muycurioso
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Hubby sucking cock
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Vitriolhack
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I would love to consult the statistics to see if this is a generalized fantasy in women.
docisin
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When you started, how did you find partners?
Travler99921
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I used various online services. Now SD is my primary source. I am not that active but I want to get back where in was before the pandemic.
luvemboth
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I've always had an attraction to taking a cock, but never took the plunge (so to speak) while I was attached. Once I became single, I dove in (no pun intended) head first. It was much later when I was with my first couple, and the wife was very encouraging. Glad to say that I fulfilled that fantasy of a MMF without cheating on anyone.
Br patient and prepare for the time she will be in the mood. It would help if you already have a buddy that she already knows and feels comfortable with.
Inviting him for lunch, go to the gym with him, let her know you are with him. Tell her about the workout and post workout in the showers and details about his cock and body.
Sex is more of a brain adventure, you have to take a ride in it, let it simmer and eventually the timing and preparedness will meet and all of you, if ready, will have a good time. Don’t be pushy, no one likes to feel pressured.
Very good advice, and I’ve done most of what you suggest. But after 50+ years as a couple, I’m certain she’s not going to change her mind.
But I never give up hope!
Cheers!
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I can understand your predicament exactly. After 50+ years, my wife isn't about to change her mind any time soon either. But I never give up hope.
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When we were dating each other my wife asked me to take her to an adult theater.
It was a gay movie that she picked and asked if her choice was ok. During the movie she rubbed my crotch and was glad to discover that I was enjoying the show.
She was thrilled to discover that I enjoy sucking and fucking men, too. Now we do so in the flesh and haven't been to a theater in years.
No deep regrets on my part, and I’d never push my wife into anything. She had some early troubling times because of her grandfather. At least we can openly discuss a variety of sexual ideas in bed, it would be tough to be completely in the closet about my personal desires…
peter49parker
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Exactly. No big regrets here either. I would do it all over again, if she would have me. My biggest change might be to encourage her to be more flirty and express her desires more openly.
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I was a cock sucking husband, now a widower. When I told my wife I wanted to suck cocks, she was surprised at first. I was a bit surprised she was surprised. I had started wearing panties, and I had become a bit sexually submissive. Her next reaction was acceptance. That came a few weeks later. She told me my honesty about it was more important than my desire to do it. She encouraged me to find men for sex.
I tried to minimize the amount of gay sex I had.. She could tell when my frustration was building. When ther happened she would make sure I had the opportunity to get with a man. In the summer she would take weekend bicycling trips with her female friends. Eventually she told me if i gave her 48 hour notice it would be OK for me to meet with a man. She wanted that time to arrange to do something fun.
Finally, she reached the point that having a husband that suck cock excited het. She never said she wanted to watch, but I think she did. Our best sex was When I got back from having sex with a man. It usually started by her asking me I enjoyed the encounter..
I was a cock sucking husband, now a widower. When I told my wife I wanted to suck cocks, she was surprised at first. I was a bit surprised she was surprised. I had started wearing panties, and I had become a bit sexually submissive. Her next reaction was acceptance. That came a few weeks later. She told me my honesty about it was more important than my desire to do it. She encouraged me to find men for sex.
I tried to minimize the amount of gay sex I had.. She could tell when my frustration was building. When ther happened she would make sure I had the opportunity to get with a man. In the summer she would take weekend bicycling trips with her female friends. Eventually she told me if i gave her 48 hour notice it would be OK for me to meet with a man. She wanted that time to arrange to do something fun.
Finally, she reached the point that having a husband that suck cock excited het. She never said she wanted to watch, but I think she did. Our best sex was When I got back from having sex with a man. It usually started by her asking me I enjoyed the encounter..
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Do you think she did anything with her female friends while on her bicycling trips?
Travler99921
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I dont think so
She would tease me about it, but it was only to excite me. I wish she would have experimented.
She would tease me about it, but it was only to excite me. I wish she would have experimented.
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Guys on here make it seem like this is more common than it really is.
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So true.
My current wife would go ballistic.
My ex was a different story because she was as adventuresome as I was when we were married so our sexcapades were the best I ever had, but she had other issues that lead to the demise of our marriage.
My current wife is a sweetheart and I never imagined ever doing anything behind her back but alas, her vanilla conservative demeanor in bed coupled with her diminished libido since menopause hit 10 years ago, all adds up to an itch that she won't scratch and a discussion that I can't have with her to do it in the open...
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Agreed, almost every bi married guy I have talked to here is in the closet!
Including me.
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Cindy69love
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I've watched my husband a few times.
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Who knows
Of course it is an empirical question as to what percentage of wives would accept any homosexual behavior on the part of their husbands. I think how and when the wife finds out is keh. This is based, in part, on what my wife told me as well as what other wives have told me.
Acceptance is much less likely if the wife discovers hubbie's activities rather than hubbie comming out. Ideally hubby and wife should discuss this before hubby has his first gay encounter. Hubby must find ways to make sure the wife knows the marriage is hubbie's primary relationship. If it is not, then the marriage is doomed.
My late wife and I belonged to a group composed of couples in "mixed orientation marriages". This is a biased sample since the marriage had survived. Almost all of the wives felt that hubbies' honesty was key for the marriage to survive.
Of course it is an empirical question as to what percentage of wives would accept any homosexual behavior on the part of their husbands. I think how and when the wife finds out is keh. This is based, in part, on what my wife told me as well as what other wives have told me.
Acceptance is much less likely if the wife discovers hubbie's activities rather than hubbie comming out. Ideally hubby and wife should discuss this before hubby has his first gay encounter. Hubby must find ways to make sure the wife knows the marriage is hubbie's primary relationship. If it is not, then the marriage is doomed.
My late wife and I belonged to a group composed of couples in "mixed orientation marriages". This is a biased sample since the marriage had survived. Almost all of the wives felt that hubbies' honesty was key for the marriage to survive.
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