How do you feel about friends with benefits?

[Pinktacokitty]

FWB relationships worked a lot better when I was in college than they seem to work now........

 

[Roleplay_LouiseUk]

F.w.b.

I've only had one friends with benefit throughout the 3 years that I have experienced my sexual desires and have enjoyed their company throughly however I always find that most guys don't express to me total honesty when it came to 'ending' the mutual agreement. I always seem to find guys who say that they are after more and after a one night of passion... They never seem to be interested anymore but will keep texting to say they are still interested now this is a bugger for me because it would be nice to have someone to tell me if I am shit in bed! Lol.

 

[Afterhours22]

Bump

hoping to get more from this thread....

I met up with my best friend yesterday. She told her husband that she needed to get groceries. I met her at the market and we had fun shopping together. While we were in the produce section, she would tease me a bit by softly stroking the cucumbers, bananas, zucchinis, and squash then look at me and give me a sly grin or trace her tongue across her lips. I thought I would going to cum in my pants right there. When we went out to the parking lot, after putting the groceries into her car, she pulled me inside, unzipped me, pulled out my cock and sucked the cum right out of me.

 

[Sweetandsinful]

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[Thefamiliar]

I havent had many not friends with benifits relationships. Infact only 3 one night stands. And cant really claim a commited relationship that lasted longer than 3 months before my exhusband. (14 yrs with that btw, when I go long, I go long)

I can't seem to enjoy myself without at least the friendship there. That seemed to work for me because I was fully aware nothing may ever come of it and if I felt myself growing attached I was honest and let them choose if they wished to procede. I still talk to almost half of them. (some are better kept at a distance these days due to life choices) But most I can call if I wish to. One became single and made the offer, our kids grew up together.

I only sleep with one guy at a time. My choice, though its always open if we arent commited officially. They just better not rub it in my face if they are opting for another instead of me. Nothing pisses me off more than being horny and knowing someone else is getting it and I am suffering.

My current guy, we knew each other two years before fwb, been doing it for 5 yrs now. Quite frankly hes the best one to date, friend and sex wise, im fine with the arrangement indefinitely, and great if it turns to something more. If it ends, well hell I will find someone better or just stay single. *shrug* Its nice not having all the attached relationship drama, though life sometimes makes it hard to hook up.

So can it work? Yes, but you have to know what you want out of life before you give it a go and be seriously honest with yourself. If it makes you cry more than laugh, its time to cut your losses. (yes, you may still cry a time or two, stupid emotions) Though, I love you has slipped out a few times from both of us...so maybe we are just pretending to be fwb nowdays...lol We truly dont qualify as a genuine relationship though. The thing that makes it work is really taking each other as you are. If your friends your friends, that part shouldnt change.

 

[saxyman26]

I'd love to have a FWB relationship. I seem to be moving around a lot, and (it seems to me), now that I'm in my mid-30s, women that I'm interested in (who are around my age0 seem to be unwilling to get involved sexually unless it's going to lead to a long term relationship.

Unfortunately, most of my single female friends don't seem willing to cross that line (at least with me).

 

[Runr4Life]

That's how I like things! I have 3 right now, and have 2 couples that I'm pretty active with. It's the best of both worlds, and works out great for all of us.

 

[Krane]

yes

i have had a few in my life with some really wonderful women....i miss it, and would love to have one now

 

[aluv]

It is a rare and wonderful find. I did have a few when single now I am trying to find a happily married couple like us.

 

[DonQuixoteindfw]

I've always thought this was an intrigueing type of relationship, but I don't think it would be right for me. I've had plenty of one night stands, but in any type of an on going relationship I think I would get too emotionally invested/involved and I would expect the same from my partner, but hey that's just who I am.

 

[perkyT]

I agree with some of the posters before me. There really needs to be an established friendship in place before sex is introduced. My second FWB relationship ended badly because he thought we were going to end up as a couple. As with any relationship, communication is the key.

 

[daddytom12]

As long as the ground rules are set and both understand what is expected and not expected the FWB is a great reationship

 

[NightL]

I came out of a bad relationship and was not ready for another. For a year or so I had six to call upon or be called upon by. I was very honest and stated that I was dating others. Three knew each other well. While I saw them as FWB, I am aware a couple of them would have preferred more. They were first and foremost friends and times were often spent just having a meal together or a picnic. It was a fun and busy time , and being pre-mobile phone days made it much easier to negotiate get-togethers without the disturbances of text messages etc.

One finally became a house-mate. I had one stipulation, if we were to share the house there would be no sex between us and we would continue dating others. The "no sex" lasted three days, but we did continue dating others for six months. Eventually we grew closer and happily made the decision together to announce that we were now an exclusive couple. We were together for eleven years, and eight years since our parting remain very close friends. No more benefits though. I FB chat with one other to this day.

There was the time I was socialising with three of them present. Suddenly they started teasing me and loudly compared notes. At least they discovered I gave them equal attention. Very funny times.

 

[Jessica_29]

I agree with some of the posters before me. There really needs to be an established friendship in place before sex is introduced. My second FWB relationship ended badly because he thought we were going to end up as a couple. As with any relationship, communication is the key.

My FWB is a lesbian, and knows we can never be a couple. I will always need cock, so that will never work. I also bond better with men, but I so desire pussy too. So it works out well for us.

(Well, except for her current SO hates me)

 

[thomasinfi]

I used to have two at the same time. They were also friends but didn't know that I was doing things with both of them. It went on for almost 3 years, then they both found actual boyfriends.

 

[ketrell]

Have had two relationships like this and they both ended well. I would have liked to have a relationship with either, but it never worked out that way. AM still friends with both of them, but the physical aspect is long gone.

 

[Afterhours22]

Missing my FWB.....

her husband got a job transfer that took them out of state..... I really miss her. As much as we are best friends, she and I both admitted if her marital circumstances were different, our relationship would have gone to the next level.

 

[FlutterFlye]

I have one at the moment, my first fwb, and I'm loving it. He lives some distance away which probably suits the situation as if he was nearer I could see myself developing strong feelings for him which would only complicate matters. At the moment I'm going with the flow - he makes me laugh, has a big cock and the sex and filth is amazing - feel completely comfortable with him when it comes to kinkiness which is what it's all about I guess.

 

[LovelLady4Ever]

I have two now. I do them at lunch in car(work 3rd) ot I bring them home and do them in my detached storage/garage atleast 4-5 times a week..

 

[foxpass]

The best possible arrangement until someone falls in love...

 

[30bandits]

The best possible arrangement until someone falls in love...

i promise not to...

 

[Jessica_29]

I had to move away from my FWB- almost two years now- and now see I should have appreciated that situation more while I had it .

I have even flown back to be with her since, and while it was awesome, it was still different. Long distant relationships are difficult.

If you ever do find yourself with a FWB, and it is working, my advice is to appreciate it while you have it.

 

[Image13]

Had a fwb and it was great for a little while but then she got to clingy. Such a shame she was a blast in bed

 

[skate and fuck]

It's hard to keep them in balance. Ive had a few, but the only one that worked with, like truly worked in the sense that we both valued the friendship as much as we enjoyed the sex was with a lesbian.

 

[gabriel16]

bump deserved here

A gracious and thankful bump