I’m a mature confused straight woman

[Buffy47]

perfectly said! I love letting my imagination come to life here. It is amazing what I have learned about myself.

I'm.glad you are able to learn more about yourself I think that's important for us all to do. Long ago I used to read people's posts and think my life is boring but once I learnt about the over exaggerated side of lit I could relax more and I've learnt alot.

 

[CEOescape]

Sounds like you sensibly realise that porn and real Life (marriage/love) are separate. Just because you enjoy a certain porn it doesn't mean when you home you want to actually do the same.

Plenty of people in Lit express exaggerated levels of porn likes and many have a over the top expectation of how good they are and truth is at home with a partner they are timid and quiet and just normal.

Enjoy porn and imagination for what it is a place to escape realism and just have fun.

very well said..

 

[meagain23]

That’s the problem, I don’t have the nerve to do that, he would love to watch me with another woman if he suggested it, but I don’t think he has any idea I like to try it….. I need to drop hints, but then the problem is who do I sleep with? Not sure about an escort, but I know a few women I would sleep with in a heartbeat, but not sure they would agree….very risky, but with enough hints, I guess it’s possible

take baby steps, dont over think the outcome until youve talked with him . i noticed my wifes reaction to g/g porn, her moans and comments about what we were watching .
She told me shed had fantasies for years about girls. we talked about it a few times , of course i was on board for her to explore. We started looking for another bi curious female, yahoo was great back then.
Met with some swingers couples, knowing in advance it was just for the girls but sometimes lead to more.
She found out she is definitely bi

 

[BCJ111]

I'm the same age as you. Take your original post. Re-write it with all female references as male and male as female. That's how I feel.

In MY worldview - I suspect as we age we are more open to things that were previously "taboo" and that we want to experiment and experience while we still can.

I don't think there is anything "wrong" with you. Just part of the process of living.

 

[storypost603]

Ok I did not read all of this but..... I am 57 year old male. same as you high sweethearts she has only been with me. I had one Male on male encounter before we met. She has been the only female I had had sex with. I love her with all my heart but I really want to have that male on male sex again. I sat down and talked to her as I was crossdressing for fun told her we needed to talk and walked out all dressed up. That led to us talking about a lot of things. We covered a lot of subjects and I think it did us good. I can say that had she said she wanted to have sex with another female or male I would have been all for it. I had not said i want to have sex with another male to her but she knows. So you really need to talk to him she told me she wished I would have told her some of these thing sooner.

 

[NOBGE]

I'm 64 years old, married for 42 years and I need some answers. I am a very conservative, modest, and pretty private woman. I'm a little overweight, probably by about 20 pounds or so. I really enjoy sex and I have only been with one man my entire life, my husband. We were high school sweethearts. We have great sex even after all this time. We always laugh and ask each other how it can still be this good after all this time, but it is! My husband and I love to masturbate for each other, I love to suck him, and he loves to eat me. We really do make each other happy. I have 2 vibrators; 2 different sized dildo's and we use them all. I still fuck my husband in at least 6 or 8 different positions, but when he's eating me, or fingering me, my mind pretends it's another woman. Is that wrong?

My question is this, why is it when we watch porn, (we usually watch either threesomes, Masturbation compilations, or lesbian videos) do I find myself watching the women more than the men. I always picture myself in a threesome, but with another woman, not another man. Also, when we watch masturbation videos, I love to see the women playing with themselves more than the men, but my favorite is a hot lesbian video. I never admitted this to my husband, but I can't take my eyes off the screen when it's a woman, or a woman on a woman. Like I said in the beginning, I'm a very conservative and pretty modest woman.

Am I alone in this or are there more women who hide this feeling? My ideal situation would be to be in bed with my husband and another woman, and have him tell us what to do, because I know it would involve a lot of pussy eating and playing with each other's pussy's. I would also love to watch my husband fuck another woman from behind while she was eating me out. I would get the benefit of having my pussy eaten while watching him put his cock in another woman. The other thing I love is a woman with small perky tits, I would love to feel her up and suck on her little nipples.

Another thing I would love, would be to be present in a room while two women were having sex. I would just sit in a very comfortable chair, turn on my vibrator and play while watching them go at it.

I would also love to be the one calling the shots, have them do whatever I wanted to see. I think I would start off by having them sit side by side and masturbate for me. When I was satisfied, I would have them give each other a sensual massage, but only the front. At that point I probably would have had about ten orgasms, but I still wouldn't be satisfied and would need to see them go down on each other. I would be the one to decide who was better. I just love a womans body, including my own, that why I masturbate a lot.

I'm afraid that if I ever brought this up to my husband, he might feel like he's not getting the job done, but believe me, he does. I know he would love to watch me with another woman, but if I ever did give in to these feelings, I think I would have to be alone with her. I would need to completely explore my feelings, before I could have him with me. I'm not sure if it would be another woman similar in age and size to me who has the same conservative feelings that I do, or one of those wild young hotties who would be open to teaching me.

I'm totally conflicted about my feelings. it's not something I would ever be able to discuss with anyone that I know, but I do feel the need to talk about it. I have never had the chance to be with another woman, but if I ever did, I'm not sure what I would do. I would like to hear any thoughts from women who feel like me, assuming there are any out there. Also, if any have actually acted on their feelings at an older age. Please no men, this is an issue for another older woman. feel free to email me or leave a comment... This is a true story or maybe just a hopeful thought, but either way, I'm a confused Straight older woman.

Sounds like y’all have a great relationship. While watching some porn, mumble something like “ I wonder what that would be like”. That’ll open the door. Explain your feelings towards trying it first without him present. Good luck.

 

[bouldghirl]

I’m not sure you are confused. You sound as though you are very comfortable with the idea of experimentino. Maybe now is the time to act.

 

[Responsible]

I'm 64 years old, married for 42 years and I need some answers. I am a very conservative, modest, and pretty private woman. I'm a little overweight, probably by about 20 pounds or so. I really enjoy sex and I have only been with one man my entire life, my husband. We were high school sweethearts. We have great sex even after all this time. We always laugh and ask each other how it can still be this good after all this time, but it is! My husband and I love to masturbate for each other, I love to suck him, and he loves to eat me. We really do make each other happy. I have 2 vibrators; 2 different sized dildo's and we use them all. I still fuck my husband in at least 6 or 8 different positions, but when he's eating me, or fingering me, my mind pretends it's another woman. Is that wrong?

My question is this, why is it when we watch porn, (we usually watch either threesomes, Masturbation compilations, or lesbian videos) do I find myself watching the women more than the men. I always picture myself in a threesome, but with another woman, not another man. Also, when we watch masturbation videos, I love to see the women playing with themselves more than the men, but my favorite is a hot lesbian video. I never admitted this to my husband, but I can't take my eyes off the screen when it's a woman, or a woman on a woman. Like I said in the beginning, I'm a very conservative and pretty modest woman.

Am I alone in this or are there more women who hide this feeling? My ideal situation would be to be in bed with my husband and another woman, and have him tell us what to do, because I know it would involve a lot of pussy eating and playing with each other's pussy's. I would also love to watch my husband fuck another woman from behind while she was eating me out. I would get the benefit of having my pussy eaten while watching him put his cock in another woman. The other thing I love is a woman with small perky tits, I would love to feel her up and suck on her little nipples.

Another thing I would love, would be to be present in a room while two women were having sex. I would just sit in a very comfortable chair, turn on my vibrator and play while watching them go at it.

I would also love to be the one calling the shots, have them do whatever I wanted to see. I think I would start off by having them sit side by side and masturbate for me. When I was satisfied, I would have them give each other a sensual massage, but only the front. At that point I probably would have had about ten orgasms, but I still wouldn't be satisfied and would need to see them go down on each other. I would be the one to decide who was better. I just love a womans body, including my own, that why I masturbate a lot.

I'm afraid that if I ever brought this up to my husband, he might feel like he's not getting the job done, but believe me, he does. I know he would love to watch me with another woman, but if I ever did give in to these feelings, I think I would have to be alone with her. I would need to completely explore my feelings, before I could have him with me. I'm not sure if it would be another woman similar in age and size to me who has the same conservative feelings that I do, or one of those wild young hotties who would be open to teaching me.

I'm totally conflicted about my feelings. it's not something I would ever be able to discuss with anyone that I know, but I do feel the need to talk about it. I have never had the chance to be with another woman, but if I ever did, I'm not sure what I would do. I would like to hear any thoughts from women who feel like me, assuming there are any out there. Also, if any have actually acted on their feelings at an older age. Please no men, this is an issue for another older woman. feel free to email me or leave a comment... This is a true story or maybe just a hopeful thought, but either way, I'm a confused Straight older woman.

You aren't confused, most people are and sexuality is directly connected to the life force hence so strong that the mightiest succumb for better or worse. I'm a straight, fairly conservative man and without a partner atm so porn for me is soithing and delightful but not any kind of porn. I'm extremely picky what I watch. I also like to watch a woman with another but I don't think I would ever try a 3some.

 

[BustedMyHead]

For me, I confessed to my wife that I might be bisexual, but it was hard to know because I hadn’t ever acted on it with another man.
Just being able to share it with her was enough for me to not need to fulfill the fantasies I’d been having. Mine typically come in waves every so often.
For her it brought up some abandonment worries, std if you hire, that sort of thing.

 

[Rainblow]

Men and women are inundated by sexualized images daily. The increase of hypersexual representations of women has increased 10× in the last three decades while images of nonsexualized men has increased 11×. Basically women, and men, are being brainwashed to find unrealistic and sexualized images of women attractive. Our ability to process sexual stimulus automatically engages cognitive and physiological reactions preparing our bodies for sexual activity, which produces sexual arousal and triggers a responding sexual desire. Since we are physiologically programmed by the media it's no surprise women are attracted to the hypersexualized images of other women and the subsequent desire to expand their fantasy into real life experiences.

 

[Strixaluco]

Men and women are inundated by sexualized images daily. The increase of hypersexual representations of women has increased 10× in the last three decades while images of nonsexualized men has increased 11×. Basically women, and men, are being brainwashed to find unrealistic and sexualized images of women attractive. Our ability to process sexual stimulus automatically engages cognitive and physiological reactions preparing our bodies for sexual activity, which produces sexual arousal and triggers a responding sexual desire. Since we are physiologically programmed by the media it's no surprise women are attracted to the hypersexualized images of other women and the subsequent desire to expand their fantasy into real life experiences.

Bullshit. One doesn't change sexual orientation due to images presented to them. It doesn't matter how sexual or sexy a woman is in a picture or a photo, if one is not attracted to women.

And men don't need to be sexualised when one is attracted to them.

 

[Rainblow]

It's called classic conditioning whereby a learned behaviour is strengthened by a positive or negative stimulus causing a predictable response.
Take Ancient Greece as an example. Nude males were central in Greek art and in Greek culture and homosexuality between men was the norm.

 

[Escierto]

It's called classic conditioning whereby a learned behaviour is strengthened by a positive or negative stimulus causing a predictable response.
Take Ancient Greece as an example. Nude males were central in Greek art and in Greek culture and homosexuality between men was the norm.

You can show me nude males all day. They disgust me! I have seen thousands of nude guys in locker rooms all my life and all it ever caused in me was revulsion. Ugly brutes - I don’t know why any woman would want to fuck any of them!

 

[Rainblow]

It's hypersexualization that's the issue. Women have been hypersexualized in our society and men are nonsexualized, and vice versa in Ancient Greece.

 

[Justhappytobealive]

I’m a good looking guy in good shape my late sixties. I was in line at the grocery store buying green beans. Green onions new potatoes and bacon. I love the mix.

The lady behind me asked what I was making. I told her. She then asked, can you make a mean whip cream wiggle?

I went home and went through the cook books. Then the internet. I couldn’t find that recipe

 

[DanChan49]

Most interesting...

 

[ImiGirrst]

Yes your considerably younger than I am, but I won’t hold that against you…lol….seriously, now might be the time to consider something new. Do you know of anyone like a friend, or a friend of a friend that might be thinking the same way as you? I actually do have someone in mind that I think might feel the same way as I do, just not 100% sure, so I would be afraid to ask and risk it….hope we can continue to chat, …Jo

Here's the thing - put that request/thought out to the universe. Ive found that if it's supposed to happen, it will. If it's not, it won't. You just have to be open to it.

And the same goes to your husband. This may be terribly sexist, but in my experience, guys aren't known for their abilities to pick up subtleties. If you keep an eye out for an opportunity to talk, it might surprise you. I'd take odds that he'll get totally turned on, and he might have some ideas on how to make it happen.

The thing that I learned over the years is that you have to grow with your partner. If you don't, then that's the beginning of the end. It sounds that you two have been doing that very successfully.

As for the original question of the thread, I think we are inherently interested in ourselves. As women, it's really difficult to get a good look at our genital anatomy. First time I had a friend go down on me, I didn't realize it was also her first time. So I'm laying there and she's just poking around, looking at me. I'm like, come'on, quit teasing me! But she was curious as hell at what she looked like!

I'll end my post with the wise words of Ron White

We're all a little bit gay

 

[Strixaluco]

This may be terribly sexist, but in my experience, guys aren't known for their abilities to pick up subtleties.

In one party there was the traditional Talk to the ladies, which among other things said:

Little hints don't work. Big hints don't work. Obvious hints don't work - please do say it out straight.

Now, I've met a few guys who are damn good with subtleties, but even they usually appreciate straight talk about things and not having to guess. Just like we ladies usually appreciate not having to guess and pick up on our partners feelings, though we may be able to pick them up.

 

[DanChan49]

I'm a mature man but the world has changed dramatically in the way it looks at men and women. There isn't any need for closets any more, at least I hope not.
Live and let live and don't judge someone else for being who they are.
Why can't we all try to accept others and make it easier to just get along. I don't know if this makes a difference but if 1 person agrees then I'm OK with it.
Thanks for reading...

 

[cruzn2u2]

I have been lucky over the years. Every mature woman that I met in the last 15 years, that always fantasied about making love to another woman, I was happy to make it happen and to be able to watch the love making. On one occasion I was able to arrange a lesbian couple to make love to a frustrated married woman. The oldest woman that I made her fantasy come true was 74. She came so many times with a very young, big busted Persian lesbian.

 

[Familiemom]

I'm 64 years old, married for 42 years and I need some answers. I am a very conservative, modest, and pretty private woman. I'm a little overweight, probably by about 20 pounds or so. I really enjoy sex and I have only been with one man my entire life, my husband. We were high school sweethearts. We have great sex even after all this time. We always laugh and ask each other how it can still be this good after all this time, but it is! My husband and I love to masturbate for each other, I love to suck him, and he loves to eat me. We really do make each other happy. I have 2 vibrators; 2 different sized dildo's and we use them all. I still fuck my husband in at least 6 or 8 different positions, but when he's eating me, or fingering me, my mind pretends it's another woman. Is that wrong?

My question is this, why is it when we watch porn, (we usually watch either threesomes, Masturbation compilations, or lesbian videos) do I find myself watching the women more than the men. I always picture myself in a threesome, but with another woman, not another man. Also, when we watch masturbation videos, I love to see the women playing with themselves more than the men, but my favorite is a hot lesbian video. I never admitted this to my husband, but I can't take my eyes off the screen when it's a woman, or a woman on a woman. Like I said in the beginning, I'm a very conservative and pretty modest woman.

Am I alone in this or are there more women who hide this feeling? My ideal situation would be to be in bed with my husband and another woman, and have him tell us what to do, because I know it would involve a lot of pussy eating and playing with each other's pussy's. I would also love to watch my husband fuck another woman from behind while she was eating me out. I would get the benefit of having my pussy eaten while watching him put his cock in another woman. The other thing I love is a woman with small perky tits, I would love to feel her up and suck on her little nipples.

Another thing I would love, would be to be present in a room while two women were having sex. I would just sit in a very comfortable chair, turn on my vibrator and play while watching them go at it.

I would also love to be the one calling the shots, have them do whatever I wanted to see. I think I would start off by having them sit side by side and masturbate for me. When I was satisfied, I would have them give each other a sensual massage, but only the front. At that point I probably would have had about ten orgasms, but I still wouldn't be satisfied and would need to see them go down on each other. I would be the one to decide who was better. I just love a womans body, including my own, that why I masturbate a lot.

I'm afraid that if I ever brought this up to my husband, he might feel like he's not getting the job done, but believe me, he does. I know he would love to watch me with another woman, but if I ever did give in to these feelings, I think I would have to be alone with her. I would need to completely explore my feelings, before I could have him with me. I'm not sure if it would be another woman similar in age and size to me who has the same conservative feelings that I do, or one of those wild young hotties who would be open to teaching me.

I'm totally conflicted about my feelings. it's not something I would ever be able to discuss with anyone that I know, but I do feel the need to talk about it. I have never had the chance to be with another woman, but if I ever did, I'm not sure what I would do. I would like to hear any thoughts from women who feel like me, assuming there are any out there. Also, if any have actually acted on their feelings at an older age. Please no men, this is an issue for another older woman. feel free to email me or leave a comment... This is a true story or maybe just a hopeful thought, but either way, I'm a confused Straight older woman.

I think you need to have a FFM 3some og a good hot moment with anohter woman

 

[JCSTREET]

I'm 64 years old, married for 42 years and I need some answers. I am a very conservative, modest, and pretty private woman. I'm a little overweight, probably by about 20 pounds or so. I really enjoy sex and I have only been with one man my entire life, my husband. We were high school sweethearts. We have great sex even after all this time. We always laugh and ask each other how it can still be this good after all this time, but it is! My husband and I love to masturbate for each other, I love to suck him, and he loves to eat me. We really do make each other happy. I have 2 vibrators; 2 different sized dildo's and we use them all. I still fuck my husband in at least 6 or 8 different positions, but when he's eating me, or fingering me, my mind pretends it's another woman. Is that wrong?

My question is this, why is it when we watch porn, (we usually watch either threesomes, Masturbation compilations, or lesbian videos) do I find myself watching the women more than the men. I always picture myself in a threesome, but with another woman, not another man. Also, when we watch masturbation videos, I love to see the women playing with themselves more than the men, but my favorite is a hot lesbian video. I never admitted this to my husband, but I can't take my eyes off the screen when it's a woman, or a woman on a woman. Like I said in the beginning, I'm a very conservative and pretty modest woman.

Am I alone in this or are there more women who hide this feeling? My ideal situation would be to be in bed with my husband and another woman, and have him tell us what to do, because I know it would involve a lot of pussy eating and playing with each other's pussy's. I would also love to watch my husband fuck another woman from behind while she was eating me out. I would get the benefit of having my pussy eaten while watching him put his cock in another woman. The other thing I love is a woman with small perky tits, I would love to feel her up and suck on her little nipples.

Another thing I would love, would be to be present in a room while two women were having sex. I would just sit in a very comfortable chair, turn on my vibrator and play while watching them go at it.

I would also love to be the one calling the shots, have them do whatever I wanted to see. I think I would start off by having them sit side by side and masturbate for me. When I was satisfied, I would have them give each other a sensual massage, but only the front. At that point I probably would have had about ten orgasms, but I still wouldn't be satisfied and would need to see them go down on each other. I would be the one to decide who was better. I just love a womans body, including my own, that why I masturbate a lot.

I'm afraid that if I ever brought this up to my husband, he might feel like he's not getting the job done, but believe me, he does. I know he would love to watch me with another woman, but if I ever did give in to these feelings, I think I would have to be alone with her. I would need to completely explore my feelings, before I could have him with me. I'm not sure if it would be another woman similar in age and size to me who has the same conservative feelings that I do, or one of those wild young hotties who would be open to teaching me.

I'm totally conflicted about my feelings. it's not something I would ever be able to discuss with anyone that I know, but I do feel the need to talk about it. I have never had the chance to be with another woman, but if I ever did, I'm not sure what I would do. I would like to hear any thoughts from women who feel like me, assuming there are any out there. Also, if any have actually acted on their feelings at an older age. Please no men, this is an issue for another older woman. feel free to email me or leave a comment... This is a true story or maybe just a hopeful thought, but either way, I'm a confused Straight older woman.

Millions of people have similar or analogous fantasies and you write about yours with skill and verve. You could certainly entertain or even make money by writing erotica. I was aroused and hard, reading your prose and thought what an imaginative, intriguing and sexually-alluring person you must be. It's normal (just speaking personally) to have these fantasies and worthwhile gradually introducing them to your husband unless you get definitive push back and feel its better to maintain the status quo. Who knows. Your husband might secretly be dreaming of putting on red lipstick and mouth milking the next passing sailor. You can't be 100% sure. Good luck with your fantasies and I hope you DO get to eat some tasty pussy and enjoy the reciprocation. You have made my day, Madam!

 

[JCSTREET]

Let me guess.

You don’t.

As for counting orgasms, she’ll have a lot more to count if she finds a woman LOL

If you had more experience you'd realize that many women in their 60s are marvellous love makers and to be treasured. I have been with women in their late 70s as I got older and still had tons of fun and hopefully gave them as much or more. Geriatric is probably not the most apt choice of words on Lit.

 

[girlsmiley]

If you had more experience you'd realize that many women in their 60s are marvellous love makers and to be treasured. I have been with women in their late 70s as I got older and still had tons of fun and hopefully gave them as much or more. Geriatric is probably not the most apt choice of words on Lit.

Why post like you know me, or anything (at all) about me or my experience?

Why do dudes like you always pretend have more experience? Is it really that small?

I’ve probably had more women than you lol

 

[Saint_Ann]

Why post like you know me, or anything (at all) about me or my experience?

Why do dudes like you always pretend have more experience? Is it really that small?

I’ve probably had more women than you lol

Scissor?