How many women will not do anal because of a bad experience?

[StrongMaster7]

As a 53 year old man, I want to chime in here.

I have known a lot of women over the years and talked about sex to many more than I ever had any sexual contact with. And exactly ONE out of hundreds, would allow anal sex. Let me be clear, 99.99% of the women I have personally known say that there is no way they would ever do anything with their butts sexually.

Furthermore, I have talked to many of my guy friends about sex and I have never had any of them tell me about first-hand experience with a women who was into anal sex.

I think this is one of those topics that is HIGHLY skewed by the fact that this is a VERY liberal, sexually speaking, website.

For years I tried to coerce, cajole, bribe and beg my wife to let me put my average sized cock into her ass. I offered foreplay, lube, alcohol and every other way I could think of to ease her into it, to no avail. I finally gave up.

It is my opinion that the vast majority of women out there are very conservative sexually. Most don't watch porn and would never visit this website. God bless the exceptions. God bless the women on this website. They are rare birds indeed. Yes, there are some very highly-sexed women out there, but they are, in my opinion, one in a million, literally.

I do agree with the premise of this thread that early bad experiences put lots of women off of anal and other sex. My wife won't even talk about the bad experiences she had in her younger days with guys who had big cocks who hurt her trying to have regular sex. I think that may be pretty common too.

If you are a guy who watches a lot of porn and spends a lot of time on Lit or other sex-themed websites, your view of women's sexual desires may be a bit skewed.

 

[twister947]

I'm 66, and have had ~30 lovers. Of those, 6 enjoyed anal, and my current love has indicated she wants to try it when the time is right. So, that's more like one in five.

 

[stickygirl]

As a 53 year old man, I want to chime in here.

I have known a lot of women over the years and talked about sex to many more than I ever had any sexual contact with. And exactly ONE out of hundreds, would allow anal sex. Let me be clear, 99.99% of the women I have personally known say that there is no way they would ever do anything with their butts sexually.

If you are a guy who watches a lot of porn and spends a lot of time on Lit or other sex-themed websites, your view of women's sexual desires may be a bit skewed.

Thank you for your breath of reality

 

[littlecordelera]

I absolutely love anal sex, but it has to be done right. And when it is done correctly, it is supreme!

 

[chargergirl]

Thank you for your breath of reality

Ditto! There are some real, definite gems out here.

 

[fireplugm]

As a 53 year old man, I want to chime in here.

I have known a lot of women over the years and talked about sex to many more than I ever had any sexual contact with. And exactly ONE out of hundreds, would allow anal sex. Let me be clear, 99.99% of the women I have personally known say that there is no way they would ever do anything with their butts sexually.

Furthermore, I have talked to many of my guy friends about sex and I have never had any of them tell me about first-hand experience with a women who was into anal sex.

I think this is one of those topics that is HIGHLY skewed by the fact that this is a VERY liberal, sexually speaking, website.

For years I tried to coerce, cajole, bribe and beg my wife to let me put my average sized cock into her ass. I offered foreplay, lube, alcohol and every other way I could think of to ease her into it, to no avail. I finally gave up.

It is my opinion that the vast majority of women out there are very conservative sexually. Most don't watch porn and would never visit this website. God bless the exceptions. God bless the women on this website. They are rare birds indeed. Yes, there are some very highly-sexed women out there, but they are, in my opinion, one in a million, literally.

I do agree with the premise of this thread that early bad experiences put lots of women off of anal and other sex. My wife won't even talk about the bad experiences she had in her younger days with guys who had big cocks who hurt her trying to have regular sex. I think that may be pretty common too.

If you are a guy who watches a lot of porn and spends a lot of time on Lit or other sex-themed websites, your view of women's sexual desires may be a bit skewed.

Hmm, your experience is NOT consistennt with my experience at all as a man. Does not mean you are wrong. But I have found that there are a LOT more women out there that are interested in anal than you encountered. Possibly because of the circles your run in or the approach you take. Again, do not mean as any kind of put down. Your experience is certainly valid, just not consistent for all men and I do not think representative of all women. I do believe a woman's interest in anal is related to her age or generation. This is not a universal, but generally, I'd say I have found that older women are less likely to be interested than younger women.

Based on 50+ encounters, I'd say about 10 to 20 percent of women love anal. And those that do, initiate it frequently - some every time. Another 10 to 20 percent are interested enough to want to include it regularly, or because they know it pleases their partner. I've never encountered a woman that indicated she was turned off by the idea of anal, or one that refused to try. I'm sure there are women that are turned off and/or refuse because of bad prior experiences, I just have never encountered one.

I would say however, about 20 to 30 percent of women have quite a lot of discomfort, and therefore, it is not going to work out. For me, I have no interest in an activity painful to a partner. To enjoy anal as a man, the woman would need to be interested and willing. I'm sure a woman's ability to enjoy anal is very much related to her experience and the experience of her partner. That is, she needs to learn to be a able to relax, and importantly, trust her partner will proceed slowly and when she is ready.

 

[likeat]

As a 53 year old man, I want to chime in here.

I have known a lot of women over the years and talked about sex to many more than I ever had any sexual contact with. And exactly ONE out of hundreds, would allow anal sex. Let me be clear, 99.99% of the women I have personally known say that there is no way they would ever do anything with their butts sexually.

Furthermore, I have talked to many of my guy friends about sex and I have never had any of them tell me about first-hand experience with a women who was into anal sex.

I think this is one of those topics that is HIGHLY skewed by the fact that this is a VERY liberal, sexually speaking, website.

For years I tried to coerce, cajole, bribe and beg my wife to let me put my average sized cock into her ass. I offered foreplay, lube, alcohol and every other way I could think of to ease her into it, to no avail. I finally gave up.

It is my opinion that the vast majority of women out there are very conservative sexually. Most don't watch porn and would never visit this website. God bless the exceptions. God bless the women on this website. They are rare birds indeed. Yes, there are some very highly-sexed women out there, but they are, in my opinion, one in a million, literally.

I do agree with the premise of this thread that early bad experiences put lots of women off of anal and other sex. My wife won't even talk about the bad experiences she had in her younger days with guys who had big cocks who hurt her trying to have regular sex. I think that may be pretty common too.

If you are a guy who watches a lot of porn and spends a lot of time on Lit or other sex-themed websites, your view of women's sexual desires may be a bit skewed.

Thank you for what I'm sure is a realistic and balanced view. Anal sex is now an acceptable aberration for a minority of women, the emphasis being on the minority.

There is in my opinion a number of complex physiological issues at work here, but also importantly and putting this bluntly, for some women who have reached the point where vaginal sex is physically unpleasant, their anus is a hole of last resort.

 

[Rozalin_0123]

As a 53 year old man, I want to chime in here.

I have known a lot of women over the years and talked about sex to many more than I ever had any sexual contact with. And exactly ONE out of hundreds, would allow anal sex. Let me be clear, 99.99% of the women I have personally known say that there is no way they would ever do anything with their butts sexually.

Furthermore, I have talked to many of my guy friends about sex and I have never had any of them tell me about first-hand experience with a women who was into anal sex.

I think this is one of those topics that is HIGHLY skewed by the fact that this is a VERY liberal, sexually speaking, website.

Hmm, your experience is NOT consistennt with my experience at all as a man. Does not mean you are wrong. But I have found that there are a LOT more women out there that are interested in anal than you encountered. Possibly because of the circles your run in or the approach you take. Again, do not mean as any kind of put down. Your experience is certainly valid, just not consistent for all men and I do not think representative of all women. I do believe a woman's interest in anal is related to her age or generation. This is not a universal, but generally, I'd say I have found that older women are less likely to be interested than younger women.

Based on 50+ encounters, I'd say about 10 to 20 percent of women love anal. And those that do, initiate it frequently - some every time. Another 10 to 20 percent are interested enough to want to include it regularly, or because they know it pleases their partner. I've never encountered a woman that indicated she was turned off by the idea of anal, or one that refused to try. I'm sure there are women that are turned off and/or refuse because of bad prior experiences, I just have never encountered one.

Both of you make some very valid points and are much appreciated

I work in a factory where about 75% of it's workforce are women. I've had many sex conversations with a lot of the women who work there and when anal sex came up, I'd say about 50% said they have done it or would do it. The other 50% tended to be older women, age 40+.

Getting an accurate figure on the subject is going to be near impossible. There are a lot of factors, age, religious background, family influence, peer pressure, one's own personality etc.

It is further complicated by the fact that most women don't talk about sex with other men, sometimes not even with their partners. In many "girl talk" sessions, there have been women who would say something like, "I'd try anal, but I'm too embarassed to bring it up." or "He asked me to do anal, and I would try it, but I'm afraid of something going wrong."

I'm very outspoken about my sexuality, (Yes, I know I'm the 1% ) but part of the reason I am is to convey the notion that sexuality is something to be celebrated, not something to be ashamed of. Part of being a good lover is knowing and understanding what you like, what your limits are and more importantly communicating that information with your partner. How can you know these things if you never try anything? If you didn't like something, figure out why. Are there alternatives?

We all have different tastes, all of which should be respected. So get out there, have some kinky sex with someone you love, and explore your sexuality. You're body, as well as your partner, will thank you

 

[stickygirl]

The age group thing is interesting: obviously I know a lot of people in the LGBT community 18 - 22 yrs and sure, the gays are active and anal sex is a given - it's 'expected' of them. There are bunch of Bi's who will try anything but there are quite a few who are much more conservative, even some virgins who are against exploring sex and that stems from a negative reaction to the porn that we all grew up with.

What pisses me off are guys who feel cheated if a woman doesn't give them a blow-job or anal sex. The girls often lose the guy they love and their own morals are thrown into question by callous treatment. The fellas want locker-room bragging rights and the girls become conquests.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

As a 53 year old man, I want to chime in here.

I have known a lot of women over the years and talked about sex to many more than I ever had any sexual contact with. And exactly ONE out of hundreds, would allow anal sex. Let me be clear, 99.99% of the women I have personally known say that there is no way they would ever do anything with their butts sexually.

Furthermore, I have talked to many of my guy friends about sex and I have never had any of them tell me about first-hand experience with a women who was into anal sex.

I think this is one of those topics that is HIGHLY skewed by the fact that this is a VERY liberal, sexually speaking, website.

For years I tried to coerce, cajole, bribe and beg my wife to let me put my average sized cock into her ass. I offered foreplay, lube, alcohol and every other way I could think of to ease her into it, to no avail. I finally gave up.

It is my opinion that the vast majority of women out there are very conservative sexually. Most don't watch porn and would never visit this website. God bless the exceptions. God bless the women on this website. They are rare birds indeed. Yes, there are some very highly-sexed women out there, but they are, in my opinion, one in a million, literally.

I do agree with the premise of this thread that early bad experiences put lots of women off of anal and other sex. My wife won't even talk about the bad experiences she had in her younger days with guys who had big cocks who hurt her trying to have regular sex. I think that may be pretty common too.

If you are a guy who watches a lot of porn and spends a lot of time on Lit or other sex-themed websites, your view of women's sexual desires may be a bit skewed.

I read a report from a study done about two years ago, which said that 75% of all married women have tried anal sex at least one time, but only 25% do it on a regular basis. I don't recall the exact definition of "regular basis." My wife and I do it about 3 or 4 times a year. We used to do it about once a month, but like all things sexual, we are doing less of that also.

 

[Rozalin_0123]

What pisses me off are guys who feel cheated if a woman doesn't give them a blow-job or anal sex. The girls often lose the guy they love and their own morals are thrown into question by callous treatment. The fellas want locker-room bragging rights and the girls become conquests.

All the more reason to communicate your limits to your partner. Furthermore, if you have something you absolutely will not do, stand your ground. If he feels cheated, that's his problem, not yours. if he is really pushing the issues you probably will want to find someone else because its only a matter of time before he will find someone else to give him what he wants. If you end up being cheated on because you stood up for yourself that is HIS loss, not yours.

Its one thing to do something you don't nessisarily want to do in order to please your partner, but its completely different when they treat your boundaries like they don't matter.

 

[sata85]

My girl had a bad experience when she was younger, but she loves anal now. Just offering this for "balance".

 

[fireplugm]

The age group thing is interesting: obviously I know a lot of people in the LGBT community 18 - 22 yrs and sure, the gays are active and anal sex is a given - it's 'expected' of them. There are bunch of Bi's who will try anything but there are quite a few who are much more conservative, even some virgins who are against exploring sex and that stems from a negative reaction to the porn that we all grew up with.

What pisses me off are guys who feel cheated if a woman doesn't give them a blow-job or anal sex. The girls often lose the guy they love and their own morals are thrown into question by callous treatment. The fellas want locker-room bragging rights and the girls become conquests.

I know some women are especially sensitive to becoming a "conquest". As a man, I admit that we do have an inner drive to conquer. Personally, I think it is in our DNA. That said, I also know I have felt pressured by female partners to "get serious", that is become monogamous with them. To commit the man to her exclusively. Is there a drive in a female's DNA to get a man to commit? I can imagine how that might of contributed to the survival of the species at one time in our human development. My belief is we do all have some hard wiring and the notion that some of our wiring is "wrong", or inappropriate, or pisses someone off strikes me as unnatural. I prefer to simply try to be aware of our natural tendencies and accept men and women for what they are.

 

[silverwhisper]

fireplugm quoth:
i prefer to simply try to be aware of our natural tendencies and accept men and women for what they are.

"natural tendencies" can and sometimes does differ wildly when speaking of individuals.

ed

 

[mrtomthumb]

I rather find it difficult to work it all out to have full on anal sex.

I and my partner are very keen on it with no real hangups but the pulling it all off can be hard..when she is really hot and wanting it...while I try to work it in she has a great orgasm just with the tip getting in.. ( I am average size) ..but then she wants it out....or I cum while trying to get it in because I need to be rock hard to get it in..so I am usually very close already..

when it all works out though....

I feel sometimes people get all into the cleanliness and yada yada...if you have worries or reservations then just dont do it...it is an asshole and we all know what its job is...if you want a woman to do it and then treat her badly because it gets messy..then you are a jerk.

I mean in someway is that not part of the turn on? that its taboo..a pussy is much better for fucking..I think in my partners case...she likes that she is a "dirty" girl who will do that and no one would think in a million years that she is the type that would.

I am so lucky that if anything we just have different levels of good to great experiences...I remember the first time after she said it had hurt a little. I felt horrible. then she told me it feels good when it hurts a little..

she is great like that.

p.s. I am not saying any other woman likes that or should have anal if it hurts.. that was just an example.

 

[Mammaplease]

My girlfriend asked me about it. My personal opinion is it's allright to do once or twice, but as a guy, I'd rather have regular sex. it feels a lot better and you don't have to do with your girlfriend telling u to hurry up the whole time.

Well that sounds like a turn off.

My first experience of anal anything was with my current guy. He rimmed me and then slipped a finger in while he was going down on me. Amazing. After that I was pretty much obsessed with getting him to fuck me in the ass. He wasn't too keen, all sorts of catholic guilt going on, but eventually agreed to try it. Our first experience wasn't great, he was nervous and rushed things, which was quite painful. We gave it a break and tried again a couple of days later. Really slow, buckets of lube and it was incredible.

I absolutely LOVE anal. It is more of an occasional thing now for us, and it would be very rare for him to instigate it but I almost prefer it, everything just feels more intense. He likes how much tighter things are there, and it fits in nicely with my DP fantasies too.

 

[StrongMaster7]

Wow, what a polite, civilized discussion without put-downs, insults and nastiness! How refreshing!

My experience is just that, my experience. And it is skewed by where I live, my age and the types of people I know.

BTW, in talking to my wife about what her friends confide, they tend to be VERY sexually conservative.

 

[littlecordelera]

This question goes out to the women who have had a bad experience their first time, or any time and now won't do anal sex. Men, I don't mind getting responses from you about your wife or girlfriend either. I ask this question because I have had a couple of partners that will not even think about anal sex because of someone else. It's not a must have for me, I'm just curious who else falls in this category.

I responded earlier, but not to the OP's actual question.

Yes. I know of two friends who tried anal and flatly refuse to try it again. In both cases, they simply rolled over, lubed up, and their husbands attempted to insert. "It hurt like hell!"

In my opinion, that's always going to hurt, and I know from our discussions that these men are no bigger than average size.

Well lubricated fingers first, patience, then toys of gently increasing size, patience, and finally, a stiff and ready cock. And as unpleasant as it sounds, it helps tremendously if the woman pushes like she is trying to poop. I know it sounds counter-intuitive, but trust me, it really does work.

 

[aaron2878]

I want to thank everyone for all their responses! This would be a hard subject, if not impossible, to find out what the percentage is of women that enjoy or can't stand anal sex. The reason why I started this thread is because I have encountered several women that will not even think about trying anal sex because of a bad experience. I have only had two women that actually let me have anal with them, and one of the two loved anal almost more than regular sex. Several women that I didn't have sex with but we chatted about sex fall in the category of not wanting to try or past experience has them not wanting anal. So, I figured I would see how many other litsters have had this encounter. It doesn't surprise me how many people have different encounters and their numbers vary, in some cases tremendously.

Thanks again for sharing!!

 

[stickygirl]

I want to thank everyone for all their responses! This would be a hard subject, if not impossible, to find out what the percentage is of women that enjoy or can't stand anal sex. The reason why I started this thread is because I have encountered several women that will not even think about trying anal sex because of a bad experience. I have only had two women that actually let me have anal with them, and one of the two loved anal almost more than regular sex. Several women that I didn't have sex with but we chatted about sex fall in the category of not wanting to try or past experience has them not wanting anal. So, I figured I would see how many other litsters have had this encounter. It doesn't surprise me how many people have different encounters and their numbers vary, in some cases tremendously.

Thanks again for sharing!!

It's been a good discussion - thanks for posting
Just a thought about those women who said they'd had a bad experience: maybe they told you that to justify their dislike of the idea. If they just said they didn't like the idea it would have given you an opportunity to say 'Well how do you know if you've never tried it?' Like I said - just a thought.

 

[aaron2878]

It's been a good discussion - thanks for posting
Just a thought about those women who said they'd had a bad experience: maybe they told you that to justify their dislike of the idea. If they just said they didn't like the idea it would have given you an opportunity to say 'Well how do you know if you've never tried it?' Like I said - just a thought.

We discussed it and each one was because the guy didn't use lube plus wasn't very gentle either. The women that didn't like it but never tried i did say exactly that, you never know until you try. I never really pushed the issue because I was more than happy to just have sex, especially if I'm giving oral!! But I was always open for trying new things if they wanted too.