Help Me Please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[It'sasecret]

Yes, I have let him make the 1st move. But it is still boring, ten minute sex, no foreplay etc... Plus I don't tell him "I want it now" like you make it sound. I just come on to him in a way he knows what it means. Thanks.

 

[THEBRAT]

I did find something that worked I woke him up in the morning with a bj.

 

[It'sasecret]

And he would get a BJ and roll over and go back to sleep or maybe give me about ten mintes of sex. I am sorry if I seem to be whining and shooting down everyones suggestions, but I really have tried them all. I am at the end of rope.

 

[THEBRAT]

Your not whining my Husband went through the same thing with me my sex life went in cycles sometimes I would want sex and other times I would refuse him.

I was a sexually abused child maybe something like that happened to him and he's affaid to say anything about it.

I know that I didn't tell my Husband until we had been married for 15 years.It's hard to admit when something like happens.

 

[It'sasecret]

I am sorry to hear that something like that happened to you. No offense but I really don't think that that is his problem. Thanks.

 

[rambling man]

if i spent the night at your house, would you wake me up with a blow job? havent had that done in a long time and it is an awesome feeling!

 

[It'sasecret]

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm yummy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[rambling man]

maybe if your husband watched it might help cure him..watch as you look into my eyes as you bob up and down on me..hmmmmm

 

[SexxyLady]

Common ground

Hi It'sasecret and everybody...

Guess what I found something that may work for both of us. AND its not manipulation or punishment. YEAH! I wrote a story of my favorite sexual fantasy(I posted it on the other thread <<cringe>>), but anyway I wouldn't let him read it. He was busy playing video games, but I guess he was reading parts of it because later that night he acted out parts of it exactly as I had writen it. Now he keeps asking when he can read the story.

Anyway...Our stories are so similiar, I thought maybe if it worked for me it might work for you.

SL

 

[It'sasecret]

God the more I hear from you the more similar our situation sounds! My hubby plays video games non stop too. Your story was awsome!! You should submit it to the story section! I am really happy for you! Your story is EXACTLY what I am looking for too. God are our husbands long lost twins????? I actually made some suggestion the other day while we were looking at a dirty book in the bookstore. I actually got a good response,

 

[It'sasecret]

ooops sorry clicked to soon on accident....

anyway I was even surprized that he stuck around to look at it with me, usually he runs. Lets see if he actually goes through with idea! I hope so.....

 

[SexxyLady]

My hubby plays video games non stop too....[] God are our husbands long lost twins????? I actually made some suggestion the other day while we were looking at a dirty book in the bookstore. I actually got a good response,

It'sasecret, I have come to the conclusion after nine years that video games dryup sperm. Heeehee. Sorry guys, girl joke there. But I must say our husbands do seem to have a lot in common. By God let's not let them meet. We'd never get them away from those damn games.

I am so happy you are finally getting a response of some kind. I was wondering if you've ever been on a vacation apart from each other? When my hubby and I first got married (about 1 year after we were married) we each went home to visit our parents on opposite coasts. It was amazing when we got back home each was willing/able to discuss some very important issues. Unfortunately(fortunately?), at that time our issue was not sex or lack there of.

Another thing I tried, was a book call the "The Great American Sex Diet" I just got it couple of weeks ago. I actually caught him reading it the other night. The great thing about this book is that it has a list of things the guys can do, and they all sound heavenly. If he was willing to look at the book with you, maybe he'd be willing to read this book with you too. This book has the story of fourty couples and maybe he'd feel less insecure if he saw that other couple have problems and they overcome them by talking and trying.

I'm not usually into the sex-help, oops I mean self-help books but this one is humerous, and she has some really good ideas. And no that was not a sales pitch, I just liked the idea of a diet with a fun twist for a change.

SL

PS. anything that helps right?

 

[It'sasecret]

I have heard of that book. I was thinking about getting it myself, or some other some sort of sex book. Was thinking of maybe giving him a page to read, leaving it out on purpose type of thing... Who knows. It is not really "diet" book right??? Just ideas for great sex? I think I heard it on a radio show. Thanks for the ideas, I am really happy things are looking up for you. Let me know when he reads your story. I bet you will have a fabulous night.

As for being apart.... When we dated we were ALWAYS together, except for the last year before we were married. He had to move b/c of his job, and we only saw each other once a week. I think it was a good thing. He doesn't see it that way. He likes to constanlty be with me. In fact he does not seem to understand "alone" time. I will often go into bedroom to be alone and he will folllow me in. It drives me nuts b/c I don't want to hurt his feelings and tell him to leave me alone. Anyway....

Is it just me or do we seem to have a role reversal? I mean usually it is the guy complaining about not getting enough sex and that their girl is not into new things, and needing space. Just a thought.....

 

[THEBRAT]

Everyone needs some time just for them.I do know what your talking about when you say that you want sometime for yourself. I've got the same problem with my Hubby of 25 years. We've always done things together except after I was raped & tortured 13 years ago.

 

[It'sasecret]

I am sorry to hear about your horrible experience.

 

[SexxyLady]

ISA,

No the book is not a diet, it's just a way to make you feel better about yourself and your partner. And I'm sorry he doesn't get the whole alone thing. Maybe you go 'visit' a friend for a couple of days...? It maybe just what he needs to wake up. Togetherness time is always better when you've had time to be 'together' with yourself

And yes! We do seem to have a bad case of role reversal. Dammit I don't want this role anymore. But things on my side are improving slowly but surely. I think it's just the thought of that story that has him all worked up. He keeps asking about it and when I don't turn it over, he starts attacking. I luv it . I may hold out on giving him this one until I start writing another one. Keep him guessing ya know...

Your friend,
SL

 

[It'sasecret]

Well, the "alone" time thing is not a huge problem. I just enjoy being alone once in a while, but he prefers to never leave my side. Like even if I have to run stupid errands he would go with me. I used to always want him there too, but not anymore. I do spend sometime with out him. I go out once in awhile with friends from work or whatever. Sometimes I wish he was there, other times I am glad he is not b/c I would have to stay by his side b/c he is shy around people he does not know. Anyway it is not a big issue.

I was checking the book out online. It says about parts are for "his"eyes only etc..and that it is a 28 day plan. Have you been following the book the way you are supposed to or just pick and choose? I can't image my hubby "following" it, but maybe just picking and choosing ideas.

 

[rambling man]

check your pms, pleeeeeeaaassssssseeeee...

 

[The_old_man]

It'sasecret

What you need is a good fight.

But you have to fight by "Lovers Rules."



Both get naked. Sit on oposit ends of the bed(faceing each other).

Hold hands . NOW FIGHT!

 

[It'sasecret]

Hehehehehe