Guys, I'd like to hear how you seduce a woman. Thx!

[live4thebj]

I assume you're not being entirely serious but I've never found referring to women as females, reducing them to a genetic biological descriptor has got me anywhere, never mind first base or beyond.

I have no idea why males persist in doing this, yet they still do

Oh here we go. There is two sex’s: female and male. Move on now. Go.

 

[cdstefi]

Oh here we go. There is two sex’s: female and male. Move on now. Go.

Yes but you're missing the point as well as being obnoxious and having only the barest grasp of grammar (plural of sex is sexes just in case you were unaware, and are, not is)

The point being that referring to women as females is kind of stupid. Yes, they are female humans. But using the word female standalone kind of makes it sound like you don't have the balls to use the word woman.

I'll wait patiently for the flood of women who actually like being described as females.

 

[live4thebj]

Yes but you're missing the point as well as being obnoxious and having only the barest grasp of grammar (plural of sex is sexes just in case you were unaware, and are, not is)

The point being that referring to women as females is kind of stupid. Yes, they are female humans. But using the word female standalone kind of makes it sound like you don't have the balls to use the word woman.

I'll wait patiently for the flood of women who actually like being described as females.

Are you bored or something? Go find and do something that makes you happy. You are boring me. Moving on now.

 

[Raybies93]

I have a high level of confidence in your success. I’d love to observe and take some notes.

Ahahahaha!!!!

 

[cdstefi]

Are you bored or something? Go find and do something that makes you happy. You are boring me. Moving on now.

You'd be hilarious if you got your head out of your ass

 

[LoneMilf]

Oh here we go. There is two sex’s: female and male. Move on now. Go.

We don't all share that aversion to the word 'female' - I couldn't care less if I'm called a female or a woman. I know what is meant.

However, I would probably recommend against mentioning anything about sex in relation to her children, unless you are VERY sure that's something she won't take offense at

 

[SexyInMy60s]

When I was 16 I was working in a college town restaurant as a dishwasher. One day the chef comes back to my area and says, “The prep cook didn’t show up so I’m promoting you.” She spent the next hour teaching me basic chopping, cutting and cooking…skills I use to this day. I survived the shift and at the end of the night she sneaks me a beer and says, “I’ve just done you a huge favor because a guy who can cook for a woman will always be able to get laid.” And she was right.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Are you bored or something? Go find and do something that makes you happy. You are boring me. Moving on now.

We don't all share that aversion to the word 'female' - I couldn't care less if I'm called a female or a woman. I know what is meant.

However, I would probably recommend against mentioning anything about sex in relation to her children, unless you are VERY sure that's something she won't take offense at

I don't think he's concerned about being offensive.
Indeed, I think he relishes it.
Not sure why he finds this thread an appropriate place to show off his intolerance.

 

[MuffandNonsense]

I'd like to hear how guys go about seducing a woman. The process, how you think, what you find works or doesn't. Yeah, I really want to know. Don't be afraid to share your secrets. I won't tell anyone!

After many decades of marriage, I know that my wife responds to me doing the household chores much more than a fancy meal in a fancy restaurant!

So my art of seduction often includes cleaning the bathroom (without announcing I'm going to do it) and hoovering the whole house while she is out shopping.

I'll make sure that when she drives home I'm out in the garden sweeping up leaves, cleaning the bird bath and doing all those grotty, ugly little jobs that are often easy to ignore but all add up if they don't get done.

So, being practical and supportive around the house and garden often leads to some lovely, romantic treats when my wife chooses to say "Thank you" upstairs in the bedroom.

One of my fondest memories is from years ago when I cleaned the wheelie bin: What a night that was!

 

[YourSecretDesires]

I love the art of seduction. There are a lot of schools of thought about it but for me it's always been a rather simple thing. Here are some tips.

Open her. I.e. talk to her. Whatever venue (party, bar, museum, work), just say something and strike up a conversation. Conversation should be about anything OTHER than love and sex unless circumstances are unique.

Ask questions, get to know her. Be funny. Tease playfully but harmlessly. Compliment her not on her physical appearance but on her style, intelligence, sense of humor, bravery, etc. Compliments should be real and organic, not rehearsed, but if you're just starting out and nervous remark on her shoes or hairstyle or fashion choice.

See how she reacts. Laughing, playing with hair, blushing, leaning in, licking lips, dilated pupils. These are all positive signs. Looking around, short answers, pointing body away, she's probably uninterested/unavailable and it wasn't meant to be.

If her body language is inviting, a mild NON INVASIVE touch can be deployed. Shoulder, arm. These are light touches like your aunt or teacher might have done to you mid conversation. Again, read her reaction and adjust as you go.

Don't be afraid to let the conversation end. Dismiss yourself if you feel. Don't hover, or try to monopolize her attention. Talk to other people. If it's not a social event, like you're in a cafe, this is when you get her contact info or invite her someplace. If you're at a social event you or she can circle back later.

Long story short, if there is chemistry, you will feel it. People decide on if someone's fuckable very quickly. These notes are just for the opening conversation, you still have to get her alone some place (date or whatever) and escalate physically with a kiss and more. But this is how I as a man have generally gotten the ball rolling. I think an important thing is if she's signaling "no thank you" just be polite, don't take it personally, and at some point move on to another.

 

[subdudeme13]

I'd like to hear how guys go about seducing a woman. The process, how you think, what you find works or doesn't. Yeah, I really want to know. Don't be afraid to share your secrets. I won't tell anyone!

I didn't. I went with the flow. If there was mutual attraction and more often than not there was. The key for me was to be in an opportunity rich environment. I did learn too late that i was, "So damn good looking". Not my words. I didn't hear that till my second marriage.

 

[MisterWolf26]

Hahaha You think I'd spend all this time on message boards if I was sone kind if smooth operator!?



Lol



Honestly, tge trend for me is that by the time I slip into a successful seduction mode that the seduced has made it so obvious that they WANT to be seduced that it woukd be hard to drop the ball hard enough that they won't pick it up and hand it back to me.



Sometimes this has been because I've let my attraction be known without meaning to, or because I've said something wildly inappropriate and they've decided they can live with that and are willing to keep the ball in play or just because she is really making the first move.



It's really amazing I've had as much luck with women as I have given this total lack of game.

 

[MisterWolf26]

I didn't. I went with the flow. If there was mutual attraction and more often than not there was. The key for me was to be in an opportunity rich environment. I did learn too late that i was, "So damn good looking". Not my words. I didn't hear that till my second marriage.

Less a matter of experience. But this basically my current strategy.

I'm newly single. Not actively on the prowl, but I'm trying to get out of the house and be sociable and if opportunities present themselves.... I can say no, or just be happy about it (actually those two aren't mutually exclusive).

 

[BobbyandtheCabin]

It's been a while for me, but my go to with someone new had always been to make her laugh, and I've always been playful. If out, then dancing too. There's something to be said about taking a girl's hand either playfully or affectionately too I think, being sure not to be too firm or heavy handed, whilst not being too limp either. I think it's the least invasive and most risk free of making physical contact without coming across as someome who is grabby or touchy feely. Once the kiss is in, the deal is usually sealed.

 

[Britva415]

I've always found the one big thing that works is displaying genuine interest in what she has to say or opine about. Not just going "yeah yeah" but having a conversation and listening, and asking questions that show you're listening.

I find that this is a prerequisite. But this alone is not seductive. In fact it can be the opposite of attractive, and can cement a guy in her mind as "nice fellow but not a prospect."

We have to show our intentions. She might or might not reciprocate the interest, but she won't even consider whether maybe she does or doesn't feel like it if she doesn't sense in the first place that we feel think that way of her.

Or maybe she will - it could be that she does sort of have an inkling that maybe she could like you, or kiss you, if the situation were right. But we have to create that environment and that atmosphere and make that move - she's generally not going to take it upon herself to make the situation right.

Or maybe she will - it could be that she's going to make that move, but that isn't what the thread is about. That isn't her getting seduced.

 

[Britva415]

sneaks me a beer and says, “I’ve just done you a huge favor because a guy who can cook for a woman will always be able to get laid.” And she was right

Did you "cook her something?"

 

[SexyInMy60s]

Did you "cook her something?"

Sadly no, but we lived in a big apartment complex full of hungry college girls so I proved her right many times.

 

[JessForFun37]

I have flirted. I have made laughs. Most times being upfront direct works more often than others.

 

[hrdmngd2find]

I've never tried to seduce another women (in real life anyway) but I have been on the receiving end of a fair number of attempts

One thing I would highlight is to consider your compliments carefully. Flirting almost inevitably involves compliments, but many guys are actually very poor at giving them. A few hints:

• Don't lie or exaggerate too obviously - we can telt.
• Anything that starts with 'I really like your.." isn't a compliment - it's just stating your own preferences.
• Or even worse starting with just "I really like.." - e.g. "I really like mature women", yeah.. not a compliment.
• Anything that focuses on things that were 'given' don't work that well - e.g. 'That's a really pretty name' or 'You have the most amazing eyes'. They are ok to indicate interest, but they are very shallow.
• The real compliments are the ones that focus on her choices or achievements - e.g 'You have great style! How ,do you get everything ta o work together?' or "You're raising 3 children and taking care of your aunt? Impressive" or "Did it require a lot of sacrifices to make Partner so early?" - you'll notice that these kind of compliments very often take the form of questions too, helping the conversation flow.

This is a good point about compliments. This whole issue reminds me of the years I spent teaching and coaching adolescents. Especially during that period of life, teenagers actually like and need compliments, but if it's bullshit, then they know and won't trust you. They want to believe you deep down, but it has to be truthful and real, or you'll be dismissed as just another irrelevant adult. They want to find an adult they can trust who will tell them the truth about life.

The rest of this reply is for the thread, since you already know all this stuff, but it is related to the question of compliments:

I don't really think of compliments as performative and as part of a "technique" to get a woman into bed or to go on another date. My "technique" is simple honesty. Either a woman will like me or she won't. If she decides to be with me, even for a casual fling, it will be because of who I am, not who I'm not, or because of some trick. If it is going to be a casual fling, I will not pretend it's something else. If she asks me a question, I will answer honestly, perhaps nudging the level of intimacy a tad by saying a little bit more, and then give her space to reciprocate if she feels comfortable. Sharing more is a form of an invitation to be more intimate. Answering honestly is especially important if the question is about something that isn't very flattering to me. It's a test. If the question goes too far, I decline to answer rather than fib. If she doesn't like either my honesty or my boundary, then I'm happy to let her live with her discomfort or walk.

Since the golden rule works really well as a guide to just about every human connection, it works with honesty too. I compliment honestly because a real compliment is what I like to receive. I dislike flattery and feel wary and distrustful when I hear it, so I avoid doing that to others. "Encouraging words" is even one of my love languages, but if a compliment isn't sincere, it's not a compliment.

The second "technique" I would recommend is listening, active listening. I ask questions that are based on something she said, and ask more based on those answers. It's not hard to tell if the questions are going too far or if she is enjoying the discussion or not. I'm curious about her; that's why I'm there. Even if it is a casual fling, that we both will know is just that, I want to fuck a woman, a person, and not just a body. Plus, listening is a compliment. It's the kind compliment that is not spoken, and is therefore, far more powerful. Without saying it directly, I'm demonstrating that she is interesting to me and worth my time.

Final "technique" - for a date or whatever, don't be too agenda-driven and goal-oriented. That is even more applicable once the clothes come off.

This all probably seems like Captain Obvious, but I get the impression from women I talk to that there are a lot of guys who don't do this basic shit.

 

[Midnight_Voyager26]

Don't be an asshole.

Be a good listener and conversationalist.

Find out her likes and dislikes.

Be innovative and spontaneous things related to her likes.

Give her plenty of attention.

Show her your Costco card, and all the perks that come with your membership .