How do you over come your emotional scares?

[lil_slave_rose]

I know that I need professional help. I figured it was a bad as it was because I held all my feelings inside for so long, that once I fell in love with him, I couldn't hold back all the other feelings I had. I wasn't fair to either of us. He is a great person, he has helped me so much, and I know that once I can deal with what my brother did, i'll be in the frame of mind I should have been in in the first place. What we have is special, and worth working on.

seeking professional help is a great first step, but it will not make everything better, in fact, it is something you will deal with for the rest of your life....but in getting the help you need,you will learn HOW to deal with the issues when they come up. i was a very small child when it happened to me, i'm 29 now,and it still haunts me.....BUT....seek the help, and learn to deal with the issues, it does make it easier..and the first step is knowing you did nothing wrong, and what he did to you was his fault. for me, that was hard to accept.....good luck to you, and if you ever need to chat, i'm here.....

 

[s'lara]

i think it takes a different treatment "cocktail" for each person who is emotionally scarred or scared. By cocktail, all i mean is a mixture of different methods to achieve a healthy emotional state.

i don't think what works for others will work for everyone. But, recognizing that emotional problems must be addressed is a good first start. Good luck to all.

lara

 

[SexSweetheart]

with time and energy in the write direction

 

[Evil_Geoff]

The other day me and my PYL were doing a scene, and at one point, I broke down in tears. ...

Hi cute,

I know I'm coming into this kinda late, but what happened here is often refered to within the scene as "hitting a landmine". When we set off that totally unexpected emotional bomb in our partner it can throw us for a real emotional loop too.

It can happen to anyone, it has happened to most of us at one time or another. Your BF/PYL may not have the training or experience to effectively help you process this and deal with the aftermath. It's hard for me sometimes and I was a cop for 17 years, had several classes in crisis intervention, and lots of street experience talking people down out of emotional hot spots.

And I get lots of practice with janey who's bi-polar on top of her PTSD from her military service (she's one of the very female sailors who got into actual firefights during Desert Storm, SeaBees got shot at a lot...).

He can help, but you, dear girl, will have to do the brunt of the work. You've taken some big steps so far, I know you can go the rest of the way. Best of luck hon! {{{{{HUG}}}}}