Exactly...interesting story. Paul gave you an excuse and it became your fantasy as well. He probably led you on allowing your mind to wonder. Once you tried it there wasn't getting going back. It's all to do with rhe kaws of attraction. In my own story my girl had a straight out affair without my knowledge with a close friend. Thats was pretty painful and still is but like others here its just become a source of future fantasies.
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Agree with that comment. Lots of temptations and men can be persistent. I always had men contacting me. My husband once told me he knew that if he messed up there was another guy waiting to take his place. Truth was they were waiting for his next business trip…lol
Its probably normal..you just dont talk too much to her about your desires in case you plant a seed in her innocence mind, cause she meant to be faithful to you. Otherwise you may regret it. Maybe keep to your fantasy.
Nice slick outfit and I would have been in a real hurry to get you but naked fast.
That's just another story right? Its also interesting when you talk to a woman ( rather another guy ) about your own experience with a past girlfriend's infidelity and the answers vary so much.
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Exactly. I’ve been friends women. It all seems so natural …
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Well, checking out your profile, I see that you've written some stories. Are any of these true stories about when your husband was on one of his business trips?
It's not like I can control my thoughts, and I'm not going to lie, but it's very stimulating to imagine that. I wish I didn't have this fetish. I guess I would have been happier.
I'm not sure about my feelings. I've mentioned that I simply have these urges. I'm uncertain if it's healthy since I keep imagining things like that. Also, I get turned on if another guy is lusting over her and wants to make out with her. Overall, I'm just scared I might fuel something or make a mistake. I'm afraid my uncontrollable actions might change her.
Nah, she isn't like that. Even though she has many guy friends and can easily make friends, she maintains her boundaries. She will hang out and go out with them, but she won't cross her boundaries. I know that she will never succumb.
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My advice is find another girlfriend. Or friends. If she isn't giving you what you need find another girl. I don't mean necessarily just in the sack. Don't play her games. Play your game.
I thought I'm the problem.
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I don't think that non-sexually exclusive relationships are necessarily unhealthy as any kind of universal or objective reality. Whether or not it is suitable for you and your relationship is another matter and is very specific to you and your gf. But thinking about it is pretty common and normal IMO.
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Hmm I'm also scared to come out to her about this. I feel very ashamed
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My online gf had sex with another man just before we met in person for the first time. In fact I was arranging my first visit to her when it happened. She told me all about it in forensic detail.
These stories are the modified version of her adventure:
Silver-Tongued Stranger - Prelude
Silver-Tongued Stranger Pt. 02
Silver-Tongued Stranger Pt. 03
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Hmm I'm also scared to come out to her about this. I feel very ashamed
Of course I can't comment on how she would feel about it. But I don't think there is anything to be ashamed of. Easy for me to say I know. But I think that the reality is that we all have our own unique sexual proclivities and human sexual desires are a lot more varied than society acknowledges.
The fear of being shamed is what keeps us from being more open about our desires. Most people do what you may be doing in terms of putting up a facade to make it appear that you are "normal" in your sexual desires (whatever that means). When you look at yourself you see your own inner freak, but when you look at everyone else you just see their facade. Once you can get behind it you will find that a lot of us (probably even most of us) also have an inner freak. You don't have to go around advertising it, but being able to accept it and not accept any shame that others seek to project onto you is difficult but important.
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This is possibly one of the best replies in the history of Lit.
Probably easier to keep it as a fantasy cause you don't want to plant seeds into her head and the reality is quite different ( actually allowing it to happen) from keeping it as a fantasy plus if you want get turned on about her with other men ask her about her past experiences. That might help your fantasies. I have watched an ex perform before and its pretty hot but there are regrets on different levels.
If there was concern its more to do with other men trying to seduce her. Its good that she can maintain things.
Its seems most men do get aroused thinking about it after the details comes out but that's probably normal just don't necessary tell her. But the issue is it can't of been good for the relationship like trust etc. Cause if you told her it turned you on, she will simply do it again. In a lot of these situations the relationship could break up even if you are aroused by what she did. And she will simply go back to the man who gave her an orgasm.
One way of understanding that is if you had the fling, how would she react? What happens if you told her the details and that the other woman was better sexually. In that situation its very high chance its goodbye to the relationship.
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Then don't. Simple as that. Why fuck up a good thing with a big question mark like that? It's okay to have fantasies. It's nothing to be ashamed of. We all do. Does my wife know all mine or do I, all hers? Fuck no! And we've been together for 33 years. We have talked about many things over the years and on certain things the discussion ends with our opinions on the subject.Hmm I'm also scared to come out to her about this. I feel very ashamed
We both know that some of our desires are of no interest or just flat-out deal breakers. But our relationship means too much to broach such subjects. My life with her is more important than any fantasy I might have. Our sex life is good, and if I weren't fulfilling a need, she'd tell me.
Let your relationship grow and become strong. Over time she may become more trusting and open and may tell you some of hers. Let things unfold organically. Enjoy your fantasies when you are having some alone time. Focus on what's important.
EDIT - My sister is currently at the house, so with two women to canvas, I asked them both this hypothetical question.
My wife said that she would suspect that you were hoping for reciprocity and wanted to see other women, or you'd use her answer to make her the bad guy and break up with her.
My sister said that she would begin to doubt if you were truly the strong, self-confident man that she would want, moving forward in a relationship.
Take that for what it's worth. They are just opinions.
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I think that this is not an unusual desire, so I would say that there is nothing to be ashamed of. Whether or not you raise it with her is a different story. It is something that a lot of people will judge negatively or find unacceptable - that is what it is no matter how any of us feel about it.
However, I think that it is possible to explore kinks and preferences in a fairly neutral way if communication channels are open. For instance, if you are having open conversations about kinks and preferences you can express understanding of how someone might engage in certain activities without necessarily going there yourself. On this particular topic there is a lot of literature out there now which can be discussed I dispassionate way. You can also express the (presumably honest) view that you can see the appeal of non-monogamy but would worry about the implications for the relationship due to the potential complications. That acknowledges the desire while making clear that you prioritize your relationship.
That said, some people wouldn't be prepared to hear even that relatively innocuous message. Only you have an idea of how your gf would respond. I just mean to say that there is a mid-point between absolutely avoidance of the topic and diving in to the deep end of it.
However, I think that it is possible to explore kinks and preferences in a fairly neutral way if communication channels are open. For instance, if you are having open conversations about kinks and preferences you can express understanding of how someone might engage in certain activities without necessarily going there yourself. On this particular topic there is a lot of literature out there now which can be discussed I dispassionate way. You can also express the (presumably honest) view that you can see the appeal of non-monogamy but would worry about the implications for the relationship due to the potential complications. That acknowledges the desire while making clear that you prioritize your relationship.
That said, some people wouldn't be prepared to hear even that relatively innocuous message. Only you have an idea of how your gf would respond. I just mean to say that there is a mid-point between absolutely avoidance of the topic and diving in to the deep end of it.
