Glossary FYI

[snowy ciara]

Bump, with a question..

A GLOSSARY


Flag/flagging: the use of color-coded bandannas (called "hankies" or "flags") to let others know what turns you on. The "hanky code" is a system--developed within the gay culture--where colors represent different kinks. The hanky code has faded in popularity but some still abide by it.
People also flag their top/bottom orientation with the left/right "code" or "convention". Dominants or tops flag on the left; submissives or bottoms on the right. The applies to other SM attire (for example, a dominant always wears her whip on the left side of her belt).
Below, I've listed the most popular "SM"-type flags, according to color, and indicating what it means if you wear the color on the left and on the right.



APRICOT: LEFT: Chubby-chaser or fat admirer. RIGHT: big person
BLACK: LEFT: heavy top/sadist RIGHT: heavy bottom/masochist
BLACK VELVET: LEFT: voyeur RIGHT: exhibitionist
BROWN: LEFT: likes to be on top for watersports ("scat" or coprophilia and also enemas) RIGHT: likes to be on bottom.
CHARCOAL: LEFT: top with a latex/rubber fetish. RIGHT: bottom with a latex/rubber fetish.
DARK PINK: LEFT: likes to give nipple pain. RIGHT: likes to receive nipple pain
GRAY: LEFT: likes to do bondage as a top. RIGHT: likes to be bound.
HOUNDSTOOTH: LEFT: likes to bite. RIGHT: likes to be bitten
LAVENDER: LEFT: likes to top cross-dressers RIGHT: likes to wear drag
LIGHT PINK: LEFT: likes to use dildoes on people RIGHT: likes to have dildoes used on her/him.
PURPLE: LEFT: likes to pierce RIGHT: likes to be pierced
RUST: LEFT: likes to play with "ponies" RIGHT: likes to be the pony
TAN: LEFT: likes to smoke cigars and play with hot ash. RIGHT: wants to worship cigar-smoker and receive hot ash
YELLOW: LEFT: likes to be on top for golden shower scenes RIGHT: likes to receive golden showers
dominant) "forces" a submissive man into feminine clothes. It is confusing to some people that this scene is described as "forced" when the submissive consented to it--or even requested it.

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Isn't houndstooth a pattern, and not a colour? I checked two dictionaries, and both referred to it as a "a small checkered textile pattern or design?" So if one was to flag that one likes to be bitten, (back James, back! waving garlic and a crucifix ) does it need to be a specific coulour?

 

[BlueBanshee]

What does PYL stand for?

 

[Kajira Callista]

What does PYL stand for?

pick your (own) label

 

[wolf2002]

Now where do I get a dark pink houndstooth hanky...

 

[NemoAlia]

So, hey. I've been gone a while, from the forums anyway, and I need to know: What's a PYL?

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

So, hey. I've been gone a while, from the forums anyway, and I need to know: What's a PYL?

*sigh*

It is a construct used by this board and no where else to denote dominants (Pick Your Label) and submissives (pick your label) of whatever gender. I fucking despise it. No offense to AA who came up with it. I don't think he meant for people to get as carried away with it as they have. I mean, damn, folks, you can't type a few more sentences and be clear about what you are talking about? Or does it really matter? All the PYL/pyl stuff just serves to divorce the people right the hell out of the post for me. Poof. It becomes lifeless. Like you are talking about mannequins or something.

Does that answer you question, Nemo?

BTW, nice to see you around

~Anelize

 

[NemoAlia]

BTW, nice to see you around

~Anelize

Hey, girl! Lovely to see you too =)

Yeah, okay. I can see your point. But then, we all use abbreviations and acronyms like mad around here. There are always gonna be people who don't recognize them. Thank goodness we have such a dedicated library staff on BDSM Talk, no? =p

 

[subbielez]

Hm...flagging question: do flaggers generally wear more than one flag? I mean you can't tell me everyone has just one interest.

 

[HottieMama]

Hm...flagging question: do flaggers generally wear more than one flag? I mean you can't tell me everyone has just one interest.

In the time i spent in the gay community in Philly, i have seen many gay men wear more than one flag. However, some only flag for the "#1" interest.

 

[subbielez]

Ah, I see. Well, I was merely curious...I guess that makes sense, though. I mean if you have like a dozen interests you probably run out of room to put flags real quick. LOL