onyxvixen
Really Experienced
- Joined
- Sep 16, 2006
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- 228
I have a friend who skydives, she gets an almost sexual thrill from the act of hurling herself out of a plane at fuckknowshowmanythousand feet and gliding to the ground under a parachute to land fuckknowswhere. She accepts that every dive is a risk and that each dive may be her last. Weirdo. *shakes head*
I on the other hand get a very sexual thrill out of being Dominant. I try to keep it from being life threatening (though for an accurate assessment you should ask one of the subs I've played with
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I'm a female Domme, black, gay, born in the UK, I break more than a few social norms just by breathing in and out. I have fought my share of demons over the years and have come to the conclusion that I'm never going to be a paragon of Britishness; a white, middle class, heterosexual, happily married, equal partner with 2.4 children and a dog.
To see me at work you would see a conservatively dressed, well spoken, mild mannered, business centre manager. My lifestyle now is nicely middle class.
To see me with my working class family you would see a laid back west indian with an accent to match, respectful of my mother. A loving daughter and sibling.
To see me with a sub you would see a confident Domme, sexy, sassy and in absolute control, getting my rocks off. Even then, the level of play and how rough I am depends entirely upon the submissive. They always hold the aces.
All these people are me. They are all genuine and also, to a degree, all facades. My dominant side has no bearing on the rest of my life, I bully and oppress nobody who doesn't beg for it naked at my feet. I see it as nobody else's business. The subs I play with, similarly, are generally well adjusted, confident people in their every day lives, their other personas.
Everybody does something that other people think is insane, like skydiving. Life would be thoroughly dull without insanity and eccentricity.
Don't forget either, that submissive women used to be the norm. It's in the Bible, the Koran, and so on. It was traditional to view a man's word as law. Your father's until you married and then your husband's. It oppressed many but worked for many too. For some people it still works. I know a muslim lady who married her husband at her parents' direction without meeting him beforehand. She obeys him in all things and by all accounts is happy and (six months on) madly in love. For her, it works.
Be true to yourself and you'll always have a friend who never lies.
I on the other hand get a very sexual thrill out of being Dominant. I try to keep it from being life threatening (though for an accurate assessment you should ask one of the subs I've played with
)I'm a female Domme, black, gay, born in the UK, I break more than a few social norms just by breathing in and out. I have fought my share of demons over the years and have come to the conclusion that I'm never going to be a paragon of Britishness; a white, middle class, heterosexual, happily married, equal partner with 2.4 children and a dog.
To see me at work you would see a conservatively dressed, well spoken, mild mannered, business centre manager. My lifestyle now is nicely middle class.
To see me with my working class family you would see a laid back west indian with an accent to match, respectful of my mother. A loving daughter and sibling.
To see me with a sub you would see a confident Domme, sexy, sassy and in absolute control, getting my rocks off. Even then, the level of play and how rough I am depends entirely upon the submissive. They always hold the aces.
All these people are me. They are all genuine and also, to a degree, all facades. My dominant side has no bearing on the rest of my life, I bully and oppress nobody who doesn't beg for it naked at my feet. I see it as nobody else's business. The subs I play with, similarly, are generally well adjusted, confident people in their every day lives, their other personas.
Everybody does something that other people think is insane, like skydiving. Life would be thoroughly dull without insanity and eccentricity.
Don't forget either, that submissive women used to be the norm. It's in the Bible, the Koran, and so on. It was traditional to view a man's word as law. Your father's until you married and then your husband's. It oppressed many but worked for many too. For some people it still works. I know a muslim lady who married her husband at her parents' direction without meeting him beforehand. She obeys him in all things and by all accounts is happy and (six months on) madly in love. For her, it works.
Be true to yourself and you'll always have a friend who never lies.
