How do you break the ice when meeting a guy for a first time bisexual experience? Watch porn or small talk or something else?

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It can be a nerve wracking experience when meeting up for a same sex discrete hookup. I used to try small talk, but then I’d talk too much.
I tried porn, but couldn’t concentrate, because I was thinking about playing with the guy.
Finally as I became more experienced when a guy came I’d suggest getting naked immediately and let out animal instincts take over.
That worked! Within a minute once of us had something in our mouth or hand. Now we had more time to enjoy what we both knew what we were there for.
Any thoughts or suggestions?
 
I don’t break the ice by meeting someone in their home or car, etc, to get down to business. The ice is broken by meeting them for coffee, lunch, or a drink and some conversation. Sometimes that meeting is followed by going to their place or mine afterwards. Sometimes there’s another meeting scheduled at their place or mine for a let’s get naked date.

Sometimes there’s just a “nice meeting you, have a good day” conclusion.

TL,DR. I don’t just dive in the pool. But, if I sense a good connection, I’m not reluctant to jump into the deep end quickly.
 
I don’t break the ice by meeting someone in their home or car, etc, to get down to business. The ice is broken by meeting them for coffee, lunch, or a drink and some conversation. Sometimes that meeting is followed by going to their place or mine afterwards. Sometimes there’s another meeting scheduled at their place or mine for a let’s get naked date.

Sometimes there’s just a “nice meeting you, have a good day” conclusion.

TL,DR. I don’t just dive in the pool. But, if I sense a good connection, I’m not reluctant to jump into the deep end quickly.
Since I don’t do this a lot (2yrs since the last one) I don’t have time to drag it out. If I do I’ll lose the urge or nerve in a day or two.
 
When I first met my panty buddy, we had a quick drink at the hotel bar. swapped worn panties under the counter and we couldnt finish our drinks quickly enough. The moment I had her panties in my hand I was rock hard. Once in the room our instinct just took over. For me the swapping of panties was the ice breaker.
 
When I first met my panty buddy, we had a quick drink at the hotel bar. swapped worn panties under the counter and we couldnt finish our drinks quickly enough. The moment I had her panties in my hand I was rock hard. Once in the room our instinct just took over. For me the swapping of panties was the ice breaker.
Check please! Lol
 
It’s still a work in progress.
Well, that's what my advice would have been. "Just get to the point."

I had one of those times, myself, once, where I went to a guy's house and I guess I felt like I was trying to settle down and get comfortable first. After more than an hour of small-talk, he clearly found all that unnecessary and said, "So listen, can I suck your dick or what?"

Now I just get right to the point without self-consciousness about it.
 
It can be a nerve wracking experience when meeting up for a same sex discrete hookup. I used to try small talk, but then I’d talk too much.
I tried porn, but couldn’t concentrate, because I was thinking about playing with the guy.
Finally as I became more experienced when a guy came I’d suggest getting naked immediately and let out animal instincts take over.
That worked! Within a minute once of us had something in our mouth or hand. Now we had more time to enjoy what we both knew what we were there for.
Any thoughts or suggestions?
Good advice, getting naked would be a great ice breaker
 
It’s easy for me. Usually follow him into living room or bedroom. Little small talking not much and when we get there I usually will strip down to panties and begin playing with his cock. Whether it’s in his shorts still or it’s been spring free.
 
I have found that the small talk happens in a couple texts. Met a new guy a couple weeks ago at his house. We heading straight to his bedroom. He immediately started undressing as I did. When i started to pull my panties down he reached for my cock and started sucking.
We then wound up on the bed together, fully enjoying each other’s cocks. I’ll be going back for the 3rd time Monday afternoon.
 
You could do something silly like taking a block of ice to his house and smashing it.

Yes, that's from the taking idioms literally videos.
 
Walked into the home of a man I met thru an app. Shook his hand, said hi. He said follow me to my room. We walked in, he stripped and got on the bed. He started playing with himself as I sat on a chair in the corner and started undressing myself. Finally got up the courage to walk to his bed and the fun started. Pretty simple first time for me.
 
With the most recent buddy that I've made, we had chatted via text a bit. When I finally went over to his house, I made it clear that my only expectation of our meet up was a good chat and a cold beer. We had the beer and talked about how we started with bi play and some of our fantasies and likes. We openly acknowledged how funny and awkward it was the first time you met a new guy, and that we were both nervous and horny.

I suggested that take our pants off and jack off together, and we could watch each other. We both stripped our pants off and started stroking ourselves. Once we were both hard, we slid closer together and started stroking one another. He dropped his head and started sucking my cock. I let him suck me for a little while and then I returned the favor. Eventually, we went to his bedroom to 69 and get completely nude together. I ended up sucking him until he blew his load in my mouth-then I straddled his chest and he blew me until I came. We then got dressed and finished our beers lol. Sometimes acknowledging the awkwardness and laughing it off is a great way to push past it.
 
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