MissTaken
Biker Chick
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- Jun 30, 2001
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An open apology to cym and the forum
I keep mulling over what I might have done or said to help make things better during the recent conflict.
I have thought about where the right words may have been hiding from me or the right course of action.
I have privately and now publicly am apologizing to cym. She had, has had and always will have my support. How does cym merit this show of support from me, personally? She has been a true and honest friend. She is as true and honest with herself as she is with us.
However, my apology to her is based upon what I may have done differently to ease her pain, to help her feel wanted here. I dont' know.
Perhaps I didn't post my views publicly or privately often enough or loud enough?
Perhaps, I should have joined in the confrontation?
I don't know. My focus during recent days was to try to keep some semblance of normalcy and focus to the board that didn't involve the conflict. I felt that by adding voice to the conflict publicly, I could only make matters worse, not better. Perhaps, I was wrong.
Does Lance know that I don't agree with his stance on all things? Yes. If I wasn't clear enough in my posts, the answer is here.
Does cym know that I support her? Yes. Does she know where I may have felt she could have posted differently? Yes.
Did I disagree with others as well? Yes. Did they know it? Yes.
No, while some may think I was simply trying to be a peacemaker fluffhead, it isn't so. I did the best I could trying to keep the Forum on solid ground, trying to provide support and light to those caught in the crossfire. It didn't work.
Hence, my apology to everyone.
I realize that one person can't make the Forum a safe place for open discussion.
I realize that I do not wield the sort of power here that would mean that I could resolve issues with one post.
However, I do feel I share in the responsibility for where things fell apart as hindsight is 20/20.
To anyone I have let down? I am truly sorry.
However, I am not leaving.
I will continue to work toward a return to the ideologies that lead to the inception of the board.
I will continue to do my best as I have always tried to do.
I am asking everyone here to join me in looking forward and not backward.
Some of us may grieve cym's departure. I know that I am.
Part of grief is hope and movement, toward a better future.
I am heading that way. Please accept my apologies and move along with me.
My only peace is that the people involved know where I stood, what my concerns were and that my intentions were and are always good intentions.
My post here is for my own benefit as I wanted to clear the air. No responses are necessary.
Be well.
I keep mulling over what I might have done or said to help make things better during the recent conflict.
I have thought about where the right words may have been hiding from me or the right course of action.
I have privately and now publicly am apologizing to cym. She had, has had and always will have my support. How does cym merit this show of support from me, personally? She has been a true and honest friend. She is as true and honest with herself as she is with us.
However, my apology to her is based upon what I may have done differently to ease her pain, to help her feel wanted here. I dont' know.
Perhaps I didn't post my views publicly or privately often enough or loud enough?
Perhaps, I should have joined in the confrontation?
I don't know. My focus during recent days was to try to keep some semblance of normalcy and focus to the board that didn't involve the conflict. I felt that by adding voice to the conflict publicly, I could only make matters worse, not better. Perhaps, I was wrong.
Does Lance know that I don't agree with his stance on all things? Yes. If I wasn't clear enough in my posts, the answer is here.
Does cym know that I support her? Yes. Does she know where I may have felt she could have posted differently? Yes.
Did I disagree with others as well? Yes. Did they know it? Yes.
No, while some may think I was simply trying to be a peacemaker fluffhead, it isn't so. I did the best I could trying to keep the Forum on solid ground, trying to provide support and light to those caught in the crossfire. It didn't work.
Hence, my apology to everyone.
I realize that one person can't make the Forum a safe place for open discussion.
I realize that I do not wield the sort of power here that would mean that I could resolve issues with one post.
However, I do feel I share in the responsibility for where things fell apart as hindsight is 20/20.
To anyone I have let down? I am truly sorry.
However, I am not leaving.
I will continue to work toward a return to the ideologies that lead to the inception of the board.
I will continue to do my best as I have always tried to do.
I am asking everyone here to join me in looking forward and not backward.
Some of us may grieve cym's departure. I know that I am.
Part of grief is hope and movement, toward a better future.
I am heading that way. Please accept my apologies and move along with me.
My only peace is that the people involved know where I stood, what my concerns were and that my intentions were and are always good intentions.
My post here is for my own benefit as I wanted to clear the air. No responses are necessary.
Be well.
