I don't understand any of this

[His Flower]

Is there a particular subject you want to know about? This really is a caring forum, even though we do get on each other's nerves at times. *Sigh* Just like family.

AwwWwww...she thinks of us as a family...I'm feeling alll warm and fuzzy inside...

Okay okay...I'll stop (just couldn't resist)

His Flower

 

[bunny bondage]

i leave for a couple of days and this is what happens! straight to hell in a handbasket. kids these days.

ok,

Wd and Eb, you're both very respected and experienced members of this community, and this site gains in value because of your presence - so quit yer bickerin!

E_S, glad to see ya back, i'd hoped something we said would take root. i hope you've got more questions for us.

BTK51, (btk51, what is your position! btk51, what is your position! sorry - star wars moment) i hope you're really here for knoledge, i'd feel kinda stupid trying to explain myself to someone who was just here to poke at the freaks. if you articulate yourself and bear in mind that you're talking to a group of people who do this sort of thing every single day (and love it) then i'm sure you'll have no problem finding out everything you ever wanted to know (and some things you didn't) about bdsm.

 

[Missconduct]

*teehee*

What would you do if I said yes? Call me a liar?

I couldn't call you a liar because I'd have no way of knowing for certain whether you were lying or not. Just as you'd have no way of knowing for certain that the answer is 'yes'.

So. Are you sure you're over 18?

xx,

 

[Eating_Scarlett]

I couldn't call you a liar because I'd have no way of knowing for certain whether you were lying or not. Just as you'd have no way of knowing for certain that the answer is 'yes'.

So. Are you sure you're over 18?

xx,

Yeeeeeeeeeeeeees, I'm over 18. *yawn*

I was only being smart with you.

 

[bunny bondage]

Check your six ... often ...

but then i can't watch my twelve! :eep:

 

[Missconduct]

Everything is perception

I was only being smart

Well, I'm glad you cleared that up because that was not the word I was thinking of. To each their own.

xx,

 

[AngelicAssassin]

... i hope you're really here for knoledge ...

knoledge?

i thought you were the resident grammer (sic) queen and spellchecker?

Sorry bb, couldn't resist ...

 

[Etoile]

knoledge?

i thought you were the resident grammer (sic) queen and spellchecker?

Sorry bb, couldn't resist ...

I like to think that's me, but I guess I just keep my mouth shut about it too much. I see the mistakes and I cringe in horror, but I don't say anything. Ah well, I hold the title on other fora, and bb let me have "Daddy's Little Girl" so I will leave the pedantry to her!

E_S, I'm curious - which men's magazine was this?

 

[AngelicAssassin]

... I will leave the pedantry to her! ...

Question if i may?

Where do you put attention to detail on your lifestyle list?

 

[Etoile]

I'm not sure what you mean, AngelicAssassin.

 

[BTK51]

BTK51, (btk51, what is your position! btk51, what is your position! sorry - star wars moment) i hope you're really here for knoledge, i'd feel kinda stupid trying to explain myself to someone who was just here to poke at the freaks.

I assure you I am not trying to poke fun.

My position is that I'm a "vanilla people" who is at a new point in my life w/ a long-term partner just looking to enhance our relationship. We have always fooled around w/ very light B/D (most here wouldn't even consider it that) and did enjoy it. We both always considered BDSM folks over-the-top and wierdos engaged in something that we would NEVER have anything to do with and had absoluteky no desire to understand where you were coming from. Consequently, I/we steared clear of anything to do with "those types".

I have seen posts on other Lit boards from people in the lifestyle that were intelligent, provocative and insightful. When I finally did come to this board I recognized the names and got intrigued. I identified w/ E_S' position and had some of the same questions. I the jumped in with a comment a little too soon, got attacked, got defensive and said "fuck-em".

By that time I had enough information to go off to do some research and I have been reading up and have more than enough still to sort through. Still don't understand a lot but I've gained a lot of insight.

Thanks anelize for the additional reading to put on the list. The Library is a phenomenal resource and a great time saver for getting my questions quickly answered when I "page out" and go off on a tangent. I'll continue to monitor this thread and post when I have something intelligent to say or ask.

That's where I'm coming from - where I'm going, who knows.

Thanks all for your help.

 

[bunny bondage]

knoledge?

i thought you were the resident grammer (sic) queen and spellchecker?

Sorry bb, couldn't resist ...

i never said i had a spellchecker, and no, i don't actually think it's spelled like that. it's called a typo.

 

[bunny bondage]

I assure you I am not trying to poke fun.

My position is that I'm a "vanilla people" who is at a new point in my life w/ a long-term partner just looking to enhance our relationship....

<snip>

...That's where I'm coming from - where I'm going, who knows.

Thanks all for your help.

well good luck! i'm glad you're opening your mind and expanding your horizons. if, after learning about it, you still don't think it's for you, then you know you've made an informed decision. and if you think you might want to try a few things out, then you know who to ask for advice! ^_^

 

[AngelicAssassin]

I'm not sure what you mean, AngelicAssassin.

The question was not important.

 

[yaspis]

This has been a nice thread to lurk about. First it set my blood boiling, then it got me laughing my lungs out and now it's starting to really have a "serious" (nothing on this forum is plain serious, not with these folks), question-answer-and-pondering -style. I like it. Thankies for great entertainment.

P.S. I think threads like this are useful for reviewing one's own opinions and sights on the lifestyle. This should be added to the Library, if it's not already done.

 

[MissTaken]

This has been a nice thread to lurk about. First it set my blood boiling, then it got me laughing my lungs out and now it's starting to really have a "serious" (nothing on this forum is plain serious, not with these folks), question-answer-and-pondering -style. I like it. Thankies for great entertainment.

P.S. I think threads like this are useful for reviewing one's own opinions and sights on the lifestyle. This should be added to the Library, if it's not already done.

Yes, threads like this really make some of us take a good look and think about why we do what we do.

HOwever, the best answer and only possible final answer to explain BDSM is "It depends."



Hey, BK...welcome aboard.
In truth, questions are good and welcome, the tone is sometimes mistaken or not mistaken and may set the tone for the response.

Similar to when I go into a political thread...politics is definitely not my area of expertise and I may unknowingly offend some conservative, liberal, republican or democrat. *shrugs*

 

[Etoile]

The question was not important.

If you say so. It felt like it might be a dig at me, so I was hoping to understand it better, but I'll let it go.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

If you say so. It felt like it might be a dig at me, so I was hoping to understand it better, but I'll let it go.

Negative on the dig.

i could see the "hard text" alert flashing in the corner of the screen and thought better of continuing the question.

Neither of us has the time for misinterpretations, extended explanations, nor should we bother digging thru BS to get to the original point.

Enjoy your day

 

[Ebonyfire]

Nobody 'busted' me as Eating_Crimson, because I openly announced that I was the same person. Holy shit.. how ignorant are you? Do you really think I'd be that stupid to choose a name virtually idential to the first if I were trying to remain anonymous??

Seems the lights are on, but nobody's home...

As for the anal sex question, I asked because I was reading my boyfriends 'male' magazine last week and they had a three page feature about BDSM in it. The article said that the community formed because of people who liked to indulge in kinky sexual acts as opposed to 'straight sex' and needed an excuse for it (those weren't the exact words, but I can't really remember), so they created BDSM.

They then went on to explain about 80 or so different acts that Doms/subs engage in, that 'vanilla' couples don't. There was stuff like strangulation to heighten the sense of orgasm, eating poo, anal sex, cock stuffing, bestiality, whipping, etc etc...

I got curious. I know anal sex is practised in all sorts of relationships and not exclusively BDSM ones, but this article made me wonder if that's where it all started (in heterosexual couples). IF you guys are the first to test drive the kinky stuff... does the credit go to you for turning previously taboo acts into mainstream stuff??

In my opinion, I *THINK* that more couples in BDSM relationships would be engaging in anal sex than 'straight' couples.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Ebonyfire: I think you're a total waste of oxygen. Talk about harping on! Please, do ME a favour, and put me on ignore so I won't have to deal with further whining and incoherent ramblings.

WriterDom: Don't know why you'd want to put me on ignore. I reckon that I have valid points. However if you feel you can't deal with them... then by all means... it won't be a great loss on my part.

KISS MY BLACK ASS. Eating_Crow. Truth is not your long suit is it? If there is any rambling done, you have done it.

Now go and take your meds.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Kicking ass, Eb!

 

[Ebonyfire]

Kicking ass, Eb!

I may stop now, cause I am losing interest.

 

[Eating_Scarlett]

I may stop now, cause I am losing interest.

You claim to have been uninterested since your first whiney post. Why don't you fuck off if you're losing interest? Go on. Don't reply to anymore posts in this thread. Don't even bother to come here.

You're totally pathetic.

 

[Richard49]

You claim to have been uninterested since your first whiney post. Why don't you fuck off if you're losing interest? Go on. Don't reply to anymore posts in this thread. Don't even bother to come here.

You're totally pathetic.

The person who is pathetic here is you
You come into our living rooms
uninvited
treat us as second class citzens with your prejudged
uninformed mind set

You speak with an abusive tone
and with a smirk of intelligence

Totally pathetic

Why don't you go back to the general boards where people like you threive

 

[Eating_Scarlett]

The person who is pathetic here is you
You come into our living rooms
uninvited
treat us as second class citzens with your prejudged
uninformed mind set

You speak with an abusive tone
and with a smirk of intelligence

Totally pathetic

Why don't you go back to the general boards where people like you threive

If you have a problem with me, then why are you in a thread I created? There are people here who have helped me, and then there are those like yourself who are way too sensitive for their own good. If you're having a problem with the way I express myself, then don't fucking COME HERE.

That's my point. If you don't want to answer my questions, if you have issues with my attitude, then ignore me.