it that way.

 

[Escierto]

With my girlfriend, as she says, she is the one doing the fucking with her big cock. I am definitely the one being fucked and I love it.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

I knew a woman in college that liked to climb on top, mount my cock, and then grind her clit against my pubic bone until she had exhausted herself from all the orgasms. I was not fucking her. She was doing it all. My cock was inside her, but it was incidental to the process. The real action was her grinding her clit against my body. She knew what she needed to get off, and she did it.

Once she got all of her joy she would roll onto her back, spread her legs, and I then proceeded to fuck her until I was spent.

We hooked up on a few occasions, and it was the same way every time. I would definitely say we fucked each other, but she fucked me first.

 

[Valendon]

I think the use of "fuck" is changing. Certainly it's not the shocker it was even a few years ago.

Early on in my sex life, language dictated that vaginas got fucked, and dicks did the fucking. It didn't matter who initiated things or who was on top or how aggressive either partner was--pussies got fucked, not dicks.

Now I use it interchangably with "having sex." And because I have sex with other women as often (maybe more often) as with men, that substitution just feels normal. I fuck other women, other women fuck me! Same for people with dicks! I can journal "I fucked Tim last night" even we did it missionary and he completely dominated me.

It's my willingness and desire that defines me as the "fucker" rather than the "fuckee!"

I was raped once. If I'm recounting that story, "He fucked me" would be accurate. I wanted no part of it. He was the miserable fucker.

Make sense?

Hey Jen,

Yep--makes sense to me! Mainly because I use "fuck" the same way you do unless I'm around folks with delicate ears! In my own mind, though, whether I'm on my back with my ankles in my hands taking it or behind my lover pumping a strap-on into them, I'm "fucking!"

It's probably something you'd rather not go into in Forums, but the rape? And its effects on your libido and relationships afterward? I'm afraid we have another shared experience there.

 

[Hitchiker69]

A bit of each, please. Sometimes I want a hard one up my ass, sometimes I want a tight ass to fuck

 

[water_moutina]

Geting fucked
When I'm with a guy, I want him to know he own me. My body, his pleasure. It doesn't matter who the guy is, when his cock is in me, there is this deep urge in me that wants tells me I exist for his pleasure. Sure, I get all bratty and mouthy when not horny, but I'm sub as fuck when horny. And if know the guy already, then I say all the things he wants to hear, whisper at the right moments, do anything to make him cum whereever he wants. My only purpose becomes to be his pleasure. And that gives me pleasure
Take me when he wants, and how he wants

I do initiate sex too. Even then my goal is to make the guy horny enough to bring out his primal urge to ravish me. And when he falls on me, all exhausted and spent, I feel satisfied

 

[Uneklensane]

Same for 40 years

I'm 55 and male. And for 40 years... yes I started having sex at 15... I've been the one fucking. So now I would just like to be the one being fucked. It's that too much to ask for?

 

[Goldenfinger]

I enjoy fucking my wife but the feeling is way more intense when my wife fucks me with her strap on.

 

[Escierto]

I enjoy fucking my wife but the feeling is way more intense when my wife fucks me with her strap on.

Would you be content to always being fucked? How about your wife?

 

[Goldenfinger]

Would you be content to always being fucked? How about your wife?

I probably could be, but she wouldn’t.

 

[AficionadoAngel]

Definitely both. Even though I'm usually on the submissive side and love being bent over or having my legs pushed wide apart in the missionary position and penetrated, I also love having my way with a cock or other object purely as a means to bring myself to orgasm. Interestingly, when it comes to voyeurism, I am more interested in watching another woman being fucked, whereas I think it would be a greater turn-on if someone were to watch me fucking. Does that make sense?

 

[KatieDoes]

It depends.

With women, I prefer a reciprocal give and take.

I love a man that knows what he wants, and takes it from me. Puts me into position, holds me there, and uses my body for his pleasure.

That being said… if that man will also occasionally make me do the fucking, even better. Especially from behind, when he bends me over. Pull my hair, slap my ass, and order me to work it for him? Make me grind back on him like a wanton whore, while he tells me I’d better not fucking stop until he tells me to…fuuuuck.

He’s still in charge, though.

It’s a rare find, and an absolute catch. I’ve got him, no need to apply.

 

[Butercream]

I would say it depends on the position and who is taking the lead. Better to just wrap it all into one and say you were fucking.

 

[derbybi]

I'm 55 and male. And for 40 years... yes I started having sex at 15... I've been the one fucking. So now I would just like to be the one being fucked. It's that too much to ask for?

I'm older but otherwise the same. I doubt I could fuck a man but I know I would like to be submissive to one

 

[screwher]

Generally I’m a traditionalist. The man has the cock so he’s doing the fucking. The woman had the pussy. So she’s getting fucked! But I’m not going to split hairs. The act can also be viewed as fucking.

 

[twister947]

I'm a man; I've been the fuckee on numerous occasions. And I don't mean pegged.

 

[cakes11]

agreed here... love to give up my holes to him

 

[craig7091]

Last time I was so hard, I lay still, let her move, fuck my dick, felt amazing, when she came I was still hard, then I fucked that pussy till I came

 

[BiWifeMyrtleBeach]

When I am with a woman, I am usually the more dominant woman but it is give and take

When I am with my guy or an agreed on male partner(s) I am usually a "throw me on the bed and fuck me like the slut I am" kind of girl.

 

[fasufasu]

When I am with a woman, I am usually the more dominant woman but it is give and take

When I am with my guy or an agreed on male partner(s) I am usually a "throw me on the bed and fuck me like the slut I am" kind of girl.

I want to get fucked

 

[Uneklensane]

I want to get fucked

Don't we ALL!!!

 

[fasufasu]

Don't we ALL!!!

ducked

 

[fasufasu]

ducked

mmmmm

 

[BrightShinyGirl]

Ladies, fuck or get fucked. What’s your preference??

100% getting fucked.

I love the feeling of being overpowered. Feeling his weight on top of me, having my arms held over my head. The motion of his hips as he drives into me. The sense that he’s only barely in control of his desire. Feeling him trying to get his cock all the way up inside me. And then if he loses control and really starts pounding me. Holding my hips in place so he can thrust how he wants… I love that!