How do you give/respond to Direction?

[zipman]

I'm open to suggestion.

And direction

 

[Desdemona]

And direction

Naturally.

 

[MissTaken]

*bump*

 

[MissTaken]

I guess I never answered this one.

Hmmm I am not a slave. When I toyyed with the idea, I found that many directions seemed silly or intrusive on my work life or my mommydom. So, I honestly, would tell the Dom whether or not I completed the task. This was all during a period of growth and confusion for me.

Now, when in scene, yes, I follow directions well. A Dom who enjoys a bratty sub, won't find it here!

 

[Ebonyfire]

Bump

 

[Goddess Helena]

Dom/mes:
How do you provide direction, goals, rules, and orders to ensure your sub/slave/bottom's obedience?

I am respectful of My boy and mindful of his gift of submission. I am firm in the rules that I set for him. I praise him when he does well and show him the proper way of doing things when he errs. I use his name when I give a command. I am consistant in My wishes and desires.

In some ways, just as Y/you would train a dog.

Originally posted by EbonyFire
Dom/mes how do you handle defiance? Do you tolerate it?

My current boy is very willing to serve Me and desires to be pleasing in all things. Defiance is not an issue with this boy. He is always mindful that My domination is also a gift.

I do not tolerate more than a momentary bit of defiance.
I do understand that a sub may wish to be spanked and will try to get one as a punishment. While I do not care for such behavior, I do understand it.

If a boy is not willing to do what I wish, he does not need to serve Me.


I also make a point of talking with My boy. Making sure that W/we are on the same page regarding O/our relationship and O/our needs and desires. If W/we do not understand what the O/other wants, things will not work well. Like in any kind of relationship, communication is key.


Helena

 

[catalina_francisco]

.....often subs have fantasies of submission, and thoughts of flowers and roses. They do not think that somedays they may not like what they are asked to do. It is easy to submit to your kink. But not so easy to submit when you would rather not.

Fantasy is easy; reality is challenging.

If you believe submission is a gift, then what is it's value if it is a simple task and anyone can do it? The same can be said for Dominance.

Eb

One of the Eb pearls of wisdom I miss coming across when I least expect it.....great thread topic and discussion.

Catalina

 

[AngelicAssassin]

... often subs have fantasies of submission, and thoughts of flowers and roses. They do not think that somedays they may not like what they are asked to do. It is easy to submit to your kink. But not so easy to submit when you would rather not.

Fantasy is easy; reality is challenging.

That's a Black Sea Pearl for sure.

If you believe submission is a gift, then what is it's value if it is a simple task and anyone can do it? The same can be said for Dominance.

Eb

About 2 cents ... from either direction.