I just felt like talking, that's all.

[FungiUg]

Originally posted by Catalina
Can't agree....more so one of a fast dying breed who still value human life and don't necessarily expect a payoff for being able to assist when asked. Most rescuers don't have to be asked, and usually have little interest in what the person in difficulty really wants or needs, as long as it makes them feel good and they feel they have solved their problems for them which rarely they have.

Interesting. I think we have different ideas of what a "rescuer" is... but yes, I can see the validity of what you say, and no, I don't think DVS falls into that category. So from your definition, DVS fails to be a "rescuer" (sorry DVS.)

 

[DVS]

Interesting. I think we have different ideas of what a "rescuer" is... but yes, I can see the validity of what you say, and no, I don't think DVS falls into that category. So from your definition, DVS fails to be a "rescuer" (sorry DVS.)

OK, I'm getting in over my head a bit. I need to have something clarified to know that we are all talking about the same thing.

I see two different "types" of rescuer explained. At least this is how I am reading it. A little help (rescue) in this would be appreciated.

Type #1
The term (label?) rescuer is seen by some as a person who needs to rescue, so to feed that need, he will rescue a person, even if the person has the ability to save themselves?

And because of this need, the rescuer is not always going to be helping the person, but more likely feeding his own "inner person" need. Am I correct in this, anyone? Close, maybe?

Type #2
A rescuer is a person that will rescue someone when the need is there, and will give the amount of help needed to get the person back on their feet, or out of the jam. This rescuer will not be looking for his own "inner person" needs but will be looking for what the person needs.

The result for the rescuer is the satisfaction of helping another person, actually giving only the necessary help needed.

And am I assuming correctly that only type #2 will only help when asked or truly needed, or is more likely to judge his help as needed before he will do so?

As for the label itself, I just assumed rescuer was one of several labels used by personality "readers" to pinhole different types. Is this not the case and is this just someone's word they used to discribe the action of rescue?

 

[FungiUg]

That's a pretty good description, I think. I would have put you in the #2 category -- someone who gets satisfaction out of actually helping, but without it being compulsive.

 

[DVS]

That's a pretty good description, I think. I would have put you in the #2 category -- someone who gets satisfaction out of actually helping, but without it being compulsive.

And, I would agree. I won't help if I can show the person a way to help themselves. But, that too can be considered limited help. I've said many times...feeding someone fish isn't as satisfying as showing them how to fish for themselves.

And, being a personality watcher, I know there are valid and true personality traits and "used" personality traits.

Polititians will have many "used" traits to look a certain way before election day. Hollywood actors will also be this way. They have the ability to be seen as a certain person to the masses to profit from it.

This does trickle down to the normal population as a whole, and we will then have the type #1 rescuer emerge from that.

There would also be another form of rescuer that does it to be seen doing it. That is not for any purpose other than personal gain, be it financial or political.

Now, don't get me wrong. I now there are some Hollywood types who give back, because they have so much. We see them in soup kitchens around this time of year and giving to charities and such.

But, there are two avenues of this. One is truly trying to be of help and give back (as with the type #2), and the other is doing it more for how the public sees it as good. The problem there is, it isn't easy to tell which is which. Both help the need, but we don't see the true personality trait in one.