Giving Woman Oral Sex

[Bottomlover]

As old as I am, I have a severe lack of training in this subject. Although I was married (widowed now) for over 44 years, my wife never gave me more than five minutes of instruction so that I could do a better job at this pastime. I have received more instruction in reading this 7 pages than ever before. I greatly appreciated the illustration since I don't trust any of the videos that I see on line (porn) to have accurate information. I'll probably never get the chance to practice anything I learn here since I never had the chance to learn how to approach women properly and I am not interested in paying for 'companionship'. Oh well, education is a reward in itself.

Women are not all the same. You can't just concentrate on what you think are the classical bits if that is not working. Some women respond to stimulation of places around and in the vagina that I would have never thought of. You have to treat your technique as an old school engineer would:

Observe
Analyze
Modify
Repeat

Don't be afraid to ask your partner what she or he likes. A woman told me a long time ago that by the time the clothes come off, she has already figured out that you don't care that her ass is fat and she thinks that you are someone to whom she will give up the secrets to her pleasure if you stay easy to talk to. If what you're doing is not working, don't apologize, just ask if there is a place or way that might be better for her. Apology transmits insecurity, which can stifle communication quickly.

Be comfortable to talk to, and accept scents and accidents like farts without reaction. Comfort is the first ingredient in a woman's O.

 

[Hisstory]

I love giving oral to a woman. Have tried all different angles and approaches. Like some of the ladies have said in this thread, all women are different.

As for 69 it can be quite dangerous. In college with a girlfriend, we tried 69 for the first time. In the act, as I was down between her legs, my girlfriend's orgasm was so intense she brought her knee up and "smack" right into my face. 20 minutes later I was in the emergency room with a broken nose. But I have to admit, getting a girl to come that intense was worth it. Have loved giving oral ever since. Just not 69.

 

[sexyblonde2015]

Nobody, but nobody, gives a woman oral like another woman can!
Just saying guys, sorry.

I've said the same thing for years! My best friend gave me the best oral the very fist time she ever did it to anyone! It was instinctive. It's also not like you see in porn.

I told MrSB that she was the best at oral over any man or woman. lol... Then I told him I might buy him a wig as I love the feeling of long hair brushing my pussy and thighs.

I've taught him how to do oral like a woman or as close as he can get. A man's face is just not as soft even if he just shaved.

 

[southfl_bicur]

Women do it better ?

I've always heard that too and I will not compete with them. Every women I've been with liked oral sex differently. Once I find out what they like they I do the best I can every time.

One of my exgirlfriends has had sex with other women a few times told me that I was better then the women she has been with.

My answer is NO i am not better then every women just some... lol

FYI: I too thought she said that I was the best to make me feel better but one night at a party she was introducing me to one of her friends and her friend said "OH so this is the guy that gives you the best oral sex. Can he teach my husband"...

 

[gamegamale]

Nobody, but nobody, gives a woman oral like another woman can!
Just saying guys, sorry.

This is why I like to watch 2 women...I learn so much from a live demonstration.

 

[30bandits]

Nobody, but nobody, gives a woman oral like another woman can!
Just saying guys, sorry.

BULLSHIT !....try me...

 

[tristantrotsky]

With The Appliance Of Science...

Nobody, but nobody, gives a woman oral like another woman can!
Just saying guys, sorry.

I feel that this controversial contention should be subject to a proper scientific trial...
I suggest this. That three naked blindfolded women lie side by side with their legs invitingly parted.
That… say, three men and three women give each of them oral sex in random and anonymous order using all of their best pussy-licking skills, and each is given a score by the women who is subject to these delicious oral attentions.
(I'd be very happy to volunteer as a pussy-licking participant, purely in the interests of scientific investigation)
When the results are calculated I predict that the best pussy-licker will depend on energy, enthusiasm and expertise… not gender.
Once this principal has been established, maybe we could repeat the experiment to determine which is the best gender when it comes to cock-sucking…?
(again… ditto)

 

[julybaby04]

....I have zero to add to this discussion. Interesting read though.

 

[luckyseven]

I took advice from my lesbian friend

My wife didn’t don’t feel comfortable receiving oral sex. My wife thought her scent or taste would be unpleasant for me and thought her genitals were “ugly”. Some women worry that their partners are finding the experience unpleasant. Others dislike being the centre of attention or find themselves unable to relax when receiving.

Fortunately, I have a lesbian friend who I confided in. she told me that amazingly, about 80% of lesbian women orgasm at least half the time they have sex. Only 59% of straight women do. She told me that one of the biggest misconceptions about cunnilingus is that “‘outercourse’ is less satisfying than ‘intercourse’.” Being very honest and open she explained that women are socialised to be hypercritical of their bodies, so having your eyes, nose, and mouth right in the middle of one of the most sensitive parts of the female body is going to evoke at least a little resistance.
My wife seldom reaches orgasm from sexual intercourse alone and was clearly getting sexually frustrated that she couldn’t cum like I did. However, for many women, oral sex is the most physically pleasurable sexual act. It was very difficult to convince her that she could reach orgasm and have a more fulfilling sex life if she embraced oral sex.

To help my lesbian friend told me to share with my wife that:

• Going down on her turns me on; I enjoy it as much as she does.
• There’s no rush; she has all the time in the world. You want to savour every moment.
• Her scent is provocative, her taste powerful. It all emanates from the same, beautiful essence.

I learnt early on that I had to make sure my body was supported and that I was stretched out and recumbent. I found that my gums and tongue were more comfortable at a 45-degree angle than 90 degrees. I encouraged her to do some of the work by pressing her body into my gum line. I arranged for her legs to be close enough together that I could lean to the right or left and rest my head comfortably against her leg while never missing a lick.

I soon found that spreading her labia and focus on licking the area of the front her vulva or vaginal opening, just above the glans (the clitoris) produces the desired response. I use the index finger of my free hand to occasionally intersperse horizontal finger strokes across the clitoris with vertical tongue strokes.
As her arousal is increasing, I insert a single finger, or possibly two. Using my tongue at first to enhance arousal and then a finger to complement and push arousal to the next stage. Don’t try to “fuck” her vagina with either tongue or fingers. Press your fingers upwards into her G-spot, while applying persistent licks.
With my free hand, I can touch her breasts, gently squeeze her nipples, caress her stomach or place under a butt cheek for support.
keep in mind that every woman likes different things when it comes to cunnilingus. Some women like oral and manual stimulation at the same time, while others don’t. Some orgasm best from tongue circles around the clitoris, others prefer a light sucking motion. Watch and listen to her reactions to discover what works best, but there’s another old standby that works just as well (if not better): ask your partner! If they know what they like, they’ll probably gladly tell you.

As she starts nearing orgasm, I pull my wife’s legs closer together to increase the stimulation. But there’s one thing, above all else, that you should remember as she gets close to orgasm: do not change what you’re doing in terms of routine and pacing. Do not let yourself get sped up by her rising intensity. Keep being deliberate and methodical. Consistency is key for most women, so once you’ve found something that works, stick to it and do not stray from the path! If you do, you may have a very frustrated woman on your hands.

My wife still doesn’t orgasm from just having sexual intercourse very often but since she now enjoys oral sex she more often than not has several orgasms as we include oral sex in our sexual repertoire. When she is sexually aroused there is no stopping her – how she has changed since she discovered that her body offers so many sexual feelings and that settling for just sexual intercourse isn’t the way forward for a fulfilling sex life.

 

[KimGordon67]

Give this man a medal - good work on the perseverance and changing your wife's mind both about the joy of good oral sex, but also about her body. (The orgasm ratio difference between lesbians and straight women doesn't surprise me - if another woman can't work out what to do, it would be a worry.)
And yes, fucking is over-rated - fun, obviously, but not essential.

My wife didn’t don’t feel comfortable receiving oral sex. My wife thought her scent or taste would be unpleasant for me and thought her genitals were “ugly”. Some women worry that their partners are finding the experience unpleasant. Others dislike being the centre of attention or find themselves unable to relax when receiving.

Fortunately, I have a lesbian friend who I confided in. she told me that amazingly, about 80% of lesbian women orgasm at least half the time they have sex. Only 59% of straight women do. She told me that one of the biggest misconceptions about cunnilingus is that “‘outercourse’ is less satisfying than ‘intercourse’.” Being very honest and open she explained that women are socialised to be hypercritical of their bodies, so having your eyes, nose, and mouth right in the middle of one of the most sensitive parts of the female body is going to evoke at least a little resistance.
My wife seldom reaches orgasm from sexual intercourse alone and was clearly getting sexually frustrated that she couldn’t cum like I did. However, for many women, oral sex is the most physically pleasurable sexual act. It was very difficult to convince her that she could reach orgasm and have a more fulfilling sex life if she embraced oral sex.

To help my lesbian friend told me to share with my wife that:

• Going down on her turns me on; I enjoy it as much as she does.
• There’s no rush; she has all the time in the world. You want to savour every moment.
• Her scent is provocative, her taste powerful. It all emanates from the same, beautiful essence.

I learnt early on that I had to make sure my body was supported and that I was stretched out and recumbent. I found that my gums and tongue were more comfortable at a 45-degree angle than 90 degrees. I encouraged her to do some of the work by pressing her body into my gum line. I arranged for her legs to be close enough together that I could lean to the right or left and rest my head comfortably against her leg while never missing a lick.

I soon found that spreading her labia and focus on licking the area of the front her vulva or vaginal opening, just above the glans (the clitoris) produces the desired response. I use the index finger of my free hand to occasionally intersperse horizontal finger strokes across the clitoris with vertical tongue strokes.
As her arousal is increasing, I insert a single finger, or possibly two. Using my tongue at first to enhance arousal and then a finger to complement and push arousal to the next stage. Don’t try to “fuck” her vagina with either tongue or fingers. Press your fingers upwards into her G-spot, while applying persistent licks.
With my free hand, I can touch her breasts, gently squeeze her nipples, caress her stomach or place under a butt cheek for support.
keep in mind that every woman likes different things when it comes to cunnilingus. Some women like oral and manual stimulation at the same time, while others don’t. Some orgasm best from tongue circles around the clitoris, others prefer a light sucking motion. Watch and listen to her reactions to discover what works best, but there’s another old standby that works just as well (if not better): ask your partner! If they know what they like, they’ll probably gladly tell you.

As she starts nearing orgasm, I pull my wife’s legs closer together to increase the stimulation. But there’s one thing, above all else, that you should remember as she gets close to orgasm: do not change what you’re doing in terms of routine and pacing. Do not let yourself get sped up by her rising intensity. Keep being deliberate and methodical. Consistency is key for most women, so once you’ve found something that works, stick to it and do not stray from the path! If you do, you may have a very frustrated woman on your hands.

My wife still doesn’t orgasm from just having sexual intercourse very often but since she now enjoys oral sex she more often than not has several orgasms as we include oral sex in our sexual repertoire. When she is sexually aroused there is no stopping her – how she has changed since she discovered that her body offers so many sexual feelings and that settling for just sexual intercourse isn’t the way forward for a fulfilling sex life.

 

[LeeinLV]

I love love love to give oral. We were really in the the facesitting fetish for awhile but the wife is slowing down a bit and it has prolly been over a year since she has let me go down on her. FRUSTRATED!

 

[Hisstory]

I would concur with what luckseven wrote:

Going down on her turns me on; I enjoy it as much as she does.
• There’s no rush; she has all the time in the world. You/I want to savour every moment.
• Her scent is provocative, her taste powerful. It all emanates from the same, beautiful essence.

These are key ingredients for me, along with a strong desire to satisfy. If a woman can do it better, so be it. But as a man, I am more than willing to try. And hint/suggestions are welcome.

My wife didn’t don’t feel comfortable receiving oral sex. My wife thought her scent or taste would be unpleasant for me and thought her genitals were “ugly”. Some women worry that their partners are finding the experience unpleasant. Others dislike being the centre of attention or find themselves unable to relax when receiving.

Fortunately, I have a lesbian friend who I confided in. she told me that amazingly, about 80% of lesbian women orgasm at least half the time they have sex. Only 59% of straight women do. She told me that one of the biggest misconceptions about cunnilingus is that “‘outercourse’ is less satisfying than ‘intercourse’.” Being very honest and open she explained that women are socialised to be hypercritical of their bodies, so having your eyes, nose, and mouth right in the middle of one of the most sensitive parts of the female body is going to evoke at least a little resistance.
My wife seldom reaches orgasm from sexual intercourse alone and was clearly getting sexually frustrated that she couldn’t cum like I did. However, for many women, oral sex is the most physically pleasurable sexual act. It was very difficult to convince her that she could reach orgasm and have a more fulfilling sex life if she embraced oral sex.

To help my lesbian friend told me to share with my wife that:

• Going down on her turns me on; I enjoy it as much as she does.
• There’s no rush; she has all the time in the world. You want to savour every moment.
• Her scent is provocative, her taste powerful. It all emanates from the same, beautiful essence.

I learnt early on that I had to make sure my body was supported and that I was stretched out and recumbent. I found that my gums and tongue were more comfortable at a 45-degree angle than 90 degrees. I encouraged her to do some of the work by pressing her body into my gum line. I arranged for her legs to be close enough together that I could lean to the right or left and rest my head comfortably against her leg while never missing a lick.

I soon found that spreading her labia and focus on licking the area of the front her vulva or vaginal opening, just above the glans (the clitoris) produces the desired response. I use the index finger of my free hand to occasionally intersperse horizontal finger strokes across the clitoris with vertical tongue strokes.
As her arousal is increasing, I insert a single finger, or possibly two. Using my tongue at first to enhance arousal and then a finger to complement and push arousal to the next stage. Don’t try to “fuck” her vagina with either tongue or fingers. Press your fingers upwards into her G-spot, while applying persistent licks.
With my free hand, I can touch her breasts, gently squeeze her nipples, caress her stomach or place under a butt cheek for support.
keep in mind that every woman likes different things when it comes to cunnilingus. Some women like oral and manual stimulation at the same time, while others don’t. Some orgasm best from tongue circles around the clitoris, others prefer a light sucking motion. Watch and listen to her reactions to discover what works best, but there’s another old standby that works just as well (if not better): ask your partner! If they know what they like, they’ll probably gladly tell you.

As she starts nearing orgasm, I pull my wife’s legs closer together to increase the stimulation. But there’s one thing, above all else, that you should remember as she gets close to orgasm: do not change what you’re doing in terms of routine and pacing. Do not let yourself get sped up by her rising intensity. Keep being deliberate and methodical. Consistency is key for most women, so once you’ve found something that works, stick to it and do not stray from the path! If you do, you may have a very frustrated woman on your hands.

My wife still doesn’t orgasm from just having sexual intercourse very often but since she now enjoys oral sex she more often than not has several orgasms as we include oral sex in our sexual repertoire. When she is sexually aroused there is no stopping her – how she has changed since she discovered that her body offers so many sexual feelings and that settling for just sexual intercourse isn’t the way forward for a fulfilling sex life.

 

[Skowt]

My wife didn’t don’t feel comfortable receiving oral sex. My wife thought her scent or taste would be unpleasant for me and thought her genitals were “ugly”. Some women worry that their partners are finding the experience unpleasant. Others dislike being the centre of attention or find themselves unable to relax when receiving.

Fortunately, I have a lesbian friend who I confided in. she told me that amazingly, about 80% of lesbian women orgasm at least half the time they have sex. Only 59% of straight women do. She told me that one of the biggest misconceptions about cunnilingus is that “‘outercourse’ is less satisfying than ‘intercourse’.” Being very honest and open she explained that women are socialised to be hypercritical of their bodies, so having your eyes, nose, and mouth right in the middle of one of the most sensitive parts of the female body is going to evoke at least a little resistance.
My wife seldom reaches orgasm from sexual intercourse alone and was clearly getting sexually frustrated that she couldn’t cum like I did. However, for many women, oral sex is the most physically pleasurable sexual act. It was very difficult to convince her that she could reach orgasm and have a more fulfilling sex life if she embraced oral sex.

To help my lesbian friend told me to share with my wife that:

• Going down on her turns me on; I enjoy it as much as she does.
• There’s no rush; she has all the time in the world. You want to savour every moment.
• Her scent is provocative, her taste powerful. It all emanates from the same, beautiful essence.

I learnt early on that I had to make sure my body was supported and that I was stretched out and recumbent. I found that my gums and tongue were more comfortable at a 45-degree angle than 90 degrees. I encouraged her to do some of the work by pressing her body into my gum line. I arranged for her legs to be close enough together that I could lean to the right or left and rest my head comfortably against her leg while never missing a lick.

I soon found that spreading her labia and focus on licking the area of the front her vulva or vaginal opening, just above the glans (the clitoris) produces the desired response. I use the index finger of my free hand to occasionally intersperse horizontal finger strokes across the clitoris with vertical tongue strokes.
As her arousal is increasing, I insert a single finger, or possibly two. Using my tongue at first to enhance arousal and then a finger to complement and push arousal to the next stage. Don’t try to “fuck” her vagina with either tongue or fingers. Press your fingers upwards into her G-spot, while applying persistent licks.
With my free hand, I can touch her breasts, gently squeeze her nipples, caress her stomach or place under a butt cheek for support.
keep in mind that every woman likes different things when it comes to cunnilingus. Some women like oral and manual stimulation at the same time, while others don’t. Some orgasm best from tongue circles around the clitoris, others prefer a light sucking motion. Watch and listen to her reactions to discover what works best, but there’s another old standby that works just as well (if not better): ask your partner! If they know what they like, they’ll probably gladly tell you.

As she starts nearing orgasm, I pull my wife’s legs closer together to increase the stimulation. But there’s one thing, above all else, that you should remember as she gets close to orgasm: do not change what you’re doing in terms of routine and pacing. Do not let yourself get sped up by her rising intensity. Keep being deliberate and methodical. Consistency is key for most women, so once you’ve found something that works, stick to it and do not stray from the path! If you do, you may have a very frustrated woman on your hands.

My wife still doesn’t orgasm from just having sexual intercourse very often but since she now enjoys oral sex she more often than not has several orgasms as we include oral sex in our sexual repertoire. When she is sexually aroused there is no stopping her – how she has changed since she discovered that her body offers so many sexual feelings and that settling for just sexual intercourse isn’t the way forward for a fulfilling sex life.

I bet her genitals look fabulous. Have her join you and check out these fabulous women parts.

http://beautifullabia.tumblr.com/

 

[HumasWanderingWeiner]

Good subject and interesting replies but I've never had any complaints and have received many compliments. I've definitely never received the George Costanza tap.

 

[Sheana_V]

Nobody, but nobody, gives a woman oral like another woman can!
Just saying guys, sorry.

I don't know. Perhaps on average better, but my best oral was from a man and some of the women I've been with have been pretty disappointing.

 

[Sheana_V]

There's been a lot of good advice here, but I will just add that empathy is the number 1 skill you need to be good in bed regardless of what you're doing.