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How do you feel about friends with benefits?

Experience in Friends with Benefits

  • Never experienced, would NOT try it

    Votes: 11 2.9%

  • Never experienced, would like to though

    Votes: 121 32.4%

  • Have experienced, but turned out badly

    Votes: 17 4.5%

  • Have experienced, and would do it again

    Votes: 225 60.2%
  • Total voters
    374
I currently have one. This is my first one, mind you. She's been my best friend since we were knee-high to a grasshopper. We "dated" once in middle school but it hardly counts. Had a small awkward spell after that period but we came back together and we're better than ever. The "benefits" began a month or two ago. We weren't seeing anyone and we were hanging at her place playing video games and drinking (though I'm not normally the drinking type.) The kicker is that she's a lesbian in the open but a closet bisexual. Strangest thing I've ever heard but if it makes her happy then she's fine to carry on with whatever she likes. We were getting pretty toasty in her garage playing a game when I made some joke to her... I can't for the life of me remember what it was but I remember her response: "Oh please, man, we both know that at some point tonight I'm going to have your penis in my mouth. It's gonna happen so you might as well just lose your pants now." I of course thought she was kidding but sure enough not even twenty minutes later we were in one of the bedrooms of her home with my pants on the floor and her lips hungrily sliding up and down on me. It became sort of a regular thing but we both made it clear that we are not in a relationship and should we ever become that way then our "benefits" as it were go on hold. In short if it's well managed and maintained this can be quite a good thing. We joke about it often, even if only subtly, and we've never been closer (but neither of us has become attached or clingy).
 
One of the things I've always liked about FWB relationships is that there is no obligation to hang around with the person after the sex. If he has to hurry and leave after we finish, then fine. There are no hard feelings if I need to kick him out because I have to work on something that is coming due. There is no real "us" that we need to plan around.
 
I'm having a FWB date tonight that, barring some disaster, will end in a raucous roll in the hay. He's an old bf from over a decade ago that I 'met' again on Facebook. He's somewhat recently divorced, and he's in town for a couple of days. I suggested that dinner and drinks would be nice, and he agreed. I hinted that the evening could end the way it usually did back in the day, and he responded by mentioning an old memory that made me blush. This ought to be fun.
 
BongoGal said:
I'm having a FWB date tonight that, barring some disaster, will end in a raucous roll in the hay. He's an old bf from over a decade ago that I 'met' again on Facebook. He's somewhat recently divorced, and he's in town for a couple of days. I suggested that dinner and drinks would be nice, and he agreed. I hinted that the evening could end the way it usually did back in the day, and he responded by mentioning an old memory that made me blush. This ought to be fun.
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Nice!
 
I think FWB is a great concept as long as both parties are on the same page. I'd worry about getting too attached.
 
I've never had a friend with benefits although I have had some friends I would have enjoyed being with.
 
What if you could have a FWB that is married, without the spouses knowledge?
 
I've never had a FWB but I'm pretty sure that it would work out good (;
 
DallasDonna said:
What if you could have a FWB that is married, without the spouses knowledge?
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Intriguing that you would ask that..*****bably just my filthy mind at work....cute young girl, neglected spouse....

To answer your question I guess in practice I don't like it much. I had a married woman flirting hard with me about a year ago..my sense of morals was a little iffy about it, and it seemed we just talked about the possibilities and I didn't "close the deal". She was however having a BWB, (Boss with Benefits) and a COWB (CoWorker With Benefits), so it wasn't like her marriage was exactly in pristine shape.

Her hubby was one of my co-workers and seemed to like arguing with me about things...she told me once that he once remarked, "Of all the guys up here Query is the only one I DON'T worry about. " That could be taken either as my fine apparent sense of integrity or his idea that I am unattractive. I actually think it was meant condescendingly. He is rather tall and I'm only about the same height as his (now EX) wife.

Once she finally decided top divorce him she friend-zoned me so I'm kind of glad I didn't follow through.

I have limited time each month in the big city where getting laid is even a possibility. I'm not exactly going to tell a girl to keep it on lock-down pining away for me for the maybe one day a month together and an hour or two on maybe a few other occasions coming and going. So, some of my FWB's have had some sort of relationship, either at the time we met, or after we have been involved...sometimes the consummation of same doesn't always align neatly with the terms of whatever they have going headed towards a permanent relations ship...but I'm not thrilled to have them hit it and quit it...I know as a guy I'm supposed to be thrilled to get some and not have to kick them out of bed in the morning, but sometimes a girl..i mean a guy needs a cuddle.
 
Deprived_in_AZ said:
I think FWB is a great concept as long as both parties are on the same page. I'd worry about getting too attached.
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Definately a risk... Need to be open up front that your both in it only for the benefits... Keep time together controlled I guess....
 
Newer experience for me. I love it. Perfect man, perfect lover. But not the partner I am looking for. I realized this only after he rejected me. I proposed the fwb.... And I'm sooo glad I did.
 
Seasidegal said:
Newer experience for me. I love it. Perfect man, perfect lover. But not the partner I am looking for. I realized this only after he rejected me. I proposed the fwb.... And I'm sooo glad I did.
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I hope you find that right partner soon. :rose:
 
BongoGal said:
One of the things I've always liked about FWB relationships is that there is no obligation to hang around with the person after the sex. If he has to hurry and leave after we finish, then fine. There are no hard feelings if I need to kick him out because I have to work on something that is coming due. There is no real "us" that we need to plan around.
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I agree with BongoGirl completely.
 
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