roxywhiskey
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31 yrs old and still haven't figure this one out....
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31 yrs old and still haven't figure this one out....
A it's a numbers game. You have to stand out from the crowd in a positive way. And make your pool of people as big as possible.
B don't be discouraged when they aren't interested. Just keep on moving.
31 yrs old and still haven't figure this one out....
What barefootgirl69 and HisArpy said.
Whether you're 18 or 81, be friendly, smile a lot, and be you. If they are interested, they will let you know. If they aren't interested, move on.
As my grandpappy said, "Fish where the fish are. You're wasting your time fishing where they aren't."
I watch people all the time so I see lots of things that people do that destroy their chances. Yeah, I know, I'm weird.
But, the things I see that are bad things to do:
> Too much 'I'm your hero/dreamboat/everything' in attitude and demeanor.
> Too often needing a 'wingman'. If you aren't confident enough to go it solo, she isn't interested. Get away from the bachelor herd.
> She isn't 'prey' to hunt. There are no traps that will capture her. No lines that work. No cologne that will make her instantly horny (sorry ad guys, but it's true).
> Drunken. slovenly, stinky etc are a turn off. Sweaty can be a good thing sometimes as long as it's in context. Sweaty on the job as a calendar model can be appealing. Sweaty after a hard days work means you need a shower.
> Overcompensation is probably the mistake I see most often. You don't need a big truck, or a 'tough' dog, or a bad boy attitude to impress her. Trust me, you're not even impressing the other bachelors. You're competing with them and you're all losing.
> Stay out of her space unless she invites you in. NEVER lean over her or touch her without an invitation.
> Do not be the 'safe' friend. On the flip side, don't be the creepy stalker who chases after her every day either.
Good things to work on in no particular order:
> Shyness can be worked with. If you are truly shy, then you need to communicate that you are SHY to the girl who is catching your eye. There's a way to do this which can't really be written in a few lines on a forum. It's all about eye contact and body language. Practice make perfect and you will know when you get it right.
> SMILE! A lot. Being cheerful works better than looking depressed.
> Body image can be improved. Women like men who look like men. No one likes a bloated white whale who only wants a servant to fetch him another beer and cigarettes.
> Mystery attracts but confidence matters. If you know who YOU are, she might be interested in finding out your secret identity.
> TALK to her. If she talks back, she might be interested. If she blows you off, she isn't. But, talking isn't an invitation to jump into the sack or into a relationship. It takes talking and exploring mutual thoughts and ideas that brings people together.
> Your relationship will be with HER. Not the kids, dog, family, house, job, etc. SHE is the important one, make her believe it every time you are together. Trust me, it takes more than flowers, phone sex, or shoes to get there. It takes attention to details. Pay attention. Every day.
> Eye contact is both good and bad. Too much and she might think you're creepy. Too little and she might think you're not interested. There's a balance between the two.
> Success is the best indicator of how well you will be able to take care of her. That doesn't mean a loud stereo, expensive car and fancy clothes. It means money in the bank and a solid steady career. She might look at the 'bad boy' and maybe even dabble a bit with him, but she wants a MATE who can care for her and provide for her. Be THAT guy, not the fantasy.
< Compliments matter. "Wow, you're pretty." isn't a compliment. "Oh my God, I LOVE your shoes!" is.
There's more and not everyone will agree but this is a start. Take it and run with it. Modify it so it reflects YOU and not some phoney. And remember, you will ask a lot before you get an answer. Like they say about getting published, you are doing something right if you're getting rejected.
- Be clean, tidy ... aka well groomed
- Humor is a good thing
- Be interesting, but don't be fake
- Use your manners
- Be confident
The list, of course, continues. Not every woman is the same, so not all the things that will get you a date with one will get you date with another.
Borrow, rent or steal a late model sports car. When you pick up a cute gal on the street corner wine and dine her. Make sure you mention your 12" penis many times. Buy her flowers and chocolates. After she's drunk get married in Vegas and hope for the best.
Just don't move back into mom's basement.
Sadly you will only pick up drunken prostitutes this way and you will soon have to return the car.If only I knew this actually worked!!!! Would have been swimming in pussy all these years!
Faint heart never won fair lady.
I go after what I want. Rejection means nothing to me, sooner or later the stars will favor me if I'm doing things right. But you cant win the lottery if you don't play. Too many of my pals were too timid to do anything, and more than once I took the girl from under their noses when they failed to make a move.
You can always put a sign on your desk that reads: I'M AVAIALABLE IF YOURE INTERESTED.
Thank you for the thoughtful and lengthy tips! Also, grandad is right but I don't know where the fish are![]()
I do a lot of social things. I joined a website where locals in utah get together and go on hikes, dinners, rock climbing, the lake etc. I see many people hook up from these I just get left in the dust. I am assertive and I am not creepy. In my 30's but still going to school on a large campus. I do online dating. Neighbors or co-workers try to introduce me to girls but none have ever had enough interest even for one quick coffee date. I don't get friend zoned either. I have no female friends that aren't online. Honestly, most of the girls I run across are already taken or they have someone they already like. The only girls that have ever said they would date me are taken ones....until they become single then the story changes lol. Bitches and their bullshit lies to make others feel better. I'm not cocky and I was an extremely lean athletic soldier for about a decade. Have everything going for me. I'm not very picky. I can't date fat girls though. Just can't do it. I mean that as in 200+lbs. Just not attracted to them. Anyway, I've exhausted my efforts for many years and still haven't figured out what high school kids have about dating. For being a very intelligent person I feel really fucking stupid!