Corylea
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It depends on the sub, of course. Tailored punishments can be quite interesting. 
I've never actually had to punish someone, because my experience with submissives is that they WANT to please their dom -- sometimes they want to please you more than is actually good for them. Still, I have thought of punishments for a sub before, because I find that submissives want to know that I'm serious enough about our relationship to have thought of punishments for them.
The man with whom I had the longest D/S relationship was partly transgendered, in that he was physically male -- and was definitely NOT trying to pass, since he had a full, bushy beard -- but he wore "women's" clothes all the time. He wore skirts to places where *I* wouldn't wear a skirt, like the auto repair shop.
And that suggested a psychologically painful but physically innocuous punishment: if he intentionally disobeyed (as opposed to fucking up because, well, people make mistakes, or because of circumstances), then he would be required to wear men's underwear for a period of time, length of time dependent on the severity of the transgression.
I figured that I had no right to mess with his public identity as a partly transgendered person, which is why I specified underwear; only he would know that he was wearing men's underwear. But he WOULD know, and that knowledge would burn.
When he asked me how I would punish him if he disobeyed, I told him this, and he was quite pleased. This potential punishment told him that 1) yes, I was serious about this D/S stuff, and 2) I saw him clearly and thought about who he was; I was playing with HIM and not with Some Generic Submissive (as so many doms seem to).
So I found punishment to be an important aspect of that relationship, even though I never had to apply it. God, people are interesting!
I've never actually had to punish someone, because my experience with submissives is that they WANT to please their dom -- sometimes they want to please you more than is actually good for them. Still, I have thought of punishments for a sub before, because I find that submissives want to know that I'm serious enough about our relationship to have thought of punishments for them.
The man with whom I had the longest D/S relationship was partly transgendered, in that he was physically male -- and was definitely NOT trying to pass, since he had a full, bushy beard
-- but he wore "women's" clothes all the time. He wore skirts to places where *I* wouldn't wear a skirt, like the auto repair shop.And that suggested a psychologically painful but physically innocuous punishment: if he intentionally disobeyed (as opposed to fucking up because, well, people make mistakes, or because of circumstances), then he would be required to wear men's underwear for a period of time, length of time dependent on the severity of the transgression.
I figured that I had no right to mess with his public identity as a partly transgendered person, which is why I specified underwear; only he would know that he was wearing men's underwear. But he WOULD know, and that knowledge would burn.
When he asked me how I would punish him if he disobeyed, I told him this, and he was quite pleased. This potential punishment told him that 1) yes, I was serious about this D/S stuff, and 2) I saw him clearly and thought about who he was; I was playing with HIM and not with Some Generic Submissive (as so many doms seem to).
So I found punishment to be an important aspect of that relationship, even though I never had to apply it. God, people are interesting!
