How many couples have open relationships?

[Tungwagger]

Re: Re: Open Relationships

Hi all, Amy here....

I am new to this site, but wanted to reply to some of Tungwaggers questions and share a little bit about our experiences.

Hubby and I are 34/30, have been together for over 8 years now, and have been swinging for the last 2 years. Like everyone else, we never thought we'd be doing this but we are secure in our love and our relationship with each other and we're having a great time with it!

Our first experience was FMF with a married girlfriend of mine. We all had a great time and played very well together on numerous occasions, but I am not bi, so Eric and I decided to "expand our horizons" and talk with other couples so that we could all play together an not worry about anyone feeling left out. Since then, we have been lucky enough to meet up with two great couples that we get together with when our schedules allow (which is not often enough!)

We have no set routine at all when we meet up with either couple - we have gotten together in the same bed, different beds in the same room, and different rooms altogether.

Although the main reason we got into this at first was to experience it together, we discovered that it can be just as fun to for both of us even if only one of us has an encounter, so we have "allowed" each other to meet up with other people individually also. No sex was involved with my individual meetings (at least not yet - although my fingers are crossed!) but hubby did partake when he met up with someone, and it has not been an issue at all.

We abide by the same "rules" when meeting people individually as we do when we meet people together. And the issue of trust and commitment between a couple is something that's got to be settled before any type of encounter.

As for preferences, we both prefer that our "friends" be married, regardless of whether we meet individually or together - as it reduces the risk of messy social and/or emotional issues arising down the road.

Sorry for the long message - guess I got carried away - lol. But I look forward to reading other replies and opinions about the subject....

No problem on the lengthy reply...and Sabbath....you can hijack my thread anytime......that way it stays fresh...hehehe

Amyanderic, I agree with everything you say...we will probably just incorporate separate room swinging into our activities at this time....with the understanding that should a spontaneous situation occur then we are free to act on it....

It seems that as we meet couples and discuss different aspects of the lifestyle with them, we encounter too many hangups that tend to make us leery about playing with them.Nor do I wish any longer to place my wife in a situation where she feels that she has to be someone she's not in order to please, just so I get my pleasure. We still go to our favorite swing club, and talk with couples, but have still not met the couple yet that we wish to form a long term friendship with.

And because we want to remain in the lifestyle, we are just exploring different boundaries that will work for us. Both of us are aware of the potential pitfalls, and it may not work. But we love each other enough to try anything that is within our interests.

Thanks again, and look forward to more opinions...

 

[Tungwagger]

Re: Re: How many couples have open relationships?

1 Yes we have talked about
2 Yes we have gone through with it
3 I personally have found that other married people are better to consider for having a brief sexual fling with as they just seemed to appreciate the boundaries better.

I think to agree to this in the first place your relationship with your partner has to a very honest and open one. Communicating between the both of you is very important.

Sorry cherry for overlooking you earlier...

The only reason we don't really want to have encounters on an individual basis is because we don't want to accomodate someone else's desire to cheat on their spouse....But I do understand that while a single person may claim to want a "no strings attached" encounter....in the end it could be just talk...