How does a fetish start?

[Goldenfinger]

Pretty easily. But after talking to many on here, a lot have fetishes that aren’t realized. What I mean by that is it’s a fetish they think about but don’t or haven’t experienced.

 

[nutoseen]

mine started...

I have certain things that always turn me on, that I think about about.

I wonder how fetishes become fetishes? was it an event, or an idea?

best i can remember mine started when a girl that was blowing me told me her boyfriends dick was bigger then mine but gave me best bj of my life. she sucked it and compared us and sucked me and talked about us both. and tantalized and teased me until i was putty in her hands. lots of good stuff came from that.

 

[loveupskirt]

In spite of my u.n. I am not into sneaky shit, cameras, or mirrors. But I DO love legs, dresses and skirts, heels, hosiery, etc. I was shown off to (on purpose) by a sexy older lady in a dress in a small aiport when I was in my 20's. She had on stockings and garters under that dress. Couldn't tell for sure if panties or not. Never been the same since.

 

[SmokeInMyEyes]

Pretty easily. But after talking to many on here, a lot have fetishes that aren’t realized. What I mean by that is it’s a fetish they think about but don’t or haven’t experienced.

The more I think about it, the more I become convinced that what I think of as "my fetishes" are actually kinks. In my mind, a fetish should be something you require to achieve even the slightest fulfillment from an activity. Kinks, otoh, are those things which further enhance activities you already enjoy.

I'll be the first to admit that it excites me no end to be locked in chastity, then pantied and pegged by my wife. She needs only promise me a femdom session for the prospects to set me on edge. But should those plans turn to mush as things tend to do and all I get is vanilla sex, I guarantee I'll still get off like any teenage boy before I'm done!

Personally, I think I showed her Sunday evening that I can still do vanilla like a virtuoso. At least, I didn't get any complaints . . .

 

[AlexBailey]

The more I think about it, the more I become convinced that what I think of as "my fetishes" are actually kinks. In my mind, a fetish should be something you require to achieve even the slightest fulfillment from an activity. Kinks, otoh, are those things which further enhance activities you already enjoy.

Interesting. Under that definition I don't have any 'fetishes,' - after looking up definitions and comparisons it appears that because I still enjoy all kinds of vanilla sex, all of my issues are kinks, not fetishes.


Here's one of many articles that agree with that definition:
https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/kink-vs-fetish

"Kinks are more about exploration and variety, whereas a fetish is a sexual necessity.

Oftentimes, kinks overlap with fetishes, but what separates the two depends on whether the behavior or item is required for sexual arousal."


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fetish
[ˈfediSH]
NOUN
1. a form of sexual desire in which gratification is strongly linked to a particular object or activity or a part of the body other than the sexual organs.

2. an excessive and irrational devotion or commitment to a particular thing.

3. an inanimate object worshiped for its supposed magical powers or because it is considered to be inhabited by a spirit.
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My fetishes would all fall under definition 2 above which does not specify anything sexual.

Has Literotica cured me of my fatishes? It seems I'm more of a kinkster than a fetiahist.

 

[SmokeInMyEyes]

Interesting. Under that definition I don't have any 'fetishes,' - after looking up definitions and comparisons it appears that because I still enjoy all kinds of vanilla sex, all of my issues are kinks, not fetishes.


Here's one of many articles that agree with that definition:
https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/kink-vs-fetish

"Kinks are more about exploration and variety, whereas a fetish is a sexual necessity.

Oftentimes, kinks overlap with fetishes, but what separates the two depends on whether the behavior or item is required for sexual arousal."


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fetish
[ˈfediSH]
NOUN
1. a form of sexual desire in which gratification is strongly linked to a particular object or activity or a part of the body other than the sexual organs.

2. an excessive and irrational devotion or commitment to a particular thing.

3. an inanimate object worshiped for its supposed magical powers or because it is considered to be inhabited by a spirit.
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My fetishes would all fall under definition 2 above which does not specify anything sexual.

Has Literotica cured me of my fatishes? It seems I'm more of a kinkster than a fetiahist.

Sorta nice to know, isn't it, that it turns out we're sorta normal?

Sorta speaking, of course . . .

 

[Hipshot1554]

Don't know if they were fetishes but my first lover was much older and had a thing for my feet and now I just prefer older men and love having my feet played with. I don't know if my first lover had different interests or was closer to my age if things would be different.

Maybe it's just something you discovered you enjoy and you relate it to older men.

 

[Reshbod]

For me the seed was planted in one of my first semesters in college. A group of us were talking either before or between classes. One of the young women, and I have no idea how we got on the topic, mentioned her creepy step-father had VHS tapes of women wetting their pants.

I pretty much forgot about it until years later when the internet became a thing. This was back before graphical user interface and it could take an hour to download a picture. At some point I remembered the story and looked to see if it was a thing. At first it was a curiosity, but my interest grew. I do consider it more of a kink than fetish as mentioned below, because I can go a while without thinking about it. At some point it comes back and I'm interested in it again.

I'm even in the process of writing a wetting/diaper story and hope to finish it soon.

 

[Goldenfinger]

Sorta nice to know, isn't it, that it turns out we're sorta normal?

Sorta speaking, of course . . .

I’m not thinking even sorta, Smoke.

 

[ShelbyDreamzz]

I have certain things that always turn me on, that I think about about.

I wonder how fetishes become fetishes? was it an event, or an idea?

My kinks generally start when the person I'm with gets super turned on by something. An act,a situation, an object,a desire..whatever it is grabs my attention and curiosity. Then occasionally I become obsessed and their kink becomes mine.

Fetishes I have are just there. I guess they come from deep in my brain and body. I don't know why I'm into it. Just am..?

 

[MarriedManny]

Well I have a few big ones, but my foot fetish first started when I was younger. I had this female friend whose feet I loved to smell, but also I loved to tickle them. She hated it, but I didn't really get why at the time.

The second one is ENF (embarrassed nude females.) This one started from carry on films and the scene in fantastic four 2 where sue ends up naked in public. I dunno why, but female nudity especially if she is embarrassed just does it for me. Something about her exposing herself is so hot.

Probably for the best I was born a guy otherwise I would be ending up naked in public a lot.

 

[Sgts19]

Old old thread but killing time and looking at old ones. Guess my fetish started in college when I watched my recently broke up girlfriend being fucked..she dumped me. Found myself extremely heartbroken but at the same time hard as a fucking rock. Ended up jerking off watching them. Now for many years I've gotten of thinking about and actually seeing and hearing my wife with a few other men. Still seems to excite me like nothing else