Heartbreak Hotel

[Ladybird]

Oh my darling Pleasureu,

I shared the joy and the pain with you. I know how much you suffered, and my heart bled for you.

All I can offer sweetheart is that one day it won't hurt as much as it does today.

Have reminders removed... start afresh and don't look back, only ahead.

 

[Sincerely]

Hey everyone I can say that I have found love right here on Lit so I know for a fact that it exists (anytime you have a site with so many wonderful people it's bound to happen) I won't say with who because I'm not sure if it would make her comfortable but people who know us know what I am talking about....although she doesn't feel the same way (she only loves me as a friend) I am truly blessed to have met her right here on Lit and I will forever be grateful no matter what happens......I just want people to know that love does exist right here on Lit and I wouldn't change a thing even if down the line I do get hurt......if I wouldn't have taken a chance on how I feel I wouldn't have known what it means to truly love someone and be in love...it's a great feeling......I want to say I'm sorry for those of you who've loved and lost but remember the saying, "better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all"........don't worry I'm sure you will all find that perfect someone for you someday.....until then I just want to say have the courage to follow your hearts.......

 

[espressolover]

Thank you Sincerely.
I wish you all the best in your new love.

 

[omahaman2]

SORRY TO HEAR WHEN ANY OF MY FRIENDS ARE HURTING.I HOPE EVERYONE KNOWS I WILL BE THERE WHENEVER ANY ONE NEEDS AN ARM,A SHOULDER OR AN EAR. FRIENDS ARE VERY VERY IMPORTANT TO OMAN

 

[mayi]

Hello all, sorry that i have not been active the last couple of days. Life is a constant change and we must all roll with it. I am finding out that love lost is also love gained and there is not such thing as love lost.

I will always have the warmest memoris of the short time we had together and all that we talked about. That will be the thing to carry me through the next few weeks. He is always there if i need him, but we can not be more then friends.

One day i hope to see him again and know that we will always have the same bond we had when it started. The one thing that still amazes me is how fast we bonded and how we both realized it at the same time. He will always be in my heart and i will always love him.

mayi

 

[flashyfish]

Fight or flight

This is my post from the tread on true love...it seemed to belong here as well...

Well, here's my story from Michigan...

Do I believe in true love...Yes...Do I believe most people can handle it...No...

Why? It is too scary...To be in love (truly, madly, deeply)...You must surrender yourself totally to the other person...If its real love, you can't hold back that person will have huge amount of control over you because of the way you feel about them...That's scary and takes a lot of trust...When someone has the power to hurt you that deeply, nothing is more frightening...

Have a been in love for real...Yes...and still am...

I was in a real loving relationship for a year...Yes, the female had outside issues and I believe she felt fear get the better of her...I decided to let her go so she could maybe heal and hopefully come back to me...I never really believed in second chances but I have never felt this way about someone...

It was the chance to have a best friend and lover in one...Which I feel to the situation which has the best chance of lasting a lifetime...

We still talk and hang out...It been 3 to 4 months since we broke up...She has dropped hints that she is not romantic with anyone else but only reinforces that we are just friends now...

About a month ago...She said she needed us to talk less and see each other not at all (we went to e-mail only) This lasted about a month...right before she started calling a lot and we were talking and laughing as much as we every did...

Why did she need to stop talking? Was she worried that her feelings for me were return or surfacing or Was she worried that I was reading too much in to her action and might think she wanted to get back together...

Last week she went tough a major operation, very major for a young female...Valentine day was right before so I sent her some stuff (little stuff) and a note that said she was the only person I would want to ask to be my valentine but I wouldn't put that pressure on her...I sent flowers she said I could visit her...I did things for her...She seems to be handling it but the moment we talk and have too much fun she starts to close off...

If any of you find ladies would like to comment or offer advice...feel free...sometimes I think of being a knight and just telling her that I am still in love and want her back, but is the timing right...

Who knows....maybe you...

Fish

p.s. I hope this made sense...I get petty emotional so if it didn't sorry...

 

[mayi]

flashyfish,

we can all offer advise, but to know your exact situtation is difficult. love is not pridicatable, it is not on a time line and it comes in many different forms. you can love someone with such force that they can not return the love. you can also love someone with no force and they will never feel the love.

Think about the time you have shared and be honest with yourself, was it all you or was it shared. did she say something you missed about a past experience that may have caused her heartache and thus not will to accept another relationship at this point.

and you can always be a friend, waiting for the realization on her part that you are the one and only for her.

mayi

 

[whspr]

I am wondering how many have found love and then lost it on lit. How do you cope and would you do it again.

mayi

I found love online but not lit...and when it was over...I didn't think I could ever trust again. He and I had been good friends
online for several years and we let it go further. Of course,
then we had to meet. I believed all of his promises and lies.
That weekend was one of pure bliss...but it fell apart. You
see, I do believe he liked the thrill of the chase. When he had
me...the thrill was over. My heart broke. I really didn't think I
could get passed it. He was still trying to talk to me like we
were best friends again and I couldn't handle that...just caused
more pain. But as time goes on...I am so much better. I think
you have to be willing to take that chance again. I know I am.
We learn about ourselves from these lessons...

soft kisses,
whspr

 

[twodogs]

find a good bestfriend

Why hellow there how are you today glad to see people are on line TWO DOGS

 

[espressolover]

Thank you Oman...
Your'e good thoughts and wishes mean alot to me.

Flashy my friend, what can I say? I hope she will eventually come to her senses and take you back. You are a great person. You've done everything that you could do IMHO, that is. It's up to her to come around. I hope that she will.
And that she will realize what a wonderful man she has. One that loves her like you do.

Good luck.


If you need to go to her, do it...no apologies.
I'd love it if I had someone do that for me.

 

[Blue Dolphin]

mayi

fuck it

 

[prettygrneyes]

online love.....

hello to all of you and I find myself deep in thought after reading what everyone has gone thru..I can feel that pain as I sit here in tears as I share with you about my love ,my loss, 2 years ago online I met a very special man (not from lit)and fell in love ,we e-mailed each other and talked online everyday ..late nights,into the wee hours,and boy!did our long distant carrier luv us ,our phone bills were high and neither one of us cared about that ,as long as we talked five or six times a day.I lived in Upstate NY and he lived in VT.we stayed on the phone and played silly truth or dare games online and chatted with friends in our chatroom for about 8 months ,then decided to meet face 2 face and see what we were feeling was real...which I already knew it was real love..I could'nt wait til we met ,and when we did ,the warm embrace and the soft passionate kiss was there and the warm feeling all over my body ,the first few times we got together ,then we kept seeing each other every week ,or when he had days off ,we would be together at last ..hated when it was time to say our goodbyes,oh my goodness it was so terrible ,I hate goodbyes..I would cry so hard and hold him so tight ,never wanting to let go ..
but he always reassured me he never found love til he found me and Ifelt the same too ,and that he would come back home soon...til' one day my heart was broken....he decided that it was a longer distant between us and he wasnt ready for the commitment we made together when we made love the first time ..
I was a mess ,didnt eat ,didnt sleep and cried alot...I am sorry I rattled this all off to you but seeing you in pain ,made me remember my pain ,my loss ,my love ...geeze it took me awhile to move on...but I did.....so if anyone wants to chat ,please do drop me a note or PM,I still do think of him ,how is he doing and hope he grew up some....it's too bad cause I always thought "distance doesnt make a difference "....

 

[Guest]

corner of my heart

pleasure
that is so nice there is a lot of truth there been in the room for a long time.

 

[espressolover]

prettygrneyes:

What would our lives be if not for love...
even if we have to lose it, it's worth the ride.
I still ache all over sometimes when I think of him. I'm getting better though. All it takes is time...lots of it, it sometimes seems.

My thoughts are with you.
Every chance to love is also a chance to learn and grow. I have done both...even out of the hurt.
I wish you good things in the future.

 

[twodogs]

sassy redhead

Verry good advice on love if you have a taste of it ,it will stay with you a long time that can't be take'n away

 

[Blue Dolphin]

unregistered

Thank you unregistered.
wont dwell on my situation, suffice to say, I express my emotions best in rhyme.
My poetry bears testament to that.
take care
P

 

[mayi]

prettygrneyes,

welcome and thank you for your story. it is good to know you are not alone in the world and that the pain you feel is felt by many. it is hard for me to not want to contact him, knowing he is close and that i can pick up the phone at any time and he is there.

mayi

 

[mayi]

pleasureu,

you know i will always love your poems. you write in words i can feel and with emotions i know all to well. thank you for the poem, it is talking to me.

mayi

 

[espressolover]

twodogs, you're a sweetheart...thank you hun!

mayi, thank you again for this chance to share and hopfully to heal a little more.

 

[twodogs]

pleasure

You do have a way with words keep up the good work I love to read them.

 

[Ladybird]

Re: unregistered

I express my emotions best in rhyme.
My poetry bears testament to that.
take care
P

Yes P.. your poetry has always been a window to your soul.

Anyone who knows you, can see that.

 

[mayi]

LB

It is good to see you here. I know that we have not agreed on things with P, but please remember he is special to me and that we have worked things out.

mayi

 

[wildrose70]

I's funny how this post brought back memories of the one love that has haunted me for over 30 yrs...I met this man while I was still married and working as a bartender...never have I had such a connection with anyone....he was wild and crazy made me laugh, made me cry....we were both in our 40's...he always told me he was going to get die being chased by a jealous husband when he was 90...but that didnt happen...6 months after I met him....on Valentines day...he was killed in a one car accident...my heart was broken for a long long time...and to this day...I still carry him in my heart....perhaps thats the reason I have never found another that makes me feel like he did....I'm divorced now and can find lovers....but no one will ever take his place...

 

[mayi]

wildrose,

what a touching story. it sounds so familiar to mine. this past vanentines day was the best i have ever had. but a week later it was over. i know time will heal me, but until then, i keep moving.

mayi

 

[wildrose70]

So sorry Mayi....but as they say..it's better to have loved and lost..then to have never loved at all.....

I dont regret anything I have done in life...oh maybe a few things...but life is built on exeriences...and its better to live life and take the good with the bad..


And heartbreak goes along with life each little experience make you a better and stronger person>>>>>