I say! Where did you get that fetish?

I think most of the literature on kink and fetish agrees that most people's kinks have some basis in an event in their past lives. I think that other stuff can also come into play.

So, what is your kink and where do you think you got it?

maybe something to do with a vagina and birth......
 
When I first got married I was pretty vanilla. A past girlfriend had told me that she wanted to tie me up, but even though that conversation made her incredibly wet (literally) I wasn't interested at the time. Now, I kick myself every time I think about that conversation. In hindsight anything that turned her on that much would probably have been fantastic. That has made me motivated to find something that my wife really enjoys.

Shortly after my wife and I got married, we discussed kinks and almost clinically agreed that we'd be open to trying anything once. Our first kink experience was her playing with my bottom and then fucking me briefly with a dildo. I enjoyed it, but it didn't do much for her.

Fast forward to two kids later to a complete loss of libido followed by a couple of years of 'female trouble' that ended in a hysterectomy. During that time I spent a lot of time checking out sites like Lit where people talked openly about their fetishes. I found the love of kink expressed in those forums exciting, more than any one kink per-se, and having absolutely no experience to say "I like this / I don't like that" just sort of gravitated to things that I found erotic. The occasional fetish porn in those genres gave me fantasy wank material to keep things from getting boring during the dry spells.

A couple of fetishes grew on me and I found myself gravitating to those more often when I was in the mood when I was jonesing for something exciting when my wife wasn't interested. A lot of fetishes look like a lot of fun, and having no sex partner to speak of I would fantasize and get off that way.

I never cheated on my wife, and during all of her health problems was as supportive as I knew how to be. It was difficult, but now that all of the health problems are behind her she's become a very enthusiastic lover again and we're having fantastic sex. I have been slowly introducing a little fetish play in the bedroom and to my absolute delight she's enjoying it. I like to think of it as my reward for standing by her :)

So far we've indulged in a little orgasm denial and creampie fetish. Now there's an oxymoron for you ... It's a little tough to enjoy a creampie if you don't cum. Anyway, I'm looking forward to many more years of exploring fetish play with my wife.
 
Bondage is one of mine

I discovered when I was 11 or 12 that I still like cops and robbers type games where I'd be captured and tied up. I would often play by tying myself up and seeing what I would need to do to 'get away'.

As a young teen I spent time at home by myself while my parents worked. I expanded my 'cops and robbers' play to imagining being captured by a group of girls robbing our house. They would tie me up, and I'd need to escape. This kind of grew into them stripping me of my clothes and tying me up. It was in one of these sessions, being tied up and wiggling around on the bed naked, that I discovered the joys of orgasm. I've liked bondage and discipline ever since.
 
When I was around five years old, I was choked for the first time. By a male family member who was around my age.

It actually happened frequently for awhile. We would be playing together and then if I wouldn't do what he wanted or If I got bossy he'd get really mad. We'd have our little-kid argument and then he'd go straight for my throat.

I would then fight him off or parents would intervene.

Several years later, I'm having sex with a guy for the first time and he puts his hand around my throat and squeezes just a little. It's such a small gesture but it caused so many wonderful feelings to happen. It's just something that I really enjoy these days. :eek:

I didn't put two-and-two together until a few weeks ago when I tried to get in contact with the family member.
 
Fetishes by the definition of fetish?
Softness is the only one of those I have, as far as I know. There was no real trigger for it, just a love of things that are soft, squishy, and/or comfortable. This especially applies to body fat, since quite a few parts of the body are comfortable to snuggle against when plush.
I'm not sure if wrestling counts as a fetish or not, since it hovers between being done in bed and not. But, there's something about trying all out to do something to someone else's body that they're trying to prevent (usually a harmless act, such as a kiss or nipple suckle) that brings up a desire for more, even if I lose.

Things to do in bed that are more still kind of fetish-y?
Smothering's the big one. Face sitting in porn led to wondering if it was safe or not to do smothering things for real to an extent. That led to testing, and loving face-against-soft-body-part smothering. Especially between the breasts.
 
Smothering's the big one. Face sitting in porn led to wondering if it was safe or not to do smothering things for real to an extent. That led to testing, and loving face-against-soft-body-part smothering. Especially between the breasts.

a light weight murder fantasy. Why not just put a plastic bag over someones head and make them plead for help?

That 'fetish' alone (nothing personal) just show 'fetishes' up for the bull shit that they are.
 
I think most of the literature on kink and fetish agrees that most people's kinks have some basis in an event in their past lives. I think that other stuff can also come into play.

So, what is your kink and where do you think you got it?

I can trace most of mine back to my late teen yrs. and the Divorced MILF that seduced me.... She taught me a LOT.... espeically my first fetish.... mature women...
 
I can trace most of mine back to my late teen yrs. and the Divorced MILF that seduced me.... She taught me a LOT.... espeically my first fetish.... mature women...

Which Mills and Boone did you get that one from?
 
I prefer MUCH older men and the degree qualifies me as having a fetish and I am starting to get turned on by certain kinds of elderly ladies. I have no idea what this is about.

I also have a serious fetish for hairy men and watching men shave. My grandfather who I psents lot of time with as a little girl always made a huge deal about how manly being hairy is and his shaving ritual was elaborate. For me there is around about nothing hotter than watching a man shave whilst he is wrapped in a towel *drools*.
 
I am a male...

I like being made to kiss/lick my wife's underarms.
I like being called a pussy, sissy, and fag during sex.
I like to take large, and I mean large... like the John Holmes dildo, in my ass (either by my wife or when I am alone).
I like to be made to perform oral on my wife at her command.
I have cuckold fantasies that we both play out.
I love watching videos featuring huge cocks (gay/straight/bi, does not matter).
I fantasize about sucking a cock, but have no desire to kiss a man.
I have small cock fantasies.
I occasionally cum in my own mouth. Sometimes I swallow.

How did I get this way? I have absolutely no idea. Maybe it started when I got a hold of my mom's Playgirl magazine? Maybe it started when I saw naked guys in the shower?
 
Which Mills and Boone did you get that one from?

Actually, an older woman seducing a younger man is not a very common romance novel topic, Mills&Boon or otherwise. The other way around, referred to as "May/December" is a lot more common. Romance novels typically end in marriage and a lot of the women who write them believe that men aren't emotionally mature enough for marriage until about 10 years after women are, so it's really common to see pairings of late-20s man with 18 yr old woman, or early 30s man with early 20s woman.
 
Clearly I was a housecat in a previous life.

Mmm, well, some cats get it pretty good! The speculation of reincarnation is really quite interesting and I have some thoughts on what I might have been in past lives, though I don't believe in reincarnation as such.



As for where my fetishes came from, I'm pretty sure the first inklings came from when I used to read the Hardy Boys and Nancy Drew books... there wasn't a book where the main characters didn't get tied up by the bad guys! The struggles, the power-play, the bondage...

Yeah, much later on that began to translate into a fetish.

Cops and robbers for really big kids, I guess!
 
In the past, as I was first starting to explore sex with a partner, I had a thing for me saying "no," then letting my partner talk me into it anyway. It turned me on to see them work for what they wanted from me, to prove to me that they really wanted it. Also, it had something to do with me not being able to express (or ever accept) my own desires. I could say no to something I actually wanted to try, and then when I ended up doing it anyway, I didn't feel "dirty" because I had the excuse that I had at least made some attempt at protest. A mild rape fantasy paired with repressed sexuality, I guess.

That has pretty much cleared up these days as I am much more direct about what I want from a lover. If I want to try it, I say so. If that person's not into it, that's alright. We'll just move on to something else. And now, when I say no to a request I mean it, and can explain why. I'm now having fun exploring being submissive with a healthier sense of boundaries. Just last week I discovered that being tied up and tickled is reeealy fun for me. :)

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As for where my fetishes came from, I'm pretty sure the first inklings came from when I used to read the Hardy Boys and Nancy Drew books... there wasn't a book where the main characters didn't get tied up by the bad guys! The struggles, the power-play, the bondage...

Yeah, much later on that began to translate into a fetish.

Cops and robbers for really big kids, I guess!

I loved those books as a kid! Hmmm...perhaps that would explain my recent acquisition of a pair of handcuffs. ;)
 
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I have a few kinks. I have no idea where they came from.

I have a impregnation fetish. About 99% of my fantasies involve impregnation at some point. Most of the time it is not consensual and I am being raped and impregnated by a strange man or group of men. I read a lot of impregnation erotica. (I have yet to make this a real thing, but I'm hoping)

I also have a fetish for being dominated. I would not go as far as to say I'd do ANYTHING I'm told. I do have hard limits, but for the most part I just love being told what to do. And not in that nice way of "Please could you do this for me" but instead a "Put your damn mouth on my cock, you bitch" kind of way. I don't want or like to be hurt physically, but the verbal abuse I like and being treated like a sex toy. I have never actually been treated this way but I fantasize about it A LOT.

I also have a furry fetish. No, not like body hair. Furry as in anthropomorphic animals. Think Tony the tiger. I have no idea where it comes from but it is right up there on my list of things I fantasize about. Perhaps it is because of how taboo it is.

Incest is also another one. Would I actually sleep with any family members, no. But I do fantasize about it. I don't think about my REAL family members, but instead a made up fantasy family member.

Fat, older men are another of my big turn ons. For some reason I get so wet thinking about an older (45+) man slamming his cock into me. Bonus points if he's fat. Chubby is okay, but I really do like em fat. I was just reminded of this as I was reading another thread. She mentions it didn't matter if he had a big cock or a small one and I had to agree, though sometimes I fantasize they have a small cock. Maybe this stems from the fact I don't consider myself attractive (I'm 200lbs and 5'1 with short hair. Basically I'm a fat dyke.) but I just LOOOOVVVVEEE a fat older guy. I find them incredibly sexy!

Something that is kinda related to the being dominated and impregnation fetishes, I have a condom kink. Sometimes a condom doesn't even have to be involved for me to enjoy the condom kink. I like fantasizing I'm about to either be forced into sex by a stranger (or someone I know) or I'm consenting to it and the male either tells me he refuses to wear a condom even though I'm not on BC or he tells me he is wearing one and fucks me anyway. I also like roleplays in which the condom breaks or the male cums in the condom and then dumps the contents on me.

I probably have a ton more kinks that I will remember later, but these are the biggest ones.
 
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I would say the root cause would be my emotionally abusive mom and emotionally absent father. I enjoy satin lingerie and panties... When I was a kid i found a Playboy and liked the way I felt when I looked that them. The closest i could ever get to relating to those women would be my mom's or sister's lingerie and clothe. Most women I've been with didn't like satin or sexy lingerie, but it's place I find comfort. Only one woman has let me wear lingerie in bed with her, but 3 of the 4 men I've been with love it when I wore.
I've always been submissive, but I've grown out of letting people control me.
 
I have many kinks and don't really know what the basis is. Most notably I'm into dominance and being worshipped, panties, and bodily fluids (urine, cum, female ejaculate, breast milk, menstrual blood). Wish I had more insight.
 
I have a fetish for having a man cum on my feet. It happened back when I was around 18. I was screwing around with my boyfriend who had a thing for shoes and had me keep my sandals on. Well his aim was off and quite a bit of it hit the top of my foot and started oozing down the top pf my foot and between my toes and I loved it! I really like having it done doggy so it goes across the soles of my feet and lately have gotten into making my lover lick some of it off while I play with myself.
 
luscious heavy but firm boobs? rounded contours?

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here's one for you.

Viewing absolutely wonderful and candid older pix like this while relieving myself is one of my major kinks....I'll consider the possible origin for it, and post it later....but the closest to the origin I can imagine right now is from many years ago when my former wife was pregnant with our first child....I was absolutely mystified by her large firm belly and enlarging big breasts and nipples and areolas as they drooped over her big belly....I wanted so badly to just look at her beautiful enlarging body, and masturbate, or hump off on the side of her belly, but she would have none of that :-( ....and I'm fully erect now, just thinking about it :)
 
I love women in heels. Not those clunky stripper heels. The classy looking heels like a ballroom dancer would wear.
 
I can pinpoint almost to the minute where my creampie fetish came from. I was about 20 and shared an apartment with another guy. One morning I got up and nearly collided with some strange woman as we were both on our way to the bathroom, her dressed in my roommate's bathrobe. Of course I let her go in first, and as I waited, I discovered a mutual friend was asleep on the couch. At the time I chuckled, thinking that my roommate scored and our friend didn't.

I then decided to vacate the apartment for a bit to give them some privacy, and by the time I had run my errands and returned, they were all up and dressed and drinking Irish coffee. I joined in and rolled a joint to pass around and after a few minutes, our friend suggested to the woman that she show me her tattoo. She stood in front of me an pulled her slacks and panties all the way down to her knees to show me a tattoo of a rose above her pussy! It was obvious even to my naive self that they had both scored.

I was totally flabbergasted, especially when she purred, "Put your nose to the rose", and I mumbled a "No thanks" or something of that nature. It stuck in my mind, though, and began to sound appealing, eventually turning into a full-fledged fetish. It took years to get up the courage to try it, but eventually I did and loved it!

I am now searching for a unicorn...a discreet, clean, open-minded couple who would like a fluffer and clean-up boy for occasional play dates. I know...me and a whole bunch of others! Good luck, right?
 
These are just a few of mine. WHY?? don't know.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dmUoTlPawEg&feature=player_detailpage

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FTDJTwRT0oE&feature=player_detailpage

AND>>>>>https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/_EB916-l_CJw/TX0SNqGOTsI/AAAAAAAABf4/zXWVEvKBFGg/s640/stockings1_.jpg

I have one for a mans hairy legs in stockings because when I was in high school, I saw a woman in short shorts and pantyhose who had hairy legs. I have never forgotten that, Ican still see her in my mind. Daaaaaaaaaaaamn! Here I go!
 
For a moment I was afraid to post after the one just above, but I'm man enough to post next to him.....congrats Roland, I just matured....its your fault...

Shoes and Boots provide a very erotic visual for me.
I think coming from a large family with 4 sisters and many female cousins started it, but I remember my 1st stripper.....
She had these awesome boots and never took them off ....
I stuffed every one of my $1 bills (30 or 40)
I never forgot them...or how hard I got that day.

They were soft black, floppy leather with buckles...hmmm

http://image.become.com/imageserver/s4/871453694-150-150-5-32/fashion-bug-womens/black-brown-high-heel-buckle-boots.jpg
 
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