how to explain things to your partner

[Penalt]

you want me to puke?

get me pregnant again. I'll puke. and lot easier on my jaw than a ballgag.

Okay, bit gag then. I am pretty sure I can find one of those. Barring that there is always the candy gag. Dear Gods its no wonder Scumhunter is my primary net nick.

 

[Netzach]

Dear Son
Dear Daughter
Daughter 2

We now have 3 little ones. 4 years old, 2 years old and 8 weeks. We picked up the initialing from some parental forums we have been on. She tends to refer to me as DP = Dear Partner and I tend to refer to her as DL = Dear Lady.

You may have noticed that Mamid and I tend to have a fair bit of banter. The past two years have been fun that's for sure. I love Mamid more than she loves me. This is a good thing. If she loved me as much as I love her we'd never leave the bedroom and we would probably starve to death.

One of the problems we face is that out of BDSM I tend to be more focused on the B and D parts while Mamid is pretty much equal across the board. So while I am wanting to lock the cuffs in place or I'm checking out some new rope she is wanting some back scratching/scraping or little bite play.

Mamid isn't really my slave. But she has submitted herself to me about as much as she is capable of submitting to anyone. When she wears a collar it is to show that she is treasured and desired to the point where she has to be kept safely and securely like the precious gem she is.


wow, did I just write that?

I've been doing some really great educational stuff this weekend, and something that's gotten me thinking was this statement "problem solve within the D/s"

when crap happens, and I was sick for a YEAR and I know crap happens, the temptation exists to go "outside" the dynamic to straighten things out. That's not always the way to go about it - it's the best for some people and some situations, but it's not the best all the time and for all people. It's not the year I was sick I wish I had to do over from a D/s relationship standpoint, it's the year before that year I wish I had to do over again -- this is why.

If you can set protocol and priority when you are focused on one another and in the moment to last outside the moment, or be called up outside the moment, then you've got a touchstone. You may not control how M mothers the kids, right, but maybe the sense that being a mother is a form of service, is part of her service to moving you forward as a couple. I hope this makes some sense...

 

[Mamid]

i think this is one of our protocols because we can reply and wait till the other one gets a 5 minute break from the kids...

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Dear Son
Dear Daughter
Daughter 2

We now have 3 little ones. 4 years old, 2 years old and 8 weeks. We picked up the initialing from some parental forums we have been on. She tends to refer to me as DP = Dear Partner and I tend to refer to her as DL = Dear Lady.

You may have noticed that Mamid and I tend to have a fair bit of banter. The past two years have been fun that's for sure. I love Mamid more than she loves me. This is a good thing. If she loved me as much as I love her we'd never leave the bedroom and we would probably starve to death.

One of the problems we face is that out of BDSM I tend to be more focused on the B and D parts while Mamid is pretty much equal across the board. So while I am wanting to lock the cuffs in place or I'm checking out some new rope she is wanting some back scratching/scraping or little bite play.

Mamid isn't really my slave. But she has submitted herself to me about as much as she is capable of submitting to anyone. When she wears a collar it is to show that she is treasured and desired to the point where she has to be kept safely and securely like the precious gem she is.


wow, did I just write that?

i don't think because you have children that you can't live the life, or even just play the kink. of course, you can't be 'open' with it, but there are ways to live the life without the kids knowing what's going on. i have 3 kids myself and when Master was here, and they were around, no, i didn't call Him Master but i did get a few 'Sir's' out here and there or other little things that let HIm know i knew who i was to Him. i may be completely off subject here and if i am, i'm sorry, i just saw in earlier posts how you said with kids you can't live the lifestyle 24/7, so wanted to put my two cents in

 

[Netzach]

i don't think because you have children that you can't live the life, or even just play the kink. of course, you can't be 'open' with it, but there are ways to live the life without the kids knowing what's going on. i have 3 kids myself and when Master was here, and they were around, no, i didn't call Him Master but i did get a few 'Sir's' out here and there or other little things that let HIm know i knew who i was to Him. i may be completely off subject here and if i am, i'm sorry, i just saw in earlier posts how you said with kids you can't live the lifestyle 24/7, so wanted to put my two cents in

I think it's more the issue of 3 small children taking up every spare molecule of vital energy you've got

 

[lil_slave_rose]

I think it's more the issue of 3 small children taking up every spare molecule of vital energy you've got

*nods* guess i didn't think of it that way, though it makes sense and would defiantly make it very hard, i guess the thing to remember is they won't be 'small' forever?

 

[Mamid]

the youngest is currently hanging out in her sling which is attached to me.

the middle is huddled with him

the eldest has decided his bedroom is a destruction zone. I think he's asleep...

 

[Penalt]

I think it's more the issue of 3 small children taking up every spare molecule of vital energy you've got

Pretty much. Our little ones, especially the 4 yr old, are what you would call 'active'. Another might describe them as 'perpetual motion'.

Regarding 24/7 of lifestyle.... ACK!

 

[Mamid]

and it doesn't help that when D2 was just a few weeks old, I fell and badly hurt myself while carrying her. My hip is not healing and that makes... things painful in the bad way

 

[Penalt]

Hence the shackles my dear. At least I have a clean bill of health from the tick tock doc now.

 

[Mamid]

what are the odds that DD is sick with what I have in my ears? That scream last night from her could have been a clue - the bad sort of clue.

 

[Mamid]

oh my god! I want this! http://cgi.ebay.ca/3-PC-DOMINATRIX-...18QQihZ012QQcategoryZ1064QQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem