Husband opening up — seeking men to connect with

[ChloeOfCascadia]

Sorry to disappoint. When my spouse decided he no longer wished to be a man, my fantasies dried up.
She is living a happy life now.

If it helps, I've been attracted to women since I was able to experience attraction and that will never change.

I would not leave a partner I was attracted to over an orientation change of that kind-

I enjoy giving oral sex to women far, far too much. It's to the point of being a whole fetish or kink.

I also, as it happens, am not turned on by men's bodies... the offer above was more like.... oh, you find this kinky! I could do that if it turned you on, because I like to explore sexuality with a kind and loving partner and make her fantasies come true if I don't find it too demeaning or abusive to me.

Like, my feelings on it are not homophobic.... but also not excited. It's more like, oh, does this turn you on sweetie? Watch me be enthusiastic about it for you, then. Because I like to stimulate you.

I feel neutral about it and absolutely could not sustain a relationship with a man in a romantic or sexual way. This would strictly be a fulfillment of your fantasy kind of scenario. But if you don't want it.... then.... I have no desire.

It is hard to explain. I am kinky and interested in the things my lady love is interested to try, but if she's not interested in a kink then I am not.

Example, your scenario with the pet play from earlier, I've never done pet play, i am a service dom or a switch, but I've never done collars or leashes or anything.
So when you presented your scenario, I have no experience to draw upon.

What I wrote back to you was spontaneous and inspired by what you find fascinating and kinky about that scenario. I've never done that.

That was immediately where my mind went and I found it incredibly sexy because YOU found it sexy.

Does that make sense? I hope I am making sense but you tell me.

Also, I just lost a 10 year marriage because my wife suddenly informed me she's been asexual and aromantic all her life. It's not me, it's her orientation. I will never be anything but a roommate to her, and a friend at best.

Oh....

I would have liked to have known that from the start, so my heart is broken, but to be fair, we married really rapidly due to immigration laws, and did not have a lot of sexual experience before our marriage.

So.... I don't think she even knew. I was her first man, basically.

Hey, this feels more like a PM conversation. But if that's not welcome let me know.

 

[Experimentalist]

I don't have a problem with TG.
After 34 yrs of marriage, it was a shock.

That would be quite a shock

 

[JohnCash123]

Hi everyone,

You can call me A, and my wife is B. I’m 41, she’s 30. Yes, there’s an age gap, but it doesn’t matter to us — we’re deeply in love and committed to each other.

Over time, we realized our trust is strong enough that we could be open about exploring. For me, that means I want to experience being with men. For her, she’s more comfortable keeping to men as well, just in a straight way.

So here I am, sharing this openly: I’m looking to connect with men who are also interested in men and open to exploring. If you’re in a similar situation — curious, open, maybe even engaged or married yourself — I’d really like to hear from you.

Any updates on your search?

 

[Kingsick1211]

Hi everyone,

You can call me A, and my wife is B. I’m 41, she’s 30. Yes, there’s an age gap, but it doesn’t matter to us — we’re deeply in love and committed to each other.

Over time, we realized our trust is strong enough that we could be open about exploring. For me, that means I want to experience being with men. For her, she’s more comfortable keeping to men as well, just in a straight way.

So here I am, sharing this openly: I’m looking to connect with men who are also interested in men and open to exploring. If you’re in a similar situation — curious, open, maybe even engaged or married yourself — I’d really like to hear from you.

Pm me n we can talk bout watever u like