How many women will not do anal because of a bad experience?

[stickygirl]

As keen as me? Not sure what that means. Are you referring to hygeine? No one complained because there was nothing to complain about. Either you are a clean person or you are not. If you take a bath or shower every day i don't see where there should be a problem.

The only dealbreaker for me would be if i bent her over and it was filthy back there. Poor hygeine is not only a turnoff it is disgusting and it is grounds for an immediate break up.

We're getting off topic but I think I see where you're coming from

 

[LadyVer]

It is hard to be enema fresh and anal ready at all times.

Bingo.

 

[bigbrother1111]

Bingo.

No one expects any girl to be fresh and ready 24/7 for any kind of sex - not just anal.

 

[jhuson]

It is hard to be enema fresh and anal ready at all times.

That should be on a T-shirt...or a bumper sticker at the very least.

 

[April99]

At first I refused anal because in my first experience the guy just jammed it in my ass...no play or lube. Talk about painful. Then I had a wonderful boyfriend who I felt comfy with and introduced me to the right way to have anal sex. We bought some bum numb lube and he gently applied it around and inside my ass. Just thinking about how that feels is making me really wet! Anyway he slowly eased his cock in and out a little at a time. Finally after a few strokes he was all the way in and going to town on my ass...the feeling was incredible. Now I absolutely love it and prefer it sometimes over a guy fucking my pussy.*

 

[bigbrother1111]

At first I refused anal because in my first experience the guy just jammed it in my ass...no play or lube. Talk about painful. Then I had a wonderful boyfriend who I felt comfy with and introduced me to the right way to have anal sex. We bought some bum numb lube and he gently applied it around and inside my ass. Just thinking about how that feels is making me really wet! Anyway he slowly eased his cock in and out a little at a time. Finally after a few strokes he was all the way in and going to town on my ass...the feeling was incredible. Now I absolutely love it and prefer it sometimes over a guy fucking my pussy.*

This has been my experiance with most girls that like it. I am good enough i don't need the lube though.

 

[LadyVer]

No one expects any girl to be fresh and ready 24/7 for any kind of sex - not just anal.

The issue is that anal sex is not just a matter of using an enema and that solves the whole problem. If that was the case, all men would love being drilled anally.

 

[bigbrother1111]

The issue is that anal sex is not just a matter of using an enema and that solves the whole problem. If that was the case, all men would love being drilled anally.

LOL - like i said - the guy has to actually know what he is doing and actually care about not hurting the girl. As with all sex - i aim to give my girl nothing but pleasure AND i am not a selfish lover. Anal sex is not just for the guy to enjoy.

 

[stickygirl]

We'll whoopsie-do: not just for the guy to enjoy. I don't know if you're coming at this from a sub/dom angle but I'm not picking up anything other than you using a woman as an object for your dick. Now if she's up for that then fine but any guy wanting to put his dick in my ass better have better reasons than satisfying his own needs. Fuck that

 

[aaron2878]

That should be on a T-shirt...or a bumper sticker at the very least.

Lol!! I would probably buy both.

 

[Rozalin_0123]

This has been my experiance with most girls that like it. I am good enough i don't need the lube though.

The only way I see that possible is that every girl you've been with has primed their ass with toys, butt plugs etc. Or you are as thin as spaghetti.

Btw, you can be sparkly clean "down there" and still have messes, largely due to a person's diet. Ask any gay man if you feel I'm wrong.

 

[twister947]

I,I,I. Me, me, me.

 

[aaron2878]

The only way I see that possible is that every girl you've been with has primed their ass with toys, butt plugs etc. Or you are as thin as spaghetti.

Btw, you can be sparkly clean "down there" and still have messes, largely due to a person's diet. Ask any gay man if you feel I'm wrong.

You are absolutely correct, a woman or man can have great hygiene but could still have a mess if they are not clean on the inside. I personally have great hygiene but will not let a woman peg me if I didn't have time to clean myself on the inside.

 

[aaron2878]

At first I refused anal because in my first experience the guy just jammed it in my ass...no play or lube. Talk about painful. Then I had a wonderful boyfriend who I felt comfy with and introduced me to the right way to have anal sex. We bought some bum numb lube and he gently applied it around and inside my ass. Just thinking about how that feels is making me really wet! Anyway he slowly eased his cock in and out a little at a time. Finally after a few strokes he was all the way in and going to town on my ass...the feeling was incredible. Now I absolutely love it and prefer it sometimes over a guy fucking my pussy.*

I'm glad you found someone that actually knew what he was doing and trusted him enough to try it again.

 

[aaron2878]

[QUOTE=stickygirl;50503145]A bad experience could one of a number of things and it's proably best not to be too specific but I'd like to ask if the women who don't think it's icky, if it's a hygiene concern or if it's just painful?
Putting waste disposal next to recreation was never a great evolution development. Given the choice I'd prefer not to do anal - it's complcated though.

I find it a bit uncomfortable and it can be, hmmm, messy, Which I find embarrassing.[/QUOTE]

I agree with you on the messy part, I never do anal unless she is clean or if I'm getting anal I have cleaned myself. Have had it happen once and will never do it again, I was really embarrassed that I left a mess afterwards even though she was cool about the situation.

 

[bigbrother1111]

The only way I see that possible is that every girl you've been with has primed their ass with toys, butt plugs etc. Or you are as thin as spaghetti.

Btw, you can be sparkly clean "down there" and still have messes, largely due to a person's diet. Ask any gay man if you feel I'm wrong.

Well you are wrong on both accounts, i have never ever had anything like that happen.

 

[Rozalin_0123]

Well you are wrong on both accounts, i have never ever had anything like that happen.

Well since I'm wrong I guess all women should get on our knees and worship your not thin penis as God's gift to our buttholes

And I could bombard you with facts regarding diet and it's relationship to a person's colon. But the sheer grossness of it would completely derail the topic more than it already has. So I'm dropping it.

Back to topic, see my first post if you've had a bad experience but may consider another go at it.

 

[chargergirl]

Yeah, I don't think the OP was looking to discuss dirty colons.

This question goes out to the women who have had a bad experience their first time, or any time and now won't do anal sex. Men, I don't mind getting responses from you about your wife or girlfriend either. I ask this question because I have had a couple of partners that will not even think about anal sex because of someone else. It's not a must have for me, I'm just curious who else falls in this category.

Rozalin, thank you for trying to get the thread back on track.

 

[bigbrother1111]

We'll whoopsie-do: not just for the guy to enjoy. I don't know if you're coming at this from a sub/dom angle but I'm not picking up anything other than you using a woman as an object for your dick. Now if she's up for that then fine but any guy wanting to put his dick in my ass better have better reasons than satisfying his own needs. Fuck that

Can you not read lady? I just said i was not selfish - i have never treated a woman like that - and you know what screw you for acting like that - i expect an apology from you.

 

[bigbrother1111]

Well since I'm wrong I guess all women should get on our knees and worship your not thin penis as God's gift to our buttholes

And I could bombard you with facts regarding diet and it's relationship to a person's colon. But the sheer grossness of it would completely derail the topic more than it already has. So I'm dropping it.

Back to topic, see my first post if you've had a bad experience but may consider another go at it.

Wow - what ever lady. Screw you and your insults. I would give you an oppurtunity to aplogize but who cares you are not worth my time.

Just because you don't like doesn't mean you should come in and try to convince others to not like it. I am done with this conversation as you guys seem to think your point of view is the only one that matters, good day.

 

[twister947]

Bye bye.

 

[Rozalin_0123]

Wow - what ever lady. Screw you and your insults. I would give you an oppurtunity to aplogize but who cares you are not worth my time.

Just because you don't like doesn't mean you should come in and try to convince others to not like it. I am done with this conversation as you guys seem to think your point of view is the only one that matters, good day.

Can you read sir? I was encouraging those who had a bad experience their first time to give it another shot by giving them advice based on my own experience. And I never meant what I said to be insulting, just needed to take your ego down a peg. Bye bye

Back to topic AGAIN: my first experience was very painful because A: I was afraid and that made me tense, B: we used no lube and finally and most importantly, C: we didn't communicate well with each other. To his credit, he tried easing in very slowly but when I needed a moment to adjust I didn't tell him to stop. I didn't want to disappoint, so grit my teeth and took it. DO NOT DO THIS! Don't do what we usually do and lie during sex (yes men, we lie A LOT for YOUR pleasure).

Bottom line: with communication, paitence, practice and a bit of before hand knowledge you may come to like it as I have

 

[gdub31]

My girlfriend asked me about it. My personal opinion is it's allright to do once or twice, but as a guy, I'd rather have regular sex. it feels a lot better and you don't have to do with your girlfriend telling u to hurry up the whole time.

 

[CLK5002005]

Insert Anger Management 101 & 102 for someone who blew something way out of proportion.

 

[stickygirl]

Back to topic AGAIN: my first experience was very painful because A: I was afraid and that made me tense, B: we used no lube and finally and most importantly, C: we didn't communicate well with each other. To his credit, he tried easing in very slowly but when I needed a moment to adjust I didn't tell him to stop. I didn't want to disappoint, so grit my teeth and took it. DO NOT DO THIS! Don't do what we usually do and lie during sex (yes men, we lie A LOT for YOUR pleasure).

Bottom line: with communication, paitence, practice and a bit of before hand knowledge you may come to like it as I have

I just feel that anal, and all its preparation, is something you decide to 'do' like finding your walking boots when you decide to go for a hike. It always feels like it's an off-route detour. Detours can be fun, but sometimes you just want to do the normal things; hopefully come like a train-crash along the way and feel something positive emotionally. I like doing it, but there is always a nagging worry in my mind as to what happens when he withdraws. You need to trust someone completely and know you're not going to be made to feel guilty if the unlikely event that 'things go wrong'.

Surely we all know there is a potential downside to anal and I've tried to avoid stating the obvious. For me, the 'obvious' can get in the way of having fun and can empathise with anyone wishing to avoid it for that reason alone.